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Q: How old do you have to be to get finacing for a car from a dealership? 18, or do you just need to be employed?
you have to be 18 in order to buy a car from a dealership, or anywhere you would get finacing because until you are 18 you cannot legally sign a contract.
good lucky.

-jessicamarie.

Q: Me and this guy like flirt non stop haha, Lets call him Jim. I mean, you can obviously Tell we have a thing. And everyone can see it. Both of us Are just too Afriad to Tell eachother. Anyways, Im not too sure if this is flirting but He always like Wacks me in the stomach or like punches me or stuff just like Fooling around. But i wanna like be Really flity with him, But when he punches me, I don't know what to do, should i punch back? That's what i usually do. Also, I just want to be flirty in general, School is coming to an end i wanna show him i like him without actually telling him. Im extremely shy though, So nothing too intense pleasee! haha thanksss(:
when he punches you or w/e. pretend like it hurt, not like hospital hurt or anything. but like it just hurt a little. make him give you a hug. try getting him to tickle you, suddely though, say something about being very ticklish, thats always a good flirt.
i hope everything goes good.

-jessicamarie.

Q: Okay. Im fourteen (female) if it helps. Hah,
but Ill be a highschool freshman come this fall.
I have hazel eyes. Bleh. They like to change from blue to green to both with a bit of brown.
Its soo annoying! Especially when it comes to makeup...

I need tips to bring out the color, blue would be best, even though theyre green a lot.
Btw, do hazel eyes change with what you wear, mood, etc? Because I just dont know.
But I like to wear eyeliner a lot, and some neutral shadows as everyone says. But I want COLOR in my eyes and ON THEM! I absolutely love brights. I dont like eye shadow that much, though. It feels cakey.
Any tips, suggestion? Sorry. Thanks!
okay. i dont know about other colored eyes. but i do know about blue eyes, being that i have very blue eyes. The best eyeliner to wear is brown, and brownish eyeshadows, things like that. that always helps to bring out my blue eyes.

Q: okay so my boyfriends parents don't like me, and i don't know what i did for them to hate me so much. My boyfriend and i have been dating for 5 months. I have only gone to his house 2 and he's been to mine 2 and he said his parents really hate me and they act nice when im around but when im not i guess they talk crap about me? i really cant understand why, its mainly his mom, i say hello to her and offer to help with stuff. My boyfriend thinks its because she is blaming the fact that he has bad grades on me? but my boyfriend has had bad grades since before we went out and i don't even have any classes with him so i know im not effect him and he said so himself i wasn't the reason, he just doesn't do anything. His mom lets his little 13 year old sister go out and hang out with her boyfriend all the time she just wont let him hang out with me.. i really cant think of anything why she could hate me i didn't do anything wrong? How can i get her to like me or at least approve of her sons relationship with me??
okay. first sweetie. take a deep breath. trust me you are not alone. my boyfriends parents also, hate me. the thing you have to accept is that all that matters is your boyfriend, parents likeing you is just a bonus. i know that its hard to accept, but the fact is they may never approve of you. I would like very much so for my boyfriends parents to accept me, but they dont, and i cant change how they feel, so i just move on, and focus on the fact that my relationship is about me and him, not me, him, and his family. you are doing the best that you can, and being polite and yourself is all that you can do. also try asking your boyfriend to talk to his parents about the way that they are treating you, but be prepared for the answer, we dont hate her. i hope i helped some.
feel free to ask me anything else.

-jessicamarie.

Q: ok, so i'm only 16, and i filled out an application for an italian ice place, and they called the other day asking me to go in for an interview on thursday. now, this is my first interview EVER, and i'm really nervous and have no clue what to expect. typically, what kind of questions would they ask you? and what basically goes on during the whole process?
thanks!
first of all. dress nice. not prom wear or anything, but no jeans and t-shirt. every interview is different and has different questions. be prepared for what school do you go to? why should i pick you over the others for this job? why do you want this job? where do you see yourself 3 years from now? things like that.
but the absolute worse. this happened to a friend of mine, she sat down and the guy doing the interview said. okay go, tell me about yourself. so be prepared for anything. keep in mind that they know your nervous and can pretty much guess that it is your first interview. Just stay calm. Most will try to work with your nerves.
good luck. i hope you get it.

-jessicamarie.

Q: ok so i'm 15 guy is 17
just started getting my period a year ago so its kind of irregular.
well i lost my virginity in the beginning of May
and the last time i had my period was in the middle of April.. could i be pregnant?
for the last 3 months my period came within 3 weeks and before that i missed my period for 2 months.
We did it with out a condom about two times
it is def. possible that you are pregnant. but with you having irregular periods, not for sure. try buying an at home pregnancy test and see how that goes.
i hope for the best.

-jessicamarie.

Q: If I got my permit before September of last year, do I have to pay the extra fee (extra $200) or go the extra 15 hours?!!?!? Cuz that would be just ridiculous.
okay. so i dont know where you live.
but just in case you live in georgia.
you have to take a drivers course.
i took mine online and it was only $55. compared to like $200 at other sites. but it varies from state to state.

Q: I just saw the cutting edge 3 with the girl hockey player and i searched everywhere online and i really want to know what the songs are for that movie. but i only got 2 results. anyone know the songs used? I really liked the one where zach is laying without his shirt and watches the skating tv thing. help?

thanks
heres a list of the songs.

1. Street Of Dreams - Nia Peeples
2. Cry All Night - Neverland
3. Ride On Time - Black Box
4. Groove Master - Arrow
5. It Ain't Over Till It's Over - Rosemary Butler/John Townsend
6. Shame, Shame, Shame - Johnny Winter
7. Turning Circles - Saaly Dworsky
8. Baby Now I - Dan Reed Network
9. I've Got Dreams To Remember - Delbert McClinton
10. Feels Like Forever - Joe Cocker


hope it helped. =].

jessicamarie.

Q: okay im 13 years old and i have a sister who is 16. she has this boyfrined who i dont really like and i think that hes a bad influenece on her. well today she went to NY with him and his dumb self influenced her to get a tongue ring. my sister is dumb for doing it, but shes not supposed to have one. i think the ring is getting infected. i want to tell my mom about it but idont want to be a snitch or cause too much drama. please can someone help me!!!
telling your mom could mean a lot of grief between you and your sister, so if i were you i would wait a while and see how the tounge ring goes. but sit down with your sister and explain to her your feelings, and that you just dont want her to get hurt and end up in trouble. If you go against your sister and tell your mother right away, then its only going to cause her to rebel more, and me mire influenced by her boyfriend.
i hope i helped.

-jessicamarie.

Q: Okay, so this has been going on for the past few months - my five-year-old sister wakes up, sleepwalkwalks through the house in search of our mom, and cries. She is practically implacable; she does not fall back to sleep easily; she is either unwilling to or incapable of telling me what is wrong. Sometimes, I have to lay in her bed with her in order to get her to fall asleep.

At first, this only happened every once in a while, but now it happens EVERY NIGHT. It's gotten to the point where I wake up the instant I hear footsteps in the hallway. Sometimes, I just avoid falling asleep until she does it, because I know she will and I also know that I become quite irritable when my sleep is disturbed.

So, my question is this this: Is it normal for a five-year-old girl to wake up crying in the middle of the night, every single night? I can understand the occasional nightmare or the midnight bathroom break, but (again) every night?

I'm worried about her, which is bad enough, but I'm also losing hours of sleep over this issue. Any help you can offer would be much appreciated.
While it is normal for people to have nightmares, it isnt normal to have one every single night. Consider if anything traumatic has happened in the family or anything? nightmares and waking up crying can be the affect of a pshycosamatic problem. Something deep with in her brain is causeing her to do this, and she may not tell you because its quite possible that she doesnt even know it. Maybe you should consider taking her to a consoluer, and they may be able to help you out.
hope i helped. i wish for the best with yall.

-jessicamarie.

Q: i need some ides for britians got talent 2009 i need something out of the ordinary and very different not like acting, lip singing, juggling, but something TOTALLY different that 2 teenage girls can do
do you and the other girl share any talents?
maybe one or both of you play an instrument?
then you write your own song, and perform it.
im sorry if im not much help.
that is a tough question.
any other questions let me know. =].

-jessicamarie.

Q: The month of May i started my period around the 5th or 6th, sometime during that week my boyfriend and i engaged in unprotected sex. I am a 19 year old female... my periods always seem to come a little sooner then the one i had before.. anyways, i should be starting my next cycle within the next week. I am concerned however, that I may have become pregnant from this unprotected intercoarse. I took an "early response" pregnancy test, which came back negative. However i also have many symptoms relative to both pregnancy and period.. bloating.. constipation.. fatique... what do you think?!
chances are that you are not pregnant. most women's ovulation is not until the about day 10-12. These symptoms while could mean that you are, could come from the affects of a cold, or it could be your body reacting to stress from not knowing if you are or are not pregnant. Also another explanation of this could be, mind over body. The mind is a powerful thing and if you think you are pregnant, it is possible for the body to go into a false state of preganacy leading to these sympmtoms and perhaps weight gain. So i suggest you wait and see if you have your period, if you don't, don't freak quite yet, you could just be a little off track. Take another test and go from there.
i hope i help.

-jessicamarie.

Q: Is it a good idea to take the LSAT (actual) once as a practice, to get a feel for the test site/conditions, or is it better to just give it your all and only take it once?
for some a "practice run" may be a good thing. for like you said to get used to everything. Doing a practice run can also help you to set a goal as to what score you want to make and how to get there. Granted the practice run may turn into all you need and you only had to do it once, looking at the test as a practice run should also help you to loosen up not be so stressed about it which in turn can help your results also.

-jessicamarie.

Q: to be happy? i know a person cant make you happy, or at least keep you happy. so where do you find it?
happyness isnt always the easiest thing to achieve. try to surround yourself w/ happy positive thoughts. Things that you love, then be around them. Happiness will come to you. =].
good luck.

-jessicamarie.

Q: Around 1 year ago, I had a fight with my best friend of four years. Things got awkward between us because she accused me of lying (and I denied it) but she kept believing that I had lied (which technically, I guess I had). It wasn't about anything big, or anything concerning our friendship, but nonetheless its result was colossal.

First we just stopped calling each other (after having talked/texted every single day!) then we started avoiding each other, and then we just stopped acknowledging each others exsistance all together.

About 6 months later she called me, asking me what went wrong with our friendship, we forgave each other and went back to being friends. The thing is - I hadn't missed her during those six months. It was weird, but when we made up I felt like I'd rather have been not talking to her.

Anyways, since then we try to call each other every other week, and we've hung out a few times.. but everything's changed. I feel like she doesn't enjoy my company anymore and it breaks my heart.

In 2 month we will both be going off to univeristies in different states. I don't want it to end likes this.

What can I do? Other than talking about it - we've already done that, it didnt lead anywhere..

Should I give her a HUGE present? What can I do so she'll love me again? I know it doesnt matter since I'm leaving anyways, but yet - it kind of does, I want to know I mean alot to her even if we're not in the country.

If it makes a difference - I never actually confessed to the lie. But I wouldn't dare to do that now - after denying it atleast 1000 times.

Thank you for your time.
Sadly the fact of the matter is that talkin is really all that you can do. But maybe with a different approach. Tell her how much she means to you as a friend and that you dont want this huge space to be between yall, when yall used to be so great together. Buying her a present, may make her happy for a short period of time, but its not gonna fix anything. You cant buy peoples love. She does love you, prob. as much as she did before, she just doesnt know how to get things back to normal, and thats the toughest part. Things may never go back to complete normal, but they can get close. Make sure she knows that you dont want to lose her as a friend because she a best friend and she means so much to you.
i hope i helped at least some.

-jessicamarie.

Q: so there's 2 guys, let's name the first guy "spongebob" and the other guy "patrick" from spongebob square pants. okay, so i met both of them from my older sister, because she knows their older siblings. and patrick is closer to me and stuff, and i just met both of them. and they BOTH started liking me. last night, patrick told me that he liked me. but before he did, he asked me some questions, and i told him that i'd rather have a guy not wait for me because i don't want someone to wait for me if i'm not going to go for them & just to get to know other people. but then patrick said "but what if they wanna wait for them?" and all that, and i told him that then it's their choice, but i'd rather not have him wait for me. and stuff like that, because i decided to be with spongebob. but i was still single, and still am. and patrick told me that his older sister (which is my sister's best friend) knows that he likes me, and she said it was cool and that she likes me and stuff like that. and then today, spongebob KISSED me, and yes i did let him. so now i don't know what to do... i like spongebob, but then yet.. i don't wanna hurt patrick or make it awkward and stuff like that between me and his older sister.

also, because before all of this happened, patrick had this ex girlfriend that kept coming back to him. and he told me that he only liked her a little bit still, but he liked me and stuff like that, and he told his ex girlfriend to leave him alone, and to stop contacting him because he now likes me. and they've been together for 2 years! >.
I understnad your pain. But the best thing to do is tell tell Patrick flat out that he's a really nice guy but that your just into SpongeBob more. And that your really sorry, then talk to his sister and let her know that you didnt want to hurt Patrick, but you also didnt want to lead him on, and she will most likely understand.
Hope I helped.

-jessicamarie.

Q: Hi

well heres the story

There was this new guy Phillip and he started hanging out with my group and i was being nice and talking to him.Well its been 4 weeks and i really like him.And everybody in my group knows except him and today my friend kayne thought it would be funny to tell phillip that i liked him and asked him if he would go out with me. I walked away and kayne came over and told me that i was now going out wiht Phillip. I freaked out and asked my friend to go tell him that i didn't want to go out with him yet and i wanted to get to know him better. Since i've had time to think about it and i'm begining to regret not going out with him.

What should i do ask him out again or should i wait and actually get to know him better?
I'm so confused
thanks
if you really like him, wait until yall are alone, or call him up and explain to him that you do like him, and that you want to go out with him, but you were just embarrassed at the time. You'll get to know him better along the way. Chances are he was hoping that, that was the reason for the rejection.

Q: 17/f
I just graduated high school and a couple of weeks ago I met this guy from my school at a party. I had seen him around before but never talked to him. Anyways I got his number and then he called me and stuff and we had a “date”. (He called it a date, but I would just call it hanging out.) We ate, saw a movie, and walked around for a bit. So there’s nothing really wrong with him. He’s really nice, and he seems to treat everyone the same. The only thing is, he’s a baby.

He’s a junior at the school I just graduated from. He’s actually a month older than me, because I started school early. But it’s not just about the age; he’s only like 4 inches taller than me and he only weighs like 15 lbs more.

The thing is, I know that his size will probably change. He’s one of those guys that was like 60 lbs his freshman year (you’ve all seen them), so I’m thinking that he’s just a little behind on the growing thing. And he’s cute now, it’s just the size thing is kind of a turn off. And I mean like I said, he’s nice, and I talked to someone that hung out with him after our “date” and they said that he wouldn’t stop talking about me. So I know he likes me, and I know he’s genuinely a good guy too, because even though I only went on one “date” with him, I’ve already gotten the “don’t hurt him” lecture from 3 of his friends. (so like I know he’s not just putting on a show for me, and that he’s actually nice to everyone).

My question is, should I give him a chance and try to get past the fact that he’s a baby?
Or should I just tell him I only want to be friends?
I understand your concern. But if you like this guy, and he likes you, give him a chance. That doesnt mean it will really turn into anything big, but like you said, the size thing will change. If you like him, but dont go out with him because hes in a lower grade and not very big, then that makes you shallow. I believe that you should give him a chance and see how things go. If they dont work out,then they dont. But if they do, then...who know? =].

-jessicamarie.

Q: I am so, so sick of everything relating to relationships. All that ever happens to me is: I like a guy, he's really cool, and then he gets a girlfriend. That's happened to me MULTIPLE times now. And it's either that, or the guy isn't as great as he seemed to be. It seems like everyone has SOMEBODY who completely amazes them, except for me. I've liked guys before, but none of them have truly amazed me (meaning, I have never been in love).
I'm not incredibly skinny, but I'm not "fat." I'm not drop-dead gorgeous, but I'm not ugly. I'm just your average sixteen year old girl, really, but unlike the stereotype portrays, I care about more than gossip and the way my hair looks.

I apologize for the length of this question, but I just need to know: Is it even worth trying anymore? Because whenever I find a nice guy, he either doesn't like me, has someone, or just wants to do stuff.
I think that every teenage girl has had this question at least once in her life. Yes, it is hard. Yes, it does suck. But, yes, it is worth waiting and trying for. There are millions of guys out there that would love to take you out, but there is only one that is meant for you. Your young, and want someone now and i totally get that, but its like the saying "a watched pot never boils" if you keep looking for love, it seems to take much longer. Dont go looking for love, start with looking for like. Your not gonna be able to look a guy and say oh i love him. You have to get to know him first and then one day, it will hit you. This is the one, the one i wanna spend the rest of my life with. You'll find him, I promise. Just give it time. In the end, the waiting will be well worth it, because you will be truely happy.

-jessicamarie.

Q: i have been going to the same church for about 8 years, and my paretns work there. i am a core kid, but i have gotten "replaced" but some other girl. she has taken the spot of all the original core kids. so to speak. so the original core kids are getting burnt out of our current church and we havent been getting anything out of it, so we are going to a different church for the next few weeks, and my youth pastor isnt happy with that. he says im not being faithful. what should i do?
being faithful has nothing to do with where you worship. it has to do with if you worship or how you do it. My advice to you is that you should first pray to God to help you make the right desicion, also talk to the girl that is "replaceing" yall and tell her how you feel. Yall are doing good, but not giving up, even when you feel that you are being pushed out. Thats the most important thing, that through all of this yall have the desire to worship, to continue to go to church, wether its your normal church or not.
i hope i help.
anymore questions let me know. =].

-jessicamarie.

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jessicamarie
I just your average teen age girl, except i've gone through a lot of hardships that no one should go through, much less a teenager. I have a lot of experience with giving advice and love to do it. I am spirited and willful. I would love to help anyone i can no matter what the situation. I hate when people judge others, and make it my goal to not judge others. Everyone has their unique characteristics that should be uplifted and not put to shame.

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