Hi everybody!I'm a 14,5 year-old girl who enjoys life to the max.I'm happy-I have good family,great friends,an awesome bf,I'm beautiful and smart...What more could a girl ask for?
Anyway,feel free to ask me for advice,I'm glad to give any help needed.
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So there's this guy I like, and I haven't really told him yet, but I cannot seem to tell if he's figured out how I feel and is just avoiding confrontation, or if he is just shy (and possibly interested back?), or if he's just completely oblivious. So far, I think he can tell that I like him and is just avoiding the situation...
He rarely looks at me or even talks to me unless I talk to him, and when I do talk to him, it's usually a short conversation. (I'm pretty darn shy around him and can't really keep a conversation going unless he keeps talking) Sometimes when I go to sit somewhere near him, he'll get up an move...there's tons of other things, but they all basically indicate that he is uncomfortable around me...I just don't know what KIND of uncomfortable...
I just hope I'm not pushing anything...anyways, thank you for reading! (link)
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That kind of behavior usually indicates that someone likes you.I think he's afraid you'll see him blush or something that could tell you he likes you.That's my opinion.The truth is,you have to talk to him and ask him why is he avoiding sitting near you and talking to you.That's the best solution.I hope I helped you,and good luck!
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years, however after our 3rd year we kinda aparted because he was talking to another girl but inspite of it i gave us a chance and have been trying to work with him, our relation have been inconsistent since then we don't talk for months and then we talk again and end up fighting because he suspects me of dating other guys when we don't talk. He refuses to hear or consider anything I have to say against his allegation on me, he is on denial.I have very strong feelings with this person and I don't know how else to fight for us or on is it even worth it based on history of its existence? .Any advice/input would be appreciated!
Thanks (link)
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Ok,so he talks to another girl and you get jealous.He lets it go.Then he suspects you talk to other guys and he goes insane.I kinda don't get it.Does he think you belong to him or something?Anyway,talk to him and sort it all out.He should understand that you have your own space and that if you talk to other guys doesn't mean that you're going to cheat on him.I mean,there should be some trust after you've spent 6 years together in a relationship.Try to reason with him,and see where it leads you.I hope this will help.
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ok if a girl has sex for tha first time, but doesnt get pregnant, can her next period still be a little off or a few days early or late? (link)
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It could,it could not.It all depends.But if a girl isn't pregnant for sure,then there's nothing to worry about.
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my ex and i were dating for four months and he hinted at wanting to break up so i did it for him then a month went by and he had hooked up with another person and i started dating a new guy.. but the called me and we talked and he told me that he loved me.. which on his part is HUGE.
so we waited awhile and i broke up with the guy i had been dating.
when my ex and i started dating he told me how much he loved me and never wanted to loose me and that i made him so happy.
blah blah blah.
so then he starts acting weird and i know him well enough to know when he's going to break up with me so we talked and he texted me telling me how much he loved me and that he wasnt ready for a relationship... we dated for two weeks..
its been a month almost and nothing is getting easier.
we go to the same school so i see him every single day. and my friends and family told me to act like i didnt know him to make it easier.. while he is telling me to talk to him and he doesnt exactly understand why i dont talk to him..
i cant decide what to do..
anything would help
please and thank you. (link)
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Let me give you some advice from the personal experience:
At this time,boys are very uncertain of their feelings and don't always show them the right way.Or better yet,pretend they have them.He might love you,but the more likely is that he's playing with you.He sees you'll come back to him if he asks you to,and you do.Then,when he decides he doesn't need a girlfriend,he dumps you.After a while he needs you and you get back together.Seriously,how long do you plan on keeping that up?Don't let him play with you,explain that you're not his toy,and look for a better boyfriend,who will show his true feelings.That's what I did,and it worked for me.I hope it helps you.
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ok so hope this dosent confuse anyone, im 15 && started to get my period september 2008 (&& as you all know wen you first get your period it can be very irregular as mine was) didn\'t get it oct. (lost my virginity that month) got it nov. & haven\'t gotten it since then i had unprotected sex bout a week ago (yes stupid i know, will i do it again no) he \"pulled out\" before he came inside of me (but seriously there\'s still pre-cum && stuff so we all know that dosent work) im suppose 2 get my period this week but still nothing so could i be prego? (sorry if any1s confused by this) (link)
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You could be pregnant.Wait for a little longer to see if you'll get your period.If not then use a pregnancy test.That's the only way to know for sure.I hope my advice helped,and good luck!I don't know what I would do if I was pregnant now(I'm almost 15)...
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i've caught my boyfriend in a lie the other day. it wasn't something huge like hes cheating on me or anything but its still a lie =/ and he won't tell me things like why he got in trouble and stuff like that...i trust him with my life and it hurts to know that he doesn't trust me...what should i do?
were both 16
and have been together for 6 months if that matters. (link)
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Well,well.So you caught him in a lie?Then you should be more careful.Boys are just like that.They start lying about minor things,then the next thing is they cheat on you.Keep a close eye on him,but don't stalk him.Just make sure you always know the truth.However,if he continues lying to you,dump him.No one needs a liar as a boyfriend.
If you really like him,well...then stay with him.
Maybe he's just afraid how would you react if he told you certain things...you mentioned that you talked and he said he trusts you and you'd be the first person he'd come to.So just give him some time,boys are...well,boys.
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15 female.
okay so i have this guy friend and me and him have been very close for the longest time now, about 4 years. just a little backround, i've always trusted him with EVERYTHING, and he knows all my deepest secrets, and me and him also fool around, as in do sexual things, but we have never actually had sex. he had always told me how bad he wants to do it, and how amazing it would be and etc. but 3 days ago we were texting and we had decided to chill the next day, and everything was fine and normal. then after a while i told him i was thinking and i made a decision, he asked me what it was and i told him i had decided that i was 100 percent ready to have sex with him and i told him why, which is because me and him are really good friends, i trust him and cause i love him as a friend... and then after that he didnt write back AT ALL. so i called him like 3 times and he didnt answer..so i let it go. then next day i call him when i wake up, he doenst answer.. the WHOLE DAY i would text and call and he would ignore me. so i called his friend and told him to call him to see if he answers, and he did! so i got upset!! and i kept texting him, asking what was wrong and he would not respond. then i said "i want you to give me.... and explanation!" and he texted back, what about dick? and i was like WTF!! and then he said we should play mamamete which is spanish for pretty much suck and stick it in, he was refering to head then sex, and i was like wtf man, why are yu being like that? and he didnt write back!!
so its been like 3 days and we still havent talked. and im sad cause hes like the best thing in my life, and i really do love him! and i dont know what i did, and i dont know what to do, and i dont know how to get him to talk to me...
grr :'/ please help!!!! (link)
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Of course a guy would freak out if you told him so openly you wanted to have sex with him.If you were making out and you told him in the middle,I think there would be something.But like this he just got shocked and now he's ignoring you.
You should give him some time to cool down.And don't mention anything about sex or hooking up...at all.Then see if he talks to you again.If not,give him up.You deserve better.Besides,are you even sure he likes you?If it is so,he'll come by in a few days and ask you to be friends again,or something more...lol.Hope I helped!
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How do I show the guy I like that I'm interested and how can I get him to be interested in me without flat out saying "I like you do you like me?" He and I are friends and we have classes together the last 3 periods of the day and talk a lot during them. I think he might like me but I'm not 100%. (link)
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I think it's best that you talk to him.But if you don't want to do that,then flirt with him.Make a lot of eye contact and stuff like that.Give him some subtle hints you like him without actually saying it.Then see how he reacts to that.I hope it'll work out for you two.Also,hope I helped and good luck!
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I had a best friend who was a boy and I could tell him anything. We would hang out all day and in school pass notes and stuff, but then my other friend made a rumor about me that i liked him. He heard and it was a little awkward for a while and eventually got back to normal. That week another rumor was set about me and he wouldn't let it go. I asked him why he was upset with me and he said "The rumor" and walked away. He ignores me online and when I call him he doesn't pick up. He doesn't seem to care about me anymore. I try talking to him all the time but he is too caught up with being in the popular group to notice me and I was wondering how I could get him to talk to me. Some of my other friends think I did something to him and now they all ignore me too. I only have one real true friend now and I want them back. (link)
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What a mess!I can't believe that your friend is so naive(I didn't mean anything bad by that).I guess he just believes whatever he hears.Anyway if you really care about him,here's what I think you should do:
First,face him and don't let him go away until he explains himself.Personally,I'd demand an explanation if I've done nothing wrong and someone ignored me like that.Then just explain it's not true and ask him to be understanding.I really don't know what else I can tell you to do and that would help...
By the way,it sounds to me that someone's jealous that you two were such good friends and then decided to break you apart.If you get him back as a friend,pay attention to who gossips about you and make sure they don't,or I'll come there and get them!lol.Just kidding!Anyway,I hope I helped you.Good luck and do your best!
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Actually I don't know if overbearing is the right word to describe my mum. The thing is, my mum is so hot headed, so sensitive that every time I do one little wrong thing, she always explodes. She gets mad unreasonably. I used to keep quiet every time she got mad, I would just keep quiet because if I spoke, she would get even more mad. I try my best to be a good daughter and to be less of a burden. I sacrificed so much so as not to be one of her problems. I even tried to kill myself because no matter what I do, she didn't appreciate and feel any sacrifice I've done which is why I'm good as dead. My theory is the reason why she's so hard on me is because she's doing her best to be a good mother and she's sacrificing too and all those things good mums try to do but I think this kind of gives her an idea that I have no right to feel resentful when she hurts me. I have no right to complain, to get angry and I only have the right to be grateful. I think this is unfair. I appreciate her being a good mother but it doesn't give her the reason to be hard on me. How do I confront a person like this, who, no matter what you tell her, she will let her pride prevail and always try to prove you wrong? Or is there really nothing I can do and just try to live with the kind of person she is? I really hope not because I'm really tired. My pride is dead, my chest is swollen, my friends are starting to hate me coz I never hang out with them, my life is practically ruined. Please help! :(( :(( and I really appreciate those who took the time to read this. (link)
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Wow,that's pretty unfair.What about your father?Or any of your relatives?Talk to them and explain the problem.Or seek professional help.I wish I could help you personally to deal with your mom,but the best I do is tell you this-no human being is to be treated like dirt.As hard as it may be you need to fight for your rights with all you've got,even if it's your mother.I hope I helped.If you want,tell me in my inbox how it went.Good luck!
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Latley ive been getting weird peeing sensations. Like i feel like i really need to pee when i dont. its becoming more frequent and i hate the way it feels. Is this something i should go to the doctor for? i really dont know why this happens but my friend says it happens to her too. Please help anyone know what this might be? An infection maybe? (link)
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If you think there's something wrong with you,go to the doctor.You never know what might happen.I wouldn't risk it if I were you.It's probably nothing serious,though,but be careful with your health.
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when you have sex for the first time, does the girl bleed? and if so, does it get everywhere and make a big awkward mess? (link)
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It all depends on the girl and the moment.If a girl is nervous and tense she is more likely to get stiff and bleed.So a girl should be relaxed and there should be some good foreplay to take care of that.As for the awkwardness,I don't think it's real.So don't bother thinking about it that way.
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Okay, so i have this boyfriend that lives in VA(virginia) when i live in CO(colorado) and we love each other a lot. There is one problem! My mom and dad don't like long distance relationships and want me to break up with my lover. I don't want to. Any advice?
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If I were you,I'd talk to your parents and explain how I felt about him.If you really love him,don't let anyone or anything ruin your relationship,but also let your parents know you respect their opinion.Talk to your lover,too,to see what he thinks about it.Hope I helped you.
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So I'm not sure if im pregnant or not. But I have had very light cramping and havent had my period and its been 4 days (link)
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After you've had unprotected sex,the results will show if you use a pregnancy test 6 days later.So,that's what I suggest.It's the best way to find out.
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my frend .. lets call her w and she liked this boy lets call him b .. so when w liked b, b liked her back and i was trying to set them up so i got b's # from my step brother because b is one of my step brothers bestfriends. but then w stopped liking b and b still liked her but now hes trying to get over her. i sorta liked b but didnt tell anybody or acted on it because i didnt know how w would react but them she said you should like him so i did and idk if it was the best think to do but i told him i liked him. after that he wasnt awkward or anything.. we flirted and every thing we said stuff like him being a bad boy and how i like the bad boys then hes like your fucking awesome and then i went to a movie with w and he was still texting her and so he admitted he still likes her and she asked about me but he said he didnt liek me.. so i texted him later and he said she doesnt like me so theres nothing to do about it so theres no point in liking her .. and we texted about other stuff the rest of the night and tthen today we were texting and he plays hockey so hees like "come to the arena one time" idk how to react do you think he might like me or what do you think is goingg on? (link)
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He's playing with you.Ditch him before you get hurt.
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17/f
Wow, so I don't like kissing guys because I'm scared I'll do it wrong.
I've only kissed 3 guys in my life.
The first was a peck and nothin more.
The second was tongue kissing, and I still didn't know what the heck I was doing. But the guy I was kissing thought I did because he was like, "I've never had anyone suck on my tongue like that before!" I was thinking, "What the heck? I didn't even know what I was doing, I did that on accident..lol." And then, I didn't even like that boy that I was kissing, I was just doing it so I could get more experience....
The third time I kissed a boy I hadn't expected it (we were in the moment I guess), I was laying on the couch and he was over me and he kissed me on the lips (a little tongue) but because of this wierd situation that we were in I didn't want to kiss him because I knew it was wrong and I turned my head. So he just started to kiss my neck.
If I ever kiss anyone, I know for sure that the person I'm kissing has to be very forward, and even then I'm thinking way too much when I'm kissing because I'm scared of what they think. So now, I'm pretty much saying that "I don't like to kiss" or "I'm not much into kissing" whenever the topic comes up with a guy friend. I'm sure as heck not good at making moves unless I feel like I'm the one in control. GAh, what should I do? I'm scared to kiss guys. (link)
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Kissing is nothing to be afraid of!Just let yourself go and don't think about what that guy will say.If he says something,think about it later.The very important thing when it comes to kissing is that you feel comfortable and that you have feelings for that person and then,only then will you be able to fully relax and enjoy the kiss...Don't worry,you can do it!It's nothing hard trust me.Kissing feels good and it can be fun!
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18/f. there is this guy i really have feelings for. he's a good friend of mine but there's always ONE problem. i always seem like i have to ask him to hangout, well if its just going to be us two. he will hint at it like oh so what are you doing tonight and lets say i will be like oh well i dont know yet, what about you? and he'll be like i don't know either. and then it's kind of like okay well you should come over and watch a movie with me! but it's always like that, WHY! or he'll be like what are you doing and then i'll ask him and he'll be like nothin, sitting at home. he will never be like hey lets hangout! why do you think this is it? i don't like it at alll, because what if one time he's not hinting that he wants to hang out and i ask him and he willl be like oh no, i'm going to do this? and then i'll feel a little dumb. but then i always feel like i don't want to miss the opportunity to see him so i wouldn't want to be like oh okay, after he just said he didnt know what he was doing or if he wasnt doing anything then. understand where i'm coming from? is this a sign, good or bad of SOMETHING? ugh i just dont know. (link)
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Have you ever learned of the signs of love?I think he likes you and just doesn't know how to act around you,so he's all shy,confused,and quiet.Does it ring any bells?Anyway,you should talk to him and his closest friends in order to find out if he likes you,then make a move.
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Okay , So i am pregnant at 14!!! I am a christan and i no i was not suppoed to do this but i was broght into temptation.. and i am not sure how to tell my parents or my church family? Will i have to move to a different church? (link)
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Omg!What were you thinking?!Sorry,I won't judge you,here's my advice.Talk to your parents and decide together what you should do.You should also tell that boy that he's gonna be a father and demand that he takes a full responsibility for this.I assume you are going to give birth so you can't raise the baby alone!As for religion and all,I don't think you'll have to move to a different church.Don't worry,it'll all be fine.
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Ok so this guy has been known my family sense i was 5, I just started liking him over a month ago. My cousin says he likes me, But i dont know if he means just as a friend or more. People keep telling me he is giving hints to go out with me, and i dont know how to pick up on them. So what i was wondering is how do i let him know that i like him? I am a very shy person and so is he so its very confusing. I also can't talk to my cousin about this that would be to hard, If you get what i mean. (link)
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There's no particular solution for this but to talk to them both.I've gone through that a hundred times and trust me,it always paid off.I know you're shy and afraid of being...oh I don't know...rejected or something,but you need to be brave.I know what you might think,that it's easy for me to say,but you have to try,or you'll never know how he really feels about you.
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Warning: my question will be long and involved. Don't read if you're not patient.
In November, my boyfriend of two years and I broke up. Two, maybe three weeks later... I met this guy. We hit it off at first, but I made it clear that I wasn't ready to date yet and that we could only talk. He said that he was okay with that.
One weekend in January... We discovered that both of us had the weekend off, something that doesn't happen very often because both of our schedules are pretty crazy. So we decided to hang out one Saturday...
Our first date went well. There was a second date, then a third date, then a fourth date. After our last date... I realized that he wasn't long-term relationship material. V-Day rolled around... And I didn't bother to make plans. He didn't say anything either, so I figured that he wasn't as interested as I originally thought.
We're friends on Myspace. Late night, V-Day, I check my email and he's sent me a message. Basicly, he conveyed that he had wanted to see me that day but had said nothing because I hadn't dropped any hints. He also stated that he was interested in me, but wasn't sure if I was as 'into him' as he was 'into me.'
Since he seemed to want to to talk about the direction of the relationship honestly... I was honest. I tried to explain to him, in the nicest way possible, that I liked him but he really wasn't what I was looking for and that I wasn't sure if we would work out or not. I also explained that it was probably too soon for me to get serious with anyone, considering that in October of last year I was engaged and living with someone.
Several emails via Myspace were exchanged and there was a conversation. During these emails and conversations I got the feeling that he was disappointed, felt a bit foolish... And I tried my best to apologize and even made it clear that I did want to be friends. (Normally I wouldn't even attempt a friendship with someone I had dated in the past... But we only went on four dates and had only kissed a few times. I didn't think it would be a problem.)
The conclusion... He said that he would like to be friends but probably needed some space for a while. At some point I could tell that he was beginning to get really upset... But he said that he thought the reason he was so upset was not because of me, but because of his former girlfriend. (She died a year ago in a car accident.) He expressed to me that he had come to realize over the last couple of days that he really missed her, and his wanting to be close to me probably had something to do with feeling very lonely.
The conversation ended after that point. He sounded like he needed to be alone and there was nothing more I could say at that point. But I thought he and I were okay... Or going to be okay.
Later he sends me a text message saying that he's changed a few things on his Myspace page. I'm talking to a friend and checking out their page, so afterwards I take a look at his. One word: hostile. The comment, 'All women can kiss my *ss,' was posted in several places and there was one particular comment that was aimed at me, even though my name was not mentioned. I know that it was me because he eluded to something I had told him about myself.
Maybe I was just shocked because of the sudden, violent change of personality. All the time that I've been talking to him, he's come across as a very caring, gentle, and upbeat person. To see him suddenly change into a cynical, angry, hurtful person... Gave me a serious case of the creepies.
So... My first question is... Am I over-reacting? I mean... The guy has been through a lot and I can understand how he must be feeling. But his behavior just seems... Odd. Should I be worried?
And if I shouldn't be worried... Should I bother trying to be friends with him? After reading that one, particular comment... I was ready to call it quits. I mean, I've had some people really screw me over in the past, and I've never done anything like that before. Should I confront him, let him know that I was hurt and that I won't settle for such disrespectful behavior?
Thanks for reading. Please advise... (link)
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Here's what I would do.
You should definitely tell him how you feel and put him in his place.If he didn't care when he posted that comment saying whatever,neither should you.I completely support you and you aren't over-reacting by any means.Unless he's very important to you,stay away from him,you need no such friend.
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