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my manipulating boyfriend
I'm 17 and i have had the same boyfriend for 2 yrs. and dont get me wrong i love him with my whole life. but yesterday i went to pick him up at his dads(2 1/2) hours away. he had been gone fri.-sun. and when we got back to my house we were just sittin watchin tv and i knew he had a project to finish for school so he asked me later if he could use my computer and he said yes. but after he came back down i had already fallen asleep and he woke me up and said bye in a kinda pissed of tone than gave me a kiss. this morning he called and he noticed what time it was and shouted "Fuck" and hung up? so i didnt call him back. well at school i kind of avoided him and then after school i went to his house and he was fine and everything????? he gets pissed over little things. and i dont know what to do...i feel childish avoiding him but i've talked about it to him and (you know how guys are) it always turns out to be my fault some how, or he always comes back at me with some way i get mad at him. he can always manipulate me into thinkin it really was my fault but then i think about it and then i realize it really isnt. someone please help me i cant take it any more. and please dont suggest breaking up with him or talking to him it doesnt work...and if i can talk to him help me think of something to say to him to make him realize what hes doing.(this sort of thing happens all of the time)
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Make note that it's not your fault. You haven't done anything wrong. You are trying your hardest to please your boyfriend but he just is getting angry. Try to talk to him. Say "I'm trying to help you like when ... but you just get mad. Why is that?" If he gets mad and keeps minipulating you maybe he's not the guy for you. Because every girl deserves ab oyfriend that treats her like she wants to be treated. If he asks you if you can do something for him then you should say no because thats not your job its his. Hope I helped.
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Well you took away some options. Next time he gets angry, calmly tell him that you love him and that you really don't want to fight about ____ and that you will talk to him when he calms down.
I have crazy and manipulative tendencies and during fits of whatever, best thing to do is to wait for me to calm down.
Good luck.
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Dear my manipulating boyfriend,
Tell him he's manipulating you, or when he starts trying to manipulate you be like you're doing it again and explain it him that it's not your fualt thay for some reason he's in a bad mood.
You may have been telling him before but you need to be serious about it and looking strait at him in the eyes while holding his hands and tell him like it is and give some examples of what he does and let him know that you don't like it.
It'll work.
Let me know what happens.
-Beanie
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