Hey gies . I probably deal with a lot of the same problems as you do. So go ahead...ask me anything. This is so that you know that someone's here for you no matter who you are or what your problem is.
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I am a guy who likes to be spanked I also seem to like girls to tell me what to do and i seem tro like it even if its humiliating things they make me do i sem to like it even more . Im not sure why i like these things can u think of why this would turm me on (link)
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well....probably because you are a horny little boy who needs to find strengh to be in control of his emotions. Not trying to be rude...but that's not normal...at all.
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So, I was talking with this guy and I'm 15 and he's 16. We were planning on doing it because, I thought, we were basiclly dating. Today, I found out he had a myspace and apparently he has a girlfriend he never told me about or mentioned. I saw the comments she left him saying how much she loves him and then his replys and they were from today. I know this means he's basiclly an ass and I shouldn't be with him or care for him anymore but I really hurt. Should I just not answer his calls and have nothing to do with him anymore or should I confront him or what should I do? Should I tell his girlfriend that he was planning on having sex with me? (I've never talked to her before) Someone please help me before I lose my mind. (link)
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well...saying something to his girlfriend might only upset him more and leave you being hurt more.
you need to just confront him and all you have to do is tell him that you know about his girlfriend and you dont need a guy like him in your life...
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About 2 weeks ago I got into a really stupid fight over msn messanger with one of my closest male friends. I am pretty sure he liked me romantically- but so far we had just been good friends. Well he is kind of a hot head and it takes him a while to cool down. He lives in another province, but used to live in the same town as me. U was hoping one day we would end up together.
Well last night when I was at work one of his best friends came into the store that I work at. He didnt talk to me but was staring at me and this sort of concerned look on his face. Do you think (because my friend lives far away) that he has been asking his friend to come into the store I work in just to check up on me and see if I'm doing okay? I am almost possitive that his friend new about his (romantic feelings) for me. (link)
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yes, that could be. Or...the guy that is coming into your store might be checking up on you just to make sure you're not doing anything that his friend needs to know about. he might be doing it by his own choice just to be a good friend. If you dont like it, i would suggest talking to him about it.
Hope that helped.
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i'm getting braces soon. i don't know what color to get. i like the colors baby blue, light green, and baby pink, although i'm afraid those colors will bring too much attention to my mouth. will they? what colors are good so the braces arn't as noticeable. nothing vibrant like hot pink right? (link)
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Well, i have braces too. I have baby blue right now and they're kinda bright. They're pretty at first but they stick out way more than some of the other colors. Pink (no matter what shade) looks really good. I had that at first. But Green sounds kinda scary.
If you have dark hair...sometimes it's better to go with a darker color like a midnight blue or a dark purple.
Hope that helped.
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I really need to lose a couple pounds before the 8th grade formal. I am a 13 year old girl. I have a really flattering dress and its black, but my stomach hangs out...What can I do to lose weight so I look good in it? My formal is on the 16th. (link)
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Well, Start by not drinking any caffeine and a LOT of water. Dont eat foods that are high in fats and carbs. And the night before and day of the dance, drink only water and don't eat any salt or meats because they make you bloat.
Hope i helped.
Have fun at the dance :]
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okay so i like this girl. But there's 3 problems...we've dated before and i pretty much screwed it up,she has a boyfriend, and i have a girlfriend. We still talk and we're pretty close friends but i want to be more. Her and her boyfriend have been dating on and off for like 3 years now. I like this girl more than my girlfriend but i dont want to leave her if i dont even have a chance with this other girl. What do i do to get her back? Do i even have a chance with her? I think you're about the only person who could give me the right advice if you know what i mean. Thanks. (link)
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Well...I think i know what you mean by im the only one who can give you the right advice...and my advice is...
You have a girlfriend. You're first step would be to stop using her as backup and have some confidence. This girl cant like you back unless you're single. And even if you were...She likes her boyfriend or she obviously wouldnt be with him. So until you see them break up...you need to move on. Because she obviously has too. You dont have a chance with her anymore.
I know this sounds harsh but I think that you've probably heard this from her before. right? So stop bugging her about it. You messed things up. You have to learn to except the fact that she doesnt love you anymore. I'm sorry.
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14/f...ive been going out with my boyfriend for about three weeks and his birthday is on the last day of school. One of my friends is throwing an end of school party on the last day of school (his bday). I can't bring him to the party because ALL my friends don't like him at all; they won't let me bring him basically. We've already talked about his birthday but I haven't had the courage to tell him that I would rather go to my friends party but I don't know how to tell him. What should I do? (link)
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well...i understand that you would rather go to this other party & i know it's a tough decision. But sometimes we make sacrifices for people we care about. It's you boyfriend's birthday. It's his special day. Shouldn't you be spending it with him? It's not your fault your friends dont like him but if they dont, then they need to understand that they're making you make a tough decision. Go and be with your boyfriend :]
Hope that helped.
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hey Natalia Welter. I love you so much and i think that everything we've been through in the last 3 years was COMPLETELY worth it. Thank you so much for being the best girlfriend that i could ever ask for.
, Harley
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Harley,
You seem to amaze me. You make me feel so special. Thankyou so much hun.
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ah ok.where do i begin,alright well me and my ex-boyfriend had been going out on and off for like 5 months.on memorial day he dumped me.He said he wanted to still be friends but just didnt like me like me and wanted to be single for summer.i got over it fast, but im not sure about him.On the last to days of school he kept starring at me ALLLLLL day,didnt talk to me,passed me a note about the brake up like saying he wants us to be friends a lot still,and he got jelous of me flirting with other guys(i could tell).and when one of my best friends thats a guy came to my house to get something he was like trying to get him to get away from me.he flirts with me alot still and im pretty much over him and he dumped me so what should i do?i dont no what to say to him about it.PLESAE HELP!!!i rate!
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You cant really do anything. Let him do what he is doing. You both know that the relationship is over, this is just how he is reacting to it. However, dont flirt back. That will make him think you're still interested and the last thing you want to do is lead him on when you've moved on. It will get better, i promise.
Good luck.
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I recently sent some pictures to a male friend of mine. They were of me dressed up as a bridesmaid at my cousins wedding. Well I looked REALLY nice- normally I'm just a casual person. I had my hair done; makeup on; and a beautiful strapless empire gown on. I also had been dieting before the wedding and was slim and trim. Well I just got an email from him. He said that I looked awsome and that he could barely recognize me all dressed up; then he thanked me for the pics and said they were GREAT! My question is do you think he's attracted to me by what he said? (link)
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Well, you were dressed up so who knows. He was probably attracted to your pictures. But you need to let him see the you without the make up and without you in a strapless empire dress to see if it's your looks he's attracted to, or your personality.
Hope that helped a little.
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So there is this kid i like, a lot. we are in the same school, and a couple of the same classes. he and i are both scorpio, and we get along great. we have so much fun together! tonight, i was txting him, and he asked if i thought he should go out with anyone this year, and i said idk, so he said that he would like to go out with his ex, which made me a little jelous. then he told me all about how good he is with parents, and then he said, " who knows. maybe youll see it for yourself some day." so i asked what he ment, and he was like "idk." what do you all think?
thanks,
meeee! (link)
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As for the comment he made about his ex, guys never think before they say things. That's why they have girls to keep them in line. But dont take it the wrong way. He didnt mean anything serious about it. And as far as the comment he made about you goes...i think he's trying to hint to you that he likes you or that you have a chance with him without actually saying it in those terms. Keep talking to him about it, but dont get too carried away with it. Who knows? Ya'll might wind up hooking up. Good luck.
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13/f well there is this guy i went out with for like 1 year and we broke up but that was a while ago and we always flirt but lately he seems to be liking this other girl. but its weird because these past few days have been different he seems to be talking to me and when i tried to pass through the isle to my seat at school he blocked the way and it was just flirty and he is talking to me alot and stares me but he is my ex. he broke up with me but now i think he likes me. and i really like him alot because he is hott and i like the way he acts. so is that common? i wonder if he likes me? why did he break up with me then? help soon because i rate 5's for good advice!!!! (link)
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Well...he broke up with you because he obviously saw something in you (or thought he saw something in you) that he didnt like. So now he's flirting and realizing he made a mistake. I couldnt tell you if he likes you or not, but i say flirt back. What could it hurt? If he winds up asking you out again, dont hesitate to say yes. He's giving you a second chance. Dont question it, enjoy it :]
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hey. okay well there is this guy.. i have been off and on with him since 8th grade.. hes so sweet.. but hes just so shy.. and i hate that.. but for some reason i just cant help but like him.. even though he can annoy the crap out of me.. but there is this other guy.. hes a senior tho.. and im going to be a soph.(i'm a summer baby, so im old for a soph.) but hes really sweet too. hes on the varsity team for baseball, he lives in my neighborhood, and hes soooo nice. (well they both live in my neighborhood) i just dont know what to do, i know i can trust the older guy, but i know my parents wouldnt like it, and i know this is my last chance with the other guy i ahve been off and on with since 8th grade. so i just dont know what to do, because i keep changeing my mind, and im supposed to go out on a date with the older guy, but im scared im going to end up feeling bad about basically lying to the other guy. i just dont know what to do, so please help me. thanks babe. (link)
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Haha. you're really confused huh? okay well here's what i think. I've been off and on with a guy for 3 years now. I almost lost him this last time because i cheated on him. But luckily he came back. However, i had to give up the other guy. Him and i dont even talk anymore. At the time though, i didnt know what the outcome was going to be. But what you have to remember is....you're only a teen still. You have your whole life ahead of you and who's to say that this guy is going to be "the one." So...who do you like more, at this second without a doubt? Think about all of the things you like and dont like about each. Who has more things about them that you like? Who has more that you dont like? Once you figure that out, go for the one with the more things that you do like.
Let's say you go out with the senior. Yeah this might be the last chance with the other guy. But then again, if he likes you and he has since 8th grade...he wont give up on you.
Now let's say you go out with this guy from 8th grade. If it works out...great. If not, you know it wasnt meant to be and you can give the senior a chance.
So basically, no matter what you do, you can't go wrong. And if you lose one of them, it just wasn't meant to be. I know that's probably hard to hear but it's the truth. But always remember....there are sooo many guys out there. You're still a teen. Why should you have to only worry about 1 or 2 of them. If they dont work, there's plenty of years to keep looking.
Keep your chin up.
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okay my friend she's 15 and she really likes her boyfriend and stuff and she talked to his friends and they said that he is only dating her for 2 reason: to make out with her and to make someone else jealous. I would try to help her more but i don't know what to do. She then asked him if it was true and he got mad. If you guys read this answer asap i need your help as soon as possible. If your a "guy" then i'd love to hear your advice to thanx :)
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Relationships are all about honesty. If she talked to his friends, they'll usually know what's going on. (if they're his closest friends)And if he got mad when she asked, that usually means that he has something to hide. But know that it's okay to be there for her but she's old enough to take care of herself. You have to let her make her own decisions....buutt.....that doesnt necessarily mean you have to stay out of it completely. If you hear something about it, tell her. However, you need to let her know that she needs to talk to him. Like i said...relationships are about honesty. Tell your friend that I'm here for her. Keep me updated on how it goes.
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alright so me and this girl have been the best of friends since 1st grade. we were seriously inseperable up until about a month and a half ago. i think she has changed so much. for the first time we started partying and we met some new friends over spring break. well now she has been skipping school..shes failing the 10th grade. she doesnt do any work..she did have a problem with drinking but then she quit drinking as much. she yells at her parents and cusses them out if they ask her to help around the house. well lately its like i cant stand her. at first i like this guy alot and i started talking to him first but then he started liking her cause she was flirting with him constantly and they started hanging out and she made out with him and she knew that i really really liked him. she flirts with every guy that comes along. my other friend liked a guy and my best friend did stuff with him. on top of all that its like if i say something stupid she blows up on me and says "fuck you" and cusses me out even more. it seems like everyday we get into a small argument. like today.. we were in the lunch line and my friend asked how this guy we know found out about her and another guy and i said " well she might have told him" and my best friend blew up on me saying "i didnt fucken tell him so dont go blaming shit on me..you fucking always say and ask stupid shit" its like i cant stand her anymore. i dont want to lose her as a friend but i seriously think i am starting to hate her. and im not the only one that feels like this. 3 of her other friends feel the same way. what should i do?!?!?!? ILL RATE HIGH (link)
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You can't do much. You can not control her actions. The only thing you can do is to stay away from her. It sounds like you were best friends. But she's definitely changed. What you have to do is decide if you want to wait around to see if this is just a phase or move on. It will be hard to move on but know that what makes it hard is the fact that you remember the way she used to be. If you want to make it better, you have to look at the way she is now and base on what you know....answer the question of is she going to change. and if she is, is it soon enough to wait around for and put up with this for that amount of time. Good luck to you.
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Okay. Well, I just turned 13, and I'm 5'7. The average weight for a person that is 5'7 is 135 lbs. I'm 130 but I feel over weight. I ask people that I know would tell me the truth if I was fat and they say no. I have large breasts as well, would that be a reason?
Am I fat?
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Well let me put it this way...You're under the weight you're supposed to be. You're good friends tell you the truth and they say no. And...if you have large breast- remember, they weigh a certain amount too. I've never seen you but from what you've said about yourself...I would say defenitely not.
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One of my friends are trying to get her cousin and I together. Well we have met and we talk all the time She tells me that he really likes me. I cant say that i think about him all the time and that i really likke him but hes really nice and i like to hang out with him. Well he asked me to go to the beach with him on sunday. Well sunday i got online about 1230 and he told me that he probly wont go to the beach anymore because he has other plans. So im like alright and i just didnt think any thing of it. Later not even 30 minutes later he put an away message up saying Im going to the beach be back later on. (or something close to that) Yea so he pretty much stood me up and he hasnt said a word to me since. He has been telling his cousin that we talk all the time. I say Hey to him online and i never get a response and he at his computer.
Im 17 female . Hes 20
What should i do? Is it even worth gettting to know this guy anymore? (link)
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No. This guy is a liar and he stood you up. He's not worth your time. Every girl deserves better. It's summer. It's time to flirt and meet new guys. Forget this one. There's more out there that would be willing to treat you with respect. Good luck.
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My boyfriend treats me like gold and i have a HUGE attitude problem and i want to change. But i have no idea how to start. Dont state the obvious people like just do it because i tried and it doesnt happen. he is very annoying but i love him to death and he doesnt deserve what i do. I yell/hit/and give him an attitude. I dont really hit him just m,essing around like im not an abusive girlfriend. but I can get out of hand of messing around.
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I'm kind of in the same boat as you. I dont hit my boyfriend but i used to treat him like i owned him. Lucky for you, you know you do this. I couldnt see it, i had to have his friends say stuff before i realized what i did. If you really like this guy and you really know he doesnt deserve what you do to him, then you'll find it in your heart the strength to want to change. It wont all happen in one day though. This is something that will happen over time. In the mean time, talk to him about what you think- about how he sometimes comes off as annoying. Dont say it in those terms but tell him some of the things he does that bug you. And maybe, if he starts to change the things he does that bugs you, then you might start to appreciate him more.
Hope it helps.
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ok, im going to have sex for the first time, my bf and i've already planned it. 14/f, and DONT say im too young, im ready. anyways, i watched a few porn movies so i could get it down a bit, but i was wondering, do guys like it when girls like moan and have orgasms? thanks a lot. (link)
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At 14, who knows. I guess you aren't experienced enough to know what's better or worse, or good or bad.
Are you ready? That's a different question. I'm not going to tell you you're not because i dont know you. However, dont be disappointed when afterwards, you have nothing exciting to look forward to because you've done it all. And dont be disappointed when you're pregnant and have to raise a baby on your own when you're still dealing with school and things like that that normal teens deal with. Good luck with that. I'll definitely be praying for you.
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Okay, to make a long story short, me and my friend got into a fight with our other friend because we confronted her about blowing us off and shit because she got a new boyfriend. The whole thing was blown way out of proportion. Anyway, she forgave my friend, but not me, because I was meaner (apparently). The girl told me, "Your basically dead to me." She also told me she could never forgive me and that she didn't care what I said or did. This girl was one of my best friends. It's really hard to loose a friend, and never even get a second chance. How do I get over it? (It's definately going to be hard because we have the same group of friends.) (link)
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I know that's got to be hard. But you have to remember...maybe from her point of view you were being more mean than your other friend. And you also have to know...she's acting off of emotions right now. It's still hard for her too i'm sure. Give her time. If time doesnt heal it...then find other groups of friends to hang out with. Because if she cant learn to forgive, she's not a really good friend in the first place. I know it will be hard. But look at it as an oppurtunity to meet new people and become a part of other groups. Remember that when one door closes, another opens. It just might take a little longer than you want.
Good luck && hope it helped.
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