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I'm 16/f
My older sister is almost 20, still living in our parents house, un-employed, and about to quit college. My dad doesn't really say anything about it, but my mom is now heck-bent on me going to a top-notch college, getting a job as soon as possible, and all the things I want to do socially with friends doesn't even matter. I understand that they don't want me to end up like my sister, but I find it unfair. They were never this hard on her, and let her decide. Heck, she didn't even get her drivers license until last year! And now it's gotten to the point where they are catering to her every need and pushing me out into the world without warning. With that said, How do I talk to my parents about this? I want to do all of these things (drive,work,etc.) but at MY own pace.
Thanks,
AngryYoungerSister (link)
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i do belive that it's not fair for your parents to be doing this to you but they just don't want you to turn out like your sister. you should talk to them about how you feel and that you will try your hardest to succeed in all the things they want you to do but at your own pace. best of luck,
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Whenever I ask my mom for anything, it takes four hours for her to respond. Today I asked if she could give me a ride to the tanning salon; she didn't answer, she completely ignored me. I kept asking for hours until she answered and by that time I bugged her so much she was in a pissy mood.
I don't mean to bug her, but she never answers me directly. This happens all the time and when I tried to talk to her about it she, once again, got all pissed off and stopped talking to me. What should I do? (link)
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if your mom won't listen talk to someone who will. it may not help completly but you can try and get a ride from someone else. leave your mom notes and she can respond by writing instead. she may not want to answer because she is stressed out with work or something of that sort. i don't think that she trys to ignore you but you may want to get to know why she ignores you and try to fix it. remember talk to someone else about it, best of luck.
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I wasn't exactly sure what category to put this under.
Well my mom has these strict rules about guys. If I have just a friend over thats a guy or my boyfriend, its always been the same. We can't lay on the couch to watch a movie. The couch.. in the living room. No guys allowed in my room even if the lights are on and the door is open. Not even if my little sister is there. We don't do anything like sexual. Oh big deal kissing and cuddling. What's wrong with that? She seems to be totally overreacting with her rules. They make no sense and she never ever gives me a good reason. Any advice about how to convince her to get rid of these rules? Or even advice why she says these stupid rules. We arent even allowed to sit in my lil brothers room. He's 16. My lil sister is 12. Its not like it will harm anything or anyone so whats the big deal? (link)
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i don't think that your mom is trying to make this difficult for you she has gone through these experiences and knows what they can lead to. talk to her about what you think and let her hear your side of the story. she may no change her rules an i don't believe that she has to but you should also listen to her point of view.
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my very, very best friend just told me she cuts herself and that her mom is abusive. her parents divorced this summer and thats when she started. she lied to me about a big mark on her arm and i knew she was upset so later i asked her if it was her mom again. she and her mom have had tons of fights but i never knew how badly her mom treated her. and i had never guessed about the cutting. i have cut myself but only a few times and i stopped and i still somewhat struggle with self-injuring (i pinch myself occasionally) but im fine now. but her mom through her out of the house for like 45 min she was out in the cold rain. and her mom has hit her with shoes and pulled her hair and yells at her and tells her shes a horrible person. her mom never makes time for her and is always working or with her new boyfriend. my friend hates her moms new bf because he takes all her moms time away. she tries to talk to her mom but she never understands and just yells at her. she goes to church with me and is trying so hard to be a good Christian and her mom knows that so she was telling her she doesnt have God and isnt a Christian and that shes a terrible person and hits her and stuff. she lives with her dad a lot but still her mom just as often but i told her she lives in an abusive place (with her mom) and shes probably going to just stay with her dad.
i know her mom needs help but who should she tell because we're only 14 and i know her mom is abusive and everything but idk what to do about it. i think she should tell her dad tho right? and she sees a physciatrist and told her mom about the cutting but her mom acts like she doesnt care. her mom like has took everything of hers away and one time took all her clothes except a tshirt and shorts and said thats all she got for like a month and stuff like that. can people just please tell me the process of what she needs to do to get away from her mom and get her mom help? and im helping my bff and she said she will call me whenever she wants to cut and shes upset and she only cuts when her mom is screaming at her and they have fought and stuff. please help me this is so important and i love my bff so, so, so much. thank you more than you can imagine
btw i d k if i said this but her parents are divorced and she likes being with her dad and she has a younger brother whos ten but he never gets yelled at really or hit or anything. also she has thought of suicide and once got pills and really wanted too but then thought of her dad and friends and brother so she didnt. Thank God. please help me im scared for my friend. thank you!! (link)
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well first of all she needs to tell her dad. someone even if not her dad has to know besides you. she needs to talk to a school conselor or adult so that her and her brother can get away from their abusive mother. no one deserves to be treated that way. you friend need to get help and fast before it gets even more serious than it already is. best of luck.
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my mum found a bit of papaer in my school blazer that me and my mates were messing around on and writing silly things e.g. luke wants a candy thong
and when she read it she said i am getting worried about you what does she mean (link)
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well your mum probably is just worried about you maybe not paying attention in school or something related to that. reassure her that she doesn't have to worry and that you and your friends were just joking around. best of luck.
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ok so my mom went to eat lunch with me at school and wen she left this kid in my class was like "ok 2 things, first wat kind of ame is della?"(thats my moms name)"and second she had a fat butt!" and i felt like i wanted to punch him wat should i do? (link)
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don't let what he said bother you. he's being immature and probably likes to make other feel insecure. just ignore him and don't let what he said get t you. best of luck.
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I'm 15/f and over the last year or so, I always feel so irritated when my parents talk. Like I find them really annoying, even if they're are asking me something like ''what do you want for dinner''
I'm wondering if this is just a teenage phase or if there's something wrong with me?
I mean my parents are cool and I like them, but I always feel annoyed when I'm talking to them, and I hate it.
Thanks! (link)
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yes, it's a phase. there's nothing to worry about. i'm positive that you do love your parents very much. try hard not to get mad and answer their question simply. talk to them about it and i'm sure they will understand. best of luck.
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My sister is 12 years old and is the biggest BITCH everrr. OMG she has a huge bad attitude. It’s soo annoying..i’m 15 and I’m nice to her and everything. And when she asks me for something and she’s keeps saying please I’ll let her…but omgg she is such a bitch, like if I’m like hey can you get me something…she’s like “no, you never do anything for me”..i’m like WTF I do soo many things for you…and if she gets in trouble for doing something and I did something a while back that I was’nt supposed to she’ll rat it out to my parents that way both of us are in trouble. And I’m the one in more trouble to…she’s also a spoiled brat…like she has a cellphone and contacts and she’s only in 6th grade….i had to wait till 8th grade to get mine….so basically..she’s does’nt respect anyone in my family…like she does’nt have respect for me, my mom, my dad, or even my grandma…like we don’t really ever do anything to her…she just does’nt have respect…I don’t know what to do with her…like I really don’t know….i tell her she has a bad attitude and all she says is so do you…and if I raise my voice at her she’ll be like don’t raise your voice at me and just backsass..it’s sooo annoying..ugh when she’s on the phone…she starts to have an even bigger attitude…I think it’s cause she wants to be cool in front of her friends…I’m trying to ignore her but it does’nt work…like seriously I need help nothing works….oo..and my parents are tired of her attitude also..and I know most people will be like it’s her age and stuff..and I know…but I don’t think that’s the only reason why….when she was little she was soo cute and adorable…now I just want to rip her head off…PLEASE HELP!!! (link)
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just like i tell all the others i give advice to, you need to talk about it. sit down with the family and discuss new rules around the house. i can see and i beleive that your sister is very spoiled and maybe favored by your parents because she is the youngest. talk with your mom or dad about this. they will or should set boundaries for you sister and even you. your sister needs to learn how to be more respectful and considerate of others. you need to show her how she acts and maybe that will open up her eyes to see how she is acting. when she wants you to do something for her tell her no and that she needs to do somethings by herself and not always rely on her. this may make her realize. or whenever your around her act like she does to you. this won't completly fix the problem but show her how she is acting. now don't get into the habit of acting like she does. only for a while until she gets the point. best of luck.
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My dad doesn’t like me…and I know you’ll probably be like he’s your dad he loves you deep down I’m pretty sure he does…but no he doesn’t…..He never says he loves me or will miss me…he’s never given me a hug or anything.. …Like If he ever comes up to me and says I love…I would be weirded out by a lot..and be like umm..okay get a away from me you freak….It’s really awkward being near him…..Like he’s always yelling at me for the most stupid things…and it’s annoying….He’s really annoying….Like for example…every night I take a shower at around 9 and my dad’s like go take a shower and it’s like 8:30…so I’m like no later…it’s to early…he’s like what are you going to do. Wait till 10o clock like everyday…and I’m like WTF!! When do I ever wait till 10 o clock!! And it’s not like he says it every once in a while it’s every effing dayyy!! It’s soo annoying I’m tired of it…and not only that but the littlest things I do….like I cause an accident like accidentally spill my water on the table he’ll be god you need to pay attention..you never pay attetion..and I’m like WTF omg..it was an accident…and my grades aren’t that great rite..but I’m trying my hardest…but my dad’s like good you think everything hard..your not studying all you care about is straightening hair(which I don’t even do everyday), and myspace(which I haven’t gotten on ever since like 7th grade)…and stuff…good I just don’t know what to do..he’s always criticizing me…and it’s not like the good kind where you learn and it helps you..it’s like putting you down criticism…and I don’t want to talk to my mom about it because she’ll just get mad at me for even thinking that. And then she’ll probably go tell my dad..and he’ll deny everything…..Like he used to watch porn(gross I know) and sometimes he’ll forget it’s on history or it’s left on windows media player..and I used to tell my mom..and he would deny it..i’m just like SERIOUSLY!!….are you really going to believe..like it was left on..and he was the only one on the computer....and so ever since then it’s been even more awkward….because I wonder if he ever thinks of me like that….and one thing I especially hate is everyday I close the computer doors so I can do my hmrk….because I hate when it’s open b/c I feel like people are watching me….and every effing day my stupid dad has to come by and hit it open stare at what I’m doing then go to his room….and when I close it he’ll be like why are you closing it…are you on aim, facebook, myspace….and stuff…I tell him it’s because I like it closed…then he starts to yell at me and tells me to leave him open…GOD I don’t know what to do…I don’t want to sit and talk with him…because that’ll be awkward and knowing my dad it’s not like anything will change. He also yells at me for things I didn’t even do…like it’s my sisters fault and tell him it is…he’s like I DON’T CARE..YOU DO IT…and he’ll only believe me if I call my sister and she says it was her…then he’ll go on mumbling about it..and I’m just like OMG shut uppp…pleasee…GODD
All my friends are like I love my dad…and their dad actually cares about themOne time I got so pissed off I ran away…it wasn’t like really running away…i went to the park in my neighborhood…and sat down…my mom was freaking out…and she was a work so she could’nt get in her car and come look for me. My dad was like w/e…and stuff…so an hour passed…two hours…eventually it was 7 and I left at 4…and I was like w/e I’ll walk home cause I was bored…so I start to walk home and I get to the front door..and my dad is JUST getting out of the drive way to look for me…I’m just like wow…you are such an amazing parent..you really care for your kids…and he did’nt come because he was worried…it was because my mom told him to go find me…Yea so that’ my miserable life…I don’t know what to do…I don’t know if it’s me not doing something right or if it’s my dad’s fault..but I just need to know what to do…I can’t take it anymore…
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well, i know you may not want to talk about it with your dad because it'll be awkward but try sitting down with your whole family and talk about it. make sure that your dad knows how he is acting. he may just be stressed or angry because of something that happened. you need to talk about this and get everything out. tell your mom or family or maybe even a couselor how your frusterated with your dad and how it feels like he doesn't even love you. get your point across and make sure you tell someone who can help you fix it! best of luck.
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My mom never lets me pay for anything. If I want to go shopping, I'd rather pay for it so that my dad doesn't get mad at her, but she NEVER lets me. & if I offer to pay for my own clothes, she gets mad at me & says it's "stupid." & I TRY to help out around the house cause my brother never does. THEN, my brother goes on & on about how spoiled I am & how I get everything I want without even working for it & how I'm a brat & everything & my mom AGREES with him. I honestly don't understand it. Why will she NOT let me pay for anything & get annoyed when I try to help, but then turn around & say how spoiled & bratty I am? (link)
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talk to her about it. tell her that you want to pay and that you try to help but that she never let's you. tell her that your upset with her because she never lets you pay or help and that when she calls you a brat doesn't make any sense. make sure she knows how you feel and voice your opinion.
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15/f
My family and I are really close. My parents divorced when i was 5 and my brother was 3, my brother and i live with my mom and we see my dad about 7 times a year.
I am SO worried about my brother now. He has a close relationship with my mom and still sort of does but lately i think he has been hiding a lot from us. since he has entered middle school, he is slowly starting to become a bad kid. My mom was randomely checking his phone when he was sleeping and it had text messages to and from this one girl with him swearing (which i don't care too much about) and talking about masturbating, and the girl sent a picture of her boobs and he sent pictures of his penis. HE IS ONLY 13 AND IN SEVENTH GRADE! this really upset my mom when she saw this but she didn't mention it to my brother but sort of talked about the subject of that and i can tell it scared him and he thought that we might possibly know.
today i found out his myspace email and password and only looked at it for a second because it shows if he is on or not but i quickley checked his inbox and it had a threat from an 8th grader sent to him 12 days ago that said "i'm gonna f*ck you up" i am near tears right now and i am extremely worried about him. i don't want to tell my mom about it because i don't want to worry her anymore...it's hard enough as it is being a single working mother.
i am scared he is going to get into doing drugs and going down the wrong path, as much as he denies it. what can i do to help him? i mean, we go to church like every sunday (catholic) and sometimes my mom will let him skip and just let him sleep. i don't want him to get a bad reputation...i have a really good one and i don't want him to be known as the rebellious messed up brother. what should i do? please help me...i care so much about him!!!!
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well i can understand why you are scared and concerned about this. he is your little brother and of course you want to protect him and make sure he's going to be alright. i think that you may want to just keep this imformation under your hat for a awhile. you'll brother is probably just going through a phase, he's now interested in girls and is curious. if this behavior continues talk to him about it. make sure he listens to you and knows that you are concerned. best of luck!
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My mom died 7 months ago, almost 8. but it feels like yesterday. im 15 going on 16 next may.
i was just wondering if anyone around my age has lost a parent as well. feel free to talk to me if so! (link)
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well i'm 13 and i lost someone very close to me about 1 year ago. the thing is that you don't realize how much you love that person until you loose them. It's a very hard experience but it brings you a lot closer to your family and it also opens up you eyes to see that sometimes life won't go how you want it to go. You can always think in your head "oh, they're in a better place" but of course we don't want them to be in a better place. we want them with us. but, the only thing i can really say is live your life to the fullest and one day you'll get to see your mom again. when you do make sure she'll be proud of you for making it through and being the person she raised you to be. Best of luck to you and remeber "god only takes the best"
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