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What does it take
to be happy? i know a person cant make you happy, or at least keep you happy. so where do you find it?
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Hmm, well it depends on the person, but heres how quite a few people look at it.
1: be healthy, but not obsessed over shape. More like, be active.
2: Have friends to talk to and gather with. Start an activity or club with some really good ones, EI: band, book club, etc.
3: Make friends, talk to people, be friendly
4: Keep a "dont care" attitude at negitive comments about you, ignore rumors. If something really annoys you, be a person of action.
5: Spend time with family, even if you hate them, atleast you have what some dont.
6: Always have goals in mind. If you accomplish all your dreams, it gets you in a depression. Try to set a few goals that can be continuous. Religion is good for this.
7: like number 4, keep a high head about yourself, dont try to be normal because normal doesnt exist. Be you, dont change who you are. Accept what you are in this world. Who gives a rats ass what others think?
8: be spontaneous, it is fun and not everything needs to be planned.
True, no one can make you happy. You need to be independant. There will always be flaws. In the end, you'll find something that may make you uncomfortable, or vice versa. Everything, every relationship has its own life cycle. A relationship usually has so much mileage it can go.
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Accept yourself.
I'm always happy when i hang out with my friends and have a good time.
When I achieve something that makes me happy.
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Be yourself! Accept the real U, your talents, flaws, peoples around you, etc. that should be enough to keep you happy being released from any burden, preassure just be easygoing, but remember one should have their own vision towards the future as the main reason of existence and being ALIVE! Life without vision is Emptiness!!!
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You find happiness in a good attitude. You can't control what life throws at you, how people view you, or how people treat you; however, you can control how you view yourself and your life.
As I said before, bad things happen to even the best (or happiest) of people. Bad things happen to the optimists, and bad things happen to the pessimists. What differentiates the two kinds of people? Their attitudes, and nothing more.
REAL optimism requires thought and a lot of strength. Anyone can suffer from "blind optimism," where one thinks that life is sunshine and butterflies all the time. In reality, the best way to live is through optimism and realism.
I'll show you the way to do this through an example. Okay, imagine that your significant other just broke up with you, for whatever reason. A pessimist would more than likely wallow in their sorrow and think that nothing good will come from the incident. An "over-optimist" will hope and hope that the significant other will come back to them eventually. See how both of these ways of life are flawed?
A realistic optimist would still feel sorrow. However, instead of seeking self-pity or false hope, they realize that it was meant to be the way it turned out and try to move on. They would also know that they will find happiness elsewhere (in this case, they realize that someone else is better for them than their ex-significant other).
Confidence is another factor. This is also something you must develop within yourself. Style your hair the way you want to style it. Wear tasteful clothes that make you feel beautiful. Be nice to everyone, and see how they treat you the way you treat them. Don't blame yourself for everything, for some things are beyond your control and there is no need to burden yourself with things you can't change. Find your passion and follow it. Don't depend on the opinions of others for happiness, as nobody knows you better than you do. Know that you are AMAZING, but don't be cocky about it. Be yourself, and do it well.
I'll close this off with a quote:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." -Marianne Williamson (later quoted by Nelson Mandela)
I know this was long, and I don't blame you if you fell asleep reading it, but I wanted to put a lot of thought into my answer. I hope it helped somewhat. If you need anything else, let me know!
-Manders
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No one person can make you happy, it's something that has to come from within. You need to learn to be happy with who and what you are. Accepting yourself and others for themselves can bring peace.
Accept that if you always try your best, you can do no more and leave it at that. Enjoy every day, finding something special in each one, as though it will be your last. It could be as simple as the song of a bird, or doing someone a good turn.
Learn not to regret but to take each mistake as a learning curve not to do the same thing again, or do it in a different way.
Find your true purpose in life and embrace it. Enjoy what you can do and forget what you cannot do.
Everyone is flawed in some way, that is what makes us human. I'm not particularly religious but this is a prayer I really like as it embraces what we should keep in mind every day. I hope it helps you.
The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.
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happyness isnt always the easiest thing to achieve. try to surround yourself w/ happy positive thoughts. Things that you love, then be around them. Happiness will come to you. =].
good luck.
-jessicamarie.
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