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ok well during school i see some of my friends fingers and they have very thin, elegant fingers
on the otherhand.... my fingers are a somewhat wider than normal. If it helps, i'm a tall, skinny person and I play volleyball. could this be the reason?
what are some tips or advice on how to make my fingers look skinnier?
thx (link)
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Dear fat fingers,
Your fingers are like that because that't the way you turned out no worries i have pudgy fingers too but i think them out by wearing rings i don't wear that many but i have about two on each hand and i wear bracelets that dangle a little because it also helps distract the person from your fingers and to your wrists.
-Beanie
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So, i was the rebound girl for this boy, and he left me for a girl and now he has a girlfriend...and i still like him. How do i get him to know i still like him and that things can be different between us (link)
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Dear Rebound Girl,
Pull him aside one day and tell him how you feel yes it's very hard to do but once you get started it gets easier. And things may be different between you guys or it may not, and if worse comes to worse you'll just be friends.
-Beanie
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wherever i am i'm always cold!!! its mostly my hands that are cold. so my question is how can i get warm without having to overdress, and wear gloves inside????
signed
cold (link)
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Dear Cold,
wear i nice hoody or somthing nice and warm with pockets that you can just slide your hands into it's casual and not overdressing.
-Beanie
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I like this one guy in my school... he's really athletic, nice, and funny. but heres the thing... i've liked him for about a year and a half and i'm so confused on if i like him or not!
sometimes he's really shy and other times he's just his normal self around his friends. He hangs out with the wrong group of friends, who always get into trouble. He sometimes gets into detention in school, he's smart but then sometimes just is lazy. He plays 4 sports and the last thing is that he's shorter than me by about 7 inches!!!!
sooo i'm always getting mixed feelings about him. I like him one day, then the next i decide i don't like him anymore.
whats going on here? does this mean that my heart truly says that i like him? should i just forget about him? Whenever i try to forget about him, i act as my usual self, but then when i'm around him i'm still nervous!!!!!!!! even when i say to myself "just forget about him, he's not for me"
aghh i'm confused
signed,
mixed feelings (link)
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Dear mixed feelings,
Well it seems that you do like this guy but you're mind hasn't been made up but your heart has so they're playing tug-o-war with your feelings. Just wait a little bit and see what happens. And don't worry about the hieght thing, it doesn't matter. Just ask him to hang out at your place some day after school order some pizza and watch a movie and see what happens than plan your next move off of that.
-Beanie
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how do i have more fun with franch kissing? and how does he make me have fun as much as him? (link)
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Dear French Kissing,
There are tons of ways to have more fun with it, don't use your tongue as much and tease him with your lips a little bit grab the back of his neck let your hands wander let his hands wander, and just have fun with it.
-Beanie
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i might be prgenate and if iam im not to sure of how to tell my parents .. wat should i do (link)
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Well first of all you deffinetly don't know if you are or not unless you have seen a doctor or taken a pregnency test. So do that if you haven't and if you have and you found out then the best thing to do is to sit down with your parents, probably your mom first if you could then be like "Mom i'm in some trouble and I want to know if you will be there for me throught the whole problemdd." and just kinda let her know you're going to have to tell her eventually anyways, just be careful how you word certain things, and try not to bring up the guy at the moment because that will just get them mad. Wait until like the next day to tell her aboput the guy.
-Beanie
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Ok well for the past month i've been having a really difficult time falling asleep. Even if i am really tired i still can't seem to fall asleep, nothing really is on my mind either, nothing bad has happened nor am i stressful. Everytime i try to fall alseep i tend to feel sick or something, i don't know what is wrong with me, ohh and i don't want to take sleeping pills, my mom won't let me, she says then i won't be able to fall asleep by myself. Ohh and i sometimes fall asleep but it's only in the morning time, since it is still winter break for us, i want to fall asleep, so i won't be tired for school. Does anyone have any tips to try falling asleep better? Ohh and i already try counting sheeps and counting down from 100, it doesnt work. Thankyou if you help me! I'm so its long! (link)
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Go to a store some place close and get some night time tea, or take a bath with some lavender oil in it, or you can go to an herbal store and let someone on the staff know your sleepoing problem then they can give you a naturla herb or something that will help you sleep don't worry no pills there and if they are it's all herbs.
-Beanie
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okay so here's my probelm,,me and my bf have been together for a year and a half, and i really care aobut him , but there's times when im like all excited to see him and really happy about it and sure i love him, but there's times i don't even know what to think about it , i think that it might be cause im on christmas brake and have been hanging out with him more than with my friends and i don't do much things around the house just see him and when im with him i really feel i love him! but when he's gone, i just spend time watching tv or in the computer , and i start wondering things like if i really love him if i want to be with him :S im sooo confuse :S
i think it is cause when i don't go out with no one but him , and i'm just sleeping watching tv and computer all day i think about stupid things , it's these one of those?? cause when i have a very busy week or a week when i go out a lot with friends and him and im just too busy i'm like totally in love with him and wanna see him talk to him every second, i don't know what to think about it ...i don't wanna talk to him about this cause he might think i don't care about us anymore wich i think i really do cause when i'm with him i really like it , or how would i know i like him as a boyfriend and not just as a friend :S im sooo confuse he's really nice and really loves me a lot! and do a lot of things for me but i don't know what's wrong with me!! (link)
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It's ok don't worry it's probably just vacation you've been hanging around with your boyfriend more than you are used to and it's just something different to the both of you, your spending more time and it's getting to you a little bit you just don't know it. Try just hanging out with your friends a little more, so when you're not with him try calling up your friends and hanging out with them instead of sitting at home doing absalutly nothing.
And no owrries there is nothing wrong with you.
And if worse comes to worse talk to him!
-Beanie
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first things first...
I am 16/f and the guy is 16 and my guy best friend...
Ok, well I really really love this guy, and I told him...and well things got all wierd but then one of my friends said don't talk to him for a while 'the lets take a break death-sentence' anyways so i did and well we havnt talkeds since about the 19th dec. and yea. yesterday he sent me an email that read something like "why aren't you on msn anymore!? thats all i have to say!" and well I answered it. now we havbt talked since that, should i wait for him to email me or should i email/call him? (link)
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Dear who says it first,
call him, aprently he isn't going to do it anytime soon so you mine as well, plus you never know what may happen from it, just be like yeah so remember when i told you this, what do you think about it? and see what happens there and then be like what do you want to do about it? and then see what happens from there, if you stay as friends it'll be ok, but what if it could be more? so dive right in!
good luck
-Beane
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Hey I was watching white chicks and they mentioned "g-strings" is that a thong? (link)
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Dear ?,
a g-string or g-strap is not a thong it's just underwear that on the sides it's just string.
-Beanie
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my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half and i think he is getting sick of me. he is very controlling and he isnt the greatest .. i have had more than one occasion where someone has told me he has cheated on me. i believe him when he says its not true. he doesnt like that i have guy friends so i dont have any but he has tons of friends who are girls and it doesnt even phase him that it upsets me. he has lots of girls numbers including one of the girls who told me they hookedup. another girl who was trying to get with him calls alot. he says he loves me but he treats me like shit. im a good girlfriend i do everything for him i love him. but still even if he messes up i get yelled at if i confront him .. everything is my fault even if i catch him lying he gets mad if i was snooping and says i need to give him his privacy and that i have no right to check his stuff. he says i need to trust him more but how can i when he has hurt me so much in the past and how am i supposed to trust him if i catch him lying all the time. he calls me names like slut when he gets mad and he calls me crazy. and he apologizes when we stop fighting and he doesnt seem to understand its not right. ive forgiven him many many times and he just doesnt seem to take me seriously. he doesnt think i will dump him he thinks hes irraplacable (lol) but hes not. he treats me like just some chick .. im not some chick after a year and a half. he should be treating me like a princess not like a maid. please help (link)
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Dear boyfriend problem,
You really need to tell him exactly what you typed, don't just say it and be like we need to talk, instead sit down with him, hold his hands and look into his eyes when you talk to him about it, it'll get through to him more easily, and tell him that you feel more than just being a chick on his side, you need to tell him about the whole how he's allowed to have a BUNCH of girl friends but you can't have any guy friends, it's not fair at all, so try doing that and if it still doesn't get through his head maybe it's just time to move on.
-Beanie
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i recently broke up w/ my girlfriend so have invited lots of girls to my myspace and about .5 have accepted. i need advice about what to talk about when i send messages b/c i don't have much to go by as they are still strangers. and i don't know how long to wait before making contact. please note, i think that all of them are cute and am interested in dating but don't want to come across as desperate or needy. any suggestions? thanks (link)
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Dear new myspace friends,
Just send a little message such as, How was your day? or How are you? and see where it leads to from there, if it keeps continuing leave some comments on one of the girls pictures that you have been getting the most feedback from, leave little messages like "this picture of you is very pretty, or this pic is my fav, or this is a cute pic."
girls love those little messages guyz leave behind, i did. and almost all my friends let me know if a guy comments on their myspace and they like it, so take it slowly and if u kee bringing it up a notch and then once you think it may be safe to ask them out on a date JUST DO IT! be like would you like to come over and order some pizza and watch a couple movies,
it's cute and not too flashy,
so just go for it
and don't hold back
good luck
let me know how it turns out!
-Beanie
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I'll rate a pathetic little (1) to whoever advices me, "Tell your parents!"
Okay, first of all, my best friend gave me a kitten when her cat gave birth to a healthy litter of 4. The little kitten is a female and she is just SO cute.
My mother has allergies, so she won't let me have any cat or dog. My father hates the smell of any animal... so my sisters and I have been keeping it a secret. We have a babysitting job so we can buy cat food, litter box, blah blah... We loved having the first kitten so we got another 2. It went well for two weeks.
We've been keeping them in the backyard, hidden in the space under the deck.
They got fleas. What would be a good way to get rid of them besides going to the vet?? I think I need my parents to go to the vet so I don;t want to...
Plus, we haven't named this black kitty yet. Give me a good name for him, please!Thanks!!
Love y'all!! (link)
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Dear secret kitten,
Go to walmart and in the pet isle there should be some stuff for fleas and it doesn't coast that much,
and as for the names here are some:
Girl:
Chic
Ace
Amore
Angel
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I'm 17 and i have had the same boyfriend for 2 yrs. and dont get me wrong i love him with my whole life. but yesterday i went to pick him up at his dads(2 1/2) hours away. he had been gone fri.-sun. and when we got back to my house we were just sittin watchin tv and i knew he had a project to finish for school so he asked me later if he could use my computer and he said yes. but after he came back down i had already fallen asleep and he woke me up and said bye in a kinda pissed of tone than gave me a kiss. this morning he called and he noticed what time it was and shouted "Fuck" and hung up? so i didnt call him back. well at school i kind of avoided him and then after school i went to his house and he was fine and everything????? he gets pissed over little things. and i dont know what to do...i feel childish avoiding him but i've talked about it to him and (you know how guys are) it always turns out to be my fault some how, or he always comes back at me with some way i get mad at him. he can always manipulate me into thinkin it really was my fault but then i think about it and then i realize it really isnt. someone please help me i cant take it any more. and please dont suggest breaking up with him or talking to him it doesnt work...and if i can talk to him help me think of something to say to him to make him realize what hes doing.(this sort of thing happens all of the time) (link)
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Dear my manipulating boyfriend,
Tell him he's manipulating you, or when he starts trying to manipulate you be like you're doing it again and explain it him that it's not your fualt thay for some reason he's in a bad mood.
You may have been telling him before but you need to be serious about it and looking strait at him in the eyes while holding his hands and tell him like it is and give some examples of what he does and let him know that you don't like it.
It'll work.
Let me know what happens.
-Beanie
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I'm 14 so do you really have to be 15 to get your permit.
Cause I'm studying right now and I don't turn 15 until july but then I still have to wait til I'm 15 n and half.
So Do I have to be 15 or what?
Thanks :] (link)
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Dear starting to drive,
it depends on what state you're from but where i'm from you have to be 15 and a 1/2 to get your driving permit, or to start driving with an adult over 25.
-Beanie
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I'm hanging out with him today and I'm 14 and hes 16 so Last time when i hung out with him it was totally silent and It was because I was so nervous I didn't want him to think I was stupid or anything and I guess he was the same way.
but I really don't want that to happen again tonight. he said he was going to be "all out" this time but I'm not sure If I will since it does take me a couple times to talk to someone a lot after meeting them especially when its someone I really like.
I suck at starting conversations and since he said hes going all out today well I want to be the one to start the conversations as well because I don't want to be known at shy and boring because I'm not.
When I talk I always say whats On my mind and I think of weird things sometimes haha so I don't want to creep him out.
like I just ask very very random questions about things. (link)
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Dear conversation starter,
Don't help back! Trust me if anything he'll find you more attractive, and he'll prbably be very relived. Plus if you really like him and you're going to spend more time with him, he's going to see this crazy side of you eventually. Let him have it.
Ask him about his family, if he has pets, what he's doing for christmas, where he was born, what type of music he's into to. And then it should be alot easier to talk.
Have and awsome time and once it's over let me know how it was!
-Beanie
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So, I like this guy, okay? He's really sweet and cute and so nice and everything... but there's a problem... I already have a boyfriend. Don't start calling me a slut and everything but my boyfriend is starting to be really... boring. I knew him only for two days when he asked me out. Should I dump him or not?? If I shouldn't, tell me why I have to go pretend to like a guy I don't! It's torture......... =(
What should I do?? (link)
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Dear I need help,
Well you made the answer sort of clear, if he's boring you and you're losing those "butterfly feelings" and those amazing nights, DUMP HIM and no that does not make you a slut or anything. And go for the new guy, you don't have to tie yourself down to some guy you don't have feelings for, plus it's always nice to get into a new realationship. But ask the new guy if he wants to hang out at your house, order some pizza and watch some movies.
It'll be great no worries!
-Beanie
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(15/F) I'm not one who likes to sleep and the dark circles under my eyes give it away. I'm not looking for make-up, but more of a solution. Are there any specific foods or vitamins that could help and how long until I see any changes? I've had dark circles for years, so would that make it hard to reverse? (link)
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No the dark circles under your eyes wouldn't be hard to make it reverse, if you wear eyeliner and mascara try not putting it on the bottom part of your eye, because that will just high light your circles, i don't know of any vitemins or foods to make your circles go away, but try getting one of those gel packs that you put over your eyes when you sleep, that should help get rid of the cirlces, or at least make them less noticable, and btw the eye gel masks aren't expansive.
-Beanie
ps- and try maybe just getting a little mor sleep, trust me i'm not one to sleep either but once a week i do get some sleep and i go to bed around 8 or 9 pm instead of 1 or 2 am.
Try it. I found the pattern copes with me and i don't look like a zombie either.
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ok well ive been asking alot of questions lately but w/e you guys will help i hope.ok well theres this guya t school and i totally like him ok.and at the beggining of the year he acted like he liked me too...even some of his friend said that they thought he liked me.so of course i flirtd back and tried to imply to him that i liked him, but did it "secretly". And then all og a sudden he stopped.it ws like over the weekend he changed his mind or what not.and its been like that for about 2 weeks.then right before winter vacation...he started flirting again..and was talking to his best friend about me and stuff so i could hear them. And i(being the idiot that i am)let it slip out some how that i liked him and now he knows and is telling everyone that he doesnt like me.so now i feel like a total fool, and am thinking i should have left him alone...what should i do? (link)
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Dear boy trouble again,
Don't leave him alone, talk to him ask him why he did what he did. You have a right to know why he's acting like a complete idiot, tell him what you asked me. Tell him the patterns you've been seeing, maybe it's just a missunderstanding or maybe he's trying to hide that he really likes you.
Talk to him it's the best solution, it may turn out good or bad 50-50 but it has to be done.
-Beanie
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last year we had a big clique it was me ,my fav friendjasmine,brandi,serean,christa,kerra,chelsi,ferrin,neri,and thats it.this year is different neri,chelsea,serean moved away and kerra found a new group and ferrin has 2nd lunch so its me brandi jasmine and christa.Jasmne was my best friend since the third grade and we are now in the 8th.the clique was ok at first then i started to go by jasmines house almost every ek end and we would tak about all the fun things that happened and our little inside jokes we had and christa and randi never said nothing at the lunch table so one day jus stopped eating lunch with us when i asked bandi why she said we dont never know what you two be talking about half of the time and now they sit with other freinds i think they are jelous becase they didnt have fun with us what do you think their problem is?
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Dear Clique,
It's normal that this will happen, you get closer with someone in your clique than some of the other people are, it is most likely them just getting annoyed because they honestly don't ever know what you two are talking about, just try toning it downa notch and try including the whole clique. Sorry may sound harsh but true.
-Beanie
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