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I'm elmo! I'm a 15-year-old girl from manhattan, and I like to help people!

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i use nyc eyeliner and everytime i use it it comes off easily so i have to bring my eyeliner to school and put it on there. my friends thinks its annoying cause i need to go to the bathroom or use their mirror in their lockers to put it on. whenever my friends put the eyeliner i use on, it stays on for them but it doesnt for me. i tried many kinds of eyeliner but i still cant find one that will stay on, someone please help!

p.s i dont want to use liquid eyeliner or very expenisive eyeliners

use prestige, it's about 3 bucks at duane reade and it's really good.

One of my very good friends is 14 and she is having sex with her boy friend. I don't think it's right, but who am I to judge. I highly doubt that they'll stay together and she say she likes it a lot... Do you think it's a little slutty of her? And should I tell her I think they should stop? Help me... please! Thanks! much

i don't think it's slutty of her, but I think your friend is a little young to be doing those things, I think maybe you could bring it up but don't say that it's slutty or that people will talk about her. Tell her that you're worried it might be bad for her, or that she may regret it later.

i've missed two periods, there's no way i'm pregnant, i've never had sex. is something wrong? i started them about 11 months ago now.

if your period isn't regular yet, or if you are very, very, thin you skip your period sometimes.

my brest are a 34a and im 16 do u think that i should get inplants if so y or if not y??

I don't think you should get breast implants, breast size really isn't that important either way, each body is built differently, not everyone has to have huge boobs. and even if you wanted to do that I wouldn't advise it until you're fully grown

well... i hang out with friends like everyday! an there are like 4 guyz who really like me but last nite, my mom forgot to pick me up an it wuz like 11:00 an i heard will, frankie, an steve in steves back yard yellin at the tv. so i went there untill my mom picked me up. an well my didnt ppick me up till like 2 in the mornin, but frankie kept saying he loved me, an that he wanted me to go out with him really bad an everything.. but the 3 other guyz say that too but im just to confused because we went in the hott tub an steve an will started to flirt wit me an frankie kept grabbin me an sayin he loved me an that he wanted me an everything im just really really really confused CAN SOMEONE HELP PLZZ!!! 14/f/ny

they all sound like they just want to get lucky.
But if you want to go out with one of them pick the one that you like the best. and if you don't like any of them, then don't go out with them.

Alright well Im 16 yrs old..Soon to be 17 and I've slept with 7 different people. Is that considered a slut? I dont think Im skanky or anything, I just enjoy sex! Is that wrong? Im very open about my sexuality and people think Its wrong to be, Alot of people joke around and say that Im a nympho and shit like that..I need advice and I want people to truthfully tell me what they think. Dont be afraid to tell me the truth..Be straight up!! *Thnks*

to me, that seems like alot. i think that you should slow down a little bit because you are really young to have slept with so many people. But it is your decision, and your decision only. It's not wrong to enjoy sex at all, and as long as you feel good about it, it's ok.

Ok...I have alot of body hair. It is dark too and it drives me crazy. My face is ok, I'm pretty good at keeping my eyebrows under control and making sure that I don't have any above my lip. But my underarms, stomach, chest, legs, back, bikini area.... theres dark hair everywhere and I'm really self conscious. It really bothers me and I have to shave every day. And then I get razor rash everywhere. And I don't know what to do. I feel really gross and ugly. Am I overreacting?

maybe try bleaching your back hair hair, chest, and stomach hair so you have to shave less and you'll get less razor burn.

heyhey. i found you on buddypic, i dont haf one tho. your so gorgeous - you look like mandymoore inna couple of your pictures!!
anyway, lately i've been thinking about making this decision. ahh last year, i went through this bigg rebellion phase. and i got a tattoo on my left shoulder blade, and i got addicted and got another one, it's these hearts on my right side of my bottom stomach. and now, i'm regretting my second one. i wanna remove it, but i'm not sure. cos the worst part is that, well i live in Shanghai, tho i'm moving to california next year. to Santa Catalina - some catholic girl boarding school. which sucks... cos originally i wuz gonna go to Stevenson - it's by a beach and its co-ed. but my rents dont TRUST me. arghh. anyway bak to the tattoo thing. my friend, chris, he got a tatt too and you hafta go back there like what every month to do the surgery over and over again. and he's been doing it for over a year now and it's still not faded. is it just Shanghai that it's really low class with all this stuff or is there a surgery where u can just do it once and it'd be gone. i don't care so much for the pain, i would just tear again and scream my butt off hah.
well if i did, i want another one on my hip :D

any advice?? or do you have any?

Once you get to california you could probably look up a doctor in your area, there are alot of doctors in california who will remove the tatoo and it will be fully removed.although it will be very expensive and painful to get the tatoo removed. if you can't take the pain i agree with GC and say get cover up.

please some one tell me how to give a jickie my girl wants one but i dont no how

i suppose you mean hickey right?
well you sort of suck on your girlfriend's neck or wherever you're going to give her the hickey, you put your mouth in an 0 shape on her skin and suck, it usually takes like 30 seconds and a blood vessel will break and she'll have a hickey.

i was wondering if i recently had sex on my period will i get pregnant still?

It is unlikely that you will get pregnant, but yes it is possible that you may be pregnant.

What do people meen when they say, masturabate?

when people say masturbate they mean pleasure yourself. often times when someone doesn't have a partner or is practicing abstinence they masturbate to get their needs fullfilld.
girls finger themselves sometimes and guys rub their own penises.

hi elmo,
i have a problem (no duh) im segregated bcuz im gay. I love woman. How can i get over this problem? Is there a way to not be lesbian?

There is no way not to be lesbian. YOu can't help who you're attracted to.
It's horrible that people treat you differently because you are gay. No one should ever do that to you. You can try and talk to these people and make them understand that you're a normal person. Or you can just shut them out of your life. If there are serious issues though complain to an athority figure that you trust.
best of luck-
elmo

I have an.. well interesting sister. She is 4 years older than I am and I am nearly 18. My sister and I both live at home still. My sister acts as if her life is the most important life on the face of the earth, and she treats everyone around her like a lesser being. Sometimes I just want to physically hurt her because words just never get through to her, that is, if you can words out at all. She never lets people speak, especially when she is angry. She blames her problems on everyone else in my family, especially my mother and I'm starting to believe my sister is really breaking my moms heart to pieces. Her actions and words hurt all of my immediate family and it is so extremely peaceful and quiet when she is at work.

The thing that bothers me the most is that she always claims that her life is so much worse than everyone else's, no matter what they are enduring, she refuses to offer support, instead she will explain how much more difficult it is to be her. I can't stand being around her because she always insults me, she claims that she is just being honest when clearly - she is just being rude.

I had hoped she would be moving out soon but she enrolled in school again and so she will be staying at home for at least another 2 years. Its madness and I simply can't be around her.

When I have tried to explain how I feel and how badly she treats us she refuses to let me finish and assumes I am attacking her and she responds with attacks of her own. She always tells us how horrible it is to have a family like ours and how no one cares about her and how she wishes she could leave.

I have tried to tolerate her disgusting attitude and no one outside my family can understand my grief over this issue because my sister changes her entire self when she is around anyone other than our immediate family - she is suddenly nice. Therefore, no one else understands.

My question to advicenators is this - is there anything that I can say to my sister that will make her realize how bad she is hurting our family or do we all need to simply tough it out for the next few years until she moves out on her own?
However, even if we do tolerate her, I don't ever want to simply sever ties with my own sister - I want her to care about us and love us - I want her to be a friend to me. Not someone that hates us and supposedly makes her life horrible.

I think maybe sending your sister a note or an email is a good idea, because you can really think about what you are saying and not get heated or angry when you are writing.
You may also want to decide to try and talk to her with someone there who you trust to sort of moderate the discussion so neither of you get out of line and your sister doesn't attack you.
whatever you decide to do good luck and remember not to lose your cool-
elmo

Does anyone have a great recipe for bonless chicken wings? I especially love the Sweet Diablo wings from Green Mill.

1 pound Skinless Chicken Breast (1" cut 1 1/4"x 1 1/4" squares)
3 cups flour
1 1/2 cup buttermilk
1 1/2 teaspoon salt
3/4 teaspoon black pepper
vegetable oil (peanut oil is great for frying)
*** Hot Sauce:***
3/4 cup Hot Sauce
1/4 cup water
1 tablespoon butter
1/4 teaspoon cayenne pepper

Place sauce ingredients in small pan and simmer 4 - 5 minutes until blended well. Remove sauce from heat, set aside to cool. Mix flour, salt, and pepper in bowl. Place buttermilk in separate bowl. Prepare chicken breast pieces 1" thick, 1 1/4" x 1 1/4"square. Heat oil for frying, about 360F. Dust chicken pieces in flour then dip them into the buttermilk and back into the flour, gently shaking excess flour off pieces and carefully place pieces into hot oil and fry until golden brown. Remove chicken pieces and drain. When all chicken breasts have been fried and drained, place them a bowl and cover with sauce that has been prepared. Place a lid on bowl and gently shake or stir until all nuggets have been coated. Place boneless buffalo wings on non stick baking sheet and bake in a preheated oven at 350F for 20 minutes. Serve with blue cheese and celery.

How come there is no boys asking questions? I'm a guy and I have a question... anyways... I'm kinda shy when the topic asking girls out comes up. I'm 13 and I dont ever think im going to get a girlfriend, because im so scared on what would i do if i asked someone out and then they said yes? i mean i dont know how to make out and stuff like that... what should i do?

you sound so nice...anyway if you like a girl just start talking to her, try and be witty.
if you ask her out and she says yes then you just go out somewhere with her, act natural. and if making out becomes part of the situation well then just go with the flow and don't shove your tongue to the back of her throat.

Okay, I'm only in the 8th grade but lately I've be thinking about my future and college. Well I've thought about it really hard and decide that I want to go to Yale University. The only problem is I don't know what requirments it takes to get excapted. Like how well do I have to do in grade school? What should my scores be? Any one who can give me any info would be great!
*Future*

A family friend of mine is attending yale and he was accepted because he had 3.9 grade average, played the drums in the school band, got a 1590 on the sat's,participated in other school activites, did community service, participated in a foreign exchange and is a minority.

Well I think the subject pretty much gives away what I'm going to ask you...what should we do?

We went to see a film (The Last Samurai btw) on Sunday.

I'm 16, he's 18. Clubbing (my friends suggestion) is not really an option).

Any ideas?

Well there's lots of stuff you could do. If you want you can do dinner and a movie again, maybe go to an arcade or carnival, you could go to a coffee place and talk, you could get dinner and walk around go to the park, or window shop. You have alot of options, hope you have a good time -
elmo

my boi likes me alot and i like him alot but i like someone eles also and he knows what should i do?

decide, carefully which one you like more. which one you care the most about.

MY BEST FRIEND IS MOVING TO NEW YORK AND I AM ACROSS THE U.S. WHAT SHOULD I DO???

talk on the phone/internet/or through mail.
you can still be best friends if you are separated. trust me. been there. as long as you
still keep in touch you can still be great friends.

hey its brownie* i have a question.. yes i wonder about stuff 2 even though i help some people in my spare time! please someone help me! GUYS.. I REALLY WANT YOUR OPINION ON THIS.. even if it is just a sentence long!! girl i want to know what you would do please! i really dont want this to go wrong because of my friends ship with this person:

Yes it it me again.. the one who liked her bestfriend that was a year younger.. well i cant stop thinking about him... when im trying to go to sleep, he is there in my mind! and this morning in church i couldnt hardly focus on what our preacher was talking about because i kept thinking about him! this isnt good.. i have decided that i am going to tell him how i feel.. but i havent talked to him in 2 days.. i have no clue where he has been, maybe that is y he has been on my mind soo much! do u think that it is wrong for girls to make the move? i asked him about this a while back, and he said that he thinks guys should make the first move... but i dont think i can wait that long.. because knowing him, he likes to be shy about his feelings and not let anyone know how he feels. i am soo scared of how he will react to what i will tell him next time i talk to him, what if he freaks out and doesnt talk to me for a while? i wont know what to do, because then i will be thinking about him even more! PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME!! PLEASE!! shay*shay-you gave me some good advice last time... can you help me agian? please! i have never felt like this about a guy before.. ive always been the one guys come to and just tell me that they like me.. i dont know how to make the frist move either.. even if i did!
brownie*

It's totally fine for a girl to make the first move...I have...
anyway you feel really strongly about this guy and if I were I'd just tell him how I feel but try not to come on too intense.

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