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Q: Okay so i dont really keep track on when i get my period, i usually know im getting my period when my hair starts to grow on my genitals, because everytime i finsih my period i shave so yeah when the hair comes back i know my period comes and it does, but my family is all like "you just got your period, what the hell something is wrong with you"
and im just concerned, even if I DID get 2wice a month is that a bad thing? im not OVER or UNDER weight, im normal. and im 15. so im just wondering whats normal and whats not. thank you. (:

It is very harmful to have your period twice a month. Consult a doctor as soon as possible.
My friend was getting her period twice a month, and she went to the doctor to get it checked out; they found a cyst on her ovaries. I'm not trying to scare you, but this is a serious problem. It needs to be dealt with, so talk to your parents.

I hope everything turns out okay :)

Q: Do you know if it is true that if you wash your hair in cold water it will make it shinier?

Have YOU tried it and does cold water make your hair shiny for real?

Thank you!

I rate!

I've heard that it's true.
I tried rinsing my hair which is thin and naturally wavy with cold water once to see what effect it would have, but it actually made my hair less shiny. I don't know why, but my hair is always more shiny when I use hot water and a hot setting on my blow dryer. I think it really depends on the type of hair that you have.
If you want to be sure, try it for yourself and see what effect it has on your hair.

Q: 15/f

im moving 530 miles away from where i live now. since i am going to a new school soon i would like to find new clothes. my favorite store is forever 21 but i want more of a selection as well. i love the 20's and 30's looking fashion, not 70's and 80's. so does anyone know websites where i can find cheaper vintage clothing? thanks.

modcloth.com

the vintage clothes sell out fast, so check early in the morning for new additions to the site as new clothes are added daily. :)

Q: I'm planning on going to see a band sometime next week and will invite 3 other people to come with me. I'm a new kid in town (2 months), so I'm not that close to anyone yet, so I'm going to invite people that I think would like that type of music (MGMT) that I've already been talking to.

Anyways, there is this girl in one of my classes who was nice to me and everything, and we were getting to know each other and stuff, but now she seems to ignore me, and she invited a bunch of people for a big birthday party sometime next week. She's still handing out invitations and I feel hurt that she'd talk to me and everything earlier and not invite me when its gonna be a big party, not some intimate thing. Like its gonna be like a rave with techno music, from what I've heard. Like Im in class and I hear her talking about it with other people she's invited and its like.. ugh. Maybe she just forgot to invite me? Or idk.

I was thinking that maybe if I invited her to go see the concert she'd invite me for her party? Is that desperate? I mean I do want to be friends with her.. and did, before I knew about the party. but I am kinda shy so its hard for me to go and strike conversations with people I dont know too well and stuff.. while she is pretty extroverted. I only see her in school so I dont get much time to talk to her, too.

Maybe she thinks im boring or uninterested in being her friend when i just have to feel more comfortable around others before im really myself. it would be good to go to the party to see other kids from school and get to know them too, as summer starts.

Um should I just forget about her since she didnt invite me, or should I ask her on facebook if she wants to go to the concert? I mean i think techno is somewhat relative to MGMT... its electronic (lol) so I think she could like it.

I'm 16 btw. Thanks!

I would only invite her to the concert if you really want her to go and if you think you'll have a good time with her because you might not get invited to the party just because you invited her to the concert. You might, but you also might not. You shouldn't invite her just because you think that she'll invite you to her party, only if you really want to get to know her.

Q: I have to wash my hair every other day to get it to stay not greasy and pretty. Some days I just get so tired of washing it and I want to go longer. It doesn't smell or anything but it looks so dirty and gross. What can I put in my hair to make it less greasy looking without actually washing it in the shower or bathtub? THANKKKKS

You should be washing your hair every other day. Any less frequent than that and you're bordering uncleanliness. I wash my hair every single day with no problem. I don't see why you can't wash it every other day. It takes 10 minutes. You can't be lazy if you want to look clean and well groomed.

Q: Plain and simple question: HOW DO I GET A FLAT STOMACH FAST?!?!?! i'm 13 years old 5'3 and weigh 146lbs. I'm not FAT but my stomach hangs about 1/2 inch over my hips. I hate it! I eat fairly well and axercise and dance all the time! i have a membership to the gym and do crunches but it doesn't burn! I won't do unhealthy crap like starve myself or whatever but i NEED to get a flat stomach!!! it makes me angry and upset and sometimes i just want to die (but i won't kill myself or anything) I just don't like my stomach! AHHH Please help me! anything that WORKS FOR SURE! within like a week or LESS. i know it doesn't happen over night but somebody has to have an idea on how to?! thanks for the advice i appreciate it :) -Becca

As the other advicenator said, you are overweight. Your BMI is in the overweight range at 25.9, so your best bet to lose your stomach fat is to lose weight in general because you are not at a healthy weight for your height. Losing weight is the only way that you'll lose your stomach fat. Cut out junk food, drink a lot of water, eat small meals, and don't exceed 1500 calories a day along with exercise to lose weight.

Good Luck!

Q: i found THE cutest moschino bracelet in the world! It has a white circle on a black band with a big red heart sorta off to one side on it.

here it is if you wanna look

http://www.moschinoboutique.com/item/store/MOSCHINO/tskay/BD67EC2D/rr/1/cod10/50116889WC/areaid//sts//mm/208

My only problem is I don't know how to pronounce moschino so I am asking here. Do you know how?

thanks! I will rate you!

Actually, it's pronounced Moss-keno. :)
I'm 100% sure on this, so the other columnist is incorrect!

Q: So is it true? does cold water make hair shiny? If it does could you tell me why?

Q: hi! i'm currently on a go phone plan. and i'd like to get a new phone. i right now have the motorola karma. i'd like to switch to the blackberry curve 8310. i know the blackberry is a smart phone, but will my go phone account work with it? i would only use it for texting and calling. i don't EVER get on the internet.

Your go phone plan will not work with a blackberry. Purchasing a data plan is required in order to own a blackberry. A data plan includes internet and email access. There are many options which include different amounts of texting and calling along with the data plan, but blackberry plans are very expensive. If you're not going to use the internet then a blackberry is pretty much a waste of money.

Q: How do i make my friend jealous?
Please dont tell me how immarure and wrong it is. I want actual answers

Find our what her insecurities are and be better than her in those regards.

For example: If she's insecure with her weight, then lose weight and become thin (or if you already are thin then wear clothes that show off your thin figure).

You can't make her become jealous, but if you target her insecurities then there's a good chance that she will get jealous.

Q: I have Verizon.

I currently have an enV Touch, but my sister is giving me her Blackberry Tour.
She's had it for five months.

I WOULD NOT be using the internet on it. I don't use internet on phones.
I would use it for the normal texting, calling, IMing thing.

She says I would need to start the "Blackberry Service" in order to use it.
And she says that's an extra 30 bucks a month.

What IS the Blackberry Service? What does it do?
Do I really need it if I wont be using the internet?
She uses the internet on her phone but I'll be cancelling it.

The Blackberry service is just a data plan that allows you to access the internet and send emails through your phone. You MUST purchase this service in order to have a blackberry, so you cannot cancel the internet on a blackberry. You don't need the service if you're not using internet, however it is mandatory if you want to use a blackberry. If you're not using the internet or email, a blackberry is really a waste of money.

What I meant was that it would be a waste of money to pay for the service if you're not going to be using the internet or email.

Q: I'm 5'4" and my mom is 5'9"-5'10" and my dad is 5'7"-5'8". My sister is 1 year older than me and shes 6'0"! Wtf, why am I so short!! Im hoping this 1/2 inch will mean I'll grow a lot. Lol what does it typcially mean when your feet grow 1/2 an inch? I heard your feet grow before your body grows, so its a sign. My foot size is now 10 1/2 so I have to get 11. My sisters feet are size 13. What am I doing wrong? Like should I sleep more? Exercise more? I dont exercise much.. does that have to do with it? Im 165 pounds.. a little overweight according to the BMI calculator. does that come to play? Wahh..help. Im 16.. im not too late to grow right? Last time I really grew was from 4'8" to 5'3" around the time I was 10. I would love to grow to be 5'8"... 4 inches to go.. I'll even be happy with 5'7".. anything less is unbearable for me. Especially since Im a volleyball player. Im OH, and Im not getting far if I'm the shortest hitter.. I wonder who the coaches esp for college teams, would be looking for. I wonder who would have an easier time jumping high and everything.. the taller peeps. I want to lose weight anyways. And people are like "when your shorter theres more guys to choose from!" uMMMM no! cause i dont wanna be with a short guy! I wanna be tall so I can be with a taller guy and have tall kids and etc. help!! what type of vitamins help you in general for teens and help you to grow taller too? and are like.. okay and wont give me cancer. k thanks!

There is nothing that you can do to grow more. If you haven't grown since you were 10 then you're most likely done growing for the most part. Your height is determined by your genes and there's nothing that you can do about that. You just have to accept it.

Q: Hey, if I accidentally X'd out of a facebook chat, but i wanna get back to the chat.. is there anyway to re-open up that conversation through facebook preferences or something??

Facebook keeps chats rolling, so as long as you haven't signed out, you can just click on the persons name to chat them and your previous chat with appear.

If you've logged out, then there's no way to retrieve it, sorry.

Q: will one binge make you gain weight?

ive been on a 1200-1300 calorie diet for a week,a nd i binged today.

i walk twice a day every day,

will i gain weight?

Absolutely not. It takes more than a day to gain weight as long as you jump right back into your diet tomorrow then you'll be 100% fine :)

I wish you all the best!

Q: okay, so it's now almost may, and i'm leaving for vacation in june. I have a lot of pubic hair and I am just sick of shaving. I have hair from my belly button down (no I do not shave my belly!), and I would really like to get rid of it.

I shave often, and the first day it's fine, but usually by the third day, it's extremely itchy and there are lots of red bumps. It's embarassing when I wear bathing suits, or when I do things with guys.

I'm considering getting professionaly waxed, but I can't decided!

If I did get waxed, what should I expect?

Is it normal to get hair on you're Libia, and down to your Anus? And could I get that waxed too?

I'm only 15, and I don't really have anyone to talk to, so please help!!
Thank-you.

Waxing hurts really badly, so I'd use veet as an alternative.

The only bad thing about veet is the smell, but honestly, it's pain free and you can stand the smell for three minutes. It leaves you without burns or anything of the sort and the hair grows back much slower than when it is shaved.

If you have a ton of hair in those areas, you'll need to use a lot of veet multiple times for longer lengths to get the hair completely removed.

If you have a small amount of hair, you'll only need one usage, but you want to be careful about how long you leave it on. The minute that it starts tingling or burning, you've left it on too long and it's irritating your skin. 2-3 minutes is a good time for places with small amounts of hair.

If you're unhappy with the veet results then you could always try professional waxing, but I'd definitely give veet ago before resorting to waxing.

Q: 17/f i'm going to this amusement park with my friends & family for the weekend. my one friend, has an eating disorder, and was just put into the hospital over the weekend, but she said she'd be out by the time to go she thinks, the problem is, I don't really feel its a good idea for her to come now. first of all, we plan on swimming, and i don't want anyone giving her dirty looks or anything for how skinny she is. (weighs 70 pounds, you can see her all her bones..) also, my parents don't feel comfortable with her coming, because they are afraid she won't eat or whatever & don't want the responsibility. how do i uninvite her? i don't really want to tell her my reasons, i just need a good excuse!

I agree with the other columnist about the fact that uninviting her will really aid her eating disorder and not help it in anyway. I would also feel really badly if I were your friend because having an eating disorder is hard enough without having not-so-supportive friends.

Regardless of my opinion, I'll answer your question. I think that the best way to do it is to say that your parents are being really annoying and decided at the last minute to cap the number of friends that you could invite and since you didn't know for a fact whether she would be out of the hospital or well enough to go, you decided to uninvite her instead of someone who you knew would definitely be able to attend.

I wish you and your friend the best.
Have a great time at the amusement park! :)

Q: I have an odd, flaky rash around my nose. The doctor said it was just irrated skin, and that I should use cortizone on it, but it's still there!! Anyone know any fast remedies for dry, irrated skin? I'll appreciate any ideas :]
-M:]

I recommend Cetaphil skin cream which can be found at costco for dry skin. It works like a charm. It also takes anywhere from 3 days to a week for dry skin to go away even with an excellent skin cream. I would wait it out a bit and try the skin cream I recommended.

Also, try taking shorter, warm showers as opposed to long, hot ones to keep this from reoccurring.

Q: Everyone is in love with my eyes. They're big, sparkly, and an olive green, with copper brown around the iris. I want to bring out this quality, cuz it's one of my only good ones appearance-wise...so what are some ideas to make my eyes..I don't know...pop out more? I'll appreciate any ideas
-M:]

Anything green clothing and jewelry wise will make them pop. I have hazel eyes and whenever I wear green earrings, the green in my eyes overshadows the brown and really stands out. I would try the earrings since you don't want to be wearing green clothes everyday. haha

I wish you all the best :)

Q: I'm wearing this dress to my junior prom

http://img2.timeinc.net/people/i/2007/stylewatch/gallery/sequin_dresses/carrie_underwood_200x400.jpg

and was wondering, what should I do with my hair? And what color should I get my nails painted? I'm relatively pale and have long brown hair, if that helps. Thank you!

Hair: Part your hair down the center and then make loose waves with a 1.5" curling barrel. Finally, Pull your hair back except for two .5" inch strands surrounding your face while keeping the center part.

Nails: Painted Black
Black and gold go really well together.

Q: any idean to loose weight QUICK

Drink ONLY water, eat 1000-1200 calories daily of low sodium foods, and do cardio every other day!

Also, eat smaller meals more frequently rather than larger meals less frequently. It will keep your metabolism going strong.

Good Luck :)