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Should I invite her to a concert so I can be invited to her party?
I'm planning on going to see a band sometime next week and will invite 3 other people to come with me. I'm a new kid in town (2 months), so I'm not that close to anyone yet, so I'm going to invite people that I think would like that type of music (MGMT) that I've already been talking to.
Anyways, there is this girl in one of my classes who was nice to me and everything, and we were getting to know each other and stuff, but now she seems to ignore me, and she invited a bunch of people for a big birthday party sometime next week. She's still handing out invitations and I feel hurt that she'd talk to me and everything earlier and not invite me when its gonna be a big party, not some intimate thing. Like its gonna be like a rave with techno music, from what I've heard. Like Im in class and I hear her talking about it with other people she's invited and its like.. ugh. Maybe she just forgot to invite me? Or idk.
I was thinking that maybe if I invited her to go see the concert she'd invite me for her party? Is that desperate? I mean I do want to be friends with her.. and did, before I knew about the party. but I am kinda shy so its hard for me to go and strike conversations with people I dont know too well and stuff.. while she is pretty extroverted. I only see her in school so I dont get much time to talk to her, too.
Maybe she thinks im boring or uninterested in being her friend when i just have to feel more comfortable around others before im really myself. it would be good to go to the party to see other kids from school and get to know them too, as summer starts.
Um should I just forget about her since she didnt invite me, or should I ask her on facebook if she wants to go to the concert? I mean i think techno is somewhat relative to MGMT... its electronic (lol) so I think she could like it.
I'm 16 btw. Thanks!
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I would only invite her to the concert if you really want her to go and if you think you'll have a good time with her because you might not get invited to the party just because you invited her to the concert. You might, but you also might not. You shouldn't invite her just because you think that she'll invite you to her party, only if you really want to get to know her.
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I don't think its desperate. You're just trying to get to know someone a little better. Maybe if she knows you a little better she'll invite you to the party. Go ahead and invite her, but don't depend too much on the invitation to her party. Concentrate on having a good time and getting to know her better and the rest will all fall into place. Good luck!
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If you think you can or would get along with this girl...go ahead and invite her. It sounds to me like she doesn't *not* like you so you should be fine with that. I think if she is interested in it you could get to know her more and then maybe she would invite you to her party.If she doesn't invite you though, don't be offended, maybe she can't invite anyone else. But if she goes to this concert you can ask her afterward about her party. Just say something like, "So i heard you were having a party?" and you can strike up a conversation there. Hope this helps! If you need anything else...inbox me!
~Kaya
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