i have lived through just about anything you can imagine.. so let me help you out with ANY topic. nothing is too extreme! i'm 18 and majoring in psychology at college. i know this stuff.
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F/15 I think I am suffering from depression, Im not talking about "I not myself today" kind of sad, but I have felt like this for a long time. I feel abbandoned and angry at myself for being a failure. I feel like everyone who I was ever close to has left me and I have no one to talk to. All of my close friends are gone and I only have a few friends that i really dont know that well. I having a hard time dealing with the deaths of several classmates and I have been thinking about death alot lately, I want to see a therapist or a doctor, but I am terriffied to talk to my parents...they see me as perfect because I am the oldest and they have such high expectations for me. How can I talk to my parents about recieving treatment?
-Scared and Alone (link)
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it's ok to need help!! this is something someone on this site can't help you with. i definitely think you should see a psychologist... if it's really hard to talk to your parents about it, try going to a school counselor or a trusted teacher first.. sometimes another adult can approach parents easier than the teen. whatever you do, please get help soon... good luck and smile...
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my friend has problems at home she needs to get out because shes being treated bad because of an ex boyfriend whatare the consencuences if she leaves to my house with the policies
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i have a sister who moved out so i've got some experience on this one.. first though i'd have to know how old she is. if she is 16 or younger she is still a minor and her parents can legally get custody of her back. meaning the police could come and bring her back home. if she is 17 she can legally move out, but her parents do have some rights still. they still must sign as guardians for everything, have rights to any bank account she may have, and have control of her driver's license in most states. over 18 of course, she's an adult.
it would also be interesting to know what being treated badly means? i stuck through a lot of crap at my house and i'm glad i did. it breaks up families to move out, and she may end up regretting it. teens and parents aren't supposed to get along... they are so different. she could also just try talking to her parents about what she dislikes about their treatment of her or even hit up a counselor.
good luck with the whole situation!
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ok i really like this guy and he always is being sweet and stuff and always asks to play the question game so he can ask me questions and i have to answer them too and he tells me i am so gorgeous and he is just ginuinly the nicest guy i have ever met and hes cute... and i know hes not just using me for sex and stuff because he believes in abstinance but eh only catch to him is that he has a girl friend but he like asks me questions that you dotn ask a girl you dotn really ike and stuff and so i play along is that wrong... and should i wait for them to break up... pleas help if youcan
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my advice is to be careful with this one... there is nothing wrong with hanging out with him, but imagine him as your boyfriend for a sec. would you want a boyfriend of yours talking to another girl in the way he is to you? he could be honestly into you, but he is doing this while he has a girlfriend. if they break up, go for it if you think there's potential for a relationship. good luck!
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well, here's the deal. I really like this guy, like alot! he's so perfect in almost every way. I guess you could kind of say that we're together, but nothings official. I want to be with him so bad, but theres a porblem... my best friend is his little sister. he's a junior, and i'm a freshman and his sister's a sophomore. you'd think that they'd be really close, but they're not, not at all. she's my best friend, so i've told her all about her brother and i. She made it really clear that we should not be together. She doesn't even think that he would ever want to be with me because I'm a freshman. when she first told me all of this i promised that it was just a crush, and that i would never date him, because i knew she was against it. but at that time i never thought any thing would really happen between us. now things are starting to happen and i really want then to happen. i can't help how i feel, and her reasoning for not wanting us to be together seem pretty stupid. but at the same time, she is my best friend and hopefully always will be. I think going out with her brother would hurtour friend ship, but i don't want to give up this opportunity with the perfect guy. i need help!!! what should i do? (link)
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i think you should go with your heart. remember that a true friend will be happy for you when you find a great guy. if she knew something about her brother that could hurt you then it'd be different, but if she has no solid reason, i think you should go for it. talk to her about it, and tell her that you don't want it to hurt your friendship. do what makes you happy!
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The very first time my boyfriend and I said "I love you" to each other was about two weeks ago. He said it first. Now though, I always say it first. He never tells me he loves me unless I say it to him. So what's wrong? Does he regret saying it? Is he just shy? What can I do to make him say it first? (link)
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being a psychology major in college, i recently studied personality types and relationships... him not telling you does NOT mean anything is wrong. it's completely normal. guys are different from girls. girls need to hear that they are loved every day all the time.. guys function differently. to guys, if they don't say something bad to you then they really do like you. i have been with my boyfriend for about a year and he still doesn't always tell me he loves me first... try mentioning to him that it means a lot to hear that he loves you. just don't be too pushy. most of all it's true that actions speak louder than words so if he's treating you great.. you'll know he loves you.
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What are some tips on backwalkovers gymnastics tryouts are coming soon and i need to be able to do something Pretty much how do you do a backwalkover (link)
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first of all...do not try it from standing position right away!! you will probably just collapse backwards and get hurt. ouch! lol...
good news.. they aren't hard to learn. first start by stretching well then lay on your back and go up into a bridge. push your back up hard and stretch like that for a minute.. do it a few times. as that gets easier start walking your hands towards each other and stretching your back even more.
next step is to go into a bridge and lift one leg up while still pushing up.. it takes balance but it will do the stretch you need to get over.
after a few days of that stretching try going up into a bridge with your leg up... walk your hands as close to your feet as possible then use your abs to pull yourself over... after you can kick over from the ground confidently then try it standing up
stand with your feet further apart at first then do a backbend and use the kicking you practiced right away. it'll seem awkward at first but it'll get smoother.
**get better faster tip... do lower ab crunches. most of a walkover is in the abs. lay on your stomach, cross your legs and hold them straight in the air then stay flat on your back and use your abs to lift your legs... this gets your lower abs**
good luck with the backwalkover and your tryouts!!!
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Some background:
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and a half. We've been together since I was in 8th grade and I am now a sophmore in highschool. Unfortunately we don't go to the same school, so I see him once a week or twice a week if I'm lucky.
I have been friends with this boy for a few years, we dated when I was in 7th grade so it was hardly a relationship. But me and this boy have always remained very close friends even before my boyfriend and I met. He as well does not got to my school.
Friday night (The 11th) I was hanging out with him and a friend of mine at my friend's house. For some reason I ended up kissing this boy. To be honest I still can't figure out why I did it. I felt guilty about it after it happened and the guilt was eating me up inside. I saw my boyfriend the day after and I didn't tell him because I was too scared of what he would think, do or say.
The next day (Sunday) I told him what happened. He got really upset which I already knew would happen. I apologized a million times over and I promised him it would never happen again. I screwed up, I know that, believe me I know I screwed up.
We didn't talk up until late yesterday night and he told me that he'd give me another chance. However he said he's not sure if it's going to work because he doesn't know if he'll be able to trust me again. I know I don't deserve this second chance, but I am so greatful for it.
So my question is, what specific things can I do to regain his trust? Again, I know I screwed up really bad and I feel awful about the whole thing and I wish I could just take it back. I want to regain his trust and try to make things as close to "right" as it can be. But I don't know how I'm going to go about that.
He said to me that he's not sure if he'd be able to kiss me without being able to think about what I did.
I told him that if he wanted me to that I wouldn't talk to this kid ever again. What should I do? I don't want to end our year and a half relationship...
By the way, this is the FIRST AND LAST time I have and will EVER do something like that again. Please help me.. (link)
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first know that people make mistakes and you admitting to your mistake is awesome! i cheated on my current boyfriend after dating only 3 months and i also felt just how you're feeling afterwards. my boyfriend also gave me a second chance and we've been together eight more months since then, so it can work!
you definitely have it going for you that you've been with him for so long. that gives you a good base because you two obviously have something special.
know that he will definitely not trust you for a while, and you have to be ok with that. he might ask you tons of things when you aren't together, but just answer them. it will help him if you always tell him when you're going to hang out with other people and exactly what you'll be doing.
as frustrating as it will be, it will mostly just take some time. don't be too pushy with him, but let him know that you truly do love him. i know it can work out.. i've been there
so best of luck with your boyfriend!!! i hope it all works out!
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My boyfriend had some acne problems at the beginning of the year, like most 16 year old guys do, but then he started to take some medicine for it. It's starting to look 100% better already! Is it wrong for me to comment that it's looking better? would it offend him? (link)
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definitely tell him you think he looks better. guys are like girls in this one case... they need to hear they look good just like us girls like to hear that we look cute... good thought!
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I want to download limewire because I've heard you can get free downloadable music from it.. but I don't know if it's safe, and I don't know if I'll get in trouble with the law or anything for using it. Does anyone have any experience with it or any advice whether to download it or to not? (link)
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i would highly recommend NEVER getting limewire. my computer is currently having a new hardrive put in because i got a virus from it. even if you have a virus blocker it won't matter, because you allow files through so you are saying ok to any file good or bad. the computer people who are fixing my computer told me i shouldn't put it back on once it's fixed. you may never have a problem, but if you do, it won't be good.
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does smirnoff taste better than beer? what about tequila? (link)
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yes, smirnoff is better than beer. beer will get you drunk faster. tequila is gross and you'll get a stomach ache. my favorite are raspberry smirnoff's. they taste great so you can drink them all night long. if you do go for beer, keg beer is the best, and all beer is something you just get used to.
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Hey! Me and my ex boyfriend of 2 years broke up about 1 month ago. And since then I have moved on to sometime else that is wayy better for me. But I feel like something is holding me back from loving him. Could this be because I sill am not over my ex boyfriend? What should I do?? Thanks for the advice (link)
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i think you answered this yourself, but i understand needing some reassurance. like you said, you found someone who is way better for you. that's great! of course, it's totally normal to be missing your ex. you were with him for two years, and that is a long time. i would work slowly into this new relationship, but definitely go for it. eventually, you will be over your ex and having a great time with the new guy in your life.
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I don't know exactly is going on. I'm definatly overwhelmed.
First of all, I'm (female) 16.. he's 15. We've been going out for almost a month and a half. When we first started going out, it was kind of rocky. I felt neglected, but he did change after a week of dating. Then when it seemed like things were seriously turning around.. he gets kicked out of his house. Now he lives across the state. His phone got turned off and I haven't seen him since he moved unannounced.
So I can't see, hear, or touch him. So I'm basically going out with thin air, and I'm MISERABLE. Sure we IM eachother just about every day.. but that is pathetic. He is worth my time, but I don't know if I can manage dating someone who is slowly becoming a stranger to me. He like me a lot more than I like him.. and the move devastated him.
I'm not sure how he'll take it if I do break up with him. If I do break up with him.. it will be to his face. I have enough respect for him to do that to his face. He might be around town this weekend. =|
I do like him, he likes me back. He treats me well, and sometimes it seems like we're made for eachother. He MIGHT move back, but I don't know. I hate this so much!
I guess my question is, should I end it.. or stick it out? (link)
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long distances will either make or break a relationship. i know it's hard to be apart from someone you care about, but you also need to be happy in a relationship. talk openly with him about how hard it is for you to have so much distance between you. you're right... talking online is not at all the same as holding someone or seeing their face. it may hurt at first to break it off, but it's always best to do what makes you happy even if it's hard. good luck with it all!
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I have this boyfriend and we've been in a relationship for a year and I'm currently six months pregnant. The problem is that I'm starting to get kind of tired of his ways and his situation. He have this bestfriend, and recently he and his girlfriend is always over my boyfriend house and that is starting to get on my nerves because I really don't like them. It's times that I might want to go somewhere and my boyfriend acts like he don't want to take me but when one of his friends asks, it seems like he always could find a way to take them to where they got to go. I just don't feel comfortable at his house anymore because his best friend and his girlfriend is always there. I feel like I can't even spend time with him anymore because I don't want to be around them. He always want me to come over but he knows how I feel about them being there and he never say anything about it. Another thing is that he always dis me to play the game. He is a grown ass man and if he always have to hang up the phone with me to play a game then he needs to grow up cause I barely talk to him. A part of me is getting kind of tired of this, but it's hard because I'm pregnant with his child. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT I SHOULD DO!!!!!!! (link)
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first of all, if you're not happy with him don't stay with him only because of the child. i admire you wanting to set up a mom, dad, kid environment, but no one will benefit from it if you aren't happy.
your other option could be to try talking to his friend and the girlfriend. why don't you like them? is it something they can change? if so, try talking to them.
above all, choose what is best for YOU... you are pregnant so you need to take care of yourself and make yourself happy. many women make it being a single mom, and i'm sure you can find someone else to love you down the road
good luck!!
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I'm about to turn 21, and I've been with my first and only boyfriend for about a year and a half. He adores me and I believe that if we were to stay together he would love me until he dies. Unfortunately, I am not so secure in my feelings.
There are some down sides to the relationship:
A) I am a dedicated student while he seems to have little ambition. He dropped out of college and works at a fast food place.
B)Because I'm in college we are living in two different cities.
C) He is extremely insecure. He gets unreasonably angry with me when he knows I've spoken to another guy. He has also told me that if we ever break up he would be too upset to want to get back together.
D) Because I haven't had a previous relationship, I often have doubts. I'm not unhappy in the relationship, but sometimes I wonder if there is a better match for me.
Should I end a relationship I am comfortable with for the possibility of one that is 'ideal' for me? (link)
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wow, your situation is quite similar to my own. i am also in college dating a guy not in school and living about 3 hours apart. when i first came to school, we actually took a "break" for a couple weeks while i sorted out those feelings. my advice would be to not do that. it complicates things and makes it hard to trust your feelings even more. i think it's great that you haven't been in other relationships. sometimes those can complicate a current relationship. sure, it's completely normal to wonder "what if" but i wouldn't act on. if you're already completely happy with the relationship you have don't give it up. good luck with it all...
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Well I've been dating this guy for almost 9months and he still doesn't trust me! I've never cheated on him or gave him a right to not trust me,I just lost my viginity to him and he lost his to me..and he told me he trusted me 200%. Then this guy friend of mine wrote me a note, and he was like let me read it and I was like why dont you trust me cuz I had told him what it said ...he says he trusts me but apparently not if he has to read the note...now he's telling me that the guy was hitting on me and stuff but all he asked was why we don't hang out anymore because we were friends way before I started dating my bf. How can I get him to trust me like I trust him??? (link)
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if you have nothing to hide, just let him read the note. yes, he should just trust you, but put yourself in his place. if you saw some girl pass him a note that he wouldn't let you read, i'm sure you'd be very curious as to seeing exactly what it said. it's a simple fix.
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this will be very long. so please just read it and help me ok? good?
well it all started back in well like april. i met my best friend's cousin and i had a crush on him. but the summer before that he was forced to move out of state to live with his dad. so i mean i liked him but i didnt see anything coming out of it. then that july he came back for the summer. and on my best friend's birthday me her and him went bowling. that was fun but to the bathroom and they set me up! when i came back he "got up to go get a drink" and she told me that he liked me and wanted to know if i liked him... so i was like heck yah i do! well since we were having so much fun we all spend the night at my friend's house (her, him and me) and she went to bed at like 2 AM and me and him stayed up late and well we started kissing and stuff and all we did was kiss but i really liked him and the next week he had to leave for his dads and the summer was over. we talked on the phone for a while back and forth but becuz he hates it down there he makes himself really busy so that he never has to be at the house. but before he left on the day he was leaving i took this rubber band of his hand and was popping him with it. when he was leaving i tried to give it back to him but he told me to keep it. so i did and then later when we talked on the phone we made a bet. that i could/couldnt keep up with it until he came back for christmas. and me being me said "i need a bf" and he siad "well if/when i get to move back there you'll have one" i was like yay! but the thing is i am not good with waiting. so i have a bf now and all that. and i love my bf and wouldnt dump him for her cousin. so when he comes back for christmas (in about 2 weeks) what do i do???? do i give him that rubber band back? (yes i still have it) can me and him be friends without the akwardness? i want to be friends do you think he will? i am in love with my bf but i still have a thing for this other guy. i will not let myself lose my bf. but well advice please! (link)
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this is a tough situation, but i think you definitely need to give him his rubber band back. i also think you should just tell him that you have a boyfriend already. don't continue to lead him on. if you want to be friends with him, i'd say go for it, but be careful. if you are attracted to him still don't hang out one on one with him even if you tell yourself you're "just friends" bad things could happen even if you don't want them to. good luck.
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Which of these boys should I ask to my winter formal? I go to an all girls school, so for the winter formal, all the girls have to ask the guys. Vote who you think I should ask:
guy 1: Pretty much my best guyfriend. Hang out with often. Am comfortable with. Nice, friendly, social, and a bit geeky. He's a dork. Mama's boy. Boy next door. Not a great dancer. Haha. Currently has a crush on me that I just found out about from my friend.
guy 2: Older than me by two grades. Friendly, but speaks really quietly. Has recently asked me out to see a show with him but I couldn't go. A bit boring to talk to on the phone. Sweet and laid back. Can actually dance. Never hang out with him in person.
guy 3: My personal crush. Asked him to formal last year and got turned down b/c he didn't know me that well. He now knows me better this year. Funniest guy I know. Always makes me laugh. Sweet and friendly and social. A nerd. But still social and outgoing. My friend thinks he has a crush on me because of the attention he gives me when I'm around. But I don't think so. He doesn't really like to dance. Smart. There's another girl who really likes him. I want to choke her. Well. Not really. Okay, yeah I do.
So give me feedback! WHICH ONE? (link)
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i would definitely go with guy 3! the first line says it all... he's your personal crush. he's the guy you want to get to know. it's obvious you like hanging around him and talking to him. if he's funny then being able to dance isn't going to be a big deal, because you'll be entertained anyway. so don't be shy.. go ask him! before that other girl does
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