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Q: i have a cutting problem and i want to stop and i am trying rilly hard but my boy frind dosnt see that and he just ses im lieing and im not trying hard enof and other stuff like that and it rilly fucks with my head so i cut more...... i luv him but i think if this keeps goning on i cant say with him ......and i luv him so i rilly dont want to leave him ............what should i do?????????

You have to stop cutting yourself!! your boy friend is only worried about you and is trying to help, Make him see that you sre trying to stop, maybe go to a concellor to sort out your problems.
Goodluck, Love Emily

Q: i have AIM and say if i have a buddylist titled "girls" and i want to change the name how do i do it without deleting everyone and putting them all back on? thanks in advancee.

I found a page with alot of questions the same as that, browse through the questions you might find the answer to more things too.

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php

goodluck,love Emily

Q: i just got a paid account, and i would really like for someone to explain to me how to work the codes for creating your own layouts. do they work just like livejournal, or myspace? or if anyone knew a couple of websites for me to get some layouts from, that would be most appreciative.

I myself dont know but i fould this page which might help, it is filled with all the questions that people ask browse through and see if your question is there.

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php

Goodluck, Love Emily

Q: Hi I'm just looking for advice about good music.
Preferably songs about friendship, love, heartbreak, moving on, etc.

Thank youuuu!

There is a great love song

artist : Something Corporate
Song : My Konstantine

its long but addictive
love Emily

Q: sorry if this is long. There is this guy that is really cute and hes my neighbor. our parents hate each other and we can't ever go to each others house because we live on such a dangerous road. the only time we talk to each other is on the bus, if we see each other in the halls, ccd, or at basketball pracice. his practice is before mine so i only see him for 2 minutes. he also is my age, but we aren't in the same grade since he got held back. we barely talk to each other that much and i am able to tell that he likes me since he always talks to me and smiles or waves at me. he tries to sit near me on the bus too. he broke up with his girlfriend about a month ago and i don't want to get in a fight with her. once i passed him in the hall and his friends said i was his girlfriend. i don't know if they were making that up or he if he told them something about asking me out. a few of my friends thinks that hes weird for some reason. idk he if will ask me out and idk what to do but i really like him and i want him to ask me put fast but my mom is starting to notice that he likes me, so i really need your help. thx in advance! also a big problem is that none of my friends know too.

If you really like each other and you see that he is a good guy GO FOR IT!!! explain to your mother how you feel and just because she might have problems with his parents it shouldn't effect you and him, see what happens dont hold back because you will regret it,maybe sort out a time where you can meet or something.
Goodluck,love Emily

Q: my parents say that you can't get into any good collages with 3 "A-'s" and 1 "B". if i wanted to be a lawyer, would those be good enough grades? and could i get into harvard or yale or brown or standford or really good schools?

Those schools are very hard to get into but with good grades like you have and a good school report you will have a really good chance, apply and see what happens, i am sure at least one of those collages will enroll you.
Goodluck,Love Emily

Q: I am 15 years old and pregnant. my boyfriend is working two jobs. but we have been fighting alot. and we barly talk any more. my parents just got seperated a couple months ago. my dad got into the whole religious thing. my mom is always out at bars partying staying at guys house having guys stay the night i eel nelgeted and alone. im not sure how to deal with this please help

You are in a very hard place, there are many many many places for young mothers that need help, i dont know where you live so i can not give you any number but look around because they know what you are going through and can help, Talk to your mother and Father and explain to them how you are feeling.
Goodluck, Love Emily

Q:
ohkay on my last report card these were my grades..
math, A-
science, A-
english, A-
social studies, B

I'm a smart girl and my parents consider a "B" failing in their eyes. of course i was grounded with no tv no phone and no computer for a week.

my parents think im not trying. the truth is i try my best. i work myself sooo hard i study for everything. none of my friends even study anymore but i study like crazy. i do all my homework i really try and get things done.

my grandpa my mom and my dad had a 3 hour talk with me about how my grades are slipping. okay wow i got a "B" but is it seriously the end of the world? they still think im in 6th grade when you could get an A+++++ without ever studying or trying. i wish they congratulated me when i get all "A's" and 1 "B". they make me so anxious all the time because if i get an 86 or 88 on a test they flip out. once they got mad when i got a 91!!!

i only got A+ in elementary school and a little bit of middle school because it was easy back then. now they expect more of you and you have to work for straight A's. how can i prove to my parents that i do try my best and im not very good in Social Studies and i should be glad a got a "B"

A lot of parents are like this you are not the only one, although they are doing it in a horrible way they are really just trying yo make sure you get somewhere great in life, and looking at your grades you will! you need to talk to them and talk to them about what they are doing and how it makaes you feel, dont let them do this to you they should be happy at how well you are doing and not making you feel bad for getting a B!!
goodluck, love Emily

Q: Ok, so this is kinda weird, but i don't know how to flirt. I've never really tried it before. If i ask a question and say something like "how do i get this guy to like me..." then people will just say to flirt with him. But the thing is that i don't really know how. Could anyone give me some tips? Thanx!

This is a question that a lot of girls and boys ask them selves, you will feel your self flirting when you do it. Try laughing at his jokes or playfully hitting him, don't over do it and make it to noticeable to anyone else. If the person you like is someone that you dont talk to much just start saying hi to him if you see him in a hallways or something or just start up small conversations.
Good luck, love Emily

Q: I have always wondered this, when a dog looks in a mirror can they see their reflection? My dogs never react and just look like they are staring at a wall.

Thanks ! :)

They can see them selve in the mirror, but wether they think it is another dog or know it is their reflection is a mystery.
love emily

Q: well should i talk to them both about it? like us 3 all together?

That would be good, you need to get the point across that you don't want them to feel like they can't see each other anymore because of you.

Q: Im dating a guy who is cousins with one of my closer friends they talk about me and i know they do, because she feels that we shouldnt date anymore we've been together for almost 2 years (few more months to come) but my bf feels that i've stolen him away from her like i hog him to much & she feels the same way. I dont want them to think that. Im not heartless i think family is important so why'd i want that for them right? i want them to know that i do believe its important that they still do see eachother, I want to write her a letter explaining that i do think its important they hang out, spend time together, u no? So could you help me get started with a letter or tell me some things to put in the letter?

I think a letter would be a very understanding way for her.Explain to her that you really like her and her cousin and care about them both and would never try to split them up etc, maybe you could organise to go to a movie and stuff with your boyfriend and her so she doesnt feel left out in anyway.Explain this to your bf as well so you can all move on with it.Keep me posted with what happens!
goodluck
justaskemily xox

Q: I am asking for people's opinions!

What do you think about the Monks of New Skete and their training program?

Great dog trainers or dog mistreaters?

Thanks!

i don't live where you live but i found the web page for the dog training place i hope i have helped:

http://www.dogsbestfriend.com/

you seem like a very lovely dog owner to be so concerned!

Q: what is the average cost for a Hahn's Miniature Macaw?

what is are some good types of cages and toys?and what are the average prices for the cages and toys?

websites for cages and toys would really help, so i can see where to buy cages and toys and how much they are.

thanks so much!

Hi i have no idea about the question but i researched it and found this page all about them, i hope it helps:

http://www.centralpets.com/animals/birds/parrots/prt5711.html

justaskemily

Q: In my hermit crabs dirt at the bottom of their cage, this white stuff that looks like a spider web keeps showing up. We take it out and replace the dirt and wash the cage, but it comes back. What could it be and how could we get rid of it for good? Could it be hurting my hermit crabs?

Maybe it could be the dirt or something, try getting packeted dirt from a plant store?
hope ive helped

Q: My dog never stop following my mom, he never wants to go out. he sard some reason. everywhere she goes my dog follow her.. she hase no idea why eather

Your dog is proberly scared of something and is looking for your mother for protection, show your dog that there is nothing to be scared of maybe for taking him for walks outside.
hope ive helped

Q: My dog was just killed by three other dogs. When i go outside i have a strange feeling that she is still here. an unrested soul. Do you think that she is still trying to protect me?

dogs are very loyal loving animals and i am very sorry for your loss but their are amny story of people and faithful animals coming back to look over their family, it sounds like she loves you very much and is protecting you.
sorry again

Q: I have a 2 year old guinea pig who is white and SO cute. He stinks up my whole bedroom and my mom wants to get rid of him. I love him and I just wanted to know if there was any special cages that they have or odor sprays. Also how much they cost. Thanks a bunch!

All types of rodents will be smelly at one pointn of there lives, i have never personaly had a guinea pig but i researched and a found a page with somethings that might be useful, hope it comes in handy:

http://www.diddly-di.fsnet.co.uk/piggy-care.htm

good luck

Q: my parents have just got a divorce and life at home is very hard as dad is moving out, i love him so much and don't want him to go please help

You have to stay strong for your mother and siblings if you have any, many children go through parental divorce and feel the exact same way as you, things will die down after your dad moves out anbd talk to you mum about going to see him and stuff
goodluck
xox

Q: my pet cat is in heat can somebody help me...

it could be dangerous for a cat to be in heat that young,if you would like the kittens take her to a vet and get a check up to see that they are ok and then make a place at home where your cat can go, put a bed and stuff in there.If you don't you could put the kittens up for adoption and find them good homes.
i looked up some sites for you that might help:

http://www.xmission.com/~emailbox/tips.htm

go down to "fluffy is pregant" hope it helps

goodluck

xox

bio

I love animals,reading and writing stories and hopeful that one day i will be a vet or a author. I am 14 and have been through quite alot like parental divorce and heaps of friend and boyfriend troubles i also have 4 cats and a turtle!
so post in a question and i will answer it to the best of my ability.