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I'm pretty sure that I have at least borderline obsessive-compulsive disorder, but where symptoms are listed, the requirements are kind of vague. If anyone who knows more about it could give me a hint as to my own state(severity, etc.), I'd appreciate it. I'll list some symptoms. Note that this if going to be rather long, even though I've cut out a lot of detail and examples.
Hand washing - I'm... fairly obsessed... with dirty-ness... if I touch something that I think might be dirty, then I wash my hands before touching anything clean and/or at the first opportunity. A year or so ago I counted myself as washing my hands ninety times in one day, and I'm sure that it's gotten significantly worse since then.
Arrangement - I like to arrange things that I'm looking at neatly. For example, yesterday I had six bittorrent windows open, and I arranged them in a perfect grid; the top left one's top left corner was exactly on the top left corner of the screen, and all the others were exactly aligned with it(no overlap or space whatsoever between edges, corners touching).
Counting - I'll count repetitive noises. Not all of them (not keystrokes, walking footsteps, etc.), but I'll always count stairs-steps and some other noises.
Perfectionism - but only in things I care about. Not really significant, but I've been known to spend hours on a minor detail of a bad drawing.
Paranoia - I worry that people may be watching me, and about hidden cameras and suchlike. I keep all my sensitive(for example, pirated) files in triple-encrypted archives with very long passwords and worry that the government might have a quantum computer, with which such a password could easily be broken.
Random **** - sometimes I'll feel compelled to do something, for example tapping my fingers in a pattern or sequence until I get it exactly right. A minute before I started writing this I selected some icons in an order. Then I worked out on paper how to work the sequence exactly backwards and did so because I needed to balance the select-ing to put my mind to rest.
what you have listed is more compulsions than obessions. Compulsions are activities that you have to do, that you just can't be happy with out doing. Obessions are thoughts, like thinking about following somone... to me obessive-compulsive you would have to carry out those thoughts. The only way to be sure is to get tested, but its not good to try to convience the doctor tha tyou are because if you really arent it will still follow you through life. There are many different forms of compulsive disorders so its good to look at them all and really figure out what causes you to do all this stuff.
I've had this really cool outfit I have planned, and it includes a skirt I bought last spring. Now I'm just wondering if the skirt is still in style? It's a jean skirt with the ruffles, the creases in them, you know? Or are those crease/ruffles out of style and should I buy a new skirt to wear with my shirt and shoes? Thanks for the help!
Dude, if it looks good on you then its always in style. Just give it the attitude you want and you can pull n e thing off! Its as simple as that.
Ok well..to start off I was raped 3 years ago..and Ive been over that nightmare for a while. But Ive had two bfs since then and never had the same problem I do now. With my current bf I had the dream about my raper and his boys raping me again..noe my bf wasnt in the dream..but it didnt start having the dream until i dated him..and I love him..trully. But everytime I hug him I picture that in my head...and I do trust him..bte Im 15 years old
It could be PTSD, Post Tramatic Stress Disorder. Sometimes it takes a while to set it. Were you in anyway close to the boys who raped you? If so the way you feel now could trigger it. You really need to see a doctor if it keeps occuring. Have you talked to n e one who knows your situation abou this? They may be able to help you more. I am so sorry that all this happened to you. I hope it gets better!
HI HI to all.
since i was 5/6 i get turned on wearing womens pantyhose. and when i see women in hose. Since then I've been buying and stealing hose and occasionally wear them and masterbate. what turns me on is that i think that they are uncomfortable to wear and why women still wear them. The thought of the discomfort when a women wears it just turns me on. and also the look and the feel also turns me on. Also the same as for bras. Then my fetish got into further depth by being in bondage while wearing hose and bra. Again seeing an image and also putting myself into it both turns me on. What I really can't figure out is that... I know i'm not gay cause I love girls. I've been dating constantly without a break since I was 14. Now i'm 29. I find my situation is affecting my life. I will get into to so deep sometimes I loose touch with the world and it scares me sometimes. Whats wrong with me??? Please some answers or advice
dude talk to a psychologist!
Okay, so I've been with my guy 15 months, and it's been sheer bliss until lately. My stress level went up because music is taking over my life at the moment. I hardly ever see him as it is. Lately, he's been pissing me off. The problem is, I'm not totally sure why I'm so mad at him.
I want to SCREAM at him, and I never yell at anyone. He sprang this whole "I want to talk to you about the future of our relationship" thing on me on tuesday. (However, he told me I had no right to be nervous, there was no possibility I'd end up in tears, and he wasn't breaking up with me or anything remotely ike that.) He told me to call after play practice (I got the lead, so major stress there) so I did, and the line was busy. Then he told me to call after practice yesterday so we could talk. I called - he wasn't there. Today, he left for his friend's house 'cause they're doing this whole winterfest thing or whatever. He's gone all weekend.
He PROMISED me we'd talk about this and get rid of some stress before my college audition (saturday), and so far, we haven't talked about it.
He's causing me all sorts of stress I don't need, not to mention the fact that he's never quite...reliable. He never calls anymore (and if he does, I'm never there. He seems to call when he knows I'll be gone, and then never calls back when my parents tell him I'll be home.)I'm sick of chasing him with phonecalls.
The thing of it is, I honestly think he's under the impression that I'll stick with him no matter what he does (or doesn't do). I'm thinking of talking to him and telling him that though I love him with all my heart, if he continues to take me for granted like this, I will break it off. I can't handle boyfriend stress on top of everything else.
I tried to stay away from relationships, but I couldn't get rid of my quickly developing crush on him.
So what's your advice? What do I do? Do I talk to him and tell him he's taking me for granted? Do I scream at him the way I want to? I can advise everyone except myself dealing with matters of the heart, so I need someone to help me out.
dude try to talk to him first...and if that doesnt work scream and throw a fit! If he loves you like he should be then it wont matter and he will understand. Since you are stressed and he shouldnt be giving you more then you alreayd have i say just let him hear about it. if you dont tell him how you feel it can only get worse.
hey im 16/f, and i ahve guys come up to me liek all the time and ask for liek advice and stuff ...and a few of the s guys i have liked.. how can can i become sum1 tehy liek instead of turning out to be..oh she is like my sis...or she is my best friend....i relaly want to find sum1 to do stuff with and just haev a good time ..and all my friends have boy friends and i feel left out liek all teh time because tehy have som1 and i dont. HELP
~aM
hey i had the same problem. You just gotta find a guy that will accept you. I ono bout you but I was "one of the guys" because I liked sports more than shopping, but I finally found guys that loved that about me. You could try flirting with the guys you like or being flat honest and tell them that its hard on you for htem to as about all your friends and stuff when no one asks about you. Find a guy you really trust and talk to him about it. He might be more helpful! I hope I helped somewhat.
Ok well i have this really really hot boyfriend and his hottness cannot compare to me. And plus it seems he doesnt really want to get in a big relationgship, and he wants to be more of a friend. WHat shood I do?
dude listen to "you can't hurry love" by the supreemes. (i think thats how thats spelled) lol it solves evertyhing about love!
im saying a eulogy at my grandmas mass tomorrow, how can i start it...leave ur AIM sn so i can IM u, i dont want all the details all over here...thanks
hiddenmeaning79
What are some good party ideas for a girl who is turning 14 this summer, has friends that'd she like to invite aging from 12-16, and will have guys and gals at her party? I want to throw a really cool party for her, but I'm not sure where to begin. A Suprise Party is not an option, and we don't have a pool. I'd like something fun, original, and not boring. THanks for your ideas!
lol im just turned 18 and i had fun playing laser tag and racing go-carts. My advice is find out what she likes to do and try to incoprerate that. Or you can rent a pool, I know around here soem places will do that. Just and idea...good luck
Are there any ways that your hymen (sp?) can be broken besides sex? Like using tampons, fingering, etc? And can a doctor tell if its broken or not just by looking@ u down there? (like check ups andstuff)
It can be broken by being fingered, a tampon, masturbating, over stretching. There are really many ways it can be broken, sometimes even a lil torn wich will still cause the bleeding. as for the doctor part...iono, i never thought to ask.
i wanna get rid of myy pubic hair becuase its reallyyy wickid grosss. i dont wanna shave it i dont like razors and stufff sooo is there a way to get rid of it using nair an stuff? thxx
p.s. 14/f
dude nair on n e where but the legs= pain! waxing hurts to. You could go to a place like CVS (the old ecords) and ask them what you could use...or just ask someone you are comfortable with.
i have a small problem. i like sex. i like it alot. i almost feel i need it like air. i know its kinda like a drug, it can be addictive, but i dont care. im a male slut, bigtime. is there a sexaholics annonmous? i mean, i know love making is best...you know, when your dating or in love with someone, but it's like i wanna screw everything in sight! help!!
ok... you just have a high sex drive. Try to fuel your need to have sex in other ways. It's not uncommon to crave sex. But it is best to find ways to control it, i mean we dont want you to become one of those crazed rapests!... add on here.. .i didnt say you were one... i just said that there is not a really good proven way to control this drive but to try to feed it into other areas.
I think I'm depressed.. its like sometimes I can be really happy and have a positive outlook on life, and then other times I feel like my life is falling apart. I don't think I'm suicidal, but Im just afraid that someday i might be if i dont get help. I told my dad i wanted anti-depressents or therapy, but he said no cuz he doesnt believe me that im depressed. he just wont take me seriously. what should i do? what are some ways to be happy w/o anti depressents??
depression is not something to be messed around with. Ifyou were depressed then you would never be happy at all. You may feel sad at times, but look at what you are upset about and try to decide if it is really worth it.
Are you still a virgin if you kind of had sex? meaning... If you were making out and everything and the guy and u start to have sex and stuff and he's like half way in and then you guys stop... is that still considered being a virgin or not?
Thanks!
(Unsure)
he entered your body...that is considered sex. so technically no you are not still a virgin...but you could prolly count yourself as one if you wanted to.
Is there a medication that can be taken for worrying and feeling anxious?
there are lots of pills...but take it from a person who is on them... you dont want to be. talk to your doctor and ask him of ways to manage stress and all your worries w/o drugs. Pills are not always the easy way out and in some case can make things worse. You need to wait till, like me, it becomes a last resort.
13/m
hi,
i've taken the whole am-i-fat testing and stuff from different websites, and they all say the same thing, that i don't weight enough. i don't have an eating disorder or anything like that. my doctor i guess knows about this, but hasn't really told me to do anything. so... what can i do? i eat until i'm full, and thats it. please don't say "eat more!". i'll rate you if you give extremely good advice, give extremely funny advice, or give extremely bad advice.
yours,
the thin one
ok want to gain weight...work out and build your muscles while balancing your sugar intake and all that junk. Muscle weighs more than fat. Plus working out takes a lot of energy an dyou will need to replenish it with more food. Just figure out wher eyou want to gain weight at and then look at what work out to do. Iono what else to tellyou. Not very many people wnat to gain wieght...
I need some advice:Every time i go to bed at nite i
> cant fall asleep, it takes me a long time, i get a
> good 9 hours every nite, but i just cant fall
> asleep, ive tried writting down all my problems on a
> sheep of papper, like, homework due, chours, owe
> someone money, stuff like that, then i solved them,
> but its not the stress thats keeping me up then what
> is it? how can i fall asleep?
one of the worst things you can do to yourself sleep wise is go to bed to early, when you arent tired, and toss and turn till you go to sleep. ITs really bad foryou body. Try not to go to bed till you are dead tired. If your problem still continues then talk to a doctor about it, but make sure to ask him if there is n e thing you can do with out going on sleeping pills, because those can screw you up even more.
Okay well i guess this isn't a diet, but all I eat pretty much is like junk food and im kinda overweight..i think anyways..so i want to try and stop eating that and eat healthy. The thing is, since thats like all thats in my house is things that are bad for you its hard and thats what i crave all the time-sugar or something so its really hard to stick with it..what should i do to keep with the healthy food and stuff and not eat sugary things or junk food??
you could try to get some fruit. Most fruits have sugar in them and cure a sugar crave. Its not bad to have some junk in small portions. Pasta is also a nice subsitute for the engry it gives you, that or n e carb. Along with working out you could get to where you want to be. And by workign out i mean maybe 25 crunches and 25 push ups or so a day with some walk/running. Really simple stuff to make you feel good.
I have a new boyfriend and things are going great, but I can't help but shy away. I really want to get close to him, but I have been hurt before and I don't want to get hurt again. Does anyone know how to break down the walls that I have built up to protect myself? I would really appreciate it. Thanks...
I have done this over and over. As well as most other girls. If you want to break down the walls then just try to trust him. You can't be afraid to get hurt.
if you dont care then you cant get hurt, but if you arent willing to care then you arent willing to know what love is
Okay, tomorrow we are having a Valentine's dance. There is this guy I really like, and he is going. Both of us are single, and he talks to me regularly. But tomorrow at the dance, I want to look good. I have no clue what to wear, or how to do my makeup. Im not real big on skirts, and I want to be comfortable.
Also, I have kind of pale skin, and REALLY light brown hair w/ highlights. Any ideas? Thank you!
And do any of you have any tips on dancing?
why not wear dress pants if you don't like skirts. Tyr to keep netural colors, espically on your eyes. I have pale skin too, and I wear light and dark colors combined to ofset it. Like black pants with a white shirt. And the make up...try some pinkish shadow maybe. places like seventeen.com have some good tips sometimes. Or you could jsut experiment and see what happens. I hope it helps.