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there's this guy that i like how do i get him to notice me?i've tried 4 a long time.he's not that hot but he's got a great personality.he only thinks of me as just a friend.what do i do.

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in lue 4-ever

Dear luv 4-ever,
what can i say? Sum times its harder to find a guy that likes you back. How do you know for a fact that he doesnt like you?? 4 all you know he could. My advice is to just stay yourself and flirt a lil* then wen u think he is starting to like you ask him out. But remember, friendship is more important then a relationship. SO if it doesnt work out, then you know its not ment to be. Being best friends sumtimes is a greater relationship then dating. Trust me. I have a friend who found that out the hard way! But good luck!
*MElody

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ok im 16 me n my boyfriend who is 17 have been going out for just over 2 weeks now.. everytime i think about him i get sweaty palms.. and all i can do is smile.. i feel like the only thing that could hurt me is him leaving me and i get all teary just thinking about it... am i falling to hard to fast?? i really think that im falling in love with him but ive seen so many of my friends go through the same thing and get hurt so im afraid to really open up.. am i being to guarded? should i end things before it gets too serious??

KEEP HIM! i am seeing here that u really like him! and it sounds like love to me. But if u r having this many thoughts about the relationship comin to an end, then talk to him about it. But i wouldnt end it. But u r just 16 (older then me but still) so i wouldnt get to far or deep into the relationship...there is a big chance in every relationship that it'll come to an end...But GOod lUCK,
*MElodY

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i need to no how u find a boyfriend...help me asap.


thxx

ok here is sum tips:
1)BE UR SELF!
2)find a guy u truly like and it would help if they liked u to.
3)talk to a bunch of guyz till u find 1.
4)ask the guy out.
5)or find a magazine with other tips and tricks in it.

GOOD LucK!
*MElodY

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Me, and my friend have been fighting alot. Lets just say her name is ellie, well ellie and me have been best friends since the 3rd grade, so now thats about 4 years of being best friends. but now shes starting to get a little bossy, saying stuff like im getting to comfertable with her family like i dont say thank you enough. that kind of stuff tho i am fine with. but this morning she started to say that i was getting to comfertable again, and saying was acting really bitchy and all i did was i was hangin out with her brother, and her neighbor, but i was leaving her out. But besides this morning shes been fighti with me over a lotta little thing, and im starting to get really stressed out. i dont kno wut to do anymore. PLZ PLZ PLZ HELP ME. should i break the friendship, or try to work with it. im starting to feel like i cant breathe.

well i think what you need to work it out. Uve been friends to long to ruin a great friendship. SO i think wat you need to do is talk to her. Maybe there is supthin goin on that you dont understand. Just dont jump to conclutions. u never know whats happinin in her life. I think maybe u need to have a conversation and straighten everything out with her. Good Luck
*MelodY

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I just called my boyfriend and he's moving! I know I'm only 11 but I really like him. I've known him for a while and we just started going out a few months ago. We're not breaking up but I don't know. Will the relationship work out? He's got my # and he said he'd call me that way I can get his number when he moves. I know I could write him and maybe, if my parents would let me, visit him in the summer. But what do you guys think?

well sweetie, usually long distance relationships dont work out. SOrry. But if u really love him then maybe itll work out. Good Luck
*MElody
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Okay.. well Ive been with my boyfriend for 16 months (on wednesday) Anyways.. he got drunk last night and cheated on me with his ex.. and he said that he didnt even mean to, he was just drunk.. and that he loved me he just wanted to take a break.. and he came back online, and we were talking.. and it was like.. we were still together.. i mean he still called me "babygirl" and said I love you when he had to leave.. what should i do? :/ Thanks!~

well i think u need to sit him down and give him a talk about gettin drunk!and tell him next time it happens that u guyz are over 4 good. then ask him wat he meant by "takin a break." Good Luck
*MElody

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I have the worst habit of falling for guys really easy just as long as they're cute and nice. I have the tendancy to not only fall for them but to also obsess over them (read their online journals, get involved with their social life, etc) even when they've never met me before. Also, if I find out that a guy likes me, then I usually fall for him too. It's really annoying. How do I get over this stupid obsession of boys?

dont worry i do to! lol* wellz i dont know wat to tell ya. But try looking past that. And gt to know them dont obsess over them. U cant help who u like just try to find other qualities in a guy!
*Melody

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Ok...So I know this kid...and well i see him a lot...and i've grown to love him...a lot!..is it right for me to do this? and also...he told my friends to ask me if i liked him...so what is that supposed to mean? does he like me back?

*signed* Confused and Questioning

of course its right! if he wants to know if u like him it can meandifferent things.
1.)he could just want to know
2.)he might like u!
3.)he may have heard sum1 say u like him
but good luck!
*melody

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if you stop eating what happens do you gain weight are lose it i need to know this stuff!?!?!?!

well i reallly dont know, but, i do know if u stop eating than u will get sick so i wouldnt try it!.
Melody

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hi..i got a bf but he got another gurl friend what should i do? i wana break up with him and hope he could accept it easily.what should i say to him? even i wana break up,but i still wana be friend with him forever

just easily tell him that u wanna break up cuz u feel ur friendship was stronger wen u were just friends. Its that easy.~Melody
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ok well my brother is 15 and he just moved to our house from his dads. My best friend is not allowed to come over because my mom is worried they are going to do stuff (if ya kno wat i mean) anywayz she is 13 and brother wouldnt do that. wat should i do?!? thanx 4 the help!!

xoxo,
me

talk to ur mom. Tell her u will be with ur friend at all times and then sit her down with ur brother and let him tell her that he wouldnt do sumthing like that. Im not saying this will work, cuz my mom is the same but hey, its worth a shot! good luck!
*Melody

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i have these 2 friends one of them (we'll call her trina) is VERRRRRRRY BOSSY the other (we'll call her haley) does every thing trina says it started bugging me so i told haley why do you let trina boss you around. she said i don't let her boss me around. so finally she told trina about what i had said so then trina was mad at me so i said (she started it cuz she was being mean to me) what happened to your lackey and she started saying stuff like she's not my lackey etc. the next day i won highest GPA in 5th grade (im only 11) and they got even more jealous so now i haven't called them and they haven't talked to me. but haley sent me an e-mail saying YOU ARE WEIRD(about seven times) and the bottom line said YOU ARE REALLY WEIRD. so i forwarded back to her. what do i do. and is you took the time to read this THANKS if you will please rate me too my name is coolgirl57 (you don't have to rate me)

listen sweetie. sum ppl are just like that. U know braty and immature. id say find new friends that wont treat u like crap. Its not ur fault ur smart! them bn jealous over supthin like that is just stupid! congrads on ur gpa by the way. Ne way, if u still want to be there friends then id say talk to them and tell them that ur sorry but u thik that trina is to bossy and that haley needs to kinda stop followin orders from her. I know how u feel but just kinda work through this together. Good Luck
*Melody

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Ok, I think i have an eating problem but i`m not sure. I have a tremendouse fear of gaining weight and i honestly can`t help it. I`m starting modeling soon and so I feel like I HAVE to look thin. I`m not eating period and my friend`s are starting to notice so when they make me eat I throw it up. My boyfriend says he`ll quit doing drug`s if i start eating again wich mean`s the world to me but everytime i start eating again I start crying in fear of gaining weight and throw it up then feel terrible. I don`t think i have an "eating disorder" but it`s kind of hard to tell when all of your friend`s are "concerened" that your loosing weight and your starting to look "sick". They say i`m starting to look to skinny, I have bag`s under my eye`s, and i`m getting pale. I can`t eat properly it`s just to hard. I`ve been extreamly depressed latley. Do I have an eating disorer? Someone help me please !!

Signed
A cry for help

well, im no doctor but if u ask me u have an eating disorder. SOunds to me that if u start eating healthy then u'd be killing to birds with 1 stone. I know its not that easy. So if u ask me u need to talk to sum1 u trust and get help. I think that u should 1st try on ur own, by eating healthy and then exercise. RUn a mile, ride a bicycle, or nething. Its ok to be concerned with ur weight. I completly understand that. But u need to control ur weight, dont let it control u. THis is a serious problem that can end up with u dead or in a hospitol. If u feel that ur problem is that uncontrolable than u do need help!
*meldoy

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there is this guy thats been my friend since like, kindergarten. he keeps asking me out but i dont like him like that and i dont wanna hurt his feelings!! i have told him this a million times that i dont want to hurt his feelings and taht i dont like him like that but he just wants to kno why!! and its making me mad!! what do i do? --Chels

tell him why. its simple. He just wants a reasonable answer so just tell him the truth. He should understand

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i have a best friend and i love her so much as a friend that i call her my sis and i always have to talk to her like every hour and always be around her! i think im obsessed about our friendship and ive tried everything to stop being so obsessed over a friendship by trying to call her less and stop having her spend the night all the time and trying to not be around her everywhere she walks but its really really hard and it doesnt work! WHAt CaN i dO? Please help me asAp!... and thanks you!!

well i have a bestfriend that i feel the exact same way about her but you can kill her with too much kindness so try to give her some room but you can still be super tight like you always are
maybe you should try a couple days away and see how you feel.
goodluck!
melody's lil cuz'
lori

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me and my brother are always arguing and i hate it. he always calls me names and im older wot can i do

talk to ur parents about it. See if that helps. IF not talk to him. If that doesnt help than just steer clear.
Good Luck
*Melody

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okay i have this neighbor ill call him bob n his best friend who ill call fred last year bob n i had this thing but now its over -or at least it is with him i know how i feel i know it sounds really immature but i love him. well anyway fred has asked me out and i dont know what to tell him . hes really sweet nice n kinda cute but im in lovw with his beast friend. what can i do

Tell "fred" the truth. Tell him u stil have feelings for "bob" If he really likes u than he will give u time to make ur own decision. ANd im sure it'l be the right 1. GOod luck
*melody

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ok so i have a bf and one of our friends is having this party. he will be there and so will some of my friends that have never met him be4. i really dont want them to meet him becuz:
1) if they think hes hot theyll b all over him
2) if they think hes ugly later they wont shut up
3) either way they will be really annoying and say stuff to him that i wouldnt want them to
i already talked to them they dont care they said i need to calm down etc.

well listen to ur friends! calm down! lol* if they think ur boyfriend is hot then they think he is hot.if He is true to u than it shouldnt matter. If they think he is ugly they think he is ugly. Its there oppinion not yours. If u love him as much as u think u do, than it shouldnt matter.\Good Luck
*MElody

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hey i was just wondering do guys prefer straight hair or do they like curly/wavy hair? also which one do u think is "in".

thxxxxxx

well to me which ever 1 u like. THey are both pretty. Find 1 that u like best and looks best on you. Guyz dont care if ur hair is curlly or wavy, sadly, they care about ur prettiness. GOod Luck!

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this may seem shallow but, why are all the young teenagers(generally below 15) OBSESSED with the fag rock bands, like GC, and simple plan, and that crap?

well i am 13. And i love G.C and simple plan! and they arent wat u say they are. Listen older teens and younger teens have different taste in everything. Just accept the younger teens music, becuz 1 person isnt gonna change thousands of young ppl's music taste!
*melody

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