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Q: http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2648/3836551040_2522ecb901.jpg

I need to paint my room soon, and I wanted to use a stencil with this pattern, or a pattern very similar, so I'm wondering if it has a specific name?

Any help would be appreciated.
And also, if you want to suggest a store, if it's in America, it's no help to me, seeing as I live in Europe. Sorry!

Thanks!

it is called Demask.

hope this helps!

Q: im 5'2 and 100 lbs, and i started my period last month, and i thought you were supposed to start developing them before your period. not only that, but im 15. ive never met a girl who still doesnt have them my age and im starting to worry if i will ever get them. all the other signs of puberty are there, but i dont have any boobs at all- and by that i dont mean they're small- i mean theres actually nothing there, i might as well be a ten year old boy. i just want to know if anyone is in the same position as me or was but eventually got them, but any answers at all will really help.

in high school, I knew a girl named Kaleigh who was 18 yrs old, and was completely flat chested.

you have plenty of time to develop. I didnt start developing until I was a sophmore in high school and now im a DD. =]

just give it some time. it will all come in when its supposed to. Dont try to compare yourself to others because everyone is different. love who you are!! =] =] =]

also, boobs are mostly fat, so if you gained like 10 - 15 lbs, you should get bigger boobs. =]

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Q: i noticed how on some peoples myspace thay have a graphic that looks like its in there hand writting. like their name or their about me. well i was wondering how they did that.

here is an example:
http://s154.photobucket.com/albums/s253/almiexsalomie/?action=view¤t=AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW.jpg

thank you alot.

ive done this before too.

take a peice of plain white paper, and draw whatever you want, write your about me, or just your cute signature.

if you have a scanner, place your paper on the scanner, and scan it in.

save it as a .JPEG on your computer, and when you go to myspace, add it on there!

good luck hope this helps! =]

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Q: What are the chances that you can get pregnant from engaging in unprotected anal intercourse while on your period with a tampon in? I know that the chances are not high with anal sex and let alone being on my period; however, I am a bit nervous and need reassurance! Thank you!

Also, as far as I know, the semen did not leak on to the vaginal area after intercourse, as I was sure to wash up immediately after.

When partaking in anal intercourse, there is no chance of pregnancy unless cum leaked into your vagina.

if you had a tampon in, and any semen leaked down, most likely the tampon soaked it up, but who knows. stranger things have been known to happen

and i dont think its possible to get pregnant while ON your period.

just keep an eye on your next cycle. If your next period is any more than 3 days late, take a pregnancy test immediatly.

i dont think you are, but just pay attention.

hope this helps! =]

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Q: hello i'm 17 year old woman and i'm pregnant and don't know if i should get an abortion or not both me and my boyfriend havent told our parents and i'm scared of there reaction because my parents are very religous Catholics and would kill me if they found out if i did anything like this i'm leaning more towards getting an aborting because i can't take care of a baby and i have a career to look forward to this is my senior year in high school and me and my boyfriend have a very good chance of getting noticed for sports and a baby would heavily destroy that so what should i do?

First thing, If you are mature enough to have sex, then you need to be mature enough to handle the consequences...

I know its scary, but you HAVE to tell your parents. In most states you cant get an abortion if you are under 18 without parental consent.

you MUST tell your parents. at first, yes, they will be MAD, dissapointed. But they will get over that after abour 30 minutes, and then they will realize that there is nothing that they can do about it, its already done. after they get over the initial shock, they will switch into "mommy mode" and start talking to you about things that need to get done. they will start talking to you about what the best plan of action will be, they will discuss the pros and cons of abortion and if that is the best decision for you.

dont try to get an abortion without consulting your parents first. An abortion can damage your reproductive system if something goes wrong and could ruin your ability to have children later in life. also if there is an infection you could get really sick or worse....

just tell your parents. i know it will be scary but you need to tell them. thats their grandchild in your stomach and they will not be mad for long.

im here for you. if you need to talk about it, email me anytime

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

hope this helps! =]

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Q: I saw commercials for, apparently, the new Chevy Volt that GM has created. The commercials were ALL OVER Hulu and it was driving me crazy until they revealed what the entire thing was about. Anyway, now I'm confused why the Chevy Volt is so outstanding. I haven't read anything about it (I'm not big into cars and was afraid I wouldn't be able to understand the lingo) but hoping somebody here could explain what's so great about it? Pretty please? :D

Jack is right, the Volt is the newest in fuel effeciency, and it looks great, (you seen those old ugly 1st generation electric cars. LOL)

And its Chevy, a big company, basically its going to be way better the the Toyota Prius. And no one has been able to match Chevy now, they are above the rest with this new car!

it looks pretty cool. go to www.chevy.com

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Q: 15/f... yesterday I was walking home from volleyball practice when a man 'exposed' himself to me and was basically sexually harassing me. A lady who lived across the street saw it happen and called the police. I had to write a written statement explaining exactly what happened and then I had to identify him in some lineup pictures. He was arrested but the policeman said they 'might not have enough information to prosecute him'. Does that mean he could get out? If he does get out of jail, would they notify me or my parents, just so we know that he's still out there? I've never been through anything like this so I don't know how this all works...thank you for reading and answering.

you and your parents can request that the police dept notify your family of his release.

be careful, theres lots of crazies out there!

hope this helps! =]

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Q: i just recently broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years. this whole experience has taught me a lot. I already have two tattoos that i love. I want to get a gun tattooed on my hip. ((not pointing to my crouch, i dont like that) but I want a quote or something tattooed with the gun. Its hard to explain how i feel. I am over him,b ut everything I've learned from this relationship will always be with me. It was a great relationship dont get me wrong, but its meaningful to me. The last few months were rocky, and hurtful, I think this is why I want this tattoo.

Any ideas? I was thinking "untouchable"
something along those lines.
Not really about love, but me in general. its hard to explain. Any ideas are welcomed, thanks!!

ive always wanted a tattoo that said "conquer" or "overcome" because Ive been through alot of bad things in my life.

just an idea! =]

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Q: when having sex, if the girl gets really wet, really easily it's most likely going to be more enjoyable, more easily to get in right?

and does that mean you don't have to use lube?

Some girls get more wet than others but yes, as long as you are wet, lube is unecessary, but it can dry up quickly sometimes so having some lube nearby is good just in case.

hope this helps! =]

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Q: I am a 17th year old female and I want to ask my dad for Birth control.
He has told me before that if I want it, don't hesitate to ask but when the time comes its going to be awkward and weird. So when should I bring it up and what should I say.
My dad is very understanding about everything, I just will feel awkward.
Thank you.

best way is to just be mature about it.

Next time you see him, just be doing something like, doing the dishes or something, and just casually say, "Dad, I think its time I start using birth Control. When can we get that done?"

by asking a question at the end, he will give you an answer instead of saying "really?" or "what?"

his answer will be something like "i can take you to go get some this weekend"

there you go! thats how I asked!

good luck hope this helps! =]

steph 21

Q: I am a Sophmore at East High School in Duluth, MN. Since I've started High School I've been asked the same question over and over.

"What kind of schooling are you going to do?"
"What career do you want to part take in?"

And recently i've figured out what I want to do. I want to go somewhere tropical on the ocean and get a Boat with a couple bedrooms, kitchen, living space, bathroom, ect. and Start a business to Charter people out on a boat and take them places they want to go on their vacation, and tour them around and they decide what they want to do for the day/ week/ or however long they wish to stay.

My questions are
-What kind of schooling do I need for this?
-Where should I go?
-How can I obtain this "Dream Boat"?
-Where can I find more answers to my Questions?

first, in order to do this, you will need your captains sailing license. You have to spend 270 at sea to obtain your license.

after that, Its going to cost you ALOT to buy a "house boat" so I suggest looking into getting a loan for that.

One you have your license, and your boat, you need customers!

move to florida or another tropical location of your choice and start advertising. Get some business cards made, create a website, and get some brochures made to hand out.

hope this helps!! =]

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Q: Basically for the last few months, I have suffered this very sudden abdominal pain, that really strikes to the point where you immediately keel over, and it goes all the way to my bum, I struggle to sit and walk.

I find as gross as this sounds that it almost stops when I go to the toilet & release my bowels, but surely I should not be getting the pain that severe? I wasn't even desperate for the toilet, I almost had to force it to happen. My stomach now feels tender like Ive been stabbed and its healing. Its really painful and not sure what to do about it, Ive been on my period 2 days, but I dont find it happens just during this time, I find it happens other times too.

My sister had almost the exact same sypmtops, and she went to the doctor and found out she had a serious Ulcer, and he prescribed her some antibiotics to heal it and she was better.

Definetly go to the doctor about this, any abdominal pain can be severe issues that need to be handled as soon as possible.

hope this helps! =]

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Q: So I think I might have a serious problem. Whenever I get up from sitting on a couch, or laying on my bed, I black out. Its like when I get up, I feel wierd, then I try to hold onto something to keep me from falling, and then there is a ringing in my ear, and it feels like Im in a whole different place, like Im not aware of what's going on around me until the episode stops. I would say it lasts about a minute. Today I hurt myself because I let go of what I was holding onto, I hit my head, hurt my arm, and hurt my leg. It's starting to scare me. I have tried getting out of bed slower, but that doesn't help. Can anyone help me? Im desperate.

There is a condition called Vertigo that can be very serious. Just to rule that out, I would just take a trip to the doctor and have him check you out.

he can tell you exactly whats wrong. Because, trrust me, this is NOT normal for a healthy active 17 yr old.

hope this helps! =]

steph 21

Q: Okay well I have been dating this guy for about a year and six months. He used to pay attention to me but now it's basically all going to his friends. For examples, he went to the beach with this guy for a week, and I told him I didn't want him to go and he said (word for word) I don't care, I am going anyway. So then he goes to his friends house and when we talk it's like for two seconds. Even when he is not with his friends he will be like I have to go eat, and I will say will you call me after you eat, and he said I don't know, maybe. So then when we argue, he is always like WHATEVER I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING, YOU PICK AN ARGUMENT OUT OF NOTHING. And then he always says I keep him on lockdown and I said I do not, I let you go anywhere you want to go. And he said, if I got to go anywhere I wanted to go, I would be gone everyday. And I told him we would never get to talk if he did that. He just acts like he never cares about me anymore. And also, whenever we argue he never says sorry unless I say something like, wow thanks for your apology, or stuff like that. It seems like his friends are way more important to him than I will ever be, and its making me lose my feelings for him. What do I do? Is it my fault?

its not necessarily your fault, in this case, the two of you are just really not right for eachother. I know tha may be hard to hear, but he seems to be in his, "party boy, batchelor" modes, and you seem to be much more mature and ready for a real steady and commited relationship.

honestly, when you find the right guy, he will be on your level, and will respect you and will want to be around you, and not put his friends before you...

Just be honest with yourself and come to terms with the fact that he is immature and will not change any time soon. Once you realize this things will become easier and you can start the necessary steps to move on.

by all means DONT STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP that makes you miserable. you deserve better than that!!!!

hope this helps! email me if you want to talk about it more. =]

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

steph 21

Q: okay so my bf wants me to get on top but im afraid but i want too. help

dont do it unless you absolutely are ready.

but really its not all that bad. its just like you being on bottom but backwards. you are just sitting on him like a horse.

hope this helps =]

steph 21

Q: im not sure if its because im self conscious or not about everything on me or if this can really happen, i was pregnant but lost the baby at 10 weeks and my boobs grew a lot in that time to wear i got stretch marks and i was happier with the bigger boobs since i was only a 34B and now that i lost the baby and im not lactating anymore it looks to me like my boobs shrunk like maybe even smaller than before can that really happen or is it in my head?

ACTUALLY this is quite normal! =]

when you are pregnant, your breast automatically start to grow and start producing milk.

If you become "no longer pregnant" then your body has no use for breast milk, your hormones slow down, and your breast will shrink down.

its not in your head =] i promise its normal.

by the way, im sorry you lost the baby. :-(

steph 21

Q: My dads girlfreind! For the past year she has came before everyone in his life! I mean come on now because I didnt get along with her and buy her crap she convinced my dad to make me come live with my mom. And now for the past year me and my dad fight everyday ..over her!
Im so sick of it I love my dad so much and wish we could have a relationship and talk like we used to but its impossible with her. No matter how many times I tell my dad how I feel he defends her. I wish she would die, she took the most important person in my life from me. what can I do?

Im sorry you are having to deal with this.... it stinks!

My dad was a high paid security guard for NASA here in houston and when he met this lady kim, he left his whole life behind and went with her. She's absolute trash, NOW they live out in the middle of nowhere in a 100 yr old house that's run down. she works at a restarant and he now spends his days behind the register at a dollar store. A DOLLAR STORE. WTF?

His new wife is mean to me thank god I don't live with them, but I feel bad for my little sister because she does! And kim is such a bitch. ...my little sis tells me that kim talks bad about me all the time and verbally abuses my little sis when dads not home and when sis tries to tell him, he calls her a liar!

Neither I nor my sister can figure out exactly HOW this woman came into our life and turned our dad from a successful man. Into a man who has nothing!

My advice is, see if you can talk to him privately. She doesn't need to be there that might make you more nervous. Tell him that kids should come first and that you are happy that he is happy, but you are absolutely miserable because of her attitude. Tell him if nothing changes, you will be forced to cut ties with them and as much as it will hurt you, this is something that you must do for the your own sake. Noone should have to live with such built up resentment!!

Inbox me if you want to talk. Or email me. Im here for you!!

Stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

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Q: I am seriously considering buying some sort of airbrush tanning system that gives you an instant bronze without going to the tanning salon. Does anyone know of any sunless tanning systems that are under 200 dollars, and that the solution gives you an instant bronze (meaning you don't have to wait x number of hours for the color to show up)
thanks I would really really appreciate it

EDIT: YOU didnt have to be so rude in your feedback, I know what you asked for, I was simply letting you know of a great product, I can't believe how rude you were. This is an advice column, I was giving advice on something that I thought you might like. I didnt deserve the Rude feedback you gave.

Original Answer:

actually, ive done it all, all the tanning beds, all the spray tans and bronzers, creams etc.

the coolest most awesome product i have EVER FOUND is called Tan Towels.

it is so great I have used it for YEARS now. since I was 16. they are like these wipes, you pull out of the package, they are moist, they are white you cant see any tanning stuff on them, but then you rub the wipe all over your skin, and in about 1 hour, you are tanned! and its totally great and last for a good long time too. and if you want the tan even darker, pull another wipe out and wipe your body again. it deepens the tan.

not that expensive, theres no harm in trying it out! if you are skeptical, use it on JUST 1 arm, wait about an hour, and put your arms together to see the difference. thats what I did.

im hooked now! lol

hope this helps! =]

steph 21

Q: ok so im 16/f and i dont masturbate, really i get nothing out of it. im sexually active though and very pleased with my fiancee, however- i dont think ive ever actually climaxed...everyone says its this huge build up then you cum and feel all better- never had that feeling, how do i make myself climax? or how can i tell? cuz if i do i dnt feel it. thanks

well its very difficult, almost IMPOSSIBLE to climax JUST by having sexual intercourse. For most women, they can only orgasm when the clitoris is stimulated. have him rub it with his hand while you are having sex. you will start to feel yourself getting pleased more than ever....if he does it correctly and long enough, you will climax, and you will know when you do.

hope this helps! =]

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Q: 15/f k so i have 'hormonal acne' meaning the kind of acne thats like tiny little bumps all over your face, not big enough to pop or anything and the only way to get rid of it is through using birth control. the problem is, my doctor and parents dont particularly want me to be on birth control. i dont have that bad of periods, i mean they normaly last the full 7 days and there kinda heavy but my doctor said 'unless you have to go to the hospital because your periods are so bad than your fine' so i guess that doesnt count...and im not 'sexually active' so he wont give them to me for that either. but i could be soon so who knows. i just dont know how to get on it because every time i go i always ask to be on it and they always say no :( even though my sister got on it when she was even younger than me! so what should i do?! please help!

TELL your doctor, that you want to be on it. Tell your parents that you REALLY need to be on it just incase. If you seriously want to be on it, tell your parents, have a mature talk with them, remind them about your sister getting it when she was younger.

be honest with them and tell them that there is always a possibility of sex and you would feel safer if you were on it.

just have a mature talk about it and hope that helps. =]

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bio

Hi! I'm Stephanie, I'm a 21 yr living in Houston, Texas. I've been living on my own since I was 17 and wouldnt have it any other way. Ive been through many bad things in my life. Instead of letting things hurt me and make me bitter and depressed, I have let them make me stronger. I can give great advice on almost any subject. Im getting married in December to a wonderful man named Chris, and will soon my a military wife! inbox me or email me anytime, id love to hear from you!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com