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Lost my BFF to a lie.
Around 1 year ago, I had a fight with my best friend of four years. Things got awkward between us because she accused me of lying (and I denied it) but she kept believing that I had lied (which technically, I guess I had). It wasn't about anything big, or anything concerning our friendship, but nonetheless its result was colossal.
First we just stopped calling each other (after having talked/texted every single day!) then we started avoiding each other, and then we just stopped acknowledging each others exsistance all together.
About 6 months later she called me, asking me what went wrong with our friendship, we forgave each other and went back to being friends. The thing is - I hadn't missed her during those six months. It was weird, but when we made up I felt like I'd rather have been not talking to her.
Anyways, since then we try to call each other every other week, and we've hung out a few times.. but everything's changed. I feel like she doesn't enjoy my company anymore and it breaks my heart.
In 2 month we will both be going off to univeristies in different states. I don't want it to end likes this.
What can I do? Other than talking about it - we've already done that, it didnt lead anywhere..
Should I give her a HUGE present? What can I do so she'll love me again? I know it doesnt matter since I'm leaving anyways, but yet - it kind of does, I want to know I mean alot to her even if we're not in the country.
If it makes a difference - I never actually confessed to the lie. But I wouldn't dare to do that now - after denying it atleast 1000 times.
Thank you for your time.
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Sadly the fact of the matter is that talkin is really all that you can do. But maybe with a different approach. Tell her how much she means to you as a friend and that you dont want this huge space to be between yall, when yall used to be so great together. Buying her a present, may make her happy for a short period of time, but its not gonna fix anything. You cant buy peoples love. She does love you, prob. as much as she did before, she just doesnt know how to get things back to normal, and thats the toughest part. Things may never go back to complete normal, but they can get close. Make sure she knows that you dont want to lose her as a friend because she a best friend and she means so much to you.
i hope i helped at least some.
-jessicamarie.
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Okay this is so weird cus like the same thing happend to me. like not exactly the same but ALOT like what your tlaking about. i had a BEST friend like we did everything together and then we got in a fight over (lying) and i was really upset at first when we stopped talking but after a couple days i really didn't even care. then a couple monthes later she wanted to be friends again and said the fight was stupid blahblhablha so i was but it just didn't seem the same...like she changed. and honestly it has nothing to do with you, people change, things change it really does hurt. exp, cause you really do miss how things were. but i think the best thing you should do is tell her the truth and how you really feel because if your going to be in different states there really is going to be no chance to make things better. i think she SHOULD really appreciate that, there is nothing better then the truth. and if she still gets mad over it, and doesn't want to talk to you then she isn't worth it anyways. i would def. not get her a present. not good to buy someones love
lol well good luck!<333333
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