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Does junior yr in highschool fly by quick? Or does it take longer to get through?
All years in high school have gone by quickly for me, personally- I'm going to be a junior too, haha.
But I have heard and know that junior year is the hardest of all years K-12. As far as toughness goes, its junior, senior, sophomore, freshman. There's going to be tons of tedious work, especially if you're in any Honors or AP classes. Its also the year that colleges most look at and judge as far as admission into college.
Brace yourself ;)
i didnt know what category to putt this is on. i got my period on july 2nd and it lasted for about 4 days then today i got it again on july 14. i never got my period twice in one month. can it be anything else other then my period? is it weird or unhealthy that it happened since it never happened before? & if i had sex after my period finised around the 7th ish does this mean i am not pregnant? thanks guys! oh and i also took the plan b pill around the 9th i think can that be the reason? and if i had sex after that does this mean i am still not pregnant? sorry theres a lot of questions!
If you have had your period for less than three years or are a teenager, this is completely normal. Periods can be pretty screwy. I would say to just ask your doctor during your next physical if you have had your period for more than five years, but since youre taking The Pill, there's no reason to. The Pill can adversely effect your menstrual cycle temporarily, especially if you have just started it.
I don't think that you can determine pregnancy by that little of information, so don't worry yourself yet. As long as you've been taking The Pill for a month at the same time everyday, there's a .01% chance you're pregnant, and if you used a condom correctly, there's no chance whatsoever.
I hope I helped, hon :)
so is it bad for a guy to give a girl oral if she has herpes and hasnt had an outbreak?
YES. Don't. It doesn't matter for how long she hasn't had an outbreak, you shouldn't fool around with that unless you want Herpes too. Its a very serious disease and nothing to be messed with. Only if you were married and she was on medication for her Herpes, and possibly you also (just in case - although I'm not sure), then it would be alright to participate in sex of any form, even as simple as fingering. But you're not, so take sex out of the equation between you and this girl.
God bless, hon:)
So after pondering for ages on what I'd like to do career wise. I went from an underwear designer (which I'm still really considering), hairdressing, but after seeing how hard it is to be one after my work experiance in a hairdressers, I'm not so sure. Then I thought I'd love to be a make-up artist but then I realised it might be hard to get into that business. Then I landed on being a wedding planner and I absolouted loved this idea.
So my two questions are:
1. How do I become a wedding planner?
2. Are my other ideas better than a wedding planner?
I'm 15/f btw :)
Thanks :)
On the flip side of this dwindling economy where the unemployment rate keeps decreasing, people are always going to be getting married. Your lower- middle-class clients may plan their own wedding, but you still have a solid middle- and upper-class clientele. As an answer to question 2, yes, there are other more solid jobs out there than wedding planners- like, computer programmers and graphic designers, since the technology market is constantly growing. But wedding planning is fairly solid, and makes a heck of a lot of money, especially if business is good.
You also may want to think about home decorating if you want to be a wedding planner. Or maybe, a party planner.
Hope I helped, hon :)
nineteen, female (:
okay so everytime me and this guy hang out he always triese to go down my pants.
i've never been fingered before, but i have heard that when a guy fingers you, its for YOUR pleasure, not the guys.
does this mean that he cares about me? i mean he NEVER has asked me to give him a blow job or hand job or anything of that sort.
he just always tries to do things, to me. is this a good sign?
Yes, it could be that he just wants to pleasure you, but it would also be another notch under his belt. It would just give him something to brag about to his buddies, how far he got with yet another girl. If you've been going out for a few months and you're comfortable with it, I'd let him, but if you kinda just met him, I'd wait on it til at least a few months have passed. If he thinks you're worth it, he'll still be around.
16.f
I have this wart on my hand and its been there for a few years but I just don't seem to know how to remove it..how do you remove warts?
I always see Compound W advertised on TV commercials but I really don't know much about it, sorry. Even though its an urban legend, I coincidentally got a wart on my hand after handling a frog for the first and last time when I was six years old. It grew to be very big, especially for the hand of a little kid, so I went to the doctor's and had it removed. They take a type of wand/pen filled with acid and go over the wart until it's burned off. Its a little painful but if my memory serves correct, they do numb it first. I didn't cry when I was 6 haha, so I wouldn't worry about it. The only thing is that the pen sparks with the acid from the top, so tiny bits of your surrounding skin burn a bit, but as I said, it just feels like a pinch, not really a burn. I'd just book an appointment with your doctor.
Hope I helped, love :)
okay so i really want to dye my hair a bold color. today i tried dyeing it with kool-aid and it failed miserably. you couldnt even tell a change, i tried purple, and than blue, and neither of it worked. i have medium brown hair so its really hard to dye it a bright color, and all the websites i went on said i have to bleach my hair. like i want to use manic panic, special effects, or splat hair dye, but im really skeptical about bleaching my hair to get it to look bold. any suggestions? anyone thats ever done this have anything to say? like is bleaching your hair that bad? helppppp.
thanks in advance.
You really can't, sorry love. I was in your exact same situation a few months ago
I have reddish-brown hair, and about a year and a half ago, I asked for blonde highlights at the hair salon. I came out with the top half of my hair essentially bleached, with the slightest bit of hair dye in it that made it look normal/good. I hated how blonde it was- I wanted to be a brunette. I never bothered to dye over it because my hair was damaged enough because of the bleach. So I use a glaze from John Frieda to add different depths to my hair to make the bleached hair (which I don't have much left of now) look like highlights and my regular hair color to get my "highlight" color in it - if that made any sense... lol. So I tried to dye a few strands of my hair purple a few months ago - I think I used temporary ("5-7 washes," more like 1 lol) manic panic, i got it at Hot Topic - and you could kindasorta see it on my brown hair part but mostly on the bleached part. It didn't look weird, it just looked more obvious towards the bottom.
So if you still want to dye it, I'd make sure its permanent. Temporary isn't worth it. Bleach it (I'm not sure how, sorry, but if you look it up it shouldn't be that hard) then dye it.
And if you decided to bleach + temp dye, I'd advise you to use John Frieda Luminous Color Glaze in Brilliant Brunette after the dye washes out. Its $16 at Wal-Mart.
Hope I helped, hon :)
Yesterday, I was on AIM, and got a random IM. The guy stated his name, and started talking randomly. He mentioned the state I was in, which again I don't know this person. It started to freak me out, so I signed out.
This might be someone I know just messing around, but somehow I doubt it.
Now, online, I have a Facebook/MySpace and a general e-mail for both. And then I have a plethora of other e-mail that I use for play, signing up for forum boards and such, and none of my Instant Messenger services are hooked to the Facebook/Myspace anymore.
I recently learned about IP addresses, and again, was getting a little freaked. Now then, my question.
Can someone find your exact location with an IP easily? (I know its possible, the whole thing with police tracing e-mails blah). I doubt that, if it was fairly difficult, anyone would go and find someone they haven't even spoken to, but if it was easy.
I really am being paranoid, really paranoid, but I am also curious. Not even IP even, but computer tracking in general? And if it is, is there anything I can do to make it more difficult?
Sorry for bothering everyong with my paranoia, but I just don't want to be on another list.
If they don't know your last name or telephone number, they cannot track you at all. They can prob find the town you live in with your IP address, but they would need a very complex program to find that out. And obviously there are many other people in your town besides yourself.
Don't worry about him. Just block him and ask your friends if they know of the SN.
Best wishes, love.
do you have to take a tampon out every time you pee? and doesn't it hurt if you take it out too early when its not fully absorbedyet? jw causei want to use tampons but i pee alot.
Well always pee before you stick it in.
After that, youre fine to pee with it in haha.
But if you have to REALLY go, like I've-been-holding-this-in-for-hours gotta go (lol) then you may want to take it out first, you really have to try it out for yourself since everybodys different.
Hope I helped, love :)
I just ended my period and was supposed to start a new pack this past Sunday (it's Mon now) but I didn't realize that my school's pharmacy was closed (and that's where I get my prescription.) This would have been my 3rd pack.
I'm not sexually active (never have been) at the moment so not really worried about not being protected against pregnancy. I take the birth control pill only to regulate my cycle. I would like to know what will happen to my body during this month, and what will happen when I start a new pack after my next period? I'm just worried about any negative hormonal changes (if any?) my body will have to go through because of this, and if starting on them again in a month will screw with my period, appetite, etc.
The pharmacy isn't open until after the 4th of July. In the future, I have 90 day supplies coming from my insurance provider. So this time was just a mix up.
Your body needs a month to steady itself after you first take your birth control. If you skip this month's, your cycle won't be fully regular until late August. Your body will be acting funky, you may gain or lose as much as 10 pounds, your boobs could swell, possibly puffy face, I think. Think period & pregnancy symptoms, but don't worry, they're usually milder. You may puke sometimes. I wouldn't worry about it too much, those are worst-case scenario things.
- public health class :)
Hope I could help some hon, good luck
xoxo
16/female
So i'll be a senior in the fall and i've never been kissed nor have i been in a relationship. I've only "talked" to boys a few times throughout HS. It's so embarrassing. I think you have to ACTUALLY be in my position to know how pitiful this is. So I like this boy and he likes me and we randomly started talking about sucking dick and eating out girls. I'm not a fan of either and so he just started to judge me. He told me I was crazy for not wanting a guy to eat me out. People judge me all the time, and I hate the feeling of being judged. Sometimes, I think I would've been better off giving my all to the first boy I talked too. Because I can't take this anymore. All I want is one nice boy..is that asking for too much? My standards aren't high. I'm outgoing, friendly, and fun. Please don't respond with "you'll find one someday, just wait, or be true to yourself B.S." Cause, that just makes me feel worse inside. What do you think with all of this? Should I see how things go with him? Should I be carefree?
thanks.
I feel your pain, hon. I've never been in a "real" relationship throughout high school (incoming junior), just stupid middle school ones that lasted a week or so and didn't even matter. My only problem is that I do have standards, I'm not a slut, and my inner circle is all girls.
Make fate work for you and flirt more with guys. If you go on a long-distance road trip with friends, be VERY bold -- you'd never see the guy again if you didn't make the effort, right? -- and flirt like crazy. The more times you do that, the more you'll become open to talking to guys at home.
And you said you're a senior anyway. You'll be meeting thousands of new guys at college next year. Chances are in your favor that you'll be in a relationship with at least one of them.
Don't throw it all away on a guy that doesn't even matter. Because you're older, you'll be able to cherish your first kiss more, first everything. Wait for someone who really matters to you, not some douche who obviously wants you for your body.
Hope I helped, hon:)
xoxo
OK so me and my Bf were having some fun yesterday and well the condom broke and he hade come, i am on the pill and have been for a few monthes now like 6-7 and am also on my period i also took a warm bath and attempeted to clean myself, so my question is how doyou properly clean yourself after this happens and should their be anyworry bou getting pregnant?
As long as you're taking the pill at the same time everyday, there's only a .1% chace you'll get pregnant. One in a thousand. However, if you've skipped a day or been even a few hours off in the last MONTH, you are susceptible to pregnancy. The pill needs a month to stabilize itself, that's why. But as long as you've been taking it correctly, you should be fine.
FYI, if you use the condom correctly and its not damaged, and you're also taking the pill correctly, there is a 0% chance of pregnancy. Nothing at all. So keep using condoms if you want to avoid pregnancy.
-public health class:)
Hope everything works out honn
xoxo
I'm Christian and I know lust is wrong. That's why i was super-relieved when I got more into studying the Bible and whatnot and I was distracted by my former thoughts...that was a while ago though. And now they're coming back, especially about the boy that I'm infatuated with...and i don't want to bring him into this, he's a Christian boy!! I don't wanna think of him like that...or think like that at all.
like I said, I know in the Bible it says several times lust and sexual immorality is sin...but i need help stopping the thoughts. I'm praying! if you have any advice, please offer it, if you don't please pray for me.
Lust may be sinful. But hon, everyone commits sins. You are a teenager. Yes, God does not want you to lust. But it is biologically impossible at times to not be lustful, thanks to hormones. As long as you're not acting on that lust, in my mind, you are not sinning. Its not like you're having sex, you're not hooking up with no intention of dating the guy, you're not masturbating, you're not looking up porn. All you're doing is fantisizing. You could say, "but God knows!" Yes, God does know. But God also knows we are but human. And that you are a teenage girl, who biologically cannot put aside those thoughts at times. Give yourself a break and just keep praying. God will love you just the same.
xoxo
I'm 13. My mom never keeps her promises or does what she says she will. Like I take horseback riding lessons once a week, and I really want her to go at least sometimes, but she never does. I get a ride with my friend every week. My mom said she was going to take me every other week, but when it's the day that I go, she says she's busy... but when I get home and ask her what she was doing, she says she stayed home or didn't do anything. The last time she took me, she just dropped me off and left for almost the whole time. She also never comes to any horse shows that I'm in. I know she knows that I want her to come, because last week I overheard her say to my dad "It bothers her that I don't go," but she still doesn't.
She always says that we'll go shopping or something, but then she makes an excuse and we never go. It's so annoying and I've said things to her about it, but she still does it. What should I do?
Give her advanced warning and be completely blunt. If you have an important horse show in three weeks, ask your mom to clear the day for you and come with you to watch it. Tell her how much it would mean to you if she could come with her, and propose a girls' day, so she can take you out to eat or to the spa before or after the show. She most likely won't say no at that point.
Make sure to remind her frequently that the show is coming up, even leave post-its for her to find around her room or office saying "so glad we can spend time together on the 24th!" or something. She'll realize that it really is important to you and maybe you'll even excite her into wanting to go. And when she goes once, she may want to keep coming back on her own, without your prodding.
Parents are far from perfect. Your mom has her reasons for not going out with you that probably make perfect sense in her head, but not so much in the real world. As soon as she realizes how great it is to spend time with you, she'll have more reasons to go than to stay home.
Good luck hon:)
xoxo
- i cant focus easily
- i forget what im saying mid-sentence
- i have an irrational fear of the dark and tidal waves
- i get irritaded/offended easily
- im vonurable
- i drink
- i get really worried about school, work, when my boyfriend doesnt call me, when my moms late from work...etc.
- i get scared when im home alone
history:
- abusive/alcoholic dad
- moving a lot
- divorce
- raped (i was really barred out and i couldnt really control anythin and barely remember but i was 'willing'...)
what can this be ? im scared of subjecting my life to it. help me please !
15/f
Obviously you've been through some traumatic experiences, so its pretty clear that you are suffering side effects of them.
It sounds like you're suffering from some sort of stress disorder, causing you to lose focus, mental fogginess, and intense fears/worries. Just go to the doctor and s/he'll either prescribe you some calming meds or recommend you to a dif doctor that can deal with your problem better. Honestly though, your problem seems pretty by-the-book and I doubt he'll have a problem dealing with it.
Consuming alcohol, though, is far from out of your control. Cut ties with your friends that drink, or at least leave when the alcohol comes out until you have the guts to say "no." If your parents are supplying the alcohol or you steal it from them, make an effort to not look for/at the place where its stored. Alcohol is an unhealthy and cowardly way of dealing with stress; you're just running away from the problem. Now that you've realized what's causing these symptoms, go to a doc and seek help asap.
Hope all works out, hon.
xoxo
Did Michael Jackson actually die? Because I heard that the entire thing was a big hoax and that Michael Jackson is still alive and well. So, yeah, has anybody else heard that Michael Jackson faked his own death?
I heard that his illness was speculated as a hoax early on, when he first got taken to the hospital and before the full details were released, most famously by Perez Hilton. But I have not heard the rumor that his death was a hoax because it is just that, a rumor. His death was confirmed by many hospital officials. Because Michael was in debt, I doubt that he would have possessed the great amount of money to pay off the officials to lie that immensely. And Janet Jackson, his sister, went on the BET Awards last night to say thank you to the fans for being so supportive and was extremely emotional and sincere. So, to answer your question, yes, Michael Jackson did actually die, and to speculate otherwise I believe is quite disrespectful to his integrity.
I have had my period for a little over three years now and I am getting worried.
It's been really heavy lately, like bleed through a tampon, pad, and my jeans! It's embarrassing that I have to keep a change of CLOTHES with me too when I have my period! It was not like this before and it seems to only be getting worse.
I also get really bad cramps, like where I "black out" for a minute or two and wake up on the floor. I get a fever, not terribly high, but it's still considered "a fever."
I can't talk to my mom about this stuff, she's one of those people who think feminine "stuff" is shameful and should be kept private. I am not sure what to do though because it's becoming a problem.
Any help is appreciated. :\
The rule of thumb is that as long as you're not bleeding through an super tampon/pad in under 2 hours, you're good. Maybe its just that you're not using a strong/dense enough pad/tampon or you're not changing it enough?
Bad cramps are normal, my mom used to pass out all the time. (Luckily, those intense cramps skipped a generation, haha.) Try Midol or Tylonol for Women, and if that doesn't work, go to a doc for stronger pain meds.
A fever isn't considered a fever unless it's 100, according to my M.D. Some people just have naturally higher body temps than 96.6. Most likely in your case, there's so many processes going on in your body, with your period and all, and you're worried about it, so your temp spikes a little. Unless it reaches 99.5, no need to be worried.
If you are, in fact, bleeding on your jeans in under 2 hours while wearing both a super tampon AND super pad, go to the doctor. It could be something as simple as a hormonal imbalance that they can prescribe vitamins for.
Also if you're over 16 you may want to consider seeing a gyno if you aren't already.
Hope I helped, hon:)
-16, period for 5 years
i have superr bad under-eye circles, right.
so i went on this site. and they said it's cause my capillaries aren't strong enough, and are seeping blood into the skin near my eyes.
gahh!
so. can you tell me how i can possibly
strengthenn my capillaries?
Or anything else you know of that will help get rid of my under-eye circles forever?
Thank YOU!
Haha there's no strengthening your capillaries hon. They're thin blood vessels. The only way to "strengthen" them is to make them healthier, which would just mean total body health. Eat right and exercise. Sounds stupid but it has to do with blood flow and what goes into your blood. Also, drink lots of water. Aim for 3-4 bottles a day.
Undereye circles are also genetic. Check your family tree on both sides, as far down as your great grandparents, to see if they passed down a trait to you that skipped your parents.
If you're tired or sick that also may be why you have undereye circles, your capillaries are stressed into breaking. It contributes to total body health. So stay healthy.
Try Neutrogena 3-in-1 Concealer for Eyes. Its an eye cream in addition to a concealer with SPF so it soothes the area slightly.
I feel your pain haha, I have genetic undereye circles, and even worse, visible veins on my eyelid and undereye area. With concealer and foundation barely anyone can notice though, so don't worry about it. You're always your own worst critic.
hope i helped honn,xoxo
Okay, so here's the deal. I lost too much weight, I was about 109 pounds in mid-May, so I decided I wanted to gain some weight back; not a lot though, only about 10 pounds or so.
I ended up gaining just about 30 pounds, instead, in that little amount of time (from then to now.)
I fell out of the exercise routine, and started eating bigger amounts (compared to the fact I was only eating about 400 calories a day-yes, I did have an eating disorder.) so I gained too much back. Now I'm trying to lose 15-20 pounds before August 6th, because that's when I'm going away for a week to celebrate my 16th birthday, and I want to be confident and feel good about how I look. Right now, I'm absolutely miserable, because none of my pants fit me, my bras are too tight, my hair is falling out, and I've been having terrible problems with going to the bathroom (fluctuating between constipation and diarrhea, it's been a nonstop problem too.) I need to know EXACTLY what to eat and how much and how many times a day, and I need to know the absolute PERFECT exercises so that I can successfully do this. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me, this is something that I don't feel I can do on my own.
When you starve yourself, your body thinks of it as a starvation period, like animalistic during the early stages of human life, and as soon as the starving period is over, the body ups its appetite. That's why your body put back on the weight. Don't put all the blame on yourself.
You have a good amount of time. 5 weeks. Try for 15 pounds, and if you get more than that, great for you. Thats 3 pounds a week, 3.5 if you want to get closer to your goal.
Although I don't know your height I'd suggest five small meals a day instead of three larger. Of course, the mid-morning and mid-afternoon meals would be smaller than breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Just remember to eat tons of fruits and veggies, a few servings of dairy a day, and low carb, but make sure to add starches and whole wheat to your day. Like, a bowl or two of General Mills cereal should take care of it. Of course, little to no sweets / desserts.
For exercises, you want to concentrate mainly on burning fat first, then toning up- whats the use of having toned muscles if nobody can see them? If it were me, I'd try for the first 4 weeks to meet my 15 pound weight loss goal. That's managable, under 4 pounds per week. I'd concentrate on 2 hours of aerobic exercises a day- try tae bo, exercise tapes, whatever it takes- for 5 or 6 days a week. Make sure to exercises after meals (but not directly after). 1 day a week, do strength training. Go to a gym if you can but if not, get a few copies of Seventeen or CosmoGirl! magazine and see the exercises they put in there to use. The last week, only do 1 or 2 days of aerobics and mainly concentrate on strength training, doing 3 45-minute sets each day.
Good luck hon. I've had weight troubles too-- its always up and down, all starting with an eating disorder-- so if you need any more assistance, feel free to contact me.
Alright, so I'm 15 and I'm gunna be a sophmore after this summer is over. I was thinking about where I can get new clothes for this summer and maybe even this fall for back to school. I'm not into the whole pay a hundred dollars for a tanktop with a bird on it scene. I'm getting paid around 50 dollars a week for babysitting, and I need to find places where I can get decent clothes like you'd find at places like PacSun, Hottopic, Hollister, etc. but not nearly as expensive, 'cause if I only have 50 dollars, I don't wanna blow all 50 on one thing. I live in MA, does anybody have any ideas? Also I can't shop online because I don't have a credit card and I'm pretty sure my mom doesn't either.
Thanks!
hey girl :) i'd try wet seal and charlotte russe, tons of my friends get wicked cute stuff from there thats also really cheap.
what i do too is go through my entire closet and pick out pieces that can be worn dif ways. like, fold a strapless dress in half to make a mini skirt, or wear a tank top over a long-sleeve. It will make your wardrobe seem 10x bigger.
also. im a bobs girl. haha they have good deals on roxy, billabong, derek heart, poof excellence, etc. especially if you or a parent signs up for the discount card thingie, you get coupons in the mail like every week haha.
t.j. maxx also has cute stuff, if you go in on the right day.
hope i helped honn:)
junior,16
from mass