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Age: 20
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My younger sister moved back into my mother and stepdads house to housesit while they are away on a trip. They will living in Arizona for 6 months and come back in the summer.
My sister is in dept up to her ears in credit card and student loan payment. She is still in college, and doesnt have a job right now. My father is giving her some money every month only until she finishes school, but it's only a couple hundred dollars.
Well I just found out that my mother is charging my sister rent!! I thought it was unfair because she is doing them a favour by housesitting. Also they know she's short on money because she
s still a student. I could understand if she were living with them but she's not. She told me that all the money that our dad gives her goes to pay the rent, and everything else she has to put on her credit card. They are charging her 400.
Does anyone else think this is unfair? (link)
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It doesn't really matter what I think is fair, and it certainly doesn't matter what you think is fair. This issue is between your sister and your mother, both of them adults who agreed to it between themselves. If you go butting in saying it isn't fair, then you will most likely cause friction in the family and alienate your mother, possibly your sister as well. This is really not your business.
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okay...well i have been having discharge really badly lately, since i think about 6 grade ive had it, but lately its been getting bad....sometimes it will cool off and not be so heavy...but then sometimes it gets thick and i can't stand it, is there any reason why? and does anybody know of any good meds. for it? all answers and ill rate 5's
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You didn't mention the contents of this "discharge." If it's blood I don't know what to tell you. But if it's mucusy-looking stuff with clumps in it like boogers (very gross I know) you might have a yeast infection. If your vaginal area is also itching constantly, you almost certainly have a yeast infection. There's creams you can take for that -- they come in tubes you put in yourself like a tampon. Monostat is good. Some creams you only have to use once before you're cured, and you can get them at most drugstores.
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when you wear your hair down straight, is there any product that you can put in it to keep it shiny and smooth and not-frizzy? what do you use (if you use anything)?
thanks!!!! =] (link)
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If your hair is frizzy, possibly it's too dry. Wash it less often, or use a moisturizing shampoo. I only wash my hair two or three times a week, using conditioner each time, and sometimes in between washings I'll wet it in the shower and condition but not shampoo it. And my hair is very shiny and smooth.
I recommend conditioners specialized for your hair color -- I use a conditioner for red hair and have noticed much less color fading since then.
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My boyfriend, Isaac, of 3 months, has been different lately. He doesn't call as often and he barely ever asks me to hang out .. i'm always the one asking him to hang out. (We see each other a few times a week.. but it keeps getting less and less.) My friend Nicolas was talking to Isaac (they are friends) and asking him how things were between me and Isaac. He asked Isaac if he was getting bored with me yet. Isaac said he wouldn't mind seeing me just once a week, and he didnt want Nicolas to think he was "pussy whipped." So Nicolas told me all of this. But the thing is, i dont know whether or not to believe it, because Nicolas also likes me and is jealous of me and Isaac. But I dont think he would lie, but its possible. But I'm going to assume it is the truth because it all makes sense. What should i do about Isaac? Should i just call him less and lay low for a while or what? Thanks, sorry it was long, i will rate high :) (link)
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I think you ought to confront Isaac with what Nicolas told you. If Isaac confirms it, then have a discussion as to what you both want out of your relationship and see if you can work something out. If Isaac denies having said as much to Nicolas, one of two things are happening: (A) Nicolas lied to you, which is not cool, and you should probably reconsider whether you still want him as a friend or (B) Isaac is not being truthful with you, which coupled with his earlier avoiding behavior indicates he isn't worth keeping.
IMHO, the relationship seems to be winding down fast and you may want to start looking for someone else. One of my own boyfriends began avoiding me like that, and it turned out it was because he'd fallen for someone else. If he had just told me when it happened he would not have wasted so much of my time and his.
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i just got a hamster from my friends around 10 days ago .. it has grown really bloated now .. i am afraid that it might have something to do with her eating the rubber stopper .. she has not been eliminating much.. could you please advice me. (link)
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If it really is bloated you had best take it to the vet, but most vets don't know how to deal with small animals anyway -- my vet only knows how to work with dogs, cats, rabbits, cows and horses, not rodent type creatures.
Are you sure it's not just filled up its cheek pouches, though? Hamsters have pouches in their cheeks that they fill with food they plan to eat later, and when the pouches are full the hamster looks about twice its normal size.
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There's this guy that works with me at the store and I'm worried that he has a crush on me. I'm flattered but I'm worried because he is only 17 and I'm 28.
I don't think he knows I'm that old, everyone at the store thinks I'm still a student, or under 20. I have a very young looking face.
He's a nice boy and I like talking with him but I'm worried it may cause a problem, like what if he really falls for me? The other thing is I don't flirt with him like some of the girls, I'm just friendly and helpful, which is maybe why he likes me because I'm different from the other younger girls. Today there was a problem with an item not scanning and he came up to me. he's a price checker and I work in the clothing. I fixed the problem and after he said to me "oh you REALLY helped us out", with a shy smile on his face. I've also noticed other times he's looked at me or was extra nice to me.
What should I do? I want him to like me but not THAT much. (link)
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Unfortunately, you can't help how this boy feels. If you start to ignore him, he may actually fall for you harder -- some guys only ever yearn for what they can't have. I think somehow letting him know your age would be a help, though. Maybe not directly, but indirectly. If you want to you could even invent a birthday -- even if it's not really your birthday -- and tell everyone you just turned 28. He's got to know sometime, and it might be enough to cool his passion.
I actually don't think it's a big deal. There's exactly the same difference in age between myself and my boyfriend as there is between you and this guy. But I can see why you wouldn't want to encourage him.
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Is it normal to be depressed most the time when your a teenager is that a natural thing or are u soppose to be all happy and shit? i'll rate, just a little curious (link)
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Teenagers are supposed to be neither depressed all the time nor happy all the time. Adolescence is a time of great highs and lows, almost bipolar, you are like to feel on top of the world one day and deeply unhappy the next. In part it's because of the hormones and in part because of all the changes in your life when you get that age. If you're depressed all the time, like for more than a month or so, you should probably see a doctor or therapist about it because that is not normal. But it is normal to be depressed some of the time, especially when you're a teenager.
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One of my friends has been with her bf for ever it seems like. A few years. Anyway, they are in a tuff spot right now and possibly heading toward a break up.
Ive never been w/ a guy for 2-3 years so Im far from knowing how she feels. All i would like to do is be there for her.
Any suggestions to how I can help w/o butting in to there relationship? (link)
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I think you should treat it as you would any other time a friend goes through a crisis. Whenever my friends are bothered by something, I tell them I sympathize with them and am thinking of them, and invite them to open up to me if they wish to. But don't ask too many questions because the friend may find the whole thing too painful to talk about. If she does decide to talk, still don't ask too many questions or try to give advice -- just listen to her and make sympathetic noises, and maybe do something to distract her, like you could go to see a funny movie or something, and it would take her mind off her problems for a few hours.
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Well theres this guy at my work ( i work at burget king and im 17) and he hits on me all of the time! The other day he kind of stuck his hand down my pants!
anyone have any ideas how i can stop him from hitting on me all the time?!
Advice would help! thanks (link)
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While this legally is considered sexual harassment, I don't think it's a good idea to sue him. (It would be a big bother and chances are he has no money anyway.) I think you should instead talk to your manager about the problem. Managers are supposed to take harassment complaints very seriously. The guy may end up being fired, and that will be the end of your problem.
Unless the harasser IS your manager. In which case you need to go higher than that. Talk to whoever is above your manager in that case.
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I have been working on this 250 question homework sheet forrrever! my sister is having a baby they said it would be due within the next hour and i wanna see her so i was wondering if someone could help me with the last three questions???
Who was Thomas Nast?
Why was he important to U.S. history and politics?
During what time period did he impact American history?
i will rate 5's to anyone who answers!thanks a bunch it'd really help me! =] (link)
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I believe Thomas Nast was a political cartoonist, also he's the person we get the word "nasty" from.
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im a girl 14/f and i like looking at lesbian porn. i love boys but i just like looking at it. i would never date a girl but its just interesting to look at. is this normal!?!
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I don't think there's anything strange or wrong with you looking at lesbian pornography. I think, especially at your age, it may be just that you're curious about your own body, and the bodies of other women, so you look at the pictures as a kind of educational experience. Chances are you'll outgrow it in time. Even if you don't, what pictures you look at in your own private moments are your own business.
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well.. i have a complicated question that i will try to put in the simplest way possible . i got engaged last week and when we were preparing for it we said if we had it oustside ( in a hotel or a garden .. etc ) we will split the costs of the engagement and then the wedding with my fiance's family . We didn't have it in either those places we had a big party in a garden under my house . so it is still considered outside . so my fianxe thought that the splitting thing still applies and i did too , now my mum says no we are not splitting we did the engageent and they do the wedding , i just think this is unfair cause we told them we would . and she insists it is not outside and my fiance insists it was and that if she decides to change her mind at least she should have told them . i don't know what to do :( (link)
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I think you need to have a polite but firm discussion with your mother about how you are an adult now and you and your fiance make your own decisions, such as where the engagement took place. Your mother should be not permitted to blackmail you over your own marriage, especially since she is going against the wishes of your fiance's family as well. Chances are, once she realizes you are resolute, she will cease complaining.
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i think i might have a phobia of some sort...
before i have to give a speech or even read out loud i freak out. i have something like a panic attack. i cant breathe right, my mouth is dry, my voice shakes, i start trembling etc...
are there any medications i can take for this?
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There are medications for really bad phobias but I don't think you necessarily need one. Many people are nervous about speaking in front of others. I suggest that before you go see a shrink about it, talk to your teacher and look at some web sites to find ways to relax and get over your problem on your own. My way is to look over the heads of the people I'm talking to, look at the wall instead, and imagine I'm alone in the room.
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I was in a realtionship for 4 1/2 years and was engaged to him for 6 months, when all of a sudden he wanted to end things. There was some things that happened in my childhood that I never told him, but I told him last night was happended, even though we are not together anymore. I was sexually abused as a child but it has stopped for almost 15 years. I am now 24. I still want this guy in my life, but I need help first. He did not leave me because I told him what happened. I just felt like he should know. Me and him have shared a lot of stuff, and even he agreed that some of the reasons he left me were because of how I acted, because of how I was treated as a child. I was wondering if there is anyway you can help me out. Any help would mean the world to me. Thank you for your time (link)
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I'm not exactly sure what you're asking -- how to get your fiance back or how to get over the abuse? So I've got answers for both of them:
1. The fiance would have to decide for himself whether he wants to renew his relationship with you. I don't think you should push him about it, as it's likely to scare him away. He might go back to you and he might not. If he does, though, make sure he's not coming back out of pity -- poor child, she was abused, I'll make her better, etc -- because that's not a good reason to date someone, let alone marry them.
2. There are many support groups for survivors of sexual abuse; in addition, you can also seek individual therapy. If you just google some key words like "sex abuse survivor" then you could find a lot of good websites with advice on how to handle the problem. I do applaud you for reaching out to your fiance and I hope you can reach out to others as well.
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Well here it goes:
I really like this guy we'll call Jason. I told my friend and she claims she likes him too. She keeps telling me she dsen't like him but i fooled ehr on this crush calculator thing and her 1st one was Jason!
Well my friend is in 7th grade and I'm in 8th and the guy is in 7th.
Is he too young for me anyways?
I think he might have a little crush on me though and i want to confront my friend, but i don't know what to say.
Please don't say try to talk to her, i need some other options.
Thanks in advance!
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I don't think Jason is too young for you, provided he's not come kind of child prodigy who's in the 7th grade at six years old (I assume not.) ;-)
As for your friend, I don't think it is that big a deal. If she is not going to make a move towards him, that's her problem, not yours, and if you pursue Jason and she gets mad at you, just tell her that: you never tried for him so I'm going to. If she is a good friend she should be cool with that.
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I quite often wish that I am more ill than i actually am. I found myself wishing that I could be in hospital over a christmas at some point. I was always ill as a child and spent a lot of last year ill with depression and glandular fever and in a way... i miss it.
I find myself exagerating all aches and pains, I almost like the pain sometimes.
I feel so messed up, do any of you guys ever feel like this? (link)
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I don't think there's anything that odd about your feeling, as long as you don't act on it (like deliberately injuring yourself for attention). Ill people are fussed over and waited on and are released from their responsibilities at work and school -- who wouldn't want that? What you really want is not to be more ill, but to get more attention.
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ok so the other day i put on a pad from my moms package of em (they were light flow ones) just to see what a pad would feel like when i finally got my period. well omg it was like wearing a diaper, it was huge on my underwear and i couldnt even like move in my pants lol cause it itched and was so big.. why is this what am i going to do when the time comes for a pad! (link)
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You get used to wearing them -- it's like a pair of new shoes, you just need to break them in. And they don't itch as much when you're actually on your period, because the blood acts as lubrication.
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I had a pimple on my nose and started to pick at it and now it is somewhat opened and red. Any ideas on how to get rid of it quickly? (link)
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Ice is a temporary fix, as it will make the red spot look paler. There's really nothing to do but wait till it heals, though.
Don't squeeze your pimples until they're at that bulbous yellow stage. Then by all means squeeze away. :-)
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There's this girl who I used to really care about, but am no longer close to. She calls me out of the blue, after LSU lost to Georgia so I'm already pissed. She tells me that her baby sister who was just a few months old died of SIDS. Even though I really don't like this girl anymore(ok I hate her), I still feel awful for her family. Her family never did me wrong and I was wondering how I should go about the situation. A card? Flowers? I really don't know,b/c I haven't been around death that much. (link)
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I think a nice, tasteful sympathy card is the best thing. You can buy flowers too, but they are not necessary as you were not close to the family. btw, traditional funeral flowers are lilies, I think, but you could ask the florist if there's different flowers for when it's a baby that died.
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so im 15, and i've been wearing tampons for quite a while now, and well ive never done this, but ive always wondered if you can pee while the tampon is still in you? because when i try to, it feels like its being pressured out, so i just take it out while i pee and just put a new tampon in.. (link)
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The urethra is an entirely different tube than the vagina, so it's possible -- indeed easy -- to pee while you're wearing a tampon. I think the sensation you're experiencing may come from the position you sit in when you pee -- sitting, legs spread like that and straining, is probably flexing some muscles that are making the tampon move around. But it shouldn't come out.
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