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my mum and my fiance
well.. i have a complicated question that i will try to put in the simplest way possible . i got engaged last week and when we were preparing for it we said if we had it oustside ( in a hotel or a garden .. etc ) we will split the costs of the engagement and then the wedding with my fiance's family . We didn't have it in either those places we had a big party in a garden under my house . so it is still considered outside . so my fianxe thought that the splitting thing still applies and i did too , now my mum says no we are not splitting we did the engageent and they do the wedding , i just think this is unfair cause we told them we would . and she insists it is not outside and my fiance insists it was and that if she decides to change her mind at least she should have told them . i don't know what to do :(
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Hiya miss Nancy here,
Well what i advice you to do is to tell your mum the truth don't lie to her cause you know you can seriously get yourself into big trouble. Why don't you, your mum and your fiance sit down and talk it over okay?
Hope i have made you feel better don't forget to come to miss Nancy whenever you have a problem and i will always have the answer.
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I think you need to have a polite but firm discussion with your mother about how you are an adult now and you and your fiance make your own decisions, such as where the engagement took place. Your mother should be not permitted to blackmail you over your own marriage, especially since she is going against the wishes of your fiance's family as well. Chances are, once she realizes you are resolute, she will cease complaining.
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i think you should sit down with both your family & your fiances & talk about the costs. i mean idk i guess it depends on the views of your families & how you're willing to split the money up. it should be fair to both your mom & your fiance's family so juss sit down & talk.
-hope that helped!♥
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