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No love life.
16/female
So i'll be a senior in the fall and i've never been kissed nor have i been in a relationship. I've only "talked" to boys a few times throughout HS. It's so embarrassing. I think you have to ACTUALLY be in my position to know how pitiful this is. So I like this boy and he likes me and we randomly started talking about sucking dick and eating out girls. I'm not a fan of either and so he just started to judge me. He told me I was crazy for not wanting a guy to eat me out. People judge me all the time, and I hate the feeling of being judged. Sometimes, I think I would've been better off giving my all to the first boy I talked too. Because I can't take this anymore. All I want is one nice boy..is that asking for too much? My standards aren't high. I'm outgoing, friendly, and fun. Please don't respond with "you'll find one someday, just wait, or be true to yourself B.S." Cause, that just makes me feel worse inside. What do you think with all of this? Should I see how things go with him? Should I be carefree?
thanks.
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hey my names matt and im 18 and I!... am in your position... you need to think in a different frame of mind, make your self believe that a boyfriend would be nice >but< you dont need one to live your life to the fullest, am i right? i guess my situations a little different because i have had one gf but that was more that 7 years ago so i dont really count it because we were just kids. Its not pitiful that you havent kissed a guy, i havent kissed a girl not even with my first GF (we didnt go out long enough i guess to get to that point, didnt help we were both were way too shy either) and even though you told me not to say, my god im'a say it anyway you WILL find some one, some day... in this world buldging with over a billion people at least one of them will want to stay and cherish you for who you are right? im still waiting for mine to come along but now that i finnaly turned 18 i can get out and do more. Enjoy your teenage years either depressing over the boyfriend you havent got or just living it up till you get the freedom to travel and make choices for yourself.
BUT, this guy that liks you? do you like him back? is he your type? dont just go out with him because you "need" a BF, that way you will end with loads of ex's and no current boyfriends... if you get what i mean? heh
hopefully you can piece together a bit more of were i'm coming from with your own imagination, if it's not clear now then time will give you the answer. if some one had taken the time to explain what im getting at now it would have saved me alot of lonley-ness and heartache.
#~Matt~#
[My E buttons breaking, sorry if some of the words dont make sense i have gon back through it and checked]
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Believe me, I've been in your position lol. I'm a Junior in High School and I haven't been in a relationship either. Most of the time, guys in High School are just looking for someone to hook up with, not a relatioship (some do). But..you're still in High School, I wouldn't worry about not having a boyfriend or anything like that. I know it's a lot of pressure because friends have boyfriends and stuff but as the other person said, college is definitely where you'll get a relationship. Just focus on school. And as far as it goes with the guy..if he judges you like that, he obviously isn't good for you and probably wants only sex. Asking for a nice guy is not too much. If you meet a guy you really like, talk to him, get to know him. Don't lower standards for anyone though..don't be carefree either.
Hope I helped!
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I feel your pain, hon. I've never been in a "real" relationship throughout high school (incoming junior), just stupid middle school ones that lasted a week or so and didn't even matter. My only problem is that I do have standards, I'm not a slut, and my inner circle is all girls.
Make fate work for you and flirt more with guys. If you go on a long-distance road trip with friends, be VERY bold -- you'd never see the guy again if you didn't make the effort, right? -- and flirt like crazy. The more times you do that, the more you'll become open to talking to guys at home.
And you said you're a senior anyway. You'll be meeting thousands of new guys at college next year. Chances are in your favor that you'll be in a relationship with at least one of them.
Don't throw it all away on a guy that doesn't even matter. Because you're older, you'll be able to cherish your first kiss more, first everything. Wait for someone who really matters to you, not some douche who obviously wants you for your body.
Hope I helped, hon:)
xoxo
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