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me and my boyfriend has safe sex. we even use a condom. but while we were doing it. the condom broke, he said it didn't break when he stuck it in me. he said it broke once he took it out. which means it broke near my vagina. and there was no cum, skeet, or semin on the condom or when the condom broke. i'm just nervous, am i pregnant? i just have to make sure.

Yes.

OK. this is kinda long, BUT I NEED HELP!!! I've had this gf for about two months now and we've had sex and all, but shes kinda 'picky' i guess you could say.
Like:
She dont like me too look at her
She dont want it from behind (just front)
She dont like me to take off her clothes
She dont want me fingering her/eating her out
She dont like being on top.
plus some more....
but im an extrememly slow typer, and this isnt working out for me. lol.

but yeah
i guess my question is,
why is she like that? and how do you get her to like new things? She says she doesnt like to feel uncomfortable, but i wanna know how to tell her to more things with me. I was a virgin until i went out with her, and i wanna try new things.

I dont wanna sound like a jerk, but she was raped not too long ago at a party, and i was wondering...could that be why?

Being raped could have a lot to do with it. However, it might not be the only reason. She's just not comfortable with certain things. You need to accept that. You could try talking to her about it, but don't force it. You've only been going out for two months. You're lucky you're getting any at all.

I live in Illinois and i have cingular as my cell phone service

does it cost money to *67 somebody?
what bout *69

I don't think it costs anything extra for *67, but for *69 it does, but I'm not sure how much.

Ok we met on the internet and stuff he's really sweet and stuff but he likes 2 have sex WAY 2 much we met up @ this park and we were talking while standing next 2 his car with the door open and we we're talking about how much we love eachother and out of no were he kisses me about 10 times and I just ignore it but then he starts trying 2 get his hand in my pants but I wore a belt so he unbuckels it and starts fingering me 2 tell the truth it felt good but it shocked me and out of nowhere he gets on top of me and starts kissing me again I know he loves me because he writes me poems and stuff that leave me speachless and crys 2 me on the phone about how much he loves me. he's in the army I don't know what's going on I love him so much and I know he loves me I've tested him before and he's true 2 me I pretented 2 be my friend (she's a girl) and told him that I loved him on it and he told me he only loves destiny ( ps: I'm destiny) so I know that he loves me but what do I do about the sex thing

You're not ready. Don't force yourself to do something you're not ready for. If he loves you as much as he says he does, he'll wait for you until you are ready. Explain this to him, and if he still doesn't stop, he's only in the relationship for sex, and he isn't worth your time.

Ok I want my son 2 have a uniqe name that starts with a " M " but that not very known one of a kind I want it cool, uniqe, cute, and maybe even emo a little plz I need help by the way it has 2 a boy name

Here's a few:
-Mason
-Marco
-Mario
-Milka
-Mikail
-Marshall

hi im thinking about getting sims 2. whats so great about it? what are some of the things you can do on it you cant to do on the other sims?

It's addicting for the first month or so, then it gets sort of boring. You'll have to wait another month, then it won't be as boring.
But, it is much better than the regular sims.

You can have babies, and actually feed them and change their diaper. Then they become toddlers.

They age. Sims 1 got old fast because you did the same thing everyday. It makes the game a lot more intersting when they age. They start out as a baby, toddler, kid, teenager, [young adult (if you have University expanison pack)],adult, and then elder. They eventually die when they're elders.

The expansion packs are better. They can go to college, clubs, there's seasons, pets (like the Sims 1, but it's probably better. I don't know, I don't have this one.), and I'm not sure what else, but you can check the website.

Plus, there's aspirations, such as get engaged, married, have a kid, make a friend, get a job, etc. That makes point to the game.

Overrall, it's a pretty entertaining game. But, like I said, it can get boring fast. So, don't over-play it. My cousins are like obsessed with it as well. They're like 10ish. I was too when I first got it. You'll probably like it.

ok i want to get my girlfriend a necklace and its 100$ and she said its way too much is it? we been goin out for two months now, but we knew each other for years, and we been good friends too and we been through a lot together, and i love her with all my heart.

It depends. Most people probably wouldn't spend that much after only two months together. You can spend as much as you want, as long as you can afford it and everything. She's probably just saying that so it doesn't seem like she just expects you to give her gifts that are that expensive.

I have the Sims 2, Season, and Pets loaded on my computer..
If I delete the regular Sims 2 can I still play Seasons and Pets? Because it's taking up to much memory on my comptuer.
Thanks! :)

Nope. The expansion packs require the original Sims 2. If you delete the Sims 2, the expansion packs will get deleted too.

Lately my school has been talking to us about abortion. They think it's wrong and I'm not sure about it. I'm NOT pregnant, but there are girls in my school who are and each of them has said they wish they would have had an abortion. I think it's wrong, but it could also be for the best if one was to have an abortion.

Please voice your opinions on abortion. I would love to hear everything you have to say about it.

I'm completely against it. The only reason other than that I'd be for it was if the mother's life was a stake. Then, she'd be able to choose. Other than that, I find it wrong. You had sex, you suffer the consequences. You knew before you had sex there was a chance you could be pregnant, no matter what. You can always give it up for adoption. If you don't want to do either of those, too bad. You shouldn't have been sleeping around. Don't murder a child just because you made a mistake. It's not the child's fault.
If someone was raped, I'd still be against it. I know it's not their fault, but that would be really hard to make a law. Like, for example, a girl who had sex willingly got pregnant. She could easily say, "Oh, I was raped. I'm having an abortion." I'm not saying you have to keep the baby, because that would be really hard to be reminded of what happened everyday. There's always adoption. There's tons of families out there who'd love to adopt a child.

Are there any sites you can watch movies online, WITHOUT downloading them?

And I know some people upload movies onto YouTube, so are there any sites you can watch movies online besides YouTube? Thanks!

www.alluc.org is the best one I've found. You can try googling 'watch free movies online', or something along those lines. A lot have crappy quality though.

so me & my boyfriend had sex for the first time last friday. and also saturday. & we used a condom & since it was our first time, we didnt do it too long since he popped my cherry & it hurt the second time. now im wondering if i could be pregnant? we used wasted 3 condoms & filled each with water once we were done with them & there was no hole, so the condom was good. so is there any chance of me being pregnant? i doubt it , but i just want more opinions.

Whenever you have sex, there's a chance you can get pregnant. Protection or not. Period. Of course, the odds are a lot less since you used protection. Take a test if you're that worried. Since you didn't know this, you probably shouldn't be having sex anyway.

Alright, I was going to put highlights in my hair at home, but everyone is saying it's bad..and eh yeah.

Alright well, my hair is a medium-dark brown. I want to put black in it, but i want highlights..i don't know if that'd look good or not..but can i buy the package to dye your whole hair black, but just put highlights, can i just do that or not?

or can i dye my hair blonde at home? or do i gotta go to a salon?
thanks!

Since you have dark hair, I really wouldn't recommend going blonde. That usually looks horrible because you can see the roots, salon or not, just dyed or not.

Highlights are hard to do by yourself. I've done highlights in my mom's hair, and it didn't really turn out as highlights because it was hard. I'm sure if you use foil or something it'd be a lot easier, though. If you get the black highlights and don't like it, you can always dye it back.

For highlights, you should go to a salon. If you dye your hair blonde, you should go to a salon as well. If your dying it from like dark brown to black, you don't really need to go to a salon, since it's not as hard as highlights. If you mess up, its not as noticable since you're going darker.

And,you can buy a box for all over color, just highlights, or both.

okay i live in cleveland ohio and im really sick of not having a job so i saw a freakin mcdonalds sign and it said they were hiring so i just want to work there i guess money is money? i was just wondering how old you have to be and what stuff you need to work there? im 15 right now.

I'm pretty sure you can work there at 14. Since you're 15, I'm almost positive you can work there. Call and double check just to make sure.

Does everyone have some people that hate them?I was just wondering.

Not everyone is going to always like you. I know someone whose ALWAYS happy and friendly. Yet, there was a girl that didn't like her because she found it annoying that she was constantly smiling. If you think about it, even the popular people have people that hate them. Most people do hate them, even their friends, but they still act like they're friends with the person. You shouldn't let that bother you though. There's nothing you can do about it.

ok I posted a question on here about that well ok somebody told me they pick the best video? I thought they will pick ANYBODY it just takes time?

which one is true?

They wouldn't just pick anyone. They get tons of videos. And I'm sure a bunch of them don't really need it as bad as others. They only pick people that have a really sad story and that truly need it.

I have A.P Euro, and for the first marking period, there's a large chance I will get a C on my report card for that class. Will it affect my GPA DRAMATICALLY? I have a 3.8999 etc.
I'm a sophomore and really worried. lol

It shouldn't. It should count as a B. As long as the rest of your grades are good, there's not much to worry about. Plus, colleges would rather see you getting B's in harder classes then A's in easier classes.

hi im 13 and im aloud either my tragus (the litle stickin out bit in the middle of your ear)or the top of my ear done and im not aloud any more or both until im 18 . loads and loads of people have the top of their ear done in my class and i dont know anyone else with a tragus peircing? what do you think??

I don't think the tragus looks very good, but that's just my opinion. I'd go with the top of the ear. If you want something different than everyone else, go with the tragus.

hey..well, my friend and i are both 15/f. and we have an a.p euro class together. well, there we take notes. the teachers lectures us. and my friend was absent last week for one day. i took about like 45 pages of notes that day. not even kidding. and now she's asking me to scan them and give them to her. should I? I really don't want to. I know she's my friend and all. But I consider this course a strict "only study yourself" course. like, don't help people out, or you're gonna get stuck yourself. I don't know what to do. I would like to help a friend. But scanning 45 pages of the notes that *I* worked so hard on, listening to him and gathering info on. And letting her HAVE it without any effort on her part...well that's not very fair. And plus, when I used to ask her for help, she rarely helped me.

What would you do? :|

I'm in AP US history, and my teacher actually encorages us to work together. Then again, this is our first AP class, because 9th grade was just honors.
Anyways, I understand where you're coming from not wanting to scan 45 pages of notes. But, it was a lecture, and depending on the teacher, he might not lecture it to just her. Ask her to try that first.
If he won't do that, I think you should let her copy. It's not like they're the answers to the test, or she was just skipping class. She was actually sick. It's not her fault. Since you really don't want to just give it to her, let her copy it by hand. That way, she works for it a bit. You could also ask her since you're giving her notes this time, if you're ever sick, she should give them to you.
If you honestly think she's that bad of a friend and won't help you out next time you need it, then don't.

I'm trying out for my all state choir in two weeks. I'm getting braces in one week. Will the braces affect my singing in any way?

It can, but it might not. When I first got braces, it didn't at all. However, when my friend got them, it did. But, she also got this metal bar thing behind her bottom teeth because her tongue was pushing her teeth forward or something. But that lasted like a week. My Spanish teacher had them and she had a lisp. I'm not sure if that was because of the braces or not, she just got them off and I didn't pay attention. Anyways, if it does, it most likely won't last more than a week. Nothing to worry about. :)

15/f

im a freshman in a secondary school. i've been going to public schools my whole life and now recently i am thinking about going to a catholic school. there is so much drama at my school and everyone there is so immature and the guys are really into the slutty girls and i am getting sick of it.

is catholic school really as bad as the people there say it is? is there a lot of drama? what are the guys like there? anyone who has been there can you please give me some background info on it; or if you've been to both public and private schools which one did you like better?

I've been to both. I went to a Catholic school for the first nine years, all through grade school, and then public for high school. I think it really depends on what school you go to that'll determine how bad the school is.

I went to two different Catholic schools. The first one I went to until going into fourth grade was a lot better than the one I went to after, because it was really small and people weren't rich and stuck up like they were at the other school I went to. All the girls in my class were friends, because there was only like 17 kids total, but then again, that was like third grade, but there was enough drama.

The second school I went to was from fourth grade to eigth. Everyone there lived in at least half-million dollar houses and if they lost an ipod, you'd get another the next day. That part really annoyed me. There were two, maybe three cliques. My group of friends got along with one, but didn't with the others. We didn't have drama with them, we just went our sperate ways.
Honestly, I have like no drama in my life compared to other people I know. Maybe it's just the fact that I got really lucky and chose good friends, but whatever the case, it depends on who you are/who you're friends with. The only really big drama I had in my life was going into high school, which pretty much cost me two of my best friends, but that also had a lot to do with going to different schools.
The guys at my private school. There were a few assholes. But, there always will be. Some were alright. I don't think there's a huge difference there.

Now I go to a public school, and this is my second year. One of my really good friends has wayyy more drama than I can even imagine between her and her friends, and she's gone to a public school her entire life. At public school, the students have a lot less respect for teachers, that's for sure. But I don't think private schools are like ridiculous with strictness. Grade school kind of was, I mean, we could'nt highlight our hair, paint our nails, wear make up and other retarded things like that. But high school is much different and laid back.

Anyways, try finding out about the school you're going to. All high schools are different, even if they're both private or both public. You get all kinds of people. Maybe you could shadow there. I thought I wanted to go to a Catholic high school, but the one I really wanted to go to was full of sluts (literally like three that weren't). Most schools should let you shadow.
Honestly, I don't know which I like better. Both have their pro's and con's. But, like I said, it depends on what type of people go there, so I highly reccommend finding that out. Good luck!

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