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the names Kassidy. im 16. i go to freedom high. i love running. && hanging out with my friends. oh... im VERY loud. but a FUN loud. not bad loud. : ] yeah...i definatly have blonde momentstm. but its okay cause people still love me anyways so everything is GRAND. [ha] well hopefully you love me too. ;) kaythanksbye!
p.s. im good with any advice so ask me anything or ill just help ya out!

you can take the blonde to the ranch, but you cant take the bikini off the blonde.

♥KASSIDY

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About a bit over a month ago, me and my friends met lots of new people. They're really great but I'm so shy around them, and find it hard to approach them. One of my best mates has the same problem, but another one is absolutely fine and is really confident with them. One of the girls has starting joking about how quiet me and my friend are, but it's just that I'm shy, I don't want to be known as 'the quiet girl'.

How can I overcome my shyness? Are there any things like visualisations or anything like that that can help you get over it? Or anything else?

Please help, xxx

Be yourself. If you are constantly trying to hold your true personality in, it can be difficult to feel comfortable around other people. Face the fear that is bothering you. Smiling is a good way to start, and shouldn't be too embarassing. A small smile in the direction of a stranger may just brighten your day, and will brighten theirs, too! When you're prepared, you can try speaking to new people, using a light, friendly attitude. Be yourself! Find situations where you know you feel comfortable. Surround yourself with friends or others who bring out the best in you, and build up your confidence through them. Eventually, this will translate to other, more uncomfortable situations.
♥ KASSIDY

Hi, im going to ask a girl out tomoro and i only see her once a week. can someone gimme some tips on asking her out? im a bit nervous please supply me with any information asap!! thnx!

Be calm and confident. If you're sweating and stuttering, that girl will feel nervous about going out with you. Girls want guys that are confident, but not cocky. Practice talking to her. If you feel uncomfortable talking to her, you probably aren't ready to ask her out.
Being relaxed and confident is the difference between a comfortable silence and an unbearable silence. It's natural to have breaks in the conversation. Don't sweat it. Last and certainly not least, have fun. No girl wants to be with a guy who is boring.
♥ KASSIDY

omg, kassidy. you are like so unbelievably GORGEOUSS. is that what you really look like? or is that not you?

okay well i have one question:
- HOW DO YOU GET YOUR BANGS LIKE THAT! mine ALWAYS curl over at the ends - OUTWARD! everyone thinks it's cute cause no one else's bangs do that, but idkk?

thankss.

thank you!!
yes its me but i ususally do my hair straight though.
i got this done by a professional hairstylist but I'll ask her how she does it. do you think I did this myself? no. but thank you:) I wore my hair like this for prom also!! thanks!
♥ KASSIDY

how can i impress a guy so he can like me? if its possible because i like this guy but i want to get closer to him before i ask him out?

if you do a sport you can show off there, guys LOVE that so much. they find that impressive.

catch eye contact, talk to his friends, flip your hair, be loud, wear something totally adorable whenever you see him, have fun around your friends, then once he really notices you -- play hard to get.

if hes going to a social event for school try to make it so you can flirt with him there. and go!

i wouldnt ask him out, i would make him ask YOU out, unless your bold enough to do it. but usually if a girl asks out a guy, they dont go out for a very long time.
so just remember alls you need is confidence to make this happen! good luck and get that boy!!
♥ KASSIDY

i'll make this short (13/f)
one of my guy friends (goes to a different school) and i are really close. we met in camp a few years ago and we were friends since. for the past 2 years i didn't go to camp with him, but we stayed in touch. now he admits to liking me, but i don't exactly feel the same way. i care about him a lot, and i think i'm afraid that it will ruin our close friendship. should i give it a go? or stay true to my feelings (i'm not even sure if i like him)?
help is highly appreciated.

no i really dont think you should. because realtionships with people who go to different schools really do suck. even though you guys sound very close. i wouldnt give it even a shot. just be friends for now. tell him its nice that you have feelings for me but in the future we are good friends. because just think along down the road when you guys are going out theres going to be a "hard to deal" with long distant. then you break up its difficult and then find it hard to even to remain friends. so please just trust me I would go for your gut since you exactly DO NOt feel the same way about him. dont force yourself into liking him just because he has strong feelings for you. it will be better in the long run if you guys remain friends. =)
♥ KASSIDY

19 f
ok so ive recently gotten a boyfriend and hes really special to me. I also have my friends. theyve both met but thats pretty much it. I feel bad if i go out with him and leave my friend out yet on the other hand were in our first stages of still getting to know each other. I dont want her to be mad at me...ahh any advice would help thanks!

there are some other possibilities that you can do. maybe invite your friends to come along with your boyfriend( his friends 2 if you like) and it could be more fun to go in a big group, and maybe less awkward in some cases. that way your friend wont be so mad at you. then other days you 2 can go out alone and tell your friend that its OK to go out.
♥ KASSIDY

13/f

alright. um..

i like this guy A LOT (we'll call him bob). he has a girlfriend & they've been going out for like more than a month. the thing is, they don't do anything. i never see them talk & they have only hugged like once. that's all the farther they've gone. my bff has been going out with this guy for 3 weeks & they hang out a lot, talk evweryday, are constantly holding hands, & have kissed like 4 or 5 times.

my problem is, is that i don't know if i could ever go out with someone like that. someone that doesn't act like a boyfriend should. so my question is, should i move on? should i wait for him? if i do & we end up going out, is he gonna act the same way? i just don't know what to think or do.

help?

so hes not really boyfriend material huh? some people do that maybe because they just want to be casual when other people are around. but you never know maybe they could act all romantic when they are alone. i dont think you should move on you could get a chance with him. they could break up anytime and then there comes your opportunity to get him!! so you should definitely wait for him. Ok maybe he might act the same way, but he might not even like the girl he is going out with. thats a good reason to wait for them to break up. Im pretty sure hes going to act differely if he goes out with you. and if he doesnt then he could learn from you. you could be the one in control for the realtionship and flirt with him, he will eventually do the same! but yea just wait until time goes by and see if his door gets to be the one opened!
♥ KASSIDY

my boyfriend tells me he loves me but sometimes im not so sure. i love him but i do not know if he says he loves me because he thinks he has to so i will not feel bad. girls has this happened to you? and guys if you love someone how do you know?

it sounds like you need to be serious with him. yes this has defintiely happened to me. and you know what whenever you guys say bye i love you. why dont you pop the question and say do you really love me? because i do. then you will just know. love is to hard to explain you will just get this powerful feeling with no other person. OR how about you make a plan to see him at whatever time (in a romantic area) and tell him he needs to be there b/c you have something very important to ask.
trust me set the mood, and everything for it then say I LOVE YOU! and he might too. ok! hope this helped!
♥ KASSIDY

15/f. i'm a shy person unless i'm your friend then i'm more outgoing. i guess i'm just afraid to embarrass myself and i care what people think of me. i want to stop being like this. i just want to let go and have fun!

also like my sister who is 17 sometimes takes me out with her friends and i'm always so quite and i hardly talk. what can i do so i talk more but not annoying? i just want to be fun to be around!

thanks!

i was like that. but here's how you do it.
you have to and must be CONFIDENT. you are lacking it just a little. i understand exactly what you mean by your shy maybe when you dont really know the person, and when you are with friends you are more out-going. but you have to understand everyone is kind of like that. so...a good thing to do is to try to jump in on the conversations. if you disagree tell them, dont allways nod your head and say I KNOW. Be yourself. act as if your friends are with you and you know these people like for a long long time. laugh at certain stuff, be more friendly to people around you. another great way is to be super loud around people like laugh extremely loud. just scream they're name when you see them. do anything to get attention, and to make people see that you are really not shy and that you are a fun person. Shine and Show! dont ever show weakness. show that you have everything under control, that your life is perfect. then people will not think less of you. trust me just think of it as a normal conversation. never let fear be your enemy. hope this helped!
♥ KASSIDY

ok, i have this friend who is really outgoing and confident, and she gets ALL the guys. I get so depressed becuase not really any guys ever like me becuase she is always hogging the limelight. she also can really connect and talk to guys, and i can and everything, its just that there is nothing ever to talk about. Any advice on how to really outshine her and be able to talk to guys well?
thnks =]

you know what, one of my friends is exactly like that. what you need to do when she is not around is to have fun flirt with all the guys. you know do what she does. then when you are practicing when she is obviousley not around you will be ready to show-off your talent when you see her. so start practicing. i know it may be hard to cope with her but you need to understand that you guys are friends, and just accept her for WHO she is, NOT what she does to make you mad. She is your friend and she probably doesnt know that you are jealous or whatevs. Just be happy and share the spotlight with her. As everyone says just be yourself. And when you are out-going and confident she will see what a great person you are!:)
♥ KASSIDY

im naturally firty when it comes to guys, and so far its worked pretty well. Im 15 btw.I always thought guys were pretty much the same when it came to what they were looking for in a girl. But ive noticed lateley that the "typical" thing that a guy wants in a girl is different than what i previously thought. i mean, they're all different, so they all like different qualities, not all of them want drop dead gorgeous girls, but in general, can anyone tell me what they've noticed that guys like in a girl. oh and if ur a guy, your advice is appreciated!

some guys like shy girls..you know the cute ones who are different from the "annoying" ones who are always loud. thats what the one guy told me which i never forgotten!! it was a compliment even though I was just shy around him because I liked him so much. but...
they like paitence ones. while, other guys like fun and out-going girls who are very friendly, CONFIDENT, and popular and sporty type. And who get a lot of attention. It ranges from guy to guy. The like whether she smiles or not. Trust and honesty is very important too.
But I know that most guys hate the kind who are really hyper and weird. oh my gosh. So if you have a boyfriend, or a guy friend ask him what he likes about you. And he'll be honest about what he really likes about you.
♥ KASSIDY

what does the name lauren mean....or the word lauren in all different languages..
ex: in hawaian lauren the word/name means beautiful man?? any other meanings?

oh really thats VERRY interesting!! haha :)
well here's what i found hope this helps
The name Lauren pronounced as Law-ren is of Latin origin and means the laurel tree signifying glory, honor and victory in Roman times. The name has most probably descended from the Roman name Laurentia, the feminine form of the name Lawrence.
The name is also believed to be related to the Irish name Lorcan which means brave and fierce.
♥ KASSIDY

how do i get guys to notice me w/o being slutty and showing a crap load of skin? and a question for guys ! wen yall look at girls and your not lookina ther goodies wut traits do you see that seem to draw you to her and make you like her and not just the way she looks?

Just be modest. Wear clothes that flatter you. Like bold clothes. Not cheap ones you can find at target. Look confident. Work out to get skinny, guys like girls who have nice body. But dont show off so much skin so that they get distracted. It's the attitude that guys like. Guys like girls with attitudes. Use extreme body language if you please to. Just have a balance in everything. (Since Im a girl i cant do the other part of the prob.)
♥ KASSIDY

I want a friend who i see all the time and hang around with mostly and not sometimes i mean all the time and i cant see most of my friends that arent that close
But i want a friend who i see all the time

Try to have your weekend plans figured out in advance.
Hang around people who like to have fun and go places, it's hard to have fun with people who never want to do anything. Try hanging out with more out-going people. See if your friends are doing anything. Go out of your ways to help people, maybe that friend might just come along. Call a friend. Think of a special friend whom you really admire, love, and just is always fun to be around. Then start haning and talking to her more. Tell her a compliment you just love.
be willing to make conversation with anyone, don't limit who you talk to. Invite people along even if you don't know them well. Be more friendly, then one day or soon you might just find that friend (BFFE) you were looking for all along!!
♥ KASSIDY

How do you Ask a Question Intelligently?

Define exactly what it is you want to know.
Never ask a question in an aggressive manner.
Start with something simple.
Lay your concepts or ideas and assumptions on the table.
Ask politely and second-guess carefully.
Be gracious.
Thank the person.
Example: "Until now, I had always thought that classical music was not worth listening to. Maybe it is because all my friends hated it. But if musicians and educated men and women enjoy it, there must be something to it. I know you like it, so can you tell me what there is to appreciate?"
♥ KASSIDY

this is from: How long did you have to wait?

People been telling me to wait, for her respones, so i wait and basically she didnt responed.But only by body langunge (for exmaple) flirting, teasing and leaing on me for no reson. is that a respones? or teasing with my emotions?

Not all women have the same body language.
that is a response. its not teasing with your emotions.
Well, It is often said that in face-to-face communications, the words we speak actually account for less than 10% of the meaning, while body language accounts for more than half of our message (our tone of voice supposedly communicates the rest). Body language is important, and if your words say one thing but HER body says another, the person you are speaking to is more likely to believe the message your body is communicating.
so basically yea she is telling you just watch her body language. She must be telling you, that she likes you. Make her prove that she likes you:)
♥ KASSIDY

Hello, I'm nearly 17 and at college doing a construction course. It consists of alot of written work, all coursework/assignments/essays.

I have had 2 weeks of College and not done any work.. I have low motivation and usually find some sort of distraction to pull me away from doing work when I should do it. eg: friends, games.

What to do?

Easy!
The key to most motivation remains setting goals, but you can't just pick any goals. Think through a set of goals that sound as though they are what you want, and try to be specific.
Rely upon yourself for the motivation and the drive. Other people do not have and will never have the same vested interest in your success. Motivation and success is a function of habit. You must break your bad habit of procrastination, and replace it with one of good planning. The most successful people in the world aren't always the brightest, or the best looking, but no matter what other talents or gifts they have been blessed with, they have their self esteem a series of victories over tasks both large and small. This is how you learn anything in school, gain confidence dating, and everything else in life. Focus on yourself: your time and space management. If you can organize your time and work out something that will allow you to build on your motivation and do something to allow you to achieve your goals, you will actually get somewhere.
♥ KASSIDY

Okay if someone likes you and shows alot of body lang of liking you, why is that when we are with our friends she grabs my attention and flirts. but then when its the two of us and no one around she is not like that. Why? (me 20/f, her/21).

She could just be showing off like trying to get your attention. I do that a lot when I like a guy and are with friends. She's just trying to be fun and show how awesome she can be around you. Well, whenever you guys are alone it could mean that she is not confortable. It could be a little awkward for her to be alone with you, and she is used to being together with you around friends. I feel the same way, ok like when girls are around the guy and friends they feel more energetic. But when alone, they like freak out, and just dont know how to react. Just try to make her feel that everything is ok. Just kiss her and things will be fine. Dont worry if something is wrong with her becasue its just common for most girls. Hope that helped! :)
♥KASSIDY

Did any body out there ever had to wait till that someone you truely care about came up to you and respone to your letter or something elus? how long was the wait? and if it last for more than six months and you had to ask explain what happen?

Yea I had to wait. But writing a letter isnt that great sometimes. It was usually 2 weeks. But if they dont reply instantly like maybe now or longer than 2 weeks then they probably arent really worth the time. What I wouldnt do is try to annoy the person with notes, or trying to get them to respond. If it did last for more than 6 months and you had to explain then...what good is it waiting 6 months. But it usually takes a guy more than 3 months for a guy to ask out the girl. Thats when you know if they are interested or not. hope that helped :)
♥KASSIDY

i get jealous of people easily, and it's really annoying. i wasn't like this before and nothing really happened to make me jealous of people. if my friends get a cute expensive purse from their parents, or if my friend gets a ring from her boyfriend, i'll get jealous. i'd want to go shopping and find something that nobody else has that i know they'd like. same with looks, if i thikn i girl is prettier than me, i get kind of upset and i wish i were her. it's seriously super pathetic and i dont' know why i'm like that now! how can i stop being jealous?

That happens a lot to me. You just have to accept it for what it is. Jealously is just a waste of time, and a bad habit to get over. The more you be grateful for what it is, or who, the more you can accept things for what they are. Not just thinking "Oh I wish, I could have this, or that". Why don't you just be happy for who you are and you never know some people might be so jealous of you, it just doesnt seem like that to you sometimes. Also for some reason the more you become jealous of things, sometimes it may be easier to get over being jealous. You will just get sick of being it, that you really just DONT care about whatever is going on at the time. So whenever you see something like a cute out-fit or a guy you like, just think you are just as good as they are and you have nothing to worry about. Because you are a unique person in your own way, who people admire. So just think jealously is just a waste of time. Have fun and be grateful!:)
♥KASSIDY

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