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I can't handle my mom.
Whenever I ask my mom for anything, it takes four hours for her to respond. Today I asked if she could give me a ride to the tanning salon; she didn't answer, she completely ignored me. I kept asking for hours until she answered and by that time I bugged her so much she was in a pissy mood.
I don't mean to bug her, but she never answers me directly. This happens all the time and when I tried to talk to her about it she, once again, got all pissed off and stopped talking to me. What should I do?
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if your mom won't listen talk to someone who will. it may not help completly but you can try and get a ride from someone else. leave your mom notes and she can respond by writing instead. she may not want to answer because she is stressed out with work or something of that sort. i don't think that she trys to ignore you but you may want to get to know why she ignores you and try to fix it. remember talk to someone else about it, best of luck.
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after you ask her and she doesn;t answer try writing down all the necessary info on a paper and giving it to her (or even stick it in a spot where she an see it). this way she can look at it and see it so it willl register more :)
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um, just. breath.
and ask her. can you take me to the tanning salon before [[whatever time it closes]]
and if there's no answer.
just back off, go with friends.
she prolly haas a lot going on.
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Have you tried asking her for something AND asking her will she will be able to decide.
Giving her all the information, and making the timeline clear will save you having to bother her agian.
Try it like this:
"Mom, I'd like to go to the salon. Can you tell me by 4 if you are willing to drive me or not?"
Or
"I'd like to go to the salon tonight, when will you be able to tell me if that works for you?"
Then take a deep breath, and back off a bit.
Sometimes parents don't behave maturely or communicate clearly. They are only human after all. The best thing you can do it communicate clearly, with respect to the fact that as a teen, you CAN'T know all the shit they have on thier plates, and have a Plan B.
See if you and a friend can't go to the salon togeather. Pay for a cab. Take the bus... Be independant, creative and confident.
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