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Q: Hey there. Okay, I've been on birth control (Tri-Cyclen) for a week now ... and about 4 days into it I started getting cramps, and having diarrea. It continued like that for 2 days. I also have to pee like, every 15 minutes. lol. Is this normal, or should I talk to my doctor about it.
it could be normal because the pill can cause some crazy side effects while your body gets used to it. I never had problems with it but my friend had really bad stomach problems from the same brand. So it varies from person to person. if it doesn't get better soon, talk to your doctor. when she hears your symptoms she'll probably have a better idea of what kind of pill to put you on that will sit better with you.

Q: OK, the othere day I went to the doctors and the doctor told me this scale on puberty. 5 being you have gotten your period and stuff like that. Well, my friends mom told me mom my friend was a 5. And the other day we got in a fight and my friend was really frusterated. My friends mom told me, my friend, and another friend, you get really frusterated during your period. Do you think my friend got her period? PLese help! Oh yea, she has been in a really bad mood lately.
she could have... being moody is certainly a sign that it is at least coming. so if she hasnt yet, she probably will soon. but she could also be in a bad mood for other reasons. you could always talk to her about it. just be understanding for her, cuz that can be a difficult time!

Q: Does anyone know of any side effects of the Birth Control Patch? The pill makes me sick, the shot made me gain 50 pounds and took away the urge, and I really want something that is low maintenance.
i've never used the patch, but my friend has it and she didnt have any side effects. the ones the doctor told her about though were similar to the pill.
maybe your doctor could try to prescribe a different pill for you. my friend and i were both on the same one and i had no side effects, but it made her really sick to her stomach so she tried about 3 different types until she found one that worked for her.
good luck!

Q: hi, does anyone know i good shoe to wear for tennis? i bought some wilson brand tennis shoes and you'd think they would be good but they leave white marks on the courts and when i run fast to get a ball and stop my foot goes foward and my toes get squished and now my two big toenails are killing me from playing 7 hours of tennis today! please help i dont want this to happen again-i have tennis tomorrow! my feet are in so much pain!
I used to play tennis and I always wore regular cross trainers like adidas or new balance. make sure they're not too tight...maybe ask the salesperson for a shoe that won't let your foot slide forward and hit your toes. it shouldn't matter if they're not "tennis" shoes, as long as they're comfortable for you to play in!

Q: the only way i can get a cell phone is if i pay for it, and i was just wondering how many ppl felt that it would be worth it?
it depends on what you would be using it for. most plans have lots of minutes and the lowest priced plans range from $30-$50 a month. so you would have to decide if you will have that much money to part with every month, and if you are going to use up most of the minutes in the plan. i think it also depends on how old you are. if you're old enough to drive and are out alot then you would probably use it more than if you are just at your house.
maybe you should look into those track phone things. im not sure how it works but they let you buy minutes instead of paying per month.
but anyway its worth it if you plan to use it and are willing to pay for it!

Q: Okay here's my problem!I liked this guy here and there on and off. There's no doubt that there isn't any attaction cause people see it all the time. When we go out in public, people think we are a couple. I told him how I really felt about him (though we are like best friends) he said he only likes me as a friend, and that he's sorry he can't return the same feelings. But he also like one of my friends and out of the kindness of my heart, I hook them up... but she's jux like me, and we are also cool. I'm not jealous (yet) or anything like that cause me and him still flirt the same way we do, and we are still good friends. So I dunno what to do, still like him or move on? I dunno how to feel or what to think? Any advice? Plz help! Thankz a munches!
first of all congrats to you for actually telling him how you feel! i only wish i had the guts to do that...lol. but that is the best way to go about these situations because you can actually get things out in the open insted of wondering "what if".
anyway, since you did tell him and he says he only wants to be friends, then that's probably as far as it will go right now. do your best to move on. its awesome that you guys are still good friends, so you dont want any jealousy to hurt that friendship. maybe he has some friends he can fix you up with! and hey, you never know..maybe sometime down the road he will like you as more than a friend!

Q: hey i was wondering if neone knew of ne good at home exercises 2 lose weight fast that works manly ur legs and stomach and some arms and some diets 2 go on ??? thanks
try some workout videos. they're great because you can do it whenever you feel like it and you have more privacy than at a gym. tae-bo is a fantastic workout and works all those areas. also, there are these walk videos by leslie sansone that are awesome workouts too!

Q: okay - i know HOW to lose weight but i have no willpower and a major sweet tooth lol ne advice on how to stop snacking??
ahh i have the same problem! my worst time is at night when im watching tv so instead of cookies or something, i have a cup of dry cereal to munch on...something sweet like apple cinnamon cheerios or frosted mini wheats. these cereals are pretty good for you and satisfy the sweet/crunchy craving. but you could even try the not-so-healthy cereals because even that would be better than candy or whatever. but i think if you're having a big craving, try to have something to satisfy it instead of ignoring it...it will keep getting worse and then you might end up bingeing. or have some chocolate milk--made with skim milk and fat free syrup. it will satisfy your sweet tooth and give you calcium!

Q: ok well 3 weeks ago this realllly hot guy *tai* came came over and hes a senior & im a sophomore. well hes the guy that every girl wants bc hes funny and freakin soo hot its unbelieveable. but so he came over & we had un protected sex and idk i was 2 weeks late for my period then i had it. but i heard that u can be pregnant & still have ur period. the only reason im sooo worried is bc i had been pregnant before (but had a misscarriage) and i had the same feeling that i was like before. im so scared cuz i mean im only 15 and i cant be pregnant again. wut do u think i do???

you should probably get a pregnancy test just to be sure. it may have been your period...or you may have just been spotting, which can happen when you're pregnant. so if you want to be 100% sure then take a test! if it's positive then you go from there..but dont freak out till you know for sure.

Q: My friend always says that i am acting differently around these other girls that i act around her. but she cant give me ANY examples of how i am being like that! i just dont understand! she gives me this whole speech about how i should be the same around everyone and be yourself...but i have no clue what she is talkin about!
once i felt like my friend was acting differently around her boyfriend....and i felt like i could see it plain as day and it was so obvious. yet everytime i tried to come up with a concrete example, i drew a blank. maybe your friend isnt seeing specific things, but just feels that something isnt right. if she knows you really well, its easier to see if you're acting even a little different. maybe next time you are around the other girls, try to look at yourself from the outside and see if you are acting any different. if you still dont see where she is coming from, sit down and have a heart to heart with your friend about it. maybe she is just jealous that you are hanging out with other people. anyway, try talking to her about it and see what happens!

Q: on my friend Greg's LJ it has this little paddlelock on the top of his past couple entries. What does that mean. In the entries from like a month ago don't have them and he said something about making his journal friends only so is that why that paddlelock is there
the padlock means that the security level on the entry is friends only. since you are obv. on his friends list, you can see the padlock and the entry. if someone isnt' on his list they would not be able to see his entry at all. so basically if he's making his journal friends only, you just have to make sure you log in every time before reading it!

Q: Ok well i been wid mybf for over 9 months and i have been thinkin bout"IT" lol well i wanted to wait till i was like 16 but i dont think im gunna b able to wait that long cuz im 13 now turnin 14 next month but i feel im conforablen stuff n im almost definately positive my bf iz!! lol so my questions iz do u think i should or do u think im to young?!?!?!?! plz help!! thanx



~*~ Should I?!?!? ~*~

im assuming you're asking about sex. and i'm sorry but if you can't say the word, chances are you're nowhere near ready to be having it. 13 is so so young, and sex brings about a whole world of risks and responsibilities that you shouldnt have to deal with yet. honestly, if you're questioning if you're ready then i'd say no you're not. no one can tell you when to have sex. its a decision that's purely up to you. please just think about all the possible consequences before you make any decisions in the heat of the moment. i know you may think nothing bad can happen, but just seriously think about it.

Q: so last week I was at camp and this guy and I got to be pretty good friends. We exchanged CDs back and forth all week. He lent me some Grateful Dead that I absolutely loved. However, I don't know much about the album excepting that it was by the Grateful Dead and it was live. It had Sittin' in Limbo on it. If anyone knows any album that fits this description I'd be really grateful (muah ha ha) because I really enjoyed the Dead.
try going to cdnow.com and checking out some of their cds on there. it will show you the cover (in case you remember what it looks like) and they usually list all the tracks on the cd. then you can see if any of the other songs sound familiar, or at the very least you can find one with that song on it!

Q: i want a new layout on my livejournal can anyone help me who is really good at it???
hey. im not really sure what you're looking for but if you go to manage and then customize you can change the layout style. and then click on "edit customizations" and that will let you change all the different colors and backgrounds and stuff. just click the override default buttons and the rest is pretty easy. let me know if you still need help!

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