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Hello, I'm a 15 year old male who just started using this website. I was searching through your posts and I realized that you said you had a 7 step program to getting a girl to like you. I don't want to sound odd by asking about this, but there is this girl that I have liked for a long time and I feel like I've tried everything there is. Please respond to this. Thanks!

lol....well
i will tell you
but not on this site...to many people who may want to use it to become a "player" and thats not what i want this to be used for...

so email me and tell me more about this girl and your situation...and ill tell you my plan :)

sanjeev_sangar@hotmail.com

^^^just email me on that with everythink and we can talk some more....

Sanj

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So I have this boyfriend I love with all my heart. We've been going out for a little over a year. But like lately Uve been meeting other guys and I don't like them or anything but I always think of like what would happen if I cheated on my boyfriend with one of them. One of these guys, I will be seeing this weekend and I know it's possible something couldl happen. And I don't know. I don't want to cheat, but I might. Helppp!

You say you love your boyfriend...that maybe true but you haven't said if your relationship is a good one or not. From that i am going to guess it is not going to well at the moment, hence why cheating has crossed your mind. I could be wrong but im just telling you from how i see it.

I think if you do have problems you need to talk it out with him. And if you really do love him as much as you say you do, you wont cheat on him. You make it sound as if the other boy is going to force you to cheat or something will takeover your body and it will magically happen. well it wont the only person that will make you cheat is you. I know im being harsh but i have to be honest. Give it some thought..do you really love him as much as you think??why would you ever think about cheating on him.

Let me know if you need anythink else...

Sanj

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OK, im trying to lose weight around my theigh and ab area, so i was wonderin what diets actually worked, and i was hoping peole could give me like what to eat and not to eat and stuff..thank you very much, ill rate high for any useful info

First thing is first...with dieting starving yourself is the worst way 2 do it. You will actually probably gain more weight by doing that. Your body needs a certain amount of fats and carbs each day and if it doesnt recieve them normally then any food you do it your body will turn them into fats.. so yeah this is the worst way.

The trick that i think works best is eating around every 3 hours. Your body should never feel hungry. And of course the basic comman sence stuff really, try and cut out chocolate and all junk foods etc. No fizzy drinks (contains sooooooo much sugar)

Exercise atleast around 3 times a week. Even with a good diet and you exercise for around 20-30 mins each day, i garuntee you will see the difference in around two weeks.

Sanj

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woww sanj you seem to be reali good at this. you must b a pro. 'lol. how long have you been into all of this sanj? i never knew there was so much you could know by just reading someones body language. sanj have you ever found out that someone likes you?.lol that would be funny and akward at the same time :D 'lol
and thanks for all of those tips. when i get back to school im going to see if hey work .lol
sanj what kind of a person are you? like what kind of things are you into? tell me a lil bout yourself please. sorry if im like being all noisey, its just that you sound so interesting. i dont know any1 my age that knows anything about body language. lol i wish i knew more people like you.

thnks for replying before :D tc xxxangelxxx

LOL,

there is a countless number of things you can read from someones body language..trust me.

Umm yeah there have been the odd few times where i have found out some people liked me. But i remeber when i first started out with this body language reading, i jumped ahead of things and was so convivnced this girl liked me, when she really didnt. So yeah gotta be careful.

I just read this sites news, apparently they dont really like people sending personal messages like this..so listen e-mail me....(sanjeev_sangar@hotmail.com) and ask me any questions you like and ill answer anything and everything that you want to know :) (plus i dont wanna give too much about myself away to all the people reading these, they can email me if they wanna know lol)

Sanj

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My IPOD is constantly freezing on me. it also makes this noise when i plug it into the charger. and it won't work, as soon as i press play, it automatically freezes, or the apple sign just shows up. or a folder with and !. what should i do?

I have an iPod

I also know that recently apple have been having lots of problems with their iPod's. The battery hasnt been lasting, freezing too often etc. When your ipod freezes hold down the middle button and the menu button, this will reset it (if you didnt already know). If it carries on freezing after you have still done this, send it back to apple or take it back to the shop you have brought it from.

They will then either try and correct the problem, if they cant do that then they will give you a brand new one.

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ok the other day my g/f and i were making out and i dont know what got into me but i stuck my hand down her pants and she didnt like it. she was ok that i put it down there but not too far and one time i think i got a little too far cuz after that she seemed depressed. now i feel like a jerk. afterward she said she sortof liked it but im not sure. wut got into me and how can i make it up to her? by the way im 14.

well,

like the other person has said sometimes it will make the girl feel uncomfortable.

But you can buy her something to make up for it, but explain to her why you did it and that it was a mistake and it felt wrong. I think if you only get her something, she might feel you are trying to "buy" her back sorta thing. So jus talk to her about it, after all you two should be able to talk about anything.

Sanj

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wowww your good at this. but like how is someone supose 2 practise theese skills?
im always having issues about who my true friends are. thats one of my main problems i think. so is there anything you know about that?
and yeaa lying would be a useful one init. :D i guess im probably always geting lied to.
and sanj do you have anything else that shows when someone likes someone? i know it sounds funny but wat can i say? lol it would come in very useful 2 me :D
sanj what kind of results do you usually get when you try it at school? lol have you found out any secrets that no one knows you know?
does this stuff really work?

well, if your friends are not really true friends, it is going to come down to lying..some of the time. A few tips for if a person is lying are like if they give like 1 word answers when you ask them things, um SOMETIMES people tend to have sweaty hands, ive seen it happen, they will often try and ovoid the subject that you are talking about, they wont be able to keep eye contact for very long. Sometimes people try to be clever, and they can still give it away by sometimes they will give too much detail, or keep eye contact for so long that its scary lol. That sorta thing.

Well, attraction between two people, would be like any excuse to go and touch the person in anyway way, long eye contact, pupils dialted, standing square on with the person. For attraction i speacialise really in telling if a gilr likes a boy they seem to give it away easier without them knowing it. A girl will hld eye contact, twhirl her hair when lookin at the boy, when they are gettin closer they tend to make sure they are looking ok, they expose their palms alot (showing that the body is saying you can have me if you want me) when the are sitting down, if there knees are pointing towards the person it can show a liking.

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thanks for adding me on msn. i think i came on once today looking forward to chting 2 you, but you wernt online. sanj i was going through the advice you have given people. in one of them you rote

''If you can master a few simple skills of body language. You can read their relationship just by watching them, i love doing this with people in school, practise makes you better. Message me back if you want a few simple skills i can teach you.''

i found that realy cool. before,i took your advice and looked up 'reading body language' on google. i wana say thanks for that coz i learnt some interesting fings. but what you wrote in your advice sounded amzing lol. and i was wondering if you could help me by telling me about those few simple skills. and you mentioned school, and that sounded like exactly what i was looking for.
i know alot of people at school that confuse me to much. there are like 5 different boys that keep playing with my mind in school. can you please teach me some of the tricks you use in school, they would help me ALOTTT!! i would love to go to school one day and find out exactly what is going through some peoples minds about me. i know im sounding desperate, but the things i have to deal with at school are to much.
thanks so much sanj

xxangelxx

LOL

yeah, i know what you mean by wanting to know exactly what people are thinking and feeling.
Once you have learnt the skills, you must watch and practise them for ages, its taken me ages to master, but it is definatly worth it.

A warning though, every body's body language is different, so if two people do the same body language it may not mean the exact same thing, so keep your eyes open.

Ok a few simple signs, its in the persons eyes. I have never truely tested this but it has come up many times when i have searched, when someone is looking at someone they like, there eyes usually dialte (get bigger, the pupil bit). But this can be read wrong because if they are facing the sun you will get an opposite effect etc, so test it in the right conditions. Secondly, the way they are standing, if they stand square on, means like they are giving you there full attention, but if the are standing side-ways, there mind is usually off somewhere else in other words they would rather be somewhere else. When talking, if the person tends to lean in a little closer than normal (coming into your own space) tends to mean they have a liking for you. Umm, while talking with the person, if the person has constant eye contact with you for around 7-8 secs, usually means they are interested in what you are saying. But if there eyes tend to look everywhere but at you tends to mean they dont give 2 shits to what you are saying basically lol.

There are loads more too do with different topics, message me back with a topic e.g. lying, relationship, friendship etc etc

Sanj :D

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so im 14/f and im so called "different" from everyone else. i dont look the same as them because i have my own style and im myself. being a freshman sucks too. anyway i dont have a boyfriend. i mean boys talk to me all the time i guess they just dont like me? This one even walks me to class and sits by me all the time. So does that mean he likes me? How can i tell if they like me?

I have no idea how many times i have reccomended this. But body language is the key. Read up on some body language tips off the internet or a book maybe, this should help you figure out if there is an attraction between the two of you.

Secondly, i am a 14 year old male, and i have no gf either. I know loads of people who have a gf/bf. The key to relationship is not to rush into it. Dont go and look for a bf just beacsue all your friends may have one. When the time is right, you will meet somone.

I know a boy who did not have his 1st girlfriend till the age of 16, but when he finally did get his 1st gf they were great together both so happy. The have broken up now, but it was out of respect. They both decided they wanted to see other people, and till this day they still remain friends.

I think it is really good you have your own style and be yourself. Most girls nowadays try to be someone they are not, just to impress someone. But being yourself is good as someone will fall in love with you, not some fake person you are pretending to be but the real you.

Hope i have helped..message me if you need any further help

Sanj

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okay so i've liked this kid .. we'll call him joe for months now. and he's screwed around with my head and dragged me along .. but i still couldn't get over him. and recently i've been on a site called e-spinthebottle. and i met a guy .. we`ll call him tom. well tom is so nice we've talked on espin and on aim. and he called me last night .. hes like 10x better than any guy i know and i know he's a REAL guy no some perv. he has a myspace with friends and comments and all that stuff. but like i dont know what to do .. i finally am over joe only to like someone who lives like 4 states away from me .. this isn`t exactly how i pictured getting over joe .. by gettin stuck on another guy i cant have ..

help .. please ...

Well, i think it is good that you are now over "joe".

Secondly, i know what it is like meeting someone over the internet who lives ages away and stuff. Now if you did get into a relationship it could go a few ways. Firstly, you could end up going out, and it could be a big mess because of the distance. Secondly, you could go out, and it could all work out somehow, it again depends on the age and how often you can meet. Thirdly, you could both just stay goopd friends, not much of a risk to take, but hey you would have gained a good friend.

I have fallen for many girls just because we have clicked for a week or two, but in a about 3 weeks i realised i didnt like them it was all just a lil trick my mind was playing on me. I suggest giving it some time, a few weeks may be, this should give you some time to sort things out in your head. This may be just a little phase you are going through (ive been through loads of them)

Maybe in time you will see that this distance between you two will make things never work between you 2.

Hope ive helped..message me if you need any more help :-)

Sanj

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im a 14f and i was just wondering what guys think is sexy. what makes you like a girl or ask her out. and what are some reasons you would not ask a girl out
THANKS!

Well me being a 14 year old guy....i have to say it is hard for 1 person to speak for all the other guys in the world.

Every guy has different taste in every girl. I am going to take it from what you have written you are trying to impress someone, or trying to get a bf?

It all depends on the guy really, every guy looks for different things in a girl, some guys will be really shallow and just go for a girls looks/body etc. But their are some decent guys out there that will go for a girls personality. Some guys will be really uncomfortable when a girl flirts or something, or some guys will just go ahead and flirt back. It all depends really. I cant really say what the guy would be interested in without more detail.

Dont know if i have helped but...if there is more info you could give me on a perticular person..then i could be able to help a little more..

Sanj

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i know your not a pedofile. if i thought you were, i wouldnt have started the convo with you.
errmm yes i do have msn. my add is angel_4_eva_123@hotmail.com
add me whenever but i don't go on msn too often.
im looking forward to chating to you some more.
bye
p.s my name isnt ange .lol
its a long story but il tell you whenever i chat to you

koool, well i have added you so ill speak to you when ure online next

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For my friend's birthday, I'm getting him an iPod video. Please tell me if it actually plays movies (like full-length movies) or just shows and music videos. PLEASE ONLY ANSWER THIS QUESTION IF YOU ARE 100% SURE THAT MOVIES CAN BE PLAYED. Also, can you please tell me how many full-length movies the iPod video is able to hold? Thank you.

I have an iPod Video

It can definatly play music videos AND films

However, Apple is a little tight with the file types it accepts. You can load movies onto your computer and convert them over. There are many video converters out there, but most of them will cost

I have found 1 called "Videora Video Converter"
it can be found if you search it through google. It is completly free and will change your files to an acceptable ipod format. However this converter does have its downsides, it will not do some videos, it will speed up the video playback leaving the audio out of sync. But it is not a bad programme it works on most of my vidoes.

But in answer to your questions yes it can hold full movies, the bigger size of the ipod, the more you can hold. I have a 30gb. I dont have many films on there, but loads of music videos, atleast 40 videos at the moment plus about 1900 songs, and still have about 17Gb free.

Sanj

P.S iPod will rip you off of about 2.5gb, i bought 30gb ipod and can only use 27.5gb

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I had to work today for the huge boxing day sale at our store. My shift started a 8 in the morning. For the first 6 hours things were going well, but the last hour of my shift was a nightmare. My boss called me to the back and told me to finish pricing some items on the shelf that hadnt been marked down yet. Then she drilled me about why the work hadnt been finished on christmas eve. I told her that it had been extremely busy with customers and that one of the staplers broke down that we were using to tag onto the clothing. She didnt buy it and said " oh so thats your explanation? " She asked me what I did about the stapler and I told her I talked to one of the managers and then she asked for her name and what she told me. It was like she didnt believe me or something. I was really upset because I worked my ass of on Christmas Eve and she thinks I was slacking off. There was no way I could have got all the work done with the volume of customers we had that day that needed to be served. She also blasted me for pricing something wrong by one little digit and said it was a "huge" mistake and could cost the department a lot of money.
Now I'm worried I'm going to get canned. I've only been with the store for up to two months and so far I've been an excellent employee, i've never phoned in sick and have showed up for all my shifts with enthuisam and am a hard worker.
Should I be worried? I have two days off and I'm hoping she'll calm down.
She also said that she wasnt just singling me out and that she was mad at some other girls who workd Xmas eve as well. And do you think she was being a little unfair to me?
thanks

I think, because now all the sales are going on..all the managers and bosses of every shop will go a little mad every now and again. But i wouldnt take it to heart. Just keep working hard and as soon as this sale rush is all over im sure you will be praised for the hard work you have given it

Sanj

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wut is the best way to get over a break up

There is no real solution for this..apart from time

When it happens it will happen fast..but until then im sorry there is no other real way

some people have mention try to like someone else..this can be a good way but i have found if you end up falling for someone new, and you still like your ex, it can cause even more problems..

I believe giving it time is the best way...sorry

Sanj

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Alright well, theres this kid and if I don't talk to him I start missing him. And when I ask myself if I like him I say no. But then when I miss him I start thinking I really do like him. I think im confused. Hes not really my type but hes so fun to talk to, and hes so funny. He understands all my weird jokes. Were like the same person but differnt genders. I dont get why I keep telling myself that I dont like him. I get frustraited about it too. I think that that is what my question is. So if you can tell me why I keep telling myself I dont like him, that would be great. Thank you!

Well, this can go two ways really

The first way, you could be telling yourself that you dont like him and you really dont like him. It is like a conflict with ure heart and your brain. I have been through many phases like this where i think i might like someone because i have been so close with them for a few weeks but then it will pass.

But on the other hand, you really might like him, and something is holding you back. Maybe something from a past boyfriend if you have had one (Usher - You Remind Me

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i have a wonderful bf of one month. we were friends beforehand for 8 months..we got so close..we have so much respect for one another and such a strong bond.
the problem? last night i was drinking with a bunch of friends..some of our guy friends wound up coming over. i was the drunkest i have ever been..i went up from behind 2 of my guy friends and hugged them from behind and my hand went over their crotch area. a little while later the guilt sunk in and i feel so horrible. i told my bf and he doesnt know what to think, he said we will talk today. my queestion : if this were to happen to you what would you do? what can i do to make this better? im thinking like making a solid promise to NOT drink again for as long as we are together... any other suggestions? what i did..is this understandable or is theere no excuse?
ive liked my bf for soo long..since the summer..and i finally got what i have wanted for so long. i dont want to ruin this relationship!!!!! i DONT cheat..what i did..that wasnt me!! i feel like crap omgg :(

You were drunk...

I know it may seem so wrong, but the best thing you did about it was told your bf...dont you think it could of been a lot worse if you had lied to him?

Your bf, if he knows you at all, he should know that you would never cheat and do something like that. He should respect that fact that you actually told him instead of keepin it a secret. This shows you are an honest person and would never do anything to hurt him. If he knows you as well as he should, ok he might be a little pissed off, but its natural i guess. But he should be able to forgive you.

Dont be too hard on yourself, ok what you did may have been wrong but you told him didnt you. He should be able to see the point that you were completly drunk. Im sure he will get drunk like that one time and he could wind up in the same situation

Hope ive helped a little :-)

Sanj

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Ok so I have this friend, let's call her Eva. She has liked this guy named Ray for the past four or five years and he seemed to like her too even though they never talk.
About a year and a half ago, me and Ray's friend, Austin hooked up. About a few months after that we set up Eva and Ray and they started going out.
Now Eva had always been crazy about Ray. She knew where he lived and what songs he liked even though she didn't know him. She wasn't stalkerish but she was obsessed.
So I was talking to my bf a few weeks after Ray and Eva and he mentioned that Ray was crazy about Eva and that he talked about her all the time and kept buying presents to give to her later and everything and I told Eva that and she was happy.
K now theyve been going out for a year and they are so OBSESSED with eachother. Like, Eva thinks about him ALLL the time. Even when shes with me and the girls she says she wants him to be there blah blah blah and when we ask her why she isnt with him she says she wants them to have seperate lives too and she doesnt want to neglect us blah blah. But she's like crazy about him. And he's crazy about her. It sounds weird to say this but its sooo unnatural. They call each other everyday for three hours atleast and text eachother all the time. She keeps going overtime on her cellphone from talking to him and he even proposed to her after going out with her for only like eight months!
Is it just me or is this obsession unhealthy? at the begining, we figured it would wear out or theyd get sick of eachother and get over their "honeymoon" and have a normal relationship but like it's continuous. Evas mum even told me that she was getting worried and wanted to take Eva to a psychologist but Eva said that was dumb cuz she wasnt stalking him or anything cuz he kenw and he loves her as much as she loves him.
so are we just overreacting or is it way unnormal? usually id keep out of this but ive always been involbved in evas life and her in mine since we were 4 and shes always told me not to let politness or anything interfere and she wants me to be honest to her and give it to her straight. Have you ever had any friends who were obsessed with eachother?

This sounds like a dumb question but please, I rate 5s

Well, i have read what you have to say. Personally i have never known anybody to be like this.

From what i have read i have come up with either two things that could be going on between them.

I think they actually are like made for each other, sort of thing. And they are like completly obsessed. Even though it has been a year, this "obsession" will die out, it is sort of natural once you have two people that really really like each other. I can undertsand that you are worried for her sake. But this obsession will die out between them two, the best you can try to do is not interfere, if you interfere and try to become less obsessed with eachother, the will go on a defence mode and that will make them even closer. So just let them get on with it, and let the obsession die out for themselves.

Secondly, i think either your friend has some troubles/issues or some sort of problems deep down. This relationship can be a way to escape from all of this. And may be this boy is the same way, it might be their way to escape from everything.

I suggest this alot, but it really can help. Study body language, read books, on the internet. If you can master a few simple skills of body language. You can read their relationship just by watching them, i love doing this with people in school, practise makes you better. Message me back if you want a few simple skills i can teach you. It should help you to read the situation of their relationship, and what is really going on. Is this whole obsession thing an act?, you never know. Sometimes when they will not stop going on about someone, they are trying to re-assure everyone that their relationship is so perfect when it is really not..but they dont want people knowing it. So they over do it trying to act as if it is perfect. I am not sure as i do not personally know the people.

Hope i have helped. Message me if you need anything explained.. :)

Sanj

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Could you date someone who had very different or totally contrary views to your own. For example, if you were a dedicated Democrat and they were a Republican, or if you were quite religious and they were an atheist. Would those sort of things be a dealbreaker for you or would you still want to see them?

Do you think relationships like that are doomed or are disagreements like that healthy?

I know if you think logically, it makes no sence..dating someone when you have nothing in comman

But in some cases, the differences between the two people can make a relationship VERY interesting. But you will never know until you actually go for it. It is a risk that has to be taken.

You know the person better than me, you might be able to judge how the relationship would turn out.

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thank u sanj56.. u sound like an extremly interesting person.
bye xxx
ange

No problem

you sound pretty koool too

you got msn by any chance?..we could chat on there more i guess..

and before you think anythink im not sum weired pedophile guy lol

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