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Mom never keeps promises
I'm 13. My mom never keeps her promises or does what she says she will. Like I take horseback riding lessons once a week, and I really want her to go at least sometimes, but she never does. I get a ride with my friend every week. My mom said she was going to take me every other week, but when it's the day that I go, she says she's busy... but when I get home and ask her what she was doing, she says she stayed home or didn't do anything. The last time she took me, she just dropped me off and left for almost the whole time. She also never comes to any horse shows that I'm in. I know she knows that I want her to come, because last week I overheard her say to my dad "It bothers her that I don't go," but she still doesn't.
She always says that we'll go shopping or something, but then she makes an excuse and we never go. It's so annoying and I've said things to her about it, but she still does it. What should I do?
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Give her advanced warning and be completely blunt. If you have an important horse show in three weeks, ask your mom to clear the day for you and come with you to watch it. Tell her how much it would mean to you if she could come with her, and propose a girls' day, so she can take you out to eat or to the spa before or after the show. She most likely won't say no at that point.
Make sure to remind her frequently that the show is coming up, even leave post-its for her to find around her room or office saying "so glad we can spend time together on the 24th!" or something. She'll realize that it really is important to you and maybe you'll even excite her into wanting to go. And when she goes once, she may want to keep coming back on her own, without your prodding.
Parents are far from perfect. Your mom has her reasons for not going out with you that probably make perfect sense in her head, but not so much in the real world. As soon as she realizes how great it is to spend time with you, she'll have more reasons to go than to stay home.
Good luck hon:)
xoxo
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I know you said you have tried talking to her before, but continue to talk to her. If you get on her enough, it might just sink in. Try to tell her why it's so important to you that she come, (like saying her support means a lot and it would show you that she cares about you and takes an interest in what you're doing), and tell her how it makes you feel when she says she will come and then doesn't. Also, maybe you could try talking to your dad about it and seeing if he could discuss it with her? She might be more likely to listen if it was coming from him, and maybe he could manage to get her to come to some shows. Hope this helped :)
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