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I don't want to choose and I don't want to hurt anyone
I'm 16, I'm also in love with my best friend(of five years)'s ex boyfriend. I love my best friend and I know she still has feelings for him, but I've liked him since I was 14 (when they were dating) and I don't really know when I started loving him. He's also professed his feelings to me...and he asked me out. I know he really likes me, if not loves me back. He always makes an effort to be around me, tells me I'm beautiful, he calls me at night before I go to bed, studies with me, he's always the first one to notice the littlest changes in either my appearence, or even my mood...
I really want to be with him, but I don't want to hurt her. Please don't tell me that guys will come and go, but friends will be forever. That will honestly not help the situation at all. I really, really love him, and I don't know what to do. I can tell I've already hurt him by not telling him yes or no yet, I don't want him to have to wait any longer for a response. I don't want to lose my best friend either, she's my family.
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I think it comes down to which happens to be more important to you. I dont think you will be able to have both because im sure your friend wont take it to well that her best friend wants the man she still wants. I hope things workout for you with whatever choice you make.
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well. just talk to her and see whats going on with her feelings about him or talk to both of them at the same time. That will help out because then everyone will get their feelings out. All you can really do is talk to her to see how she feels. I wouldnt do anything that would make you loose her as a best friend but im sure if you talk to her then it wil help out. she might be mad at you for a little while but im sure you would be mad too but if shes really your best friend then she will get over it eventually and stay friends with you and maybe him. hope i helped ya and write me bak and tell me your choice if you want..thanks
good luck
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Option 1 : Tell your best friend about your feeling towards him. And wait for her reaction. Perhaps you soon know how she feels on that.
Option 2 : Tell him your feelings, but do not out with him. Let him know your feeling.
Option 3 : Tell them both!
I did option 2 for my case, end up with the lost of my best friend. Always think I should do the option 3 instead.
Goodluck! Pick which one you think is the best for you.
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Well you need to make sure whoever you're siding with you love most then. either way one will get mad at you hon. your friend might understand, but it's not right to date an ex for awhile. i did it, and lost my best friend. I kept it from her, and now we don't talk. it was my biggest regret.
whatever you do, be honest with both people. :]
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