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why do my nipples itch and why are they a little sore. (link)
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im not sure how old you are, but if you are just starting to grow breasts that is the reason for itching and soreness. if not, it is okay. mine used to itch alot and my doctor said it is nothing to worry about. Make sure you are washing them in the shower. :) hah! please feedback!
thanks girl!
hope this helppeddd!!
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So this year in cheerleading they are going to have the girls that can do round offs turn the plain round offs into a round off toe touch!!! i can get the round off part, but if i can get some advice on how to go straight into the toe touch afterwards that would be great!!!! i CAN do them seperatly, but when it comes to putting them together i'm at total loss. Any Advice?
Love,
Cheerleader2012 (link)
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i have been a high school competition cheerleader and an All Star cheerleader so i think i can help :)
first....
Do a few round offs.
try to get a really high rebound. once you have mastered roundoff rebound, you can go into the toe touch.
next...
warm up your jumps. do your toe touches seperately so it is easier to do them going from a round off.
all you do it ride your rebound up and hit your toe touch.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=igS8Qve26FA
look at this video. she does a roundoff, and stops, then does a toe touch. and that was not very pretty was it? and she had no rebound
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FG2ajc9FXPU
0:02 sec, do u see her rebound? its really pretty.
0:05/6 sec, she rides her rebound up, and hits her toe touch :)
hope this helped! i know you asked this a while ago, but pleeaassee rate and feedback!!!!!
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I am 14 and i think i started my period becuz my underwear got stained of blood so i think i did buttt is it normal 2 get your period like today and not the next day (link)
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yeah, its deff. normal :) that happened to me pretty much exactly! i had discharge for a long time and one day i had blood stains one my underwear. The next day it was just back to discharge and it ended up being my period. Its okay...i would carry some panty liners, thin pads, just in case it starts back up. For the record, anytime someone starts their period, it is very irregular. You wont get it for a week and then have to wait a month. It will be maybe a day long. a week long. it might even last for two weeks. it could even last for 2 days, then start up 3 days later...etc. Its all good and you probably did start. And yes it is normal. Please feedback
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14/f
I just had my first period yesterday. I managed to tell my mom, and she handled it pretty well and gave me some pads. I hated sitting in my own blood and feeling like I peed my pants, so I took a few of my older sister's tampons. I put them in on my own and I literally danced around with joy when I realized I could survive my period and not have to give up swimming for a week. I also took a few of my sister's pads, but I obviously need to go to the store to get some more. How can I ask my mom to take me, AND tell her that I experimented with tampons? Things have been very awkward between us lately, and I can't even look her in the eye. Whenever we're alone, I'm always scared she's going to say something about it, and she usually does. What can I do? (link)
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Its your mom, i know its weird to talk about stuff like this, as it is with my mom. But she knows all about it and she has had it before so its all good. Juts be like
"mom, i'd like to get tampons. I dont like wearing pads cuz it feels really weird" and if she asks why you want a tampon be like
"its the summer, i do not want to give up swimming."
and if she asks if you have used them before say
"yeah i used one once and i like it better, i would like to keep using them though."
she will get it. She obviously understood it with your sister :)
and if you still dont know what to do, ask your sister what you can say. :) hope this helped, please feedback :)
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So i had this dream about my ex-boyfriend and it was about me being in the hospitol and long story short about that part is my parents kick me out and i go and live with him.(i am only 13 and the same age in my dream) So basically im living with him in my dream and then my dream skips to us being in 10th grade so we can drive and then one night we "did it" and then a week later i missed my period and soo he bought all these pregnecy tests and then one minute later when the tests would show weather i was pregnent or not i woke up. So my question is what does my dream mean or does it mean anything at all ? Thank you :)
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it could mean that you still have feelings for him. you k=may still like him a lot, or maybe you are just physically attracted to him and you would want to "do it" some time with him. or your body may be telling you DONT HAVE SEX. have you recently watched a tv show or movie about a girl getting [regnant as a teen? your brain may still be thinking about it if so. and maybe it was just a harmess hormone driven dream :) haha, well i hoped this helped! please feedback. thanks girl
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17/f, i broke my virginty yesterday. it was protected sex. i had my periods till day before. and now all of a sudden, the very next day after sex, i got my periods again. am i pregnant? pls temme d precautions. wat shud i do now.? y is it hapenning> (link)
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you are not pregnant if you are having periods :) and it is normal to bleed after having sex the first time so dont worry :)
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I'm a 15 year old girl and I am what you would call clean. I shower everyday. I have straight-ish, medium thick, brown hair and it gets greasy very quickly and it makes me look scumy. what can I do to fix it (link)
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I would suggest changing shampoo and conditioner. I used to have that problem a little and I was using a hydration shampoo and conditioner and it was making my hair greasy. I would use : pantiene medium-thick...and choose a detailed line of it. Or use herbal essence smooth something.. Haha I'm not sure what it is called but it's pink and smells really good. Make sure you wash out all the conditioner too. Hope this helped!!
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hello i am 14 year old female . my computer is in drawing room i cant watch porn while masterbating . but i like it very much and my room does not have any space for computer . (link)
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Hat you could do is get an iPod touch, I have an iPod touch and I can get on any website on it and no one knows. (: I don't know what else to tell you to do because I'm not sure what you are asking haha. Maybe get a porn movie and play it in your room on a tv? Or lock the drawing room door and do it in there. You could also save up enough money to buy your own computer. Hope I helped please feedback
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17/f.
For a very long time, I have suspected that I have Borderline Personality Disorder, as I display almost all of the symptoms, and it is very common with BPD sufferers to have been abused as children. I didn't ever consider this as a possibility (as I have no recollection of being abused) until recently, when I started to think about myself, and suddenly a lot of things started coming together:
- Ever since I was very young, about 3, this weird feeling would suddenly pounce on me - it's a kind of sick feeling, and even when I was that young, I associated it with sex. I don't know why, it's not something I've ever thought through, it's just what comes into my head when I get this feeling. I used to get this more as a child than I do now, but I still get it sometimes. It's always happened more often in the morning, when I've not been awake for long, but it sometimes comes in flashes during the day/evening.
- I still get this feeling, without fail, for a long time the morning after I have been sexually intimate (or even just laid cuddling) with someone, even if it's someone I really like.
- At the age of about 6, up to about 10, I would play 'sex games' with other children, boys and girls - my cousins, in fact. I feel very ashamed looking back on this. I know other kids do this, but I get the feeling we always took it further - we pretty much went the whole way, except it wasn't really like proper sex, it's hard to describe. I remember being very sexually aroused even at that young age, and I was always the one who initiated it.
- I used to write all the time (still do), and when I was about 7, I wrote a story about a girl getting raped. It wasn't just any girl, though, it was a girl I knew from school, with whom I had a sort of friend/enemy relationship. I don't know if this has any significance.
- Also, when I was young (can't remember what age, perhaps 7-10, though I still get them sometimes now) I would have weird sexual fantasies about being sexually dominated and being made to do awful things. Which I'd expect is pretty weird for a seven year old.
- So, when I was young I was always more interested in sex than other people my age.
- Now, however, it's the other way round. I'm still very interested in sex, but I also have a fear of it. Other people my age have a very casual attitude to it and have a lot of sex, whereas I'm a virgin (at least I consider myself one, whether I have been sexually abused or not) and am very scared of sex. I have a fear of intimacy, and I am pretty much prpetually single because I can't get into the physical side of relationships. I have done, but not fully, and I get scared away afterwards.
- I (usually) like the idea of having sex with people I like, but when it almost happens, I get panicky and want to run away.
- I go through states of depression, used to self-harm, have trouble regulating my emotions, and often feel disconnected with others, which are synptoms of sexual abuse.
- I like girls too, and for a while I've been wondering if I'm gay, because these sexual problems seem to be far more exaggerated with men than women, but now I'm just wondering if my inability to be sexual with men is because perhaps that's who I was abused by.
I'm not saying it's a definite - I have no recollection of it, after all. But I have a lot of the symptoms, and it would explain why I have such a weird attitude to sex and intimacy. This attitude has been a massive problem for me for years, and has got in the way of many relationships.
And, if it does sound like I've been abused, what should I do about it? I feel like if I spoke to anyone, they'd think I was just exaggerating or creating stuff in my head. (link)
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If u don't have any recolection of it then you probably were not abused. You may have had a weird feeling after playing sex games with your cousins...? Did you? I did when I was young. My friends says that when she touches herself or gets sexually intament she Gets a weird feeling like a feeling of regret like She wishes she didn't do it. So it may be similar to that? I'm not sure exactly what your situation could be. Don't be scared of talking to someone though, it could really help. If you talk to a "shrink", you may feel a lot better. It's okay if you feel like others may think you are exagerating... Just tell the phycologist what you said on this website. I do not think you are exxagerating I figure things happen and they have a reason. I can no tell you that reason but there is someone that went to school so they could tell you that reason. Hope you take my advice and see a physcologist. I don't thinkyou are crazy, and it wouldn't mean you were if you went to talk to one. You could evn just gotalk to a counseler. I hope this helped a lot!!! (:
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How to find out how long your period will be? (link)
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When you dirt start it could be a week, or maybe just a day or two. When it gets regular it's about a 3-6 day time period. It may be very heavy at first but it will get lighter or the cycle. Hope this helps!!! Please feedback!
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How can I lose weight, with also not showing my parents i am trying to? any suggestions? (link)
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-Most of It is to simply cut down on unnatural sugar. Like candy or ice cream. I know it cam be a big sacrifice but I'm not saying completly no more. Just cut down to, one piece of candy a day if not any.
-Cut down on trans fat. Look at the label on everything you buy pakaged. If it says 0g trans fat, then go ahead and eat it! If it says 1g look at the serving size. If it's 'in one serving' it's fine. The reason is because trans fat is the fat that makes you gain weight. Wrestlers and macho men eat the protien bars that are FILLED with trans fat to gain weight to be in a higher weight class or what not. So stay as far away from trans fat as possible!! :)
-Base your diet off of fruits and vegies. I know that's not what you want to hear but do it. It keeps you from gaining weight and will help you with keeping your weight down. There are some fruits I hear that burn calories while eating them. I'm not sure if it's a myth or not so google that. Sorry I couldn't help with that part though. But yeah eat green. Green vegies and fruits are filled with chloraphyl which makes it green. The chloraphyl has a protien that keeps bad stuff (like fats) and things that are not needed in your body out.
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also a way to LOOSE weight is to exersise. Lots of exercise. Even if it's just jogging in place it helps. I understand you don't have alot of time so I won't suggest joining a sport. But what you can do is go to your local gym about everyother day or at least 2 or 3 times a week. This will help you loose weight. It May not seem like it's working but give it a week or two. The more you do it the quicker and more weight you loose. I did this and went every day for two weeks an lost 10 pounds quick. Swimming is also a good way because it burns alot of calories doing laps and what not. Also if you do laps for about 45 minutes then just play water basketball or something for 15 min. (so you will have been swimming and keeping your Jody active for about an hr. You will he quite tired. Get dressed and go home and sleep. You will sleep really good and for a while. Sleeping burns calories too. It's the reason you weigh less in the morning then a t night. If you spend two hours at the gym everytime you go you will see improvements. Playing basketball and jumping rope is a great way too!
I'm sorry this was super long but I figure it should help pretty good!!! :) if you need anything else just inbox me!!!
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how do i get rele good @volleyball so i can make the team in august? (link)
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Hey I played volleyball for a while. So I hope this helps! Number one: get a volley ball.
2: fill it up and start doing drills. Drills like toss it up then put your hands and arms in the passing position and hit the ball and keep hitting it up for about 10 times. Try to make the ball go straight up. Once you've gotten good at that, go up to about 20 hits and go until you can do about 50. Then, start trying to be able to pass it at an angle. Experiment around a bit and try to make it go at a certain angle high, then make it go lower. (lower pass). Once you have gottn pretty good at passing, work on sets. When you are setting you need to have the right form first of all. Put your hands in the airand connect your two pointer fingers and you thumbs (making a triangle) then hit the ball straight up with your finger tips. Once you can hit it up pretty high, work on setting it up, but to an angle. (when you set the ball your thumbs and pointer fivers can seperate I was just letting you know the correct form. and Try to make it be a silent set, don't slap it or make it very loud) Like up but not to high. and remember not to hit it in front of you hit it up, get under the ball don't set it straight out that will make it go into the net.) Once you get good at setting go onto hitting. (spiking) get someone to set a ball to you, then take a two step approach and slam the ball down on the floor. You have to get your timing right.
I haven't fully looked at this website but it looked like a good one so it can also help you! :)
http://volleyball.lifetips.com/
please feedback!! :)
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hey guys! I'm a complete dog lover, I have four dogs currently, well my family does. I have a chihuahua thats mine and I take care of her. well anyways. Me and my boyfriend have three "kids" (dogs) my chihuahua and his two rotties. I want to get an English Mastiff, my dream dog. Our big dog at my house is part mastiff and hes a big baby!
So my questions are..
-do they get a lot with different dogs well? Considering she/he will be around the two rotties and will grow up with my chihuahua, big dog, yorkie and another chihuahua.
-How big can it get? Like pound and tallness wise? I'm only 5'3 and will be walking them! lol
-How much food will it eat?
-and are they really huge babies or is it just how my dog now was raised?
thanks so much!! (link)
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Most of the time they get along with other dogs very well. They are just big babies! :) if your rotties are nice it will not try to show it's boss by being aggressive. So make sure that when you get it you get it as a puppy, so you know how it is raised. Be as loving as you can to it and cuddle a lot. :) this will also make it be a big baby in a sense. They are very sweet if you treat them sweetly. Thy are natural gaurd dogs so you need to raise them like a big baby if you want it to turn out like that. My advice is to get a girl, so it doesn't have the natural instict to be better than the other dogs. And they are also a bit smaller. :)
- they can get up to 160 pounds for a boy, 150 for a girl. And their heigh is about 27 in for girls and 30 ish for boys.
-Most of the time they are very sweet dogs. I'm not sure how much food to give them lime how to say it, but give it around as much as your family gave your big dog. Hope this helped!!! :)
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This is for anyone who is a Pretty Little Liars fan and who has seen the season finale For Whom the Bell Tolls
first off.. what the heck?? compared to the other episodes, this one was not that great. it was very confusing.. I have a ton of questions. so if you're a pretty little liars fan- please help me out!
-is officer garrett really in a relationship with jenna??
-who was ian talking with on the phone when he was in his car?
-who was that "messenger" guy who met with the girls in the park and had all that cash?
- is ian really dead?
- who pushed ian and helped spencer?
- how did ian escape?
- who has the flashdrive with the videos?
- why did ali show the video to jenna and then say "if you come back i'll bury you"?
- who was in the other car that hit melissa and spencer?
- in summary, what was jenna explaining to the girls when they were in the band room and jenna had the flashback with her and ali. i'm confused on when she said "ali was so happy when she got back from her trip from georgia" why was ali happy??
gahh i'm in love with this tv show but sometimes its wayy too confusing!
thank you! (link)
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I hope these answers answers help you!!! :)
Btw...i answered them in order.
* Yes officer grant is in a relationship with Jenna, by the looks of it.
* Ian was either talking to Jenna or the messenger boy, The messenger boy would have had to know about the videos though because he mentioned them to the person he was on the phone with. So i think it was Jenna.
* Ian just hired this person, as are as we know they aren't important in the story, but may become important. Ian had to hire him because he figured the girls would all be there waiting for him, probably with a cop.
* Yes Ian really dies. Someone untangled him, that's why he wasn't there when the cops came.
* We have seen a lot of A, and anytime we have, A was in black. The person that came and pushed Ian was deff. A, or someone working with A.
* Someone untangled Ian, like I said before it had to have been A, because A was the only person in the room at the time as well.
* The only person i can think to have the flash drive with the videos on it is A, She is the person that took Ian away and she would have taken the flash drive. A reason for this would have been so that the police didn't find his body and then find the flash drive and plug it in and see all the things that were on it. Any one that didn't want someone to see it could have taken it though, but most likely its A.
* Ali told Jenna that she would "bury her if she came back" because Jenna knew all about the girls making Jenna blind. That was a crime and it was blamed on Toby. She could have told the police that it was Ali. So she wanted Jenna to stay away. And that's why Jenna came to Ali's funeral, because Ali was gone and she could come back to Rosewood.
* I think the person that hit them was a random person. But the more that I think about it i think it was someone working for Ian, or Ian himself because he told Spencer in the church that he was waiting until she was alone there. So he had to know she would need to get away from other people then. That's why he hit their car.
* Ali was happy when she came back because she had gotten rid of her problem with Jenna.
* And Emily was on the computer with the blond girl, Since Mya is away...she went to Paige. Then Paige went all rude and ignorant (lol) so she started to talk to Emily.
Its so confusing because they want you to watch it next season. They want you to stay confused so you are ready for next season! haha
Sorry its long!! :))) please feedback and rate my answer!!! :)
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how could i get my boyfriend to get hard and then start to make out ith me? (link)
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If you are makin out touch his boy while you do it. If want him to makeout with you then sit beside him and put your hand on his knee and start going up his thigh then go back down. Do this alittle while and he will start to get hard, then start kissing his neck or snuggling and rubbing his chest. Hope this helps!
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How to tell a brother I want to play alone (link)
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If it is a younger brother just tell him that you prefer to play by your self. Let him down easy. Say "can I play by myself once" or something like that. Hope it helped!
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19/f whose not on birth control. i had sex with my bf the other night and im pretty sure he cummed inside me. he used a condom and after we did it i felt really weird. i wasnt sure if it was me being turned on but i think it was cum everywhere. he double checked and looked at the condom and it wasnt broken. so thats weird right? do you think im pregnant? If so my main question is how many days after i have had sex can i get a pregency test. because i thought that you cant after so many weeks or something so its accurate. thanks. (link)
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Since the condom didn't break you most likely aren't pregnant. :) there is a slight chance but you need to wait two weeks for most pregnancy tests. If you really want to know like right away first response pregnancy test can tell you really soon BUT it can be expensive. If you want you can also go to your doctor for quicker results. Just be aware of the symptoms and if you start feeeling any of them go see your doctor. Hope this helps! Good luck!! :)
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There's this guy that I've been talking for a while, we met online through a dating site. While I was talking to him I was talking to three other guys, and I ended up choosing another guy over him. I dated that guy for a really short time, he didn't like how things were going in our relationship, so he decided to distance himself from me and then ended things. Since my last boyfriend broke up with me, I've been talking to this guy.
He lives in New Jersey and I live in New York, so it's hard for us to see each other and he said that he's going to definitely see me on Valentines Day weekend. Since I enjoy talking to this guy, and I think that I could really like him I want to get him something for Valentines Day. I want to get him something cool that most girls wouldn't think of, something that I know that he'll definitely enjoy.
Background information:
He's 21, two years older than me, I'm 19. We're both really sexual people, and the guys that I've been have been more “reserved” and have not enjoyed sex as much as I have, and I've definitely talked about exploring my sexuality with him. I don't want him to get anything really sexual though, because at first he was just going to be a fuck buddy, his self confidence is on the lower side and I really don't want him to think that he's just being used for sex.
He used to play football in high school, and he enjoys watching sports a lot. He's mainly a football fanatic.
Sometimes he likes to go out drinking with his friends, never to get drunk though.
He's going to college for accounting and loves numbers.
He's a huge fan of World of Warcraft, one of my close guy friends suggested that I get him a Thrall figure. He's really into that game on the weekdays and does a lot of dungeon raiding.
He doesn't watch much TV, mainly sports when he does, and he also watches one of my favorite shows event.
He likes video games and reading web comics.
I'm really confused as to what to get him help.
Some of my ideas are:
The Questionable Content comic book, it's a web comic that me and him both read.
A condom sampler (which would be for us, and I'm probably going to get anyway)
The Thrall WoW action figure, that I mentioned before.
Any other ideas? Thanks! (link)
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Well I. Would say that condom samplers would be a nice touch haha. :) but alot of my guy friends and my brother play world of Warcraft and you could get him a game card for that since you have to keep on entering game time to play so go to a store that sells giftcards (best buy i know has them, maybe walmart and staples.) also think about things like maybe a bag of his favorite candy or something. Don't overthink it since you don't see him too often but I would suggest
-candy
-w.o.w. Game cards
-condom samplers
-and a valentines day card
not to much but enough he would like it. (: also that comic book thing you were talking about may be a good addition.
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I was hoping you guys would have some sugguestions on how to add body to hair that is straightened. My hair is naturally pretty straight, but I still have to use a flat iron. Why? One side of my hair likes to flip in and the other side likes to flip out. Also, I have about three little bumps/waves that I like to smooth out. If I let them stay, it looks like I went to bed with wet hair and just don't care. I already have some layers and I don't really want to get anymore because that would make it difficult to put my hair up. I know that straightening really damages your hair and I would love to not have to do it every day! So, I guess I'm asking two things:
1) How can you straighten your hair and still add volume and body?
2) Is there an alternative to flat irons that would be less damaging and be easier to create body?
Thanks so much! (link)
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Like they said, use some mousse after getting out of the shower. What I like to do is when I get out of the shower I blow dry my hair. I take a brush and my blow dryer and go to town haha. This will give you alot of volume. It gave me so much volume I had to take my flat iron and make my hair go less volumized haha. :) but you can flip the ends in, or out, whichever you like better. And if you get tresemé heat protectant spray, it makes your hair smell really good and it's so soft after using it. Spray it gyrobowl on each layer of your hair from the roots down and focusing on the ends. Brush it through. When you flat iron it there may be some sizzling because your hair is wet but it makes for easy straightening and safe straightening. I love it so much! Haha. But another thing that is good for flat ironing you hair safely is get a flat iron that has tourmalines or chomites in it. It means your hair is much safer while straighting. Hope this helped! Please rate! :)
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What makes a good cheerleader? And what steps should someone take in conditioning for cheerleading auditions? (link)
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Hey girl! I'm a cheerleader for my school and the captain of t. I have also been cheering all star levels since 5th grade. So what I have found to be the top things to work on are the following...
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•work on your muscle strength.
-if you are a bigger girl, well not even that but if you know you will not be a flyer, work on your arms and legs. If you are smaller and/or very flexible, work on you flexibility and leg strength. Also this will help you hit all your motions tighter which is great to do because if you have loose motions you will look bad and they want people that look good while hitting motions in a cheer or dance.
•work on your attitude.
- this is one of the key things in cheerleading because if you have a bad attitude at any time they will be like nope
she's not the one we want on our team. If something goes
wrong in a stunt or something bad happens, just keep your
chin up and keep a good attitude about it all.
•also work on flexibility.
-it will help your jumps if you work on you right/left/ and middle spilts because they will make you very flexible. Stretch alotttttt and you will be lots more flexible haha. Hope this helped I'll be glad to tell you more if you want more advice! Good luck!
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