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There are 3 boys......
Hi.I am a 20 year old female.
about 11 months ago I ended a 2 year relationship with someone I really loved. I could not have asked for a better relationship. I was devastated when He broke up with me out of nowhere. I gave the breakup a few months to try to heal, but within 6 months of breaking up with the first boy, I relucktantly began dating another male who I thought was a short term fling. 5 months later we are still dating. He says he thinks he loves me and thinks about me all the time. I don't feel the same way. I've broken up with him 2 times because I am not really sure that he is the type of boyfriend I want. The first time only lasted 2 days because he made me feel so guilty for breaking up. The second time was 2 weeks ago and lasted for about a week. then he came back to me and said all the right things to get me to want to be with him. While We were broken up, I finally got to spend time with my amazing friend, whom I had a big crush on for about a year. I continue to spend time with him now even though we are just friends, I know he likes me and I like him back. Last night he told me that he loved me. I'm so confused and my head is spinning because I know that I could never be with the 3rd guy since I don't agree that he has cheated on almost all his gfs. I don't think I could trust him as much as I want to. My current bf is just sort of there, I still love my ex, and my friend is really confusing. Could you please give me some advice on how to sort this mess out? I would appreciate it.
thank you.
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This applies to the 2 people mentioned first: THEY ARE YOUR EXs for a reason. Your first boyfriend broke up with you for a reason. If you get back with him again, it's bound to happen AGAIN with your heart being broken and it WILL hurt more. You really need to move on from him. The second boyfriend--well you broke up with him twcie. There's a reason behind that. If you wanna go through that again, keep him but I suggest you don't because relationships with doubt really doesn't work. The 3rd guy, just stay close friends but not more than that. You can't trust him and without trust there can't be a relationship. Cheaters will cheat again and that will rarely change. Why don't you ask your current boyfriend if he's okay with the idea of seeing other people for a while. If he doesn't want to, break up with him. You don't need a man by yoursidde 24/7. Go to clubs or something like that and meet new people. And do not go out with the 3rd guy because he is bound to cheat and if you do go out with him, you're asking for a history where you've been cheated on and you won't be able to trust another guy
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As good as your relationship was, there must have been problems leading to your break-up, even if you couldn't see them.
The second guy seems to be a rebound fling gone to far. If you don't know how you feel about him you shouldn't be going out with him. Put him out of his misery. You can't go out with someone because you feel sorry for them (well, you can, but it's not very nice for either of you).
And as for the third guy- you say he says he loved you, but that he's cheated on all his ex's. Is he a user? Is he just trying to reel you in? Or is he really, really confused about who he wants to be with. Either way, he doesn't sound like relationship material. You'd be better off playing it cool for now- that's not to say that you can never go out with guy number three, but perhaps you might find someone better?
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hey, I think you should just go for your ex. If you really love him why not?And I also have a question for you. When you said here "then he came back to me and said all the right things to get me to want to be with him." I'm just wondering what he said because i have an ex I'd like to get back together with also, and I love this girl and im doing everything I canto get her back so if you could give me some details on what he said to you I would really appreciate it. Thanks alot.
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