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hi everyone im katelyn. I love giving advice and taking some too! im a very open person and a very nice person. Well i think im a very nice person but thats up to u to decide wat i am. I think i am a very loving, caring, and honest person. I have my bad days but who doesnt?!?!? I am very trusting and u can tell me anything. I will try to help anyone i can and anyway i can.
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i've been in love with a guy for over 4 years even though i had was in a relationship for almost 3 years. about 4 years ago when i met him he had a girl firned and he was with his girlfirned for 2 years at that time. when i met him he made a move on me and he kissed me and he was stuck between me and his girlfriend and after 4 years he still talks about me and asks for me like how i'm doing and if there wasnt his girlfriend he would be with me and yet he is still with his girlfrined . what should i do beacuse i have dreams about him all the time and even wen i was in a relationship i had dreams about him. should i move on and let him be the ONE GUY thats always going to be in your head and the one guy that you love. HELP

i would let him go because his gf loves him alot and he loves her alot. If hes still with her then that means hes not really that into you because if he was then he would break up with his gf and be with you and just tell his gf that he loves someone else. I know you love him and everything and its goin to be hard to let him go but you have to do whats best for you and him. I mean your wasting your time on him when he has a gf and you coulda been with someone else that truley loves you and wants to be with you but you will never know unless you let him go live he life with his gf. If he breaks up with her then i would go for it but it doesnt seem like to me that he wants to give her up for some reasons. ANd if he kissed you while he was goin out with her than you basically cheated. What if things get out of hand and you guys get to into eachother do you want to be the girl who he cheated with? i dont think so because that just makes people think your like that all the time. Just think about these things and decide what your going to do but i wouldnt risk bein with him or even tryin to be with him. Hes says that he into you and everything and that if he didnt have a gf than he would be with you but that doesnt make sense to me at all because if he wants to be with you than he doesnt have to be with his gf theres no law stating that he has to stick with her sooo hes not telling you everything like on how he is feeling. Well let me know what choice you make and make sure its the right one for you think about everything like really think things threw.

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Hi. I am a 17-yr-old female & I've only had sex twice: about 8 months ago (my ex used a condom) and 5 months ago (again, he used a condom). I've been on the Yaz bc pill for about 9 months, & about 2 and a half weeks ago, I started spotting just about a week after my period. I guess its spotting, b/c my discharge is REALLY light tan, like a little brown tinge, but it smells the same & has the same consistency. I don't know what this is, but I spotted all the way up to my period, which i am on now. my period is normal, except for more brown blood than usual. I am really paranoid about STDs and I am going to the ob-gyn in the next few weeks or so. does this sound like a disease?

to me it doesnt sound like a disease...and if he used protection than you shouldnt be worried unless you gave him oral and he didnt have a condom on that could give you a disease but not down by your vag. but just to be on the safe side make sure you get checked out because it could be something else like wrong up there ya know. Well let me know how things go and how you are.

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hi, can you be in love with two different people at the same time? like for a boy to love two different girls?

yes it is possible, most of the time guys may have interest in many different girls and they are just confused on who they like more or even love more. My friend actually had that problem with 2 guys that liked her and she liked them too but in the end she got to know both of them and realized who she did like more or love more. The guy will eventually realized which one he likes more and knows more about how she is. My friend did that she realized that the one guy was really rough with her and she just thought she liked him mostly liking someone is just thought because you know they like you so you assume that you have to like them back but in the end you really like someone else.
Well hope i helped you.

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hi..me an my gf have been haveing sex when my penis goes up i put the condom on and it jus goes down again i really want to hav sex but it just goes down is there any way i can make it stay up an i dont wana use those pills that make it stay up..is there any oher way??..thanks

well how old are you? and does it go down as soon as you put it on? idk why it would do that you must have a problem or something...and does it do that all the time i mean have you even had sex yet?

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if you continue to have sex after the man cums, so his penis is softer. will the condom let his cum slip out? or will it stay on tight.

i wouldnt do that because it will slip off and its very hard to keep going when hes soft. Plus the condom wont fit anymore because when the penis is hard it fits tight thats how the cum stays in and the condom doesnt slip off. if you wanted to go at it again then use a different condom.

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14/f
i need a b/f cuz it seems like every where i turn seems like theirs always couples. i ain't just wanting a boyfriend to be part of the crowd. i just want someone to love me and me too love them back. I have a crush and we never talk because he is a junior and i am a freshman. I only see him on my highschool bus and i get a glimse of him a lunch and b4 and after 2nd period and after 5th. any advice?

Everyone thinks they need someone to be happy or they need a guy to love them but really sweetie you dont need a bf just because everyone else has one doesnt mean no one loves you. your family loves you and im sure you have a best friend that loves you too. I learned that anyone this young doesnt know wat love is having a bf/gf isnt really important. im single and i love it because i dont have to worry about bein soo attached to one person and to have them screw me over. just have fun with guys and that doesnt mean doing sexual things with them because you can do alot of things to have fun. your young enjoy it thats wat i tell everyone because life is too short and when you get older it all ends because you have a job and stuff. Just go and meet new people have fun and if you wanna know that guy go talk to him dont be shy that wont get you anywhere believe me i used to be shy and now im not i have tons of new people i tlak too.

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19/f

Okay I'm kinda in a bad situation. This 23-year-old man and I are friends, well more like friends with benefits. He has a girlfriend, but he and I have been messing around since February. It started off as him giving me a massage, but it developed into something I didn’t expect. I know that it’s wrong but it feels so right. LOL!! I'm a virgin (by intercourse), and he knows it, but he is not. He says he doesnt't mind it, but i dont believe him. We have gotten as far as oral sex. Sometimes I feel like I want to have sex with him so bad, and other times I feel like I should wait. My question is should I have sex with him since we already gone so far?

2) When we get together to mess around, he calls me “baby”. Well he doesn’t call me anything else but “baby” when we mess around. Is that just because he is into the moment or am i blowing things out of proportion?

3) He asked me did i miss him over the summer, and i said no but i miss what we do. He said me too, and asked me why I didn’t miss him. i told him that i just didn’t and then he got mad. Does that mean he wanted me to? And does that mean that he missed me?

4) Should I stop messing around with him? Please give me a reason!!!

first off i woulda never agreed to be that with him because hes cheating on his gf thats so wrong. I dont think you would want to be cheated on so wen she finds out how do you think she is goin to feel? Dont you feel weird and bad that your doing that esp. since he has a gf? i would. well i think the baby thing is just when hes in the moment alot of guys say that when they are messing around with a girl. I think he missed you if he got mad at the fact that you didnt miss him as a person but missed what he was doing to you. i think he thought there was more to it as just that and that you actually cared about him and that you missed spending time with him not just messing around. if he didnt care about you as a person then he wouldnt of got mad at the face that you didnt miss him. How can you not miss someone that your messing around with esp. if you didnt have sex yet? Most girls care about the person that they are messing with but the guys are the ones who dont care about the girls so that was shocking for me to read. I think that maybe he is getting attached to you and wants something more than just to be friends with benefits because most people who are friends with benefits dont really care but it sounds like he does if he missed you over the summer. I would talk to him about it and see what he is feeling, tell him to tell you the truth about it and if i was you i would stop messing around with him because
1. he has a girlfriend
2. You dont want anything more than just to be friends with benefits.
If you have to ask about having sex then your not ready and your having doubts about it so i dont think thats a good idea because you may regret doin it in the long run. Let me know wat happens and i hope things work out the way you want them too.

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Why do young girls come on here to ask about sex when they can't even spell right? I find this to be a very sad look at young girls in american society today. Do you agree?

i agree with you 100% because i dont think its right for these 13 yr olds to be asking about sex they are wayy to young to be having sex. i dont know why girls cant wait i mean at a young age no one knows wat love is and they always say i ''love'' him and they really dont and the guys dont really love them either they are just sayin that to have sex with them i wish some girls were a little more smart and i wish they would realize that there isnt a rush in having sex i mean its not that great when your doing it with a random person that you really dont care about.Having sex should be special when you love someone and care about them deeply most people say they care about them but they really dont and they realize that after they have sex. All young girls should wait for that stuff. soo i agree with you and i wish girls would realize that they dont have to do that at a young age because everyone else is doing it everyone should be their own person adn shouldnt follow people.

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14/f

i think i developed bulimia around last november. ever since thanksgiving i've been throwing up like everything i eat. i used to binge but i stopped and i try to only eat when i absolutely have too. but today i ate some chips, freaked out and purged and i threw up some blood. i'm scared. it's never happened to me before. what happened? what do i do? i don't think i can stop i really can't. if i do i'm afraid i'll get really fatter.
i'm like 5'6" and last time i checked 121 pounds. normally i check everyday but i've been afraid to lately. i don't know what to do. i'm scared. my mom kinda knows about it but she's only said something to me twice. i don't get how i could overcome this. how?

any advice?

thanks so much.

You need to go get some help because there isnt a reason for you to be throwing up everytime you eat. If you wanna loose weight then diet healthy dieting thats wayy better because when you start to eat again and not throwing up you will gain more weight back. 121 pounds is very good for you and i dont think you need to be doin that to yourself your hurtin yourself and if you dont think you can stop by yourself then you need to go to the hospital fast because your not getting enough nutrients in your body. and your perfect the way you are and if people dont like the way you look who cares. Start bein healthy diet dont throw up!!

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But the guy i want to do it with is 10 years older than me what should i do

well if you love him i dont see a problem in it but it really depends on your age. but i wouldnt do it with him if you dont really like/ love him because when you do that there is alot of feelings through it all and if he doesnt really like you then your goin to get hurt. How old are you and how old is he?

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If losing a lot of weight or dieting causes you to skip your period, what do you have to do to keep your cycle & get back on track?? Is gaining back some weight the only option or do you just wait?? Thanks!!

well when you have an eating disorder thats when you stop getting your period because your body is shutting down and your weighing alot less then your supposed to weigh. if you have an eating disorder then gaining weight would be good to get your body back on track. But dieting isnt goin to make you stop getting your period because your body is still getting nutrients your just eating better things. If your not dieting or if you dont have an eating disorder i would wait it out and if you still dont get it then you have a problem and you need to go see a docter right away. I would tell your mom if your not getting it or someone that you can trust.

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I'm 16, I'm also in love with my best friend(of five years)'s ex boyfriend. I love my best friend and I know she still has feelings for him, but I've liked him since I was 14 (when they were dating) and I don't really know when I started loving him. He's also professed his feelings to me...and he asked me out. I know he really likes me, if not loves me back. He always makes an effort to be around me, tells me I'm beautiful, he calls me at night before I go to bed, studies with me, he's always the first one to notice the littlest changes in either my appearence, or even my mood...

I really want to be with him, but I don't want to hurt her. Please don't tell me that guys will come and go, but friends will be forever. That will honestly not help the situation at all. I really, really love him, and I don't know what to do. I can tell I've already hurt him by not telling him yes or no yet, I don't want him to have to wait any longer for a response. I don't want to lose my best friend either, she's my family.

well. just talk to her and see whats going on with her feelings about him or talk to both of them at the same time. That will help out because then everyone will get their feelings out. All you can really do is talk to her to see how she feels. I wouldnt do anything that would make you loose her as a best friend but im sure if you talk to her then it wil help out. she might be mad at you for a little while but im sure you would be mad too but if shes really your best friend then she will get over it eventually and stay friends with you and maybe him. hope i helped ya and write me bak and tell me your choice if you want..thanks
good luck

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Is it better to have the guy you love for just one night, or not at all?

That's pretty much the choice I have to make. I can either be with him for one night, or never be with him.

I don't know what to do, I don't want to fall for him more and then just have to give him up, but I don't want to regret not being with him, even if only for a night.

He doesn't do exclusive relationships.

if i was you i wouldnt go and see him for one night that will just make you want him more and i know it hurts you but eventually you will realize that was for the best. It will probably take you a long time to get over it but its better to give him up then to be with him for a couple of hours then giving him up because then you will miss him more. if you need anymore hel p you can write me in my inbox

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if you have bulimia, doesn't it take awhile to see blood in the vomit? i'm sorry if this is gros but i need to know..
i've only been bulimic for almost a year and i saw blood in mine.

well bein bulimic isnt good at all. you need to get better because if you keep this up then you can die evetually. Seeing blood in your vomit is very bad even when your not bulimic. go to a docter fast because it will get worse. Why are you bulimic? theres no reason for it. you should like yourself the way you are and you shouldnt change for anyone else write me bak in my inbox please

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15/f

ok so i went out with this guy for like a year and then broke up w/ him like right before summer. we got in like a huge fight and we stopped talking and stuff. now were like friends again and we talk.. not like a lot but we do talk. anyways we wanna like hang out soon.. but he wants to like hook up and im like fine with that. but he like wants me to give him a bj too..but like should i? or is that really slutty? i was really close with him i mean we went out for like a year. and like its weird bc now when we talk its like its the same.. like i still trust him & everything its weird.

hey, its all up to you really you have to feel comfortable with him. If you think that its slutty then dont do it but just go with your gut feeling and if your asking us about it then your not ready to be doing that with him at least not right now. I think its kinda weird but i understand that you tlak to him and its like the same as when you were going out but dont be his bitch dont let him think he can run to you for anythin at anytime because alot of guys start to think that and if you let him do that you will just get hurt. if you do that he will probably think wow i can hurt this girl but i can go back to her at anytime just by sayin sorry. that happened to my friend and he just kept hurting her soo watch out girl i wouldnt want you to get hurt. tell me if i helped you

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Hi,im a 14/m and i live with my grandmother uncle and mom..and not too long ago my aunt left my uncle..my uncle was with this girl for 8 years..never married..and she had her own appartment but she was here most of the time and she pulleed off some stuff but it was left go (like their money wasnt even together like she knew what he made but no one knew about her) and then a week ago she just left (with her daughter)..and she found a new man and stuff and she was useless and now my uncle is hopeless wont do anything wont even move..and the worst part there is hardly any money coming in and they (my mom and uncle) go and buy dope pills.which leaves the little bit of money there is gone and i never get anything.idk if this is right or not but i cant take it anymore ever week they go and spend all their money on pills and stuff and i dont get a penny.what should i do??

i would go try to find someone thay you can trust to stay at their house for awhile and try to find some help for your uncle and mom. thats not good for them and for you. and i think your too young to be having a job and your right th parents are supposed to support the kids but they have a problem and they need to get it fixed. When people have drug problems it leaves them doing things for themselves and that doesnt meant that they dotn love you its just they cant help themselves. Try to find them help and maybe things will get better for all 3 of you.

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If discharge is normal,is it also normal for ir to smell weird I took a test and I kno that I dont have any infections.Just my boyfriend wants to eat me out and I am really embarresed that my discharge smells funny and I dont want him having his face down there when it smells I use this feminen fash for my vagina and it hasnt helped how do I get ride of the smell thanks for reading

hi theres certain creams that helps with having discharge and the smell. Theres stuff out there for that like certain creams that you can use that will help not have discharge badly to where it smells. Just look around the store and read the label to see which one helps with that. thats all i can tell ya

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im 15 male and well im very small downstairs
and im really worried im not sure if any girl will want to be with me will it grow?

hi, dont be worried it will grow but not that much every guy is different and if a girl really likes you then that wont matter to them. but if you go out with a girl for sex then that will be a problem because alot of girls that only want sex they want a big penis but i really dont care if i really like a guy its for him not his penis but after awhile i would probably say something. Just find a girl thats not shallow and not a whore and you will be fine. and if u dont mind me asking how big is it like have u measured? Your 15 you got soooo much time to have sex and grow

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im 16 and decided to have sex with my bf its our first time but he had trouble getting his penis in
it hurt a bit when he pushed in it happened a second time his penis is about the average size im worried i might to tight what can i do?

well you cant really do anything yu just have to have sex a couple more times for you to stretch out. you can try masturbating and having sex for it to stretch that will help out it will hurt like 5 more times or so then it should be ok are you using tampons?

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My boyfriend is 17, and i'm almost 16. We've been dating for 4 months, and I really love him! I know he will wait as long as I want to wait until we have sex. But I dont want him to wait to long? How do I know he wont leave me? If he wants to.. should I? HELP :(

if your having doubts about it and you have to ask people if your ready then your not ready. you'll know when your ready believe me and your young yet and if he really loves you or likes you then he wont leave you he will respect that. But if he leaves you then he definately didnt like you or love you he was just using you to get in your pants. When it comes down to it if you end up doing it which most girls do and they regret it you wont know if he was using you until you do have sex with him. If he leaves you after thtat then you didnt deserve him and hes an asshole. But if you have any doubts which i think you kinda do then i wouldnt do it. I had the same problem too and i realized that sex isnt everything i mean do you want your relationship to be all about sex thats not a good relationship if its all about that. Most girls i know after they have sex their bfs think they want it all the time and the girls end up doing it everyday even if they dotn want too because their afraid of their bfs leaving them and the guys know thats how they feel but some guys are heartless so i would be careful with that. I know your probably sayin that you wouldnt have sex all thte time but thats what every girl says and it ends up being all the time. So that could happen and i dont think you want to be in that kind of relationship and if you do just to have your bf stay with you then thats fine have sex with him but i would wait for a little longer 4 months isnt a long time and your 16. if you have anymore questions cuz ive been through it all and im sure i can help you or try you can write me in my inbox or heres my sn
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