I am a Christian, and I love giving advice, so you can be anonymous or not, I would just love to hear from you! My friends tell me that I am a great person to come to for advice. I seem to know just what to say. I don't know. =) I love listening to people and problems. I just don't like being in the middle of them; I do choose sides if I absolutely have to. I want to be a Social worker or a counseling Psychologist someday. I am a senior in high school, and I start college in August of '06. I'm in band, and choir. I play French horn and sing alto. I have been through a lot with friends/family and even though I haven't, I feel like I've seen it all, so I hope I can help!
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so theres this guy right. i met him at track and it was cool. we talked at meets and stuff and then the season ended and i didnt see him for awhile but now a new marking period started and i guess his schedule switched so i see him a lot and in the past couple weeks hes walked with me everywhere and met me at my locker and at first it was a little too strong for me but now im like ok. i might like him. but theres a couple problems... im a sophomore and hes a freshman and hes drinks and partys and i dont go for that, plus my parents are really uptight and i dont know how i would go about like telling them about him. so yea.. i really dont know what to do. hes asked me to hang out a couple times but i avoided it. im not sure how i feel about him. sometimes i want him and others i dont. help? (link)
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I think it's awesome that you are consious about that. I've been in this dilemma too...it's probably the best if you don't go for it. He may be a nice guy...but you can probably do better. Not saying you can't like him...just don't date him...at least not yet. If he knows you aren't a partier, he may lose interest too, and you won't have to worry about it anymore. Then again, he could start trying to keep getting you to do it. Stand firm. Plus, if he MIGHT have a reputation of being a player, I wouldn't go for it. It's your life, you make your own decisions...but be careful if you do. Good luck and I hope I helped!
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Hey guys,
I want guys to answer this one k? or grls but i think guys would make the most sence lol. Any way I was wondering what makes a girl likable or attractive? (and i dont mean shallow stuff like giant boobs!!! or anything, even though....we all know that doesn't hurt tehe) Like what kind of clothes? Hair up or down? Like....idk just what pysical and little quirks (cute little things she does) makes a girl attractive?
ok much love guys...and girls ;)
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I know guys have told me that they like a girl to be themself! Don't try to be different cause you're around a guy. Be honest. A lot of guys don't like a lot of make up...just maybe enough to make your features "pop out" more...hair down is good...but guys should like you even if you are wearing sweats and a t-shirt. Smile a lot...take care of your body...they like you to talk! Don't talk their ears off...unless they are just as talkative as you are...but let them know you are interested in their lives, and not just into yourself. Good luck! I hope that helped!
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well i have a crush on a cute guy and i think he likes me back because he always looks at me ( you know what i mean :-)) well yeah than he comes to me and is asking me questions like are you good in school? are you happy to be classpresident and do you have a crush on robert ( a guy in my school and i dont like him) well i had this big fight with my friends and i was in a bad mood and well i answered his questions like very mean so he was upset and he wanted to be my friend and today in my bus some guy came to me and said hey i should tell you from robert that he loves you! and then my crush heres that and said yeah i love you 2 i tried to be your friend but u were so mean!
AAHHHH WHAT SHOULD I DO? I REALLY LIKE HIM!!!!
and how should i appologise without seeming silly????? please give me some advice THANKS!!! (link)
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Just tell him that you're sorry for taking your frustration out on him and that was never him you were mad at. Tell him you really like him too, and if he acts as if he wants to be your b/f, then go for it! Good luck! That's really sweet!
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sorry, but this is really long, but its easy to understand...
ok so ive liked this boy since like september, and we started going out last week, on tuesday. hes a really shy person, and hes only had a few gf's before. our relationship...isnt what i would call.."normal". well like at first when we werent going out, we barely talked. and then when we did start going out, we talked a lil more. and i was like getting pissed, because he was so shy, and he like couldnt sit with me at lunch, he was to shy to walk to class with me, and like to shy to even come over to talk with me. but now our relatoinship is getting a little better because all of my friends kept telling him that i was getting pissed, and he said he would try and talk to me more. and ive been talking to him online about talking to me more, and he said he would to. so now hes talking to me more, and like hes actually started waiting for me after we get out of a class, and walking with me, but we sorta walk in silence sometimes. he barely talks, he just says cool about everything i say, and laughs, and i know he really does like me because hes told me. and like i really want our relationship to work because i really like him. but i seriously cant take this anymore, all the silent walking, the no hugs, or barely any talking, he doesnt really come over to me unless i ask him to..and i like said at the end of this week, if he doesnt start changeing then im going to have to break up with him because i cnt go through with this. but then i thought like i really like him and i dotn want to have to sit tehre everyday looking at him thinking that i had the chance to stay with him but i like blew it off. so please i need some advice on what to do... (link)
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A friend of mine had this problem when she dated a guy her freshman year. He was a sophomore. She broke up w/ him after 2 weeks b/c he never really did anything. It devastated him, but her junior and senior year, they dated and he became the love of her life. Even though things didn't work out, doesn't mean it won't for you. He may just like you so much that he doesn't know what to do with himself. Just be patient with him if you really do like him. If you decide to break up with him though b/c you really don't, do it. I hope this helps you! Good luck!
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I've been going out with my boyfriend for a little over two months and everything seemed great, but for the past week or so it just feels like I don't love him anymore. We mostly talk online and when we do I don't say much to him and I get aggervated a lot with him. When I do get to see him it's basically the same, I don't feel anything for him. I don't know how to tell him I wanna break up with him cause I think it would hurt him because he tells my best friend that he loves me so much and would hate it if we ever broke up.. so I'm not sure what to do. Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks. (link)
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As hard as it may be for him since he does love you, in your case though, if you feel like you're only holding on for his sake...you should break it off now before he gets too attached and either A: it will hurt him even worse if you were to put it off, or B: you'll let it get even more serious and you still aren't AS HAPPY as you could be in the future with someone else. It will hurt him if you break up, but what's not there, isn't there. My last b/f broke up w/ me cause he didn't "feel the spark anymore". But, even though I was really bummed when he broke it off, we were almost at 3 months, so he didn't wait forever, and I'm okay now. It was 2 months ago that we broke up and I'm fine. He may be different but you have to expect every relationships is different. Just tell him that you want to be friends (if you do want to, and if you say so, act on it), and that you just don't feel that chemistry you used to. Good luck and I hope that helped.
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I need advice for Girls AND Boys would be good. I have a boyfriend that is in another city far from mine. How many times should we talk on the phone a day and GENERALLY who should call who.
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I used to be in a relationship long distance where we talked almost everynight (my parents got annoyed) but I was fine w/ it because we always did (and still do) always have something to talk about and it was entertaining. A few times a week could be good. Generally, it'd be better for the guy to call the girl, but there are exceptions to the rule as in, maybe something really bad or good happened to you and you would like to tell him, or inviting him to something. Or sometimes, you just really need to talk to him, and of course that is understandable! Let him call you for the most part. Good luck! I know how that goes!
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Ok so my bestfriend is going through depression and I feel so bad cause honeslty Ive realized that he doesnt smile that much anymore but it never hit me like that cause hes always just like im tired and stuff but anyways he told me yesterday that hes going thru it again so ive done some research on it cause i want to be able to help him get thru it. I didnt know him the first time he went thru it but I know that means since he had it once he'll be able to get thru it again. Anyways Ive gone a bunch of websites and they all basically say the same thing like it takes medication to get past it and stuff... I need to know Is There Anything I can Do To help Him? I cant find anything on how others should act around someone with it. Please If u have any ideas help. Ive googled it already and found some stuff but i need to know more... (link)
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The best thing I think you can do for him w/ out the meds is just listen to him. If he's getting help, encourage him to keep getting help, because you want him to be happy. Remind him that you love him. I have a good friend that is going through the same thing. I don't know if you believe in God, but even if you do and he doesn't, or if he does. Tell him that you'll be praying for him if you have that faith, or any faith at all. That may lift his spirits. :-) I hope I helped.
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This question was extremely long, explaining the whole situation, I decided that you guys don't need all of the details. A friend of mine is currently pregnant, the baby is due the second week of May. Her baby shower will be May 2nd and I need some ideas of what to get. She already has just about everything you could buy for a baby. It's going to be a girl, and I want something that won't cost too much over $20 because she isn't my best friend in the world, but she is a good person. They already have bottles, toys, diapers, blankets, and the works. What are some things that a baby girl can never have too much of, just in case I get something that somebody else (or the parents) have already bought?
I'm 15/f, so is she, but she'll be 16. The baby's dad is 19, still in the picture, and the mom and dad are getting married once my friend turns 16 in July. Please no lectures on that, she's already talked to one of the parenting teachers here, her mom, and guidance and all sorts of people. I just need some ideas for a baby shower gift. Thanks in advance. (link)
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Do you know what the baby's name will be? Maybe you can buy the mom stuff to make a scrapbook? Or maybe you can buy something for the baby and have it embroidered. Think about how old the baby will be during certain holidays, or seasons, and buy baby clothes that might fit her around that time that YOU especially pick out for her. Maybe you can go to build-a-bear! Get something for the mom, not just the baby. I don't know what she'll like but you know what will make her feel special. If you don't think these are good ideas, buy her a gift card for somewhere like wal-mart or something, she what she has registered anywhere, that way she can get what she does need. Good luck and I hope I helped!
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I really really liked this guy; however he told me that he didn't see me as the girlfriend type for him cause were to close of friends. But I can't keep my mind off of him, everything I think about him. What should I do? I seriously still like him but he doesn't feel the same! (link)
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I have been there and done that. My friends kept telling me to just get over him. He broke my heart when he told me he didn't like me as more than a friend, or he "didn't want to ruin the friendship". It took me 2 years to realize I wasn't going to be more than friends with him. Flirt and have fun. It's okay to still like him, but be willing to move on if someone else with potential is interested and wants to be with you. If he is a good friend to you, be okay with just a friendship. At least he wants that. There are a lot more people that will be just as amazing as he is, if not more. You just have to be patient. You'll know when you have truly fallen in love too. That's when things get complicated. It will go back and fourth where you think you're over him, then you realize your not. Just know you'll be okay. :-D Good luck and I hope I helped!
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Sorry this is long but please help me.
Well yesterday in school I told my one teacher i was going to my locker and went to another one of my friend's classes where the teacher doesn't care whos there. But he was actually teaching for once so i started talking to a friend that was in there (during his lunch period). This guy.."Bob" was in there and I sorta liked himt then. He came over to the door where I was and gave me a big hug and I walked out into the hall and stuff with him. So we talked for a little bit and I realized I did REALLY like him. So I saw him a lot more than usual the rest of the day and he gave me about 4-5 hugs each time and had his arm around me and everything. Well he even came to my locker after school and waited to walk out with me and he was like pretty much holding me and stayed with me til i got on my bus and didn't look to happy when i was talking to another guy. But the catch is..we just started talking again yesterday. And we hadn't really talked since him and my one friend broke up. I'm just wondering do you think he likes me cause to me it sorta seems like it and I really like him. what do you think? if you dont think he likes me..can you give me an idea of whats going on?
Thanks
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It definitely sounds like he likes you! Good luck! :-D That's exciting. I hope he doesn't get jealous of the other guy. Make sure he knows the situation...and if he starts holding your hand, you'll definitely know it. I hope he does! :-D
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I recently went out with a guyfriend of mine, we really like eachother but we dont live close (an hour away). Anyway i decided that i didnt want my first real boyfriend to live so far away that it was like not having one at all. He said he agreed and it was just badtiming and that it would work out later. So when we were going out he told me he loved and he always told me how beautiful i was and he would make all these crazy promises to take me around the world and take me to my favorite bands concerts etc. soo, now that we are just friends again it feels like we still go out a little, he still tells me how beautiful i am, that he loves me, and still is telling me all these crazy plans for us when were older, and i think that because he still acts this way i still love him and want to be with him but we cant (were both too busy for long-distance). I also keep getting jealious of this girl Hope that hes friends with. Hope is all preppy and pretty and well annoying but he talks to her like everyday for 5 hours and he tells her shes pretty too and on his profile its says "Hope is soo cool i love her". And its making everything soo complicated, i tried to tell him that it was bothering me but he doesnt understand that im jealious and hate her because it feels like im being replaced. Ok sooo sorry its so long but i really just need advice on this thing, a new perspective my friends just tell me to move on and that hes not worth even being friends with but i really think that i love him and i DONT want to see him with anyother girl but me. (i know that sounds soo selfish and mean but i cant help it) Help please i rate 5's!!!! (link)
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I think you need to tell him the complete and honest truth about how you feel. I was in a long distance relationship for 8 months. That guy is still amazing to me. We are amazing friends today. I feel the same way about him. I got into another relationship a few months after me and *J* broke up because I thought he was over me. Later, I found out his feelings were still there, but we just can't do anything about it right now cause of where we live. He lives a little over an hour away. We may or may not go to college near each other next year, but we still try to see each other when we can. He knows he means the world to me. If your guy is willing to take the chance, I would say go for it because if he is worth it, it is worth a learning experience. I wouldn't change anything. I know how you feel about the other girl thing. I feel that way right now cause the guy I was with was my first love/kiss, and he's the greatest guy I know as of now. So, good luck with everything!
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im in 9th grade and im not sure what i want to do in the future.. suggestions? (link)
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Well, it really depends on your hobbies. Do you like to listen to people? Do you like nature? Do you like medicine, and healing people? Do you like math or english? It really depends on what you are good at, or what you have fun doing. I like to give advice and help people figure out problems. I like to listen to people. I want to be a counseling psychologist. If you want to, you can go online and look up "career tests" or "career personality tests" and that can give you an idea of what kind of job you would be happy with. Go to www.careerkey.com and click on Your Personality on the right. That may help! Good luck!
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I am looking for a religion but I want one thats right for me. Can someone tell me every religion out there and what its about? Also for religions that require you to go to church is it possible to just stay home and do what you would at a church and still have it not be a sin? (link)
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I personally am a Christian. Not going to church isn't necessarily a sin. We are asked to encourage each other and build each other up. You can't encourage others of your faith if you don't go unless maybe you attend a Christian club at school, or organization in town such as Young Life. There is so much that comes with being a Christian. We believe in one God. That he sent his son through the virgin Mary, and that he lived a perfect life because God is perfect, and his son is perfect to set an example of how a person should live. His son lived to die so that we may be saved for our sins because we are sinful. We just strive to be Christ-like. We take communion with what is referred to as "wine" (today it is non-alcoholic or 100% grape juice, churches vary) and the "unleavened bread" bread w/ no yeast so crackers. Jesus said the bread represents his body, and the wine represents the blood he shed to die on the Cross. We believe in baptism; baptism in greek means immersion (going completely under water and back up) to represent his death and resurrection. He arose 3 days after his death and lived 40 days before going back to heaven to prove that his prophecy was true. To be saved, you must repent and be baptized, and then strive to live like Christ. We pray to God through Christ. I believe because everything in this world that he created was put together perfectly...God promises to come back someday (the rapture) when we least expect it, and then we will be judged. Those that are FAITHFUL Christians will live eternally w/ Him in heaven. Those that didn't, will be condemned. I could say more...but I'll need a response. Let me know if you have any questions. :-D I hope that gave you an idea of Christianity. Oh yeah, and God is forgiving, but it is best to ask for forgiveness of sins if you are sincere, and loves you because you are His. He created you. You can screw up endlessly but he will always love you. It doesn't mean that there won't be consequences. I would LOVE to tell you more if you are interested!
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I have a question about this boy i like. he is 17 and i am only 15. i told him i like him and he said he liked me too. he is turnkng 18 this year. everyone who knows we like eachother say they have talked to him and he is going to ask me out. the only problem is that i am rly good friends with this kid and i dont want to ruin that friendship with him. he holds my hand all the time and he said he has a surprise for me on monday. i am kind of scared and i dont know what to say if it is that he is going ask me out. i dont know what to say if he does.
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If you really like this guy, I can understand how you don't want to ruin the friendship. The only reason a friendship would be ruined is if either of you don't forgive if you end up breaking up, or you stop talking. You don't have to let that happen. Let him know your concern. But my advice is this "Life is all about risks and requires you to jump." Good luck and I hope I helped.
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I've been dating this guy for two and a half weeks. We've been close friends for a year before he asked me out. I have a pretty good idea of what I want to give him for Valentine's, but I need advice.
I'm planning on painting a guitar pic (since he plays guitar) and I'm going to paint on it "Happy Valentine's Day" and have a cool design on it. I was thinking of baking him cookies and putting them in his locker. Then last but not least, I want to get him Fall Out Boy concert tickets sicne we both love them. The tics are about twenty something dollars, and I was wondering...too much for a relationship this short? give me your opinion. if you ahve any other ideas, alterations, or suggestions they are appreciated! (link)
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I think the guitar pic and cookies are a great idea. If you don't the concert to seem like it was ALL for valentines day since you haven't been dating that long, just tell him "I LOVE Fall Out Boy...and I want you to be the one I go to the concert with" as opposed to "i bought these tickets for you. Good luck and I hope that helped. :-D
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So my girlfriend and I have been going out for about a month now (we are 16 years old). She is a very open person and shares a lot with me, but I am not so open of a person. So always complains that I am not contributing enough to the conversation when ever I talk to her. I am not sky or anything around her, I am very confortable around her. I need some advice, how is a person suppost to open up to another person? I want to, I just don't know how. :'(
PLease help.
Cya when I see ya,
Hebasquash (link)
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I love this question. If she is a girl that feels comfortable enough to talk to you about everything going in her life, and if you feel like you can trust her, start out small like you have. If there is something she mentions that you feel like you could relate to in your life now or in the past, tell her about it if you feel comfortable. Ask her a question about something you've gone through and see if she has ever experienced it. See if you can find some common ground! :-) I might can think of more later, but lemme know if this helped you any. Good luck and I hope I helped!
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I love reading romantic books. Like teen ones, that are simple but really cute. I just read guitar highway rose, and i loved it. DOes anyone know any books like that? That are romantic but easy to understand?
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If you like true stories, I would look in to Kimberly Kirbergers Teen Love series! They teach you A LOT and I loved reading them!
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ever since i started walking to school there have been these 2 girls who always say hi to me and i never really thought anything about it until one of them asked me out and at first i wanted to go out with her but then somthing inside me told me she's bad news and i dont know if it's because im neverous i dont know if it's because ive seen her smoke a few times i dont know what it is but could someone please help me i dont know what to do. (link)
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I think you were smart because you don't know her well and she smokes. You don't need to take part in that because you know how bad that can get. It's good that your conscience told you not to do that. Doesn't mean you can't be friends with her as long as she doesn't affect you by smoking and being a bad influence. You did the right thing in my opinion. Good luck and I hope I helped!
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I am a Christian and I believe in God... I love God. It's just that more and more I feel I'm drifting away from my Lord. Sometimes I'll pray and promise God I will pray more and talk to him more, but I either forget to and rarely but sometimes I will say in my head, "I need to pray," but then I don't(purposely).
Does anyone have any ideas on how to get closer to God, or ways to strengthen my relationship with the Lord? I don't want to be this way... but when it comes to praying...I just don't. Any ideas? Express your feelings! Thank you so much! (link)
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I know how you are feeling. You shouldn't make promises to God though because God knows you aren't perfect. You know you aren't perfect, and you are going to fail. God is not only your father, but he is also your friend. Would you consider someone you hardly ever talk to your friend, or would they consider you a friend? You can't be a friend to someone that you don't talk to. I mean, it's basically impossible. God wants us to talk to him. You don't have to be like "Dear Lord, thank you for this, this and this, forgive me...blah blah blah." Not everyone is comfortable with that. If setting time aside to talk to him is a problem...make it an ongoing process. Don't stop the conversation. Start the day with it, keep it going off and on through out the day when you think of something...and end it when you fall asleep. Keep your prayer an ongoing conversation with God. You know he's listening to you. Read the bible...psalms, proverbs, Romans...anything...sometimes it's hard to find the will to do that...but pray that he'll work on your heart and then you'll want to know more. That's how you grow. Maybe you can find a calender or something with a verse a day, and apply it. Good luck and I hope this helps.
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What goes lace hands,mean?
Like does it usually mean something? (link)
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When someone says were your hands laced or cupped...laced is when fingers are in between fingers when you are holding hands w/ someone. Cupped is just hand over hand when you're holding hands w/ someone. Hope that made sense! :-)
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