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Q: For about 2 months i have been lifting weights 2 hours every other day and playing alot of basketball. I have a slow metabolism but is till do cardio. I have a layer of fat about 1/4 inch over my entire mid section its prolly about half that on my arms if any.

When i jump up and down not flexing my pecks shake quite a bit like jelly. but when i flex theres only a mi nute jiggle. i don't care much because i know theres muscle there. just from a girls pov is it unattractive or attractive?

It all depends on the girl really. All girls have different tastes! Everyone has different turn ons and turn offs. From my point of view, I am very selective when it comes to guys but I don't care much about a guy's body, as long as he takes care of himself and such. But like I said, every girl has different tastes! Good luck! Xoxo romeoandrebecca

Q: Guys call me boo,babe,baby,beautiful.. ect. What are names I should call guys?

My boyfriend always calls me baby, babe, "my love" or honey. I usually call him babe but it all depends on what you feel comfortable calling him. You could call him cutie or baby or babe, any of these work, really. Good luck xoxo
romeoandrebecca

Q: She thinks I'm gonna be mean to her and leave her like her ex did. What can I do to make her feel better ? What should I say to her ?

In my last relationship, I was always afraid I would be abandoned like the past ex's have done to me. I was insecure and scared. But patience was the best medicine. My current boyfriend at the time was extremely patient and loving.

reassure her fears. Comfort her when she is scared. Tell her you love her and she deserves to be loved without the fear of being left alone. Let her know that you love her and you really care, but most importantly: be patient. No matter how much she gets afraid, be patient. Sticking around and helping her work through her insecurity will ultimately show her you take the relationship seriously. Surprise her and care for her. Do little things you know she'd love. Be there for her and make her laugh. Do something special! There are many brilliant surprises and special things you could do on top of being patient. I hope I helped! Xoxo. RomeoandRebecca

Q: everyday i go to school and put on a fake smile, act like everything is alright but the truth is im depressed my parents always yell at me and each other, say anything to bring me down, i have no1 i trust, im stressed out, i cant sleep, some people at school calls me names i usually dont care but when now every little thing adds up, i hate my step family, i feel out casted, alone,im tired all the time, everyday people try 2 bring me down and now its working. i tryd talking 2 my friends about this but they dont wanna hear it cause there all dealing with half of the problems i am. what do i do 2 feel like myself again?

I go through what you go through. I'm insecure and I have a low self esteem because my parents bring me down a lot.

It hurts, I know it really does, but you have to stay positive. You need to ignore all the drama, all the name calling, and rise up above it. Be what you want to be and be strong. I used to be very depressed until I realized that it wouldn't fix anything! I started to go to counseling and having a little bit more confidence in myself every day. Tell yourself that today will be a good day and make it a good day! Think about it. Think about how worse your life could be and be grateful for what you have. That always helps me.

As for the parents and the stepfamily, talk to a counselor. It really really helps, because it helped me a lot. Now, I don't have a lot of stress on my shoulders as I usually do, and even though life is tough, it only makes us who we are. If you need anything, inbox me! xoxoxo

Q: 17/f 21/m

I dated this guy when I was 15 and got pregnant. I broke up with him when I was 4 months pregnant because he was very controlling, manipulative, emotionally abusive, intimidating...etc. He never hit me but he has left bruises on me because he grabbed my arms too hard. He got married, and I knew his wife before they started dating. He came to see the baby for 3 months, dipped for 8 months, came back, and now he hasnt seen her in a month or 2 'because of work'. He doesnt pay child support but I dont want to pursue it because I dont want him to get any kjnd of custody.

This week, he was arrested and I found out that he has been physically violent towards his wife the whole time. She sent me a picture of her black eye. She got a restraining order on him and she suggested I do the same. Now im terrified of him because he has anger towards me and I now know what hes capable of. I have a few questions:

-i really dont want him apart of my or my childs life because hes unstable and dangerous. Hes not on the birth certificate either. Is it wrong for me to cut off all contact from him and not let him see the baby?

-hes from peru and was not a citizen, but his wife is. Did that automatically make him a citizen? Or did he still have to apply? Because she wants to try to get him deported. (he already has a pretty large record)

Any other advice is welcome, thank you !

No, it is not. He obviously is a danger to not only you, but other people too! I think it is the right thing to keep him away from your child, although he still might have to pay child support even if his name isn't on the certificate. I would advise you talk to court.

I'm not sure about deportation and such, though.

Good luck. Any questions, just inbox me!

Q: Well, I'm M/15. I feel like I need a meaning. It feels like I'm lost. I think I need friends or people who understand me. But that seems impossible. I miss how I used to feel. I am not really religious but I believe there is a god. The things I like are sciencey and sometimes go against religions. But now I don't know what to believe. Do my feelings have to do with a soul or a god? but then theres the possibility that Its just in my head and theres some psychological problem in my head. Weather its what I breath and eat or hormones or anything of that nature. I find the scientific explanations easier to believe. They seem more "realistic" But I still hope there is a spiritual side to all of this. I'm lost :( for example: in reality I probably won't find the answers I really need here. But then I have a hope that somehow, someone sent from god will happen to find this and it would have some meaning. Please don't give me a jesus lecture. I have my parents for that.

Being a teenager is tough, we all know this. I used to feel lost myself. I was always depressed and constantly emotional and crying. I suggest that you get out there! Get into new things, find new hobbies, try everything possible. We all get stuck in life but only for reason to break out of our rut. I say you do as much as you can and then perhaps you will find meaning. You only live once!

Q: Ok people... im Female, 13 and im telling you all now that im not crazy... Could i Be a vampire?? I like the taste of blood, have a dark ring around my iris, can see in the dark well, extremely good sense of hearing, can feel peoples energey (can tell if someone is near even when i cant see and can pick up on their emotions or how they're feeling... Its like hummidity sometimes too), Love the dark, have animal like insticts especialy when i go into fight or flight mode, and have fangs..... What do you guys think????? (no im not a cannibal)

Looks like you have been watching too much Twilight. Vampires are mythical. You are not a vampire, you are just in that mindset where you think you are due to the media and shit.

In the nicest way possible, get out of the fantasy world, and get into reality. You're thirteen.

Q: Hi,
I have been having acne problems for about a year and a half now mainly in my forehead, t-zone, side of faces, my chin, nose and under my eyes as well as my neck so basically everywhere.

It was light acne at first but I got a fringe and it got really bad so I began clipping back my hair. And I got prescribed medicine--- Zineryt --- from the doctors, I had that for 5-6 weeks and it helped quite a bit on my forehead although not on my chin at all but some spots are still visible on my forehead. I have very sensitive skin and My current cleanser is Clearisil. So I am wondering If anyone knows how to get rid Of acne or anything good products that work. I was also wondering if Pantothen or Proactive work?

I'm not sure about Proactiv, but I would suggest trying Burt's Bee's Acne Treatment. I bought mine at Walgreens. It comes with facial cleanser, lotion, and a substance that helps dry out new pimples and makes them easier to disappear and reduces the amount of oils on your face. Burt's Bee's uses natural formulas for these products, and they worked great for my acne! I had bad acne and it worked. Just use it every morning and every night!

I'm not sure about any other products to reduce acne, but this works great for me! I hope I could help!

Q: My best friend has a bearded dragon. She got him when he was real sick and has rehabilitate him. He has gotten a lot better. he is 4 at this time. He has a day uv light and a night red light ( i don't remember what they are called, i suppose just a heat lamp) also she has an under the sand heating pad for him and a nice big i can sit in this lizard water bowl :) He has just continuously been getting better and turned a nice orange citrus color but today his whole beard turned black. He hasn't been eating the last 4 days and isn't going to the bath room at this point. She thinks he is impacted or constipated. Does any one have any other opinions or know ways to help him with his pain or treat this if he is impacted? please help she is very concerned, she is trying to take him to the vet tomorrow.

To be honest, I do not know much about bearded dragons, but I do own one. He was abused and treated horribly by his last owner, and on a limb I adopted him and he is so happy and healthy!

While I'm not a vet, but I would check his eating habits firstly. Bearded dragons will eat just about anything, but lack in protein will hurt them. Do not give them iceberg lettuce, because it is basically lacking nutrients. As for not eating, I would try to coax him gently. You know what I do with my dragon? I bought him a leash a long time ago (you can find them at pet stores: I'm sure a lot of iguana leashes will do!) and I take him out in the front and hide strawberries and grapes...he loves it! I'm sure variety is not the problem here, though.

I'd say make sure he's comfortable and relaxed. My dragon's beard turns black every once and a while, and I usually soak him in the sink with slightly warm water and then take him to the vet immeadiately!

Q: hey what is the greatest love song. . i want to sent it to my boyfriend who im absolutly in love with.
thanks :)

Hmmm. That's a tough one. There are a lot of good love songs. One good one I can think of at the top of my head is 1,000 things by Jason Mraz.

Q: What do you say to make your girlfriend feel important, cute, and make her say awww?

Girls love compliments. Tell her she's beautiful when she complains that she's ugly... surprise her. Give her surprise kisses and notice the little things about her. Remember some of her favorite things and plan a special outing or something!

My last boyfriend showered me with compliments. Every time we'd see each other, he'd tell me my eye color. "They're green and blue this time...my, you're so beautiful." That drove me nuts. Girls love those types of things. Anything will do as long as it's sweet. I always like surprises...most girls do.

Try your best to be romantic.

Q: i am twelve and a girl...what kind of things attract guys?

I'm very shy around guys but mostly when I warm up to them, I be myself. No guy likes a girl that is fake. So just be yourself! Don't be something you're not. The real you will make a guy very lucky.

Q: well im a 11 year old girl, 12 next month, i want to know if im a slut? i finger my self, flirt with lots of boys, and i love it when boys touch my butt or touch me up and i watch porn.
am i a slut?
i also talk to older men online and send them pics. and i REALLY want to have sex!

I'm not sure if this is fake or not, but the bottom line is:

You need help.

End of story.

Q: does size really matter

Honestly, a girl can only take about seven inches.

But forget the scientific stuff. All girls have different likes and dislikes, so really it's a matter of opinion. Personally, I don't really care about size. I'm not sexually active as much as I used to be, but I never cared.

It really depends on the girl.

Q: so i have a group of friends i sit with at lunch and they are the popular group. i am also friends witht this other girl, Bethanny, she is viewed as a "slut" i think at times we are 13. the girls i sit with do not like her and talk about her, they are jealous that she gets with the guys they like, but then again those girls are really pretty but the guys go for the skank. and thats what bugs them. and i am friends with the skank. i only think she is skanky sometimes. i have told my friends what she had said to me and then told them. but it wasnt too faced because she said it to me and a group of people and she didnt care if people knew. She is really nice, risky, cute, and we have both cut and i feel she understands me better. But if i become really good friends with her, which im trying to fight, i dont wanna get kicked outta my table and my friends hate me. So i dont know what to do, because we could easily be bffl and my friends are just haters. But i love them too much to go against them. I dont know what to do, can i be bffl with both?

Wow.

Another victim to peer pressure.

You should not give a damn what they think. Who cares what they think? If they were your true friends, they wouldn't judge you. You are acting like a two face. You're friends with Bethanny but yet you let them talk about her. If they can't accept you even if you hang out with her than there not really your friends.

Do you want to be a friend to a girl who is made fun of and rumored as a skank everyday, or do you want to be two faced all your life? I'm not being mean. I just want you to understand that it is not right. You shouldn't let your friends control you. The next time they say something that you find hurtful about Bethany, tell them that you're her friend and you don't appreciate it. And if they don't support you, then too bad, their loss. Everything will work out in the end!
:)
I hope I could help!

Q: Hey guys. I love to sing and write music so basically I just want some free programs to record music in. I know I can google it but I tried and just got into this big mess and dowlonaded a lot of wrong things lol. So if you guys know any that are free and good or atleast decent please send me a link. Thankyou!!! (:

Try Audacity. There are free download links on google. Virus free.

Q: thaks for the help :)now i have a pretty good idea abut what im going to do. but my dad is really over protective. bcuz the last time i said hey dad i hve a boyfriend he laughed and didnt believe me just because he doesnt want me to. he thinks im like 8 sstill

Well tell him you're being honest. I don't like getting laughed at about that stuff and I'm sure you don't either. My mom found out I had a boyfriend without me even telling her or anything. It's kind of better if you tell him. I don't know how not to get him not to laugh though :P

Q: me and this kid have been seeing eachother for a little while now and we really like eachother. but....i live wwith my dad and i have 5 older brothers who would be more than willing to kick ome butt so idk how i would tell them. because i dont wanna keep him a secret anymore.

Well tell your dad that you really like this kid. Don't let him know you two are official yet, but tell him you want to have a relationship, and what he thinks about that. If he gets upset or concerned, remember he's only trying to keep you safe. Explain to him you can be trusted and you want to show him you can be responsible. If he doesn't buy it, wait a bit. One day mention it again. Tell him he can meet the kid and see if he approves. Go out to dinner with them or go bowling or some family activity he can be a part of without being uncomfortable. That's what I did with my boyfriend. Now he's practically family. Good luck!

Q: im really shy around my bf what to do

When me and my boyfriend started going out, I was very shy. I would always blush or smile too much when we hung out, and I was really nervous and shaky. But once I got to know him better, he gained my trust and love, and I learned I could be myself around him.

Just express to him that you are kind of shy but let him know you want to spend more time with him so that you can warm up to him. I'm sure you'll grow out of your shyness. Good luck!

Q: Okay so I have a bf, and we have been going out for 2 months. And I have a guy friend that asked me to give him a picture of me in my bra, should I?

No! Number one, this is a form of cheating in my book. Even contemplating that is sad.

I did that with my first boyfriend. It didn't get the relationship anywhere. There was always so much physical love and we never had any connection whatsoever. He just wanted my body. And every time he asked, I would take a picture of whatever he wanted. It made who I really was deep down inside corrode. I became engulfed by his sex drive.

I know you're not in a relationship with this guy friend, but it's still bad. Do not ever give out a dirty picture of yourself to anyone but your husband in the future! Millions of other people will most likely see it. It will ruin your life and your reputation. Trust me. He just wants you for your body. He wants sex and only sex. Remember that sex and sexual pictures are a big deal. I have been there. Plus, if any adult finds out, you, depending on both of your ages, and your guy friend, could be arrested for child pornography. Don't spend your life in a depression or jail cell. Live it large. Stay faithful and true to yourself and your boyfriend. It will all be alright in the end. I hope I could help! Xoxo

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Hi! I'm Selina!

I've been through so much in my life, and these experiences have made me stronger... I love music, sunshine, and videogames.

I'm a pretty friendly, loving person and I'm here for anyone when they need it. I'm honest and I'm always open, so just inbox me!

Happiness is what I aim for.