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Well I love music and I love my friends very much!! I love to talk to people and see what they have to say.... I love my family and to hang out with them sometimes....

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Ok this is weird...well to me it is, About 2 weeks i had the most scariest dream of my life, it was during the morning and it was like 100' degrees outside... When i woke up my hands were beyond freezing, i didnt understand it because well since it was so hot out i was sweating and i was only in a room with one fan.... OK so heres what i want to know, all i know is that i had a wicked scary dream nothing else but then when i think about the dream i always see this one part in my head of a girl (not me, no idea who she is) screaming at the top of her lungs... and some guy (i only see him just standing there)but he has like a look of hatred on his face like hes a scary dude (hah) i only remember these 2 glimses... its a night and it just really bothers me because ill think of the dream at random times and then thats what i see.... ANY IDEAs on what this could mean??

Well for most people when they dream part of what is bothering them in their live comes into play in their dreams.... Are you having troble at school or are you having problems with your family.... you have to take this into consideration.... Or maybe your are seeing a fragment of a movie you have watched in the past that scared you and you are just thinking about it....

well hope i helped a tad

I am so....depressed!!! I make a group for people who like Shaman King... then, many people joint my group... But... they don't do anything!!! They don't make any announcement... they don't make any discussion... the don't make any polling... Urgh!! They are so lazy to do anything!!! And I, I am the only person who makes announcement, discussion, and other things. They don't even care about the group!!! OH... how I hate them so much!!! They just want to join a group to make them look cool, but don't want to do anything for the group activity... So what do I have to do?? Please help!!! (And anyway, I always rate 5)

You should just tell them how you are feeling... tell them that it sucks that you have to do all the work and they dont do anything..... what you can do is sit them all down and asign each of them something to do for the group.... if they dont like that idea just try to find new people to come to the group that will be more then happy to help you out.

Hope that I have helped

Sometimes I have my days where I actually feel confident, but most of the days I have no self esteem whatsoever. I always compare myself to other girls, and I hate it. I know looks aren't everything, but it seems like I'd be happier and more outgoing if I just looked better. I already wear makeup, experimented with differenent hair colors and styles, and different clothes. But there's always someone who looks 348349x better than me, and it bothers me. (Even though it shouldn't.) Any suggestions on how to gain self confidence and quit comparing myself to other people?

I know how you feel.... Half of america feels the same as you do! No one is ugly and I am sure that you are not.... Just try to get around people that make you feel good..... like join a something that you love to do.... it will keep your mind off of what you like and what others look like compared to you......

Hope I helped

Ok, here goes, theres this guy Sam and i think he used to like me but i was totally mean to him because he was always kinda annoying. Now he has a girlfriend and i think she is so wrong for him. When i found out that he had a girlfriend i all of a sudden got jealous and didn't know what to do. He's such a sweet guy but this girl is kinda rough around the edges if you know what i mean. She's kinda out there and i don't have a good feeling about her and Sam. I just don't know what to do about the way i feel about him and the jealousy and about how i dont have a good feeling about him and his girlfriend.
Sorry it's so long but i could use some good advice.

P.S. Him and i are kinda friends but we used to talk all of the time.

You should try to figure out if your feelings for him are for real or that you are just mad that he has another g/f. And you should not get involved in there relationship because he might get mad at you and you might lose a great friend!! Just try to talk to him about what you are feeling I am sure he will understand you!!

well hope I helped a tad

right this may sound very VERY stupid but what is xanga?!?!?!?!? people talk about it all the time and i have no idea whatsoever what it is... could someone please give me any idea of what it is/or does. thnx lucee xxx

It is a on line web journal that people across the world use.... It is where you can visit your friends and see what they are up to! You should have one they are loads of fun! if you make one you can go to mine lovehurts22

well hope I helped a tad

There is these 2 older guys.Im 14 and theyre 17. They have seemed to like me but I dont know.Would older guys like someone younger out of everyone of their own age?

Yes.... It is not out of the normal....You should get to know them better before you choose to make a move for them....And see how your parents feel about it..... And if that goes well go for em!

Hope that helped

This is my second time posting here on Advicenators. Well, I could really use some good advice here. I am 14 years old, never been kissed, hugged, dated..etc. I like older boys better because I know they tend to make the first moves and spoil you more, but I never thought I would end up like my best friends older brother. He's just two years older, not even. He's cute and he's funny, but he's really shallow. He's making me want to just die with the harsh things he says. He's always telling my friend Marissa* you should hang out with hot friends because all your friends are ugly. Right when I am sitting there. Now I can't stop hating myself.

You should try to find someone that would treat you right.....I am in the same boat as you are.... But you should want someone good for you and this guy does not seem to be the right one for you.... You should try to hang out with him more and see if he is like this or is just putting up a shield..... I hope that I have helped you

When I was little I was abused by both my sister and my dad. As I got older it stopped and the yelling died down a little but its still there. Lately my dad and my sister have been yelling more and tonight I was sitting in my room and heard things being thrown and everything. Im not sure what was going on but I new my dad and sister were fighting and probly hurting eachother and I was scared out of my mind. I wanted to jump out of my window and run I was so scared. Im sitting here shaking afraid to leave my room and I don`t know what to do. Please help meh!
14/f
Love maddie

Try to calm down.... one thing you dont need right now is to freak out..... Put some music on so it drowns out the noise..... try to talk to some of your friends on here so that will take you mind off the situation (a little bit at least) Then act like you are going to the bathroom or getting a drink and see how things are.... i hope i helped

ii went to a summer camp and met this guy... to keep a long story short, all we did was flirt and spend every min. with each other... we even kissed... ii really liked him... he gave me his number and it turns out he has a girlfriend... to him was it just a fling? please help ! btw im 14/f....

You need to tell him that it meant more to you then just a "fling" tell him that it is not cool that he did not tell you that he had a g/f..... you need to tell him how you feel and maybe he will care for you like you want him to.

I have a friend her names Sara my other friend who is really anoying!Is haten on us cuz me and sara are really tight.So how do i get Alicia to go away and ive already tried telling her to.What cannnnn iiiii ddddoooooo.I'll be sooo thankfull if you answer this question.Thanks!

Tell her that she is getting on your nerves and that you need some alone time to think about life (when you will be with sara)

hope I helped

my boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationshiip i love him and he says he loves me neither one of us wanted to fall in love with the each other but we are the thing is though sometimes i have doubts about our relationship and wanna call it off but he said he'd be dissapointed and hurt if i did i don't wanna hurt him nor do i wanna lose him i just want everything to be right between us, he is a great guy so what should i do when i start to doubts about our relationshipsor his love

You should talk to him about what you are feeling... if he loves you he will understand and hopfully be feeling the same way about the worry... Maybe it would be best if you took a break and then see how things go and then you can hook back up in the end!!

Hope I helped tiffany

I'm re-doing my entire room & I've been looking for new beddings but I can't find anything. I want to try to find a bedding that has some red in it because red is my favorite color. I tried looking at JcPenneys, Target, Dillards, Sears, & Bed Bath & Beyond. If anyone knows any other sites, let me know. I'll rate high. Thanks =]

Well it might sound stupid but wal-mart has a lot of stuff for that... and also Khols has good stuff and they are kind of high prised but it is worth it in the end

does any one know some good classic rock songs?

Led Zeppelin- any of them

hey well im really depressed all teh time. and i want to quit school. and im just so sick of everything! im just stressed. can somebdy give me advice on what to do?

You should find a hobby that you love and get into that..... try to be around people you like and hang out with them.... also you should start a diary just to get what you are feeling out (there our some on the internet like xanga, myspace, ect.) It will help figure out how to come up with solutions to your problems

my dad has never told me he's loved me until last week when we were on the phone. I said it first, but i am glad he said it back. it is awkward to say it again. My question is...is it normal for dads not to say he loves his daughtor and should i keep on saying i love him when i see him or talk to him on the phone?

It is not out of the ordenary for fathers to not say they love you... It is very good that you said it first so he knows that your relationship with him is important to you... It would be a very good idea to keep it up so he will get in the habit of saying it..... and this will mean that you two will become much closer

My mom and I have always been close but I'm fourteen now and we're still close but we get into fights a lot and it really bothers me. She's a preschool teacher so she gets summers off with me so we have a lot of time together. It's just, I hate fighting with her because, in her eyes, I'm always wrong. I mean, she starts to assume things and then when I tell her that that isn't true she get's even madder and saying "Well you said it once" or "Just drop it". It really really makes me mad. To everyone around me, my life is perfect. I get told I'm pretty and have the perfect body all the time, my family is "perfect", I'm not too popular, I have great friends...but no one sees behind the scenes. In reality, I'm really self-conscience and sad. When I'm around people, I'm the happy girl everyone thinks I am, but in my mind I'm sad. The fights take a toll on me. The way my friends treat me take a toll on me. I just don't know what to do. I really am happy on most aspects of my life, but I don't see why my mom has to fight with me. I don't think I deserve it. She doesn't know how it affects me and I'm not going to tell her 'cause then she'll get mad and say I'm selfish and think I'm always right, which I know I'm not. She's really cool a lot of the time but now we fight more and more and it's really starting to bother me. What can I do to help myself be happy and not let the fights get to me so much? What can I do when we fight? I want to be happy but these fights hurt.

Please help. Usually I give good advice to other people, but I don't know what to do.

-K-

Well what you should do is start a diary, so you dont feel like you dont have anyone to talk to about your problems (I know it sounds laim but it works) And if you feel you are able to let people in to how you feel just write them a letter stating what you feel about them and the views you have of them.... It will work out in the end... and about your mom I am sure she loves you very much it is just hard for her to understand your point of view since she is not in your place... try to write her a letter so she will not be able to yell at you and maybe she will be able to see how you feel

I asked a question before about my nephews army themed birthday party and I had another question:

I am thinking about letting them have a water war with water balloons and water guns. But it's really hot and I'm not to thrilled with the idea of having to pick up all the pieces of balloons out of the yard. So, I was thinking that maybe I could offer a prize to the kid that picks up the most pieces. My question is: Do you think it would be rude to ask the kids/guests to clean up the yard, even if I turn it in to a game?

No not at all.....I am sure that the parents will understand that you have went through all the troble to have a party that you do not feel it far for you to do all the work... It is a very clever idea and I am sure that the kids will be very intriged by the idea of a prize...

i am a girl and my brother is 2 years younger and we always get in fights. ALWAYS. its getting annoying now cause we fight about EVERYTHING. we also in general annoy eachother like if we are in the car and he pinches me so i will hit him. and yeah we like REALLY HURT eachother. so i want this to stop... please try to help and if you do i will rate you a 5!!

You should just try to controle yourself when he hits you and not hit him back... After awhile he will be bored with hitting you..... If that does not work when ever he hits you get him back by takning something out of his room and telling him you wont give it back until he grows up ands stops hitting you.

15/f *Ohhkay, so i have this amazing guy..but we're just reallly good friends."with benifits" I love him and i know he loves me and we've been talking about "doing it" i know we are both ready, and we will def use protection. But my question is..do you think if we actaully do it..we wil end up going out? I mean,I would love to go out with him, and ive always wanted to.
So do you guys think if we do it that theres a possibility that he may like me more than a friend?!

Thanks so much guys/I'll rate HIGH!! ;)

-kristen

Deff..... I mean that is a commitment that a lot of people take to heart and if you do take that step you guys will be more closer whitch will mean he will see you in a diff. light! You should go for it!

I wear a DD size bra. Like, does that make me fat? And do boys like boobs that r like, DD size? Is it common do wear DD, or is that like wayy huge. Please be serious nd just answer, i'll rate high

Of course it does not make you fat! It just means that you grow a lot faster then most of us girls! Good for you! O and most guys like the bigger boobs...You should be happy with what you have because a lot of people only dream of double dd's

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