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Q: Okay, so after i take a shower
I blow dry my hair and straighten it
and my scalp is really dry
and now my hair comes out easier..

AHHH
what do I do?
i know im now balding.

Obviously you're hair is not getting enough moisture! One, because youre working so much heat on it, and two, you might not be using the right products. Well, since your hair is being shaped with so much dry heat, its drying out! I suggest that before you straighten you're hair, you apply rub-down. It's applied to the roots of your hair so that they're not damaged by the heat of your straightener. You can get it at any salon/hair place and maybe drugstores. Also, on weekends and days that you're no doing anything and just hanging out, give your hair a brake and don't expose it to any heat.
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Q: well ok-i wanted to know-im a 32A and im 13-but i was flat chested in the beginning of the year-is this a good rate for growing? also--i got padded 32As,so if i go swimming in a bathing suit,would people notice the difference between my bra padded and just my swimsuit wich isnt?i never wore the padded bras in public yet,so should i wait till it gets to school time? much help is appreciated-thank you :) :) :)

Oh yeah, of course that's a normal growing rate. Well, bras and bathing suits are pretty much always padded differently. Most girls have more padded bras than suits, it's nothing new. I think that you should just go ahead and start wearing the more padded bras so that people around you are "use to it", i guess those are the words. Because if one day your normal sized then the next your super sized people will be like "woah you've grown." so yeah, just go ahead and get use to them.
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Q: what eyeliner color brings out dark brown eyes? does blue eyeliner do that?

Yes, blue eyeliner will make your brown eyes "pop" but not in the best way. When you have dark eyes (and dark hair i suppose) and wear bright colored make up it gives off the vibe of too-much make up.
I advise that you go for a rich brown color, not only because it would match your face and eyes, but it will also give off more of that sexy and dark vibe.
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Q: This is gonna sound disgusting but during the past week my feet have been smelling really badly. They never used to be like that, its just happened recently.
What can i do to stop them smelling?
If it helps, im 13/f
Thanks in advance, xxx

BANANAS.
Eat lots and lots of bananas.
I promise you they'll work.
Something in them just makes foot odor disappear!
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Q: i am babysitting but the only problem is the people have a cat and my eyes puff up and i am miserable everytime. only problem is, i really need this job for money!!! any suggestions on what i can do to stop the allergies

Just lock the cat in a box so you won't have to deal with it.
No im totally kidding.
But you should tell the cat-owners that you're allergic and ask if they could keep the cat in one part of the house while you babysit in another. Or if it's an indoor/outdoor cat you can jsut leave it's food out there.
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Q: every time i put on makeup, i put on loads of waterproof mascara. and you got it! it never comes off whenever i use makeup remover. and i have tried many kinds of removers and i have to use waterproof mascara because i curl my eyelashes and if i use normal mascara it will uncurl them. and im asain so i need to curl it. so what should i do to get all this mascara off? i have even tried lots of makeup remover but it doesnt work.. any tips or GOOD makeup removers taht will take off lots of waterproof mascara

I actually have an idea where you can use normal mascara and it still be curly!
Alright, well before curlling, put mascara on.
Then curl.
Then put another coat of mascara on.
(Then curl again if you must)
But because you put it on before curling it already has a think texture that you can still shape before it dries.
I don't know if you've tried it before - but just an idea.
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Q: My girl friend, Trish, is so beautiful and I love her so much.
The problem is people say that she is ugly, & I don't think that at all.
I was just wondering if I could get all of your honest opinions. Do ya'll think she is ugly?

http://i25.photobucket.com/albums/c54/TriciaxxxAnn/newhair.jpg

I'll rate 5s for all answers.

Aww i think you're friends a cutie!
I think you shouldnt give a flip what people are saying. They're just jealouse because theyre not as cute. :)
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Q: what's a good way to keep your breath smelling fresh and oderless all day long? do listerine strips work well? i know that minty sweet gums don't.. so if anyone has any input,,please tell me!! thanks a bunch!

Ew, no listerine strips are EXTREMELY disgusting. Nothing is going to give you all day, 24/hour fresh smelling breathe. But I do reccomend Altoids. They're super super strong and last pretty long. Just keep a pack in your pocket/purse for when you don't feel your freshest.
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Q: Okay. This might sound weird, but im freaked out.

I have a rash by my vaginal area. like on the sides. im not sexually active. nor have i ever been, im only 13. i told my mom about the rash and she has no idea what it could be and she doesnt have time to take me to the doctors. im scared to put something on it cause idk if it will like. hurt the vaginal tissue......

help..please?

Alot of times if you shave down there it gets irritated. Or it could just be very sensative to something new that you're wearing/using? You can go to any drugstore like Eckerd's//Walgreen's//whatever and they have cremes and treatments for things like that. You'll know which one to get by looking on the box at what you use it for.
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Q: Hi, I'm an 18/f, from Australia. Recently my boyfriend and I of a year have started to have sex. I'm not on any kind of birth control but we always use protection. How affective is the condom and what are the chances of me getting pregnant?

Also I am finding it hard to have an orgasm during sex. I can see that it upsets my boyfriend and it kind of upsets me too. We've been having sex for the last 3months so when will I have an orgasm?

Thanks for your help :)

Condoms are 90% effective. Because sometimes they tear and brake and what-not. So then you have a 10% chance at gettting pregnant. There's also probobly more info. on the box.
And with the orgasm thing...fake it?
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Q: Whats the fascination girls have over 6-packs? When my gf starts talking about celebrities, athletes, or other guys that have them, she drools over them and I feel miserable about myself and left out, I mean what am I supposed to say to that? I don't know if thats her way of telling me I should have one or what. It kind of bothers me, but I don't know if telling my gf that would do any good. All her other friends think the same thing, I just don't see whats so great about it...so what is it and what do you think I should do?

Any girl you go out with is going to have some fasination with a celebrity. But the thing is she is with YOU for a reason- she likes you! Celebrities are just nice to look at. lol (not saying that your not.) But you're REAL. And you're the one she comes back to; not Justin Timberlake. So don't take it seriously. Oh and something you want to avoid: mentioning ANYTHING about a girl celebrity. Like "Man she is hot!" Because your girfriend will not be with you too much longer after you do that.
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Q: i want to try out for cheerleeding next year. i have never really done any cheers or twirls or jumps or whatever. but i really want to make it next since all my friends are. does anyone know if there is like dvds books anything that can teach me anything at all. what are the warm-ups you do? do you have to run (i don't think so but maybe). what gear do i have to buy? like any info you can give me i will rate...
and if theres someway i can learn a cheer that would be awesome thanxx alot

I don't know about any dvd's, (except one paule abdule made but i don't recommend that one) but there is Cheerleader magazine! All you really need to focus on for your first-time trying out is your cheer, chant, dance, and jumps. You don't have to worry about tumbling right now because those are just extra points. But when you try out you definitly have to be LOUD. Scream like your on drugs; they love that. Also SMILE like you just got botox and you can't position your face in any other way. Also remember to be extra, extra tight with your motions. And if you mess up, don't freak out just remember your place and keep going. You just need a pair of white tennishoes, simple white shirt and some soffee shorts, if they don't tell you otherwise. Hope I helped and let me know how it goes.
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Q: My cheer squad is putting together an appreciation type party for our football players as the get ready for the season.

At this thing, we want to show a football movie. We have it narrowed down to Remember the Titans and Friday Night Lights. We think they're both one of the best football movies out there (well... besides Rudy, of course) but we can't decide on one.

Which would y'all choose? If you answer, we'd really like a reason why as well!

Also, we really just and one of those two, nothing else, and we can't show both. Thanks

REMEMBER THE TITANS
it's just such a good movie of racial equality, teamwork, reaching your goals, etc.

And the guys are HOT.
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Q: I was just wondering if it was at all possible for someone to get pregnant after having dry-sex.. or when the girl doesnt have clothes on, but the guy does? ... thanks

nope.
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Q: How long dose it take for a girl to show signs of pregnancy?

I really don't think you know until your first missed period. Also things like moring sickness, tender boobs, and things like that come along later. If you think you might be, then take a pregnancy test. You'll know for sure then.
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Q: kay so theres this boy i like. He knows I like him and people say by the way he talks to me you can tell he likes me too.
The thing is I dont know what to do...What should I do? Does anyone have ideas?

You can't make decisions based on what other told you. Becuase things get twisted and blown out of proportion. I think you should definitly just try talking to this guy; see what you think he thinks of you first hand! And if he already knows you like him then it's pretty much all up to him wheather or not your relationship goes any further. So I think y'all should talk and get more comfortable around him, so you'll be able to act gooofy around him! The more y'all hang out and talk the greater he may become interested. Hope that helps.
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Q: I used to be more of the popular type, I was always out with friends. But latley, I can barely name 5 or 6 friends that I'm actually friends with still! All of my old friends went like .. emo, I'm sad to label them, but I can't hang out with them anymore, cause they just won't give me a chance. When I became captain of the cheerleading squad, they shut me out. I can't find anyone else at my school, who I can go shopping with, and just be true buddies. Please help, I'm so lonley!

People change.
You'll realize that more and more as you get older. But also this gives you a chance to go out and meet new people, and possibly make more freinds. If these girls don't want to hang out with you, that's their deal. They are the ones that have changed while you have remained the same. So my advice is not to forget them and make new freinds, but to still have the conversation lines open with them while you meet other people.
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Q: ok so im your tipical f/14. i have kissed a guy and all that good stuff but im not a slut. i kept some notes from recent years that i didnt want anyone to see. well i keep them in a box thats ALWAYS locked. one day i left it open and i went to school. my mom went in the room that was it and read EVERY SINGLE NOTE. now she has gone to far. shes done stuff like this before but not this bad. im about to either run away or just block her out of my life. shes pissed at me for not talking to her about "stuff" and im pissed at her for going through my "stuff" no matter what in my opion she should have never looked at any of the stuff it had nothing to do with her. shes made me so upset, i cried and my blood pressure is so high my face is as red as a tomato and has been like this for about 2 hours. i cant eat im so upset. i dont know what to do but this stuff is getting old FAST!

HELP before i go insane...

Alright, well, don't go crazy on me but...I think you're mom might have a slight point.
If you don't tell her "stuff" then she won't know how far you're privacy boundaries are- because you haven't told her. And I'm not saying tell your mom every single detail about your life, but just some of the basics. Obviously this is something for you to get upset about, but you really can't block her out and get mad at everything. Because that solves nothing. I think you should sit your mom down and tell her how big of a deal this is to you and how that was a real invasion of your privacy. You'll have a heart-to-heart conversation and she'll know not to do soemthing like that again ; because you told her. :)
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Q: This is kind of random but do you think that when someone losses thier virginity they should tell thier parents?

Hmm...tricky, tricky.
Obviously that's a top on the list of awkward conversations with your parents. And I honestly don't know if this is the most correct thing to do, but I'll tell you what I would do if i was in your case. Unless something seriouse happened because of you losing your virginity,(like getting an STD, or pregnant) I would keep that on the down-low. And of course this is something reaaalllyyy un-comfortable to talk about with your parents, so I think you should try and not to have sex after this -to keep your consiounce clean.
As the saying goes..
If you wouldn't do it infront of your parents, don't do it at all.
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Q: Hey, I really want to get my ears double pierced but I'm really scared it'll hurt and I'll cry lol. I was about 7ish when I got them pierced for the first time and I cired. And my friend says it doesn't hurt, pintching your ear hurts more then piercing it. So basically does it hurt??

WILL RATE?

Woe that's just like me!
I also got my ears pierced when i was younger, and now want a second peircing.
The thing is you got your ears peirced when you were seven. So of course your gonna cry! - your seven!
But now that you're older you've probobly experienced alot more pain than that.
It's really no humungo deal. Yeah, its a "pinch" that will hurt. But it will hurt for about 5 seconds MAX. Unless of course you go to a cheap, un-sanitary peircing shop. But hopefully you won't do that.
So I say get it done because the outcome will be HOT.
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I'm really getting tired of people making columns because all of their freinds have them and they just want to put a cute picture of themselves online of them kissing themselves in the mirror, or whatever. I'm really serious about this and, believe it or not, I try to give advice. That is, unless i get a dumb question. I've had around 3 or 4 accounts on here before, so I'd say im pretty experienced. :)
Yes, I'm only 14, but I have a more mature mind than people give me credit for. So ask me a question, I DARE YOU.
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