Hey, I'm Brandon I'm 15 and a freshmen, and some things i can usually help you out with but if i cant i will definitely try
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I'm a teenage g i r l who has been suicidal for 4 years.
I don't know what to do. I h a t e life so much because I have no reason to live. All I ever do is schoolwork and running around to different things. And I get yelled at. NO ONE loves me or cares if I draw another breath. No one.
If I had a significant other who was actually NOT an I wouldn't be suicidal.
I'm considered "obese" (5'3" and 169 lbs) and I'm SICK of going on diets, losing weight, and gaining it all back because of stress. So DON'T reccomend that I *try* to lose weight, because I'm sick of that. So don't even mention anything about losing weight.
I'm not fat because I'm a couch potato. I'm fat because I was born that way. I've never been thin. And I'll die a fatass. Just like I am now.
The things people say and the looks I get are just too much. "OH MY GOD SHE'S SO FAT" and other like that. I'm so pretty that I could get a boyfriend if I were thin.
How would you reccomend that I ? I need to do it really soon because I don't have a chance at getting a boyfriend. And I want to die because of it.
If you don't have L O V E in your life, you should die. Like me. NO one loves me so I'm going to next sunday at 12:00 pm if SOMEONE doesn't call me to ask me out. I'm sick of living and there's no reason to go on like this.
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well i love you, but i mean come on, why kill yourself, just shows your not strong enough to handle life. So if you kill your self your weak. Right now you have one thing going for you, your strong, you've gone 4 yrs withought killing yourself while still living through all this, it's like running a race, then the last 3 feet you slow down and let everyone else beat you. Don't be that. First of all i know alot of fat people that are ugly too, that are the most social funny outgoing people out there, id hang out with them all the time. If your not willing to lose your fat use it. Use it as character. How about John Candy, or Chris Farley. Or rosie O'donell? actualy forget about rosie but they all have character, they went places. Candy, and farley both had girls in there lifetime so did rosie. (idk if you got that) i was on a plane the other day and there were only about 20 people on the plane and everyone sorta got to know eachother it was pretty cool, but this one women, who was fat, were one of those people that you just like to have around, that comfort you. anyway YOU choose your character and present it to the world, set some goals for yourself and make them happen if they don't try again, if not the second time try again, and again. You could be selling somthing and go to 10 different doors and noone will buy it but what if the 11th door buys it? you would never know because you didn't try. Sorry this was long but im just trying to tell you that your strong for telling us your problems and your obviously looking for some help hence the site ADVICEnator. Good luck to you and if a boy doesnt ask you out.. it's his fault. Just make a character for yourself, be happy, and put a positive impact on other peoples lives.
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Hey! 15/f
I am really confused about my relationship with this guy that i met really reacently.
I met him outside of target while i was sitting in the car while my mom was inside. After a while of glanceing at each other he came up and knocked on my window and after talking for a little while he asked for my number.
We have been text messageing each other for a little over a week now and he wants to come vist me at my house. Since i have only seen him in person once it will be really werid for me and i am realy nervous about it. He wants to come over tammarow and see me. We both like each other and he is really sweet, but since i havent had a boyfriend before ans i dont hang out with very many guys im extermly nervous.
Do you guys have any tips onwhat we could do?
What to wear?
and Just and thing in general would be great!
Thanks so much!!!
Tory (link)
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what was the first thing he said to you after he knocked on your window?
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ok, i need help before 8:30, people. if you can help me, God bless you! My mom rented out a dress that's humoungous! and i have to wear it tonight to a party at my school whether i like it or not because she said so. But, i really don't wanna wear that! please give me ideas. talking to her won't help because i already tried that. please let me know. thank you (link)
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Very easy solution thats flawless, just take another dress with you that you would like to wear, and from the point that you won'ts ee your mom again for the rest of the night, "change your outfit", than after the party just put the humongous one back on. Alot of regret and feeling bad for your mom might come with that but just forget about it becuase in a week itll be like i tnever happened. hope i helped
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i want a new screen name but cant think of anything! i want my name in it, which is hillary or hil and i dont want any numbers! can you give me some ideas? (link)
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3xohillaryox3
Hi11aRyx3
just some simple ones, i was just wondering what your last name is because i have someon on my BL with the name hillary and she has a great style for putting her lastname into it
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okay well i went out with this one guy for a couple of months but i ended up dumping him because i still had feeings for this other guy. And so i went out with this other guy and he dumped me. So now i realize what i had in the beginning and i really miss the first guy i was with. I know that i never should have dumped him and now i really want him back. I just dont know what to do because i cant just go up to him and be all like " oh hey i like you again." Like how am i supposed to tell if he likes me again or anything.. PLEASEEE HELPPP = [
thanks
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well im hoping the girl i like feels this way also. See im on the other side of this and my girlfriend did dump me for some other guy she had feelings for now im just hoping she has them bak for me, i never thought she could alter her feelings toward me again but after reading about what you wrote i think i might have a chance. Enough with my life i think you should just go up to the boy, and talk to him alot show that you like him but don't get to clingy right now, the girl i want to be with is showing mixed signals which is confusing the hell outta me so don't do that just act casual when you see him smile, when there are other guys around you give your attention to him, hes a guy, he'll get it. Hope i helped, now if you have any advice for me to try and get that girl i'd love to hear from you thanks.
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So me and this guy are planning on going to a haunted house next weeked, the thing is I get scared really really easily and i don't want to look stupid. Me and him aren't going out but I kind of dout he likes me but I like him. Also It'll be kind of cold, what should I wear to still look cute? And how can I look mature and not freak out?
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just out of curiousity, is this the huanted mill in clinton if you know what im talkin about youd understand if not youll think im an idiot??
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ok well my brother says he can get on my windows xp name without knowing my password. can he really do that? if so, how? (link)
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It's very easy to do, he is probably turning off your comp, then turning it on but when the screen for settings and im not exactly sure what it says come on right before the window XP screen comes up, you click one of the options open up the computer in safe mode, then you have access to an administrative account, which you can change anyones password or completly remove it from the computer and just turn off the comp turn it on again and there you go no more password.
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well, i basicly live in a small town. i love to act, and im told that im very good at it. iv'e been in the school plays for 3 years. but, since this is a small town, i feel that i have no chance of being noticed for my talent. plus, all the other stars that are out there. it doesn't help that my mom doesn't liek my dream either. she doesn't think that i'll get anywhere, so i dont even mention it around her, because she'll just give me that "look". any suggestions?
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yea i lov eto act also but my parents also encourage it. Alot of name actors come from small towns and were dirt poor. All you have to do is try out for all the plays you can, then after highschool still go to college but look for auditionsd for shows in NY or Hollywood. Hope i helped
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Hi.I am a 20 year old female.
about 11 months ago I ended a 2 year relationship with someone I really loved. I could not have asked for a better relationship. I was devastated when He broke up with me out of nowhere. I gave the breakup a few months to try to heal, but within 6 months of breaking up with the first boy, I relucktantly began dating another male who I thought was a short term fling. 5 months later we are still dating. He says he thinks he loves me and thinks about me all the time. I don't feel the same way. I've broken up with him 2 times because I am not really sure that he is the type of boyfriend I want. The first time only lasted 2 days because he made me feel so guilty for breaking up. The second time was 2 weeks ago and lasted for about a week. then he came back to me and said all the right things to get me to want to be with him. While We were broken up, I finally got to spend time with my amazing friend, whom I had a big crush on for about a year. I continue to spend time with him now even though we are just friends, I know he likes me and I like him back. Last night he told me that he loved me. I'm so confused and my head is spinning because I know that I could never be with the 3rd guy since I don't agree that he has cheated on almost all his gfs. I don't think I could trust him as much as I want to. My current bf is just sort of there, I still love my ex, and my friend is really confusing. Could you please give me some advice on how to sort this mess out? I would appreciate it.
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hey, I think you should just go for your ex. If you really love him why not?And I also have a question for you. When you said here "then he came back to me and said all the right things to get me to want to be with him." I'm just wondering what he said because i have an ex I'd like to get back together with also, and I love this girl and im doing everything I canto get her back so if you could give me some details on what he said to you I would really appreciate it. Thanks alot.
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Ahh! I feel like me and my family are ALWAYS being tricked!!
Me and my family moved from America to Europe 5 years ago. My mother has still not mastered the language over here, and people use that as a way of tricking her and using her! And it makes me feel so bad, i cry just thinking about it!!
I'll give you a recent example,...
we were paying way too much for our internet, so we switched to another company. The first internet company we had (chello) told us they needed 3 months.. whatever youc all it.. like we'd have them as our internet company for 3 more months and then it would shut off and we could start using our new company. Now when the third month came they didn't shut it off, so my mom called them and asked "why?" and they were like "oh sorry we'll shut it off for you now! and we didnt suspect anything so we started paying the new company.. now they sent us a bill for 200 dollars for this month (which is way too much for one month of internet don't you think? i mean its broadband and all..i dont know..) anyway, se we called the company.. and we were like "ehh, we switched companys 1 month ago, why are we still supposed to pay you?" and they were like "noo somone called and signed you up again!" BUT NO! my mom directly told them to shut it off! I WAS THERE - THEY COULDNT HAVE THOUGHT SHE SAID THAT! her swedish might not be perfect, but its completely understandable and cant be misunderstood!! so anyways, this company then said "since you signed up for it again, you have to be part of it for 12 MORE MONTHS! and that's the deal our "new company" has.. so now we'll be paying for TWO INTERNETCONNECTIONS for twelve months, and my mom already workd her ass off ALL DAY LONG to be le to afford our lifestyle! i cant stop crying about this.. ITS NOT A BIG DEAL I KNOW, but it just feels like i miss being a kid and not knowíng how EVIL people are, how we steal and trick eachother!! and i tried calling this company and explaining how unfair this is and the lasy HUNG UP THE PHONE IN MY FACE.
and that's not it! im evil too! i lie and i steal! and i hurt people..
and i jus dont undertsnd how UNFAIR this all is!
i feel like i wanna give up. i cant keep beliving in people, that we're good, that we can get better, i cant keep licing like this,..
i feel like i need stability, fairness, equality..
you know?? -
give me some hope please.
i need it.
desperatly! (link)
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well I don't really know how the Swedish Judicial system works but here you could try and sue the company and try them for conspiracy. It might also work in sweden as well but im not sure you might want to look into that.
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I know this guy and we knew each other but we never really talked talked. And recently we started "talking" well. He blocks his emotions out so he wont get hurt. And i am trying to make him trust me and show his feelings. But, he says he doesnt cry or get sad. He says his mind is blank and He blocks out things so he wont get hurt. I have NO idea how i can get around this, like to show him something he has never felt before. He hasnt even been tickled in a long time he said. I asked him if he liked romance he said Yeah, and i said like what. Hes like when a girl is sad or crying i like holding her. I said well, what about the other way around. He said like the girl holding me? I said yes. Hes liike well its never really happend to me. I wanna like ... i cant even explain it. Make him happy? he says nothing makes him happy, so i feel like i need to do something. I am not gunna just sit back and watch him sufer like this. He is 17 btw
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maybe, just maybe he sold his soul to someone... never know
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okay so me and my ex broke up about a month ago and we still love each other we just broke up because he had to concintrate on school and football but he said well get back together when hes figured things out..and like i was always number 3 on his myspace and then i saw two days ago it changed..his friend who was a girl became before me..and i mean it kinda hurt because im thinking maybe his feelings changed or something.But he told me that hes been friends with her just as long as his best friend (whos a guy) and he said that shes his best friend too and like that they skate together and that hes been always with her(not in a love relationship kinda way)and that people always say that they are together and stuff but he said that if i dont believe him fine because no one else does.And i do believe him i guess..but i mean he switched me and her sometimes but only like twice..and i was number 3 for a long time soo now if hes been best friends with her for a long time then why all of a sudden change it so shes before me? why wasent it like that before you know? i feel silly feeling like this but the orders do mean something..so what do you guys think about this? do you think he likes her? (link)
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Alright well I really like this one girl and shes on my top 8. I have one of my best friends (thats a girl 1st) and the one i really like about 5th and there the only 2 girls on there. Now i just currently moved the one i like to 7th because im trying to see if she responds to it. If she does than i can know for sure if she likes me again. But you shouldn't worry about it's probably Just like what im doing. Hope I helped
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Well here's the thing there's this guy i've known for 4 years. Ever since the first time I saw him I had a crush on him. He's not the best looking guy but i like him because he has a good heart and he always helps me with all my problems. I thought he really liked me until a new girl came to our school this year and he asked her to the dance.I got soo mad because i'm soo much prettier than her and me and him are soo much alike. Everyone says we'd make the cutest couple. The dance is in 2 weeks soo pleeeeeeeaaaaase help me!!! (link)
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If yu haven't tried this already just ignore him don't talk to him for about a week and if you do make sure there short brief convo'sand you end them. If that doest work then you must start acting cute around like laugh at things he says and make some jokes that arent really that funny and if he laughs thats a good sign. Just hang out with him alot that second week and see what happens.
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I am very sad!!
Last night my bf asked me if I think that I was ready for marriage ..I was surprise and happy of course .He just pop up with the question if I love him and if I want to marry him one day .
I said yes ...I was really happy.
After that we kept on talking about marriage and stuff than I told him that If I ought to marry him I want to keep my own lastname ....He got really mad and told me that he doesn't like my desicion.
The real reason why I wouldn't like his lastname is that his parents has the same last name and they really hate me and do really bad and nasty stuff to me .THEY HURT ME A LOT,
It's really hard for me to go around with the lastname of my biggest enemies
I love my bf ..we had been A LOT to be togheter ..his parents did the imposible things to seperate us ..They are really jealous about their son.
The second reason is that my dad has more than 5 childrens and he only gave me his lastname ..I'm proud to have this lastname and I really don't want to change it..
Can anyone understand me ?????
I don't want to hurt him but how to explain to him this strange feeling ?
I'm really sad .. (link)
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explain to him exactly what you just told us here.
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Okay well all us girls know how hard it is to get over a boy after he dumps us or just says he doesnt like us anymore, especially when it was super unexpected. so my questions are...
how do you get over them? besides getting another one. cause I can't get another one.
and
Do you boys feel the same way? like if we ever did that to you? do you feel like crap for days on end? do you guys like obsess over it as we do?
Do you ever even miss us? or do you just move on right away cause you just thought we were attractive?
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Im a guy and yes it's one of the worst things when a girl dumps you. You feel horrible, like dirt, and you feel like theyhave a better life going for them if they dont need you around anymore. And we dont just get over it, it takes lots and lots of time. Most guys dont go out with girls that they think are just attractive, theyll do stuff with them butnot go out with them. THeyll only go out with a girl if they are actually atracted to them mentally. hope i helped
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Sorry if wrong category.
Im 17 and i live in Maine. a year ago i lived in florida. I have my florida drivers permit but honestly i dont know the second thing about driving. I know how to start the car. I have been begging my dad to take me driving. Im desperate.
He tells me no not until you learn how to.
Up here in maine to get your permit you have to take drivers ed. And no you cant take it in school you have to pay $375 to take the course and im not lying. I told him ill take the course if he payed. He tells me no hes not paying because im the one that wants to drive. My mom tells him that its the parents responsbility to pay for the course. He totally disagrees and when ever that subject gets brought up he gets pissed.
My brother is 15 and he is all ready to pay for him to take the course. And i dont understand that.
I have the information and everything for this class but i cant get my mom to call to get information. How do i get her to call without throwing the phone at her?
Also should i have to take the drivers ed course up here to get a maine permit if i already have had my florida permit for over a year?
Thank you so much sorry its soo long. (link)
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hey, if you got a permit in florida, don't worry about it you can use it in maine also. But to get oyur mom to call and your dad not pissed just do alot of htings around the house if you don't already and bring up sometimes how your really into going to that class and how much you would enjoy it if he paid for it, hope i helped
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Okay, so I like this guy.
He's still sorta new to the school
I wanna go out with him but nothings progressing beneath the friendship level
I know that he likes me (I'm pretty sure) and I like him back
I don't have his sn, email, phone or anything.
I don't know how to ask for any of them w/o seeming like I'm trying to stalk him or the fact that I like him.
He's popular among the boys (Lacross team) but not much among the girls. I wanna go out with him but I don't know if I should or even how.
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Hey, nothing better than a 14/m to help you out here, i've got my own love problems also, but what you should do is not be cheesy or anything around him like act stupid or try and make jokes that are just not funny, for some reason it's a big turn off. But to get his number or anything just go up to him and talk for a little bit then be like hey do you have a screename, trust me he wont not give it to you, and just flirt with him alot, when you see him say Hi. But you could also play the hard to get, which i think the girl i likes doing to me right now and its driving me nuts, like if he im's you or somthing don't IM back fo rthe rest of the day, but the next time he im's you answer it and have a short convo and make sure you end it. thats about all the advice i have, hope it helped
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