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Hey guys. I'm just a girl going through the transition of a teenager to an adult and all that it entails.
I've had a colourful life with many a lesson learned and much to offer. Whether you want advice, support or just a chat then all you gotta do is reach out.
I'm honest, whether it hurts or not, but i'm fair; open minded and philosophical, a little crazy yet very logical, at times rather controversial.
If you have a question go ahead and ask!
advice
Have you ever felt suicidal? How'd you get over it? What made you feel that way?
*I'm not looking for advice, I just want to know if anyone has ever felt that way, just curious. So please, no trying to talk me out of anything, or telling me how suicide brings people to hell because I'm not killing myself and if I wanted to I would be dead by now.
Yes, I've felt that way a lot and for years. I had a depressive illness and was in psychiatric care for two years. I was your age when I first was admitted and i was literally trying to kill myself every hour of every day.
There is such a huge difference between feeling suicidal and going the step further and actually resolving to die.
I went through a lot of therapy - 3/4 of which was useless - but I learned to fight. I struggled through everyday and took each time as it came. We all re learned everything from social behaviour and relationships, to how to deal with out feelings and thoughts.
I personally took up exercise which was a godsend; i attended a great hospital school where i learned i was intelligent and developed a passion for all things academic; I set myself difficult goals every day and tried to achieve them... I basically fought for a life. I put myself out there, got involved in everything i could think of and aimed to do it all with everything i had in me.
In tandem with the therapy I had received, I fought through every day for years. I startted to want things like a career, the experience of university, see the wonders of this world, to simply go outdoors with my dog and lie in the grass. In these past few years I have realised I want to live.
I have officially stopped having to fight through every day. I embrace it. And yes, I did fail several times. But I'm a determined wee shite! I still cannot remember the feeling of happiness though there have been recent times where I've felt very short flickers of an amazing emotion and I was first startled by it, i didnt know what it was. But im convinced what I felt was happiness. They're becoming regular now and I'm excited.
It took so much work but after my psychiatric work was done i was ready to fight on my own and by experiencing life, i slowly and surely began to want it. I've applied to college which I start this august, I want to go to university thereafter and have a career in publishing. There is so much I want in life and I have a smile on my face.
I was a victim of abuse and now I'm a victim of no one. If you ever want to talk about such things, curiosity or otherwise, feel free to drop me a line!
This is a long shot but I'm hoping someone here will be able to help me.
I will be working in Italy over the Summer and want to visit some friends who will also be in the country. Does anyone know the quickest, most cost effective way of travelling from San Remo (near Genoa, Liguria) to Venice? I've looked online but am finding it all pretty confusing.
Outwith hiring a car, I've found the train and underground systems to be favourable in travelling round Italy. Unless you want to go by coach/bus or plane then I'd definitely recommend the rail systems.
so im thinking about becoming a vegitarian but im a bit scared that it might be unhealthy cause ive heard that your brain needs certain vitamins to grow (im 17) which arent in meat replacemnts...
so is it okay at my age to stop eating meat. i dont eat a lot of meat in general so it wont be hard for me im just a bit worried about my health..
There is absolutely nothing wrong with becoming vegetarian at your age. As you say, its about making sure you get the right vitamins and nutrients from your diet. I personally found this page helpful in getting all I need and the trick to it is a very varied diet.
http://www.veggieglobal.com/nutrition/vitamins.htm
There are also MANY meat-alternative products out there. Quorn and Linda McCartney food products are a personal favourite of mine. They make meat-similar products such as fake chicken, mince, burgers, sausages, lasagne, and about every other meat-related thing you can think of. And it tastes great!
Quorn etc. products are also made from soy so its full of protein and very low in the bad stuff. Even if you're not vegetarian, its a great alternative to many meat meals.
The other common deficiency in vegetarians is iron. I had a problem with this a lot myself - especially as im a blood donor - and you can really rectify this by eating a very varied diet and consulting such sites as the link provided. Leafy green veg, nuts and seeds, wholegrain cereals such as porridge, eggs etc.
It's all about doing your homework. There's a whole world of other foods outside of meat! Not only trying different kinds of foods but different cuisines will, i'm sure, make the transition from omnivore to vegetarian an enjoyable one!
Before you leave a post here saying "There is so much to live for" please read my story first (although it is a brief exaplaination) and don't waste my time as well as your own, I've already made up my mind.
I've always been a glass half full kind of person. I always looked on the bright side of life no matter what happened.
When I was thirteen my dad had an affair and left my mum for the other woman. Naturally, my mum was devesated. My dad never liked me so I wasn't all that bothered by it, I knew I had to step up and look after my mum and little sister. He left not long before my fourteenth birthday so it wasn't really a happy occasion. I met his girlfriend not long after and it was horrible. I had to hide this from my mum and it wasn't a nice thing to hide as a child. A few months after my dad left, my grandpa (on my mum's side) had a stroke and you can imagine the atmosphere in my house, it was not the greatest at all. Eventually my grandpa passed away and my mum was an even further wreck. By the time he passed away I was fifteen and had managed to get a part time job, cash in hand, to help support us. I was very depressed and still I knew I had to do good for my exams and yet, nothing I ever did seemed to fix my family's problems. We never had enough money, had to sell the house, my sister developed an anxity disorder and through it all, I always had to keep smiling even though I felt like hell on the inside. My mum's job then became unstable and I got a job as soon as leaving school. It was long hours and the pay wasn't great so eventually I took on a second job. The prospect of university or college just wasn't an option.
Despite supporting my mum, she doesn't like me much. I look too much like my dad so she says it's painful to look at me.
However, through it all. I had one constant. I had one person who loved me, cared for me, didn't want to look away from me when I needed them and I loved them dearly. I met him through a friend (right before my dad left) and as he didn't live near by, we conversed online. I am now twenty one - so that was a nine year relationship. Through all the horrible times the two of us endured (his life wasn't easy either), we supported one another and yet, two weeks ago, he committed suicide.
I don't want to live in a world without him. At fifteen I realised I loved him, he was more than just a friend and he felt the same. Yet he wouldn't let us be together, said he wasn't good enough for me and one day he would be and then we could be together. Through all the horrible times in my life, I always held this hope in my heart but now I have nothing to live for. Now that hope is gone and I would like to join him in the afterlife. If one doesn't exist then I have lost nothing as I will no longer exist but if there is an afterlife, I have to go after him.
My mind is made up but I'm scared. My friend jumped off a bridge but everytime I try to do the same, I'm scared of the thought of it not killing me and being kept in some hospital, my body dead but my brain still functioning.
I don't want sympthy, I just want to know what my options are.
Seriously? You really think people will give you advice on pain-free suicide methods?
So what, you have a dysfunctional family, you've lost people through both natural causes and suicide who meant everything to you and you had to support a family. It's called life.
Many people have gone through the same things and worse. My father was brought up in poverty in Hong Kong where his brother was beaten and left for dead by the chinese triad, my aunt was raped, suicides were daily occurances, my grandfather earned nothing working abroad, my grandmother was emotionally messed up and they fended for themselves. My father took care of the family and brought them to Scotland where he has a family of his own with a roof over their head, food in their mouth and unconditional love.
I was physically and sexually abused by a partner in a satanic cult aged 11. My dad didnt know how to be a dad and worked every hour he could and my mother was naive and uninvolved. I was sexually active at 7 years old and spent most of my teenage years in psychiatric hospitals where my parents got to watch me trying to kill myself in front of them 24/7.
There are massive numbers of us globally that suffer and for many it never ends. You had to be the adult looking after the real adults in your family who are emotionally unbalanced and you've lost the people in your life through terrible means who ever gave you something of a normal relationship and who genuinely cared for you.
You lost people and your family is messed up but - as quoted from Dr Cox in Scrubs - "every one of our parents does considerable emotional damage. In reality it could have been much worse."
I have no intention of talking you out of anything; you asked for no sympathy and I wont offer any - i'm presenting the facts of life to you.
Life is about survival, doing what it takes to stay alive. You can either fight for a life that you dream of and that is a reality, do the hard work and make something of yourself or you can simply give up. You've been through traumatic experiences that no child should have to endure. You've had the burden of adult responsibility at such a young age, the innocence of childhood taken; you had a horrible upbringing but you can define your future.
Sorry if this question is long or in the wrong section.
15/F.
Ok ever since I can remember I have worn guys clothes, like baggy jeans, shirts, baggy t-shirts. I've never worn a dress or skirts or anything remotely 'girly' and when I have been made to wear them ive put up a darn good fight. So im literally your average 100% tomboy. Its just I've always thought to myself that I want to be a guy. I personally think I'm a guy trapped in a girls body but its really hard. I'm Bi/Gay I have a girlfriend she is real loving and caring and understands. I know that I'm young and my parents said I would grow out of it when I was younger but I've gotten worse... I always say "I wish I was a guy." I always would've rather had a penis and to be honest I would love to have sex with my girlfriend properly, she also wishes that we could, but we have to settle with fingering (sorry if that out of line). I get told that I act like a guy by my personality sometimes and I've noticed I get on with guys and ill get turned on my girls. I use a binding shirt to hide my breasts. When I wear sunglasses i get mistaken for a guy most of the time, infact when I went out with my girlfriend someone asked "Oh is that your new boyfriend?" Obviously I was smiling away. But I have really girl eyes so if I take the glasses of people can guess im a girl. I know that we're in 2011 and as the years go by things like Sex changes will get way more expensive and im not the richest person around. So I know that I will most likely not be getting a sex change. I know that I do want to change my name to a boys name which will most likely happen when I'm older, maybe a present to myself instead of going to the school prom. But I want to change my name, ive spoken to my girlfriend and she says the name suites me, its also been my nickname kind of since we met and to be honest she has called be that name more than my original. She says that she will love me whatever my name is or whatever gender I am so that makes me feel more comfortable with changing my name. But I still feel like people wont like me if I change my name.
Uhh... So I guess I just wanna know if anyone can give me some advice or somethin on what I should do?
It seems as though what you are going through is not a phase. These feelings of being born as the wrong gender has been present throughout your life and the feelings of taking the next steps into transforming into that of a male gender, as you have described it, seem to be that its not only a want but is beginning to become more and more of a necessity for you and the desperate need for this change.
Though I am no doctor it sounds as though you may have Gender Identity Disorder: the feeling of being trapped in the body of the incorrect gender that leads to the person feeling dissatisfied with who they are coupled with intense feelings towards the need to be the gender that they feel is who they really are as a person.
People with Gender Identity Disorder (GID) often feel miserable being the gender they are born with and these feelings can easily escalate, at times even to the point of depression, they are that unhappy with who they are and who they want to be.
You can read more from this link here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_identity_disorder
By the sounds of things I think you will really relate to what is being described here.
Either way I think it essential that you begin to work through what is going on and really understand it all. If you really choose to go down the path of turning yourself from female to male you must be entirely sure; this is a huge step and decision.
Perhaps start with seeing a psychiatrist and open up to them. You can work through everything and you may even find that they offer you a diagnosis, that you may in fact have GID.
Should this be the case you can decide to go forward with your plans and discuss your options with a doctor and your psychiatrist who can offer the emotional and psychological support that you will most likely need at a time of life-changing events.
If you are officially diagnosed with this disorder there are things you can do. In the UK, as it is a recognised psychological disorder, patients of GID can have the majority of their treatment covered by the national health service. In the USA growing number of public and commercial health insurance plans in the now contain defined benefits covering sex reassignment related procedures, usually including genital reconstruction surgery (MTF and FTM), chest reconstruction (FTM), breast augmentation (MTF), and hysterectomy (FTM).
In June 2008, the American Medical Association House of Delegates declared that discrimination, stating that the denial to patients with Gender Identity Disorder of otherwise covered benefits represents discrimination, and that the AMA supports "public and private health insurance coverage for treatment for gender identity disorder as recommended by the patient's physician."
A friend of mine recently went through this. She legally changed her name and started taking steroids and other medications to start physically changing her body with the end result being surgery.
There are many options and variables but before embarking on anything life-changing I strongly suggest you see your GP who can refer you to the appropriate professional and take things from there.
My wife is over 40yr. wanted iam wanted to have a hot passion love again she is going threw stages which I could under stand what do I do.
Talk to your wife, open up. Communication is essential throughout the entirety of relationships.
It's important to keep talking to each other and what you expect from each other. There's nothing like having a heart to heart with the person you chose to spend the rest of your life with.
Work with her through whatever she is going through and support her. When you are both in a healthier and happier place you could perhaps make some suggestions of what you'd like to do in bed. Or maybe surprise her one night to a night of dinner and romance, capture that spark in your marriage again.
I'm 19 and a female and my boyfriend just broke up with me about a week ago and we were together for a year and 3 months and he was telling me that the reason he was breaking up with me is because he's not ready for a serious relationship. What does it mean when a guy tells you this and why would he wait over a year to say this also? I am completely in love with him and he told me so many times how much he loves me but when he broke up with me he said that he doesn't think he's in love with me, but he cares for me and has feelings for me but just not ones to keep the relationship going! Why would it take him over a year to feel like this? Everyone's telling me i have to move on, but I can't it's so hard, I love him so much and he is the only guy that I want to be with, and he always made it seem that way with me, he told me that once we both have enough money that he wants us to get our own place together, and he said that about a month before breaking up with me! Why would he be doing all of this, and then just break up with me out of no where? I thought we were so happy together because he never acted like he didn't want to be with me. He did say that he wants us to be friends, and I told him I would try but I don't want to be just friends with him, I want to be with him! Can anyone please help me because I just don't know what to do?! Thank you!!
Many, many men are nowhere near ready to settle down into a serious relationship so early on in their life.
He told you he loved you yet he doesnt want a seriou relationship and this is very possible. A man can love someone but are not ready to commit to them for life or love them yet not enough to sacrifice something like this for them.
It seems that he was genuinely falling for you in the beginning yet after a while realised that while you mean a great deal to him, he was in a relationship with you and was questioning whether this is what he wants with you or anyone at this point of his life. He clearly doesn't want it and he did the right thing. it's better he be honest with you then to commit to you all the while not wanting to be in the relationship. He could hae ended up resenting your relationship and possibly even you.
It seems he came to a point where he felt he had to stop convincing himself that a serious relationship was what he wanted. It is easy to want many good things with a person who you care a lot for in the future and still be in their life yet not wanting to be tied down in order to get it.
Don't doubt how he feels for you. you're clearly someone he cares for and in the time you were together he has experienced a relationship and has clearly spent a lot of time thinking about your relationship, you and working through his feelings and goals for the future. People can change in many ways in a year, especially as they grow into adulthood.
He was honest with you when he knew what he wanted from your relationship and his life, he's still keen to have you in his life and he's told you that he loves you even if he isn't IN love with you. There arent that many guys who would have been so considerate.
It's entirely up to you and whether you feel you're able to move past this and love him as a friend, value the time you did spend together and keep him in your life or whether you want to move on from the entire experience, learn from it and cut him from your life. He has made it clear where he stands and now you do too.
I am beginning to become sexually active with my boyfriend, and I am just curious as to how I can trim and shave my pubic hair to a man's liking. Are any particular designs more favorable? Long hair? Short hair? No hair? Landing strip?
The majority of men dislike unmanaged pubic hair. most seem to prefer no hair at all, a brazillian (a single landing strip) is a close second. It depends on the guy. There's nothing like asking him to find out!
I want to talk to him but I'm scared. What should I do ?
Its not okay if your boyfriend is inflicting any sort of malicious behaviours towards you and you have every right to call him on it. A relationship is an equal partnership.Exactly what is it that you're scared of in confronting him?
Communication and trust are key components in any relationship and if you're lacking in these things then it's time to re evaluate your relationship with him. While we are all guilty of making mistakes and hurting people we care for in some form, it is essential that you talk to each other about your relationship and how you interact with one another.
Tell him you need to talk with him and tell him from the heart of how he upset you, how you're feeling and that it wasn't acceptable.
If he doesn't treat you with the respect a partner should then you should acknowledge that you deserve much better.
Ok so yesterday I worked out.. Did some ab workouts and ran around the block and when I did it I really felt the burn but this miring I'm not sore!! Did they not work or what??:(
You do not have to be in pain or on the verge of throwing up in order to have a god workout.
If you're not seeing the results after several weeks then you should re evaulate your diet and exercise regime. Educate yourself on a healthy diet.
When you exercise ensure that you are challenging yourself and pushing yourself when you know that your goal is realistic even if it is difficult. Do not, however, push your body to do something that it's not yet capable of doing. Its very important to know your body's limits and when you are and are not really putting in the effort.
15f
what is the best way to deal with depression without seeing a doctor or using a hotline???
There are things you can do to improve the symptoms such as using arts and crafts as a means of self expression; exercise that releases those feel good chemicals; establish a routine that works for you; socialising; speaking to a trusted adult about yourself, feelings, problems and situations etc; taking up hobbies and finding something youre passionate about again; doing something positive and productive such as volunteer and charity work.
Many things can be done to aid certain aspects of depression that all professionals would encourage in their patients. However, depression is a serious psychiatric condition and without proper help it cannot be treated and the patient will more than likely face a decline in mental health as the depression escalates.
can you get pregnant if your mate comes in your mouth
No. Very basically, pregnancy occurs when a man ejaculates into a womans vagina and his little swimmers battle it out to get into the ovulating egg first.
Your mouth, throat etc have no connection to the uterus whatsoever.
And I'd seriously recommend learning everything about anatomy and sex before becoming sexually active if you are not already.
I HATE my job so much! It's not the people or anything I just hate the fact that I'm not free to do what I want and I have to do what they tell me to. I'm 15 and my parents want me to work I've talked to them and they said I better not quit what can I do? I hate it so much that it makes my stomach hurt and I sometimes even cry when I go on break and stuff. I worked last summer and made it through the season but I dont want to do another season!
Like it or not it's life! SO you'd better start getting used to it. You must discipline yourself.
We all must work to live. In the real world having free time is a luxury earned. Your parents are teaching you responsibility and what to expect of the real world. In a few years you'll be having to do it nearly every day for the next few decades.
Of course giving yourself the best possible education whilst you can will give you the freedom to explore career option you are passionate about and are good at. The last thing you want is working ever god given hour just to make ends meet in a dead end job for the rest of your life. So give yourself a future and knuckle down to your studies.
You're getting to that age where you have to start making choices that affect your future. Bear that in mind and what you want for yourself several years down the line. Many students are putting themselves into debt, studying all hours and working when they can just to give themselves a good future so take heed.
It's time to grow up and start introducing yourself to the real world. Its not pretty, it's damn hard but you gotta learn to survive on your own. your parents are doing well by you and teaching you what it's really like out there.So suck it up and stop whining. Instead be proud to be earning money and realise just how hard your parents have to work for you to be able to do what you want to do in life. Not all of us get that oppertunity.
My situation seems to be different from anything I’ve ever heard of or read about. I love my wife dearly, but I’m about ready to walk out the door because my own emotional ‘love bucket’ has run dry.
My story starts in the 15th year of our marriage: at Valentines we had a marriage vow renewal ceremony then shortly after (March 5th) she told me about her infidelities during the previous years. Actually, she told me about 4 and it wasn’t until much later that I found out the number was way higher.
She’s said she was sorry, that she’d never wanted to hurt me, that she’d been ‘sick’, that she’d only done it for the attention and she just wanted me to forgive and forget and we could just go on as if nothing had ever happened.
When I cried and told her how much this hurt, she got angry and defensive. My position was (and still is), “You destroyed something that was very precious to me: what are you going to do to make up for that? I don’t know if I can ever trust or believe you again: what are you going to do about that?”
Her position: “Nothing! I stopped, didn’t I? Beyond that I don’t owe you anything.”
Even if our sex life hadn’t dried up, I doubt that I could muster much enthusiasm for a woman who turned out to be so much different from the girl I thought I’d married.
If only she hadn’t told me! My advice to every adulterer is: don’t ever tell unless there’s a burning chance that he/she will find out – in which case you need to tell them before they find out on their own.
I don’t want much: I was promised love, honor and faithfulness and I want that! If I can’t have that then I at least want a substitute I can live with.
The other side of the coin is that during this time I was a radio / tv broadcaster. The opportunities for me to have been unfaithful to her were abundant. Nope! Not once. Not even close.
Which leads me to the other edge of my sword of frustration: had I taken advantage of those opportunities then right now, we’d be on equal footing.
What would you do?
Lets not look at this as a competition or whether you'd be equal should you also be unfaithful. The saying "two wrongs don't make a right" is extremely fitting for this situation.
It seems as though you're more emotionally bound to your wife and to your relationship with her more than she. The entire foundation of your relationship with her has been shaken; there is no functional relationship without the basic necessity of truth. Not only did she betray you with infidelity but she lied to you when "confessing". it begs the question: what more, if anything, is she hiding from me?
Furthermore her total indifference to how shocked and hurt you are as well as a complete lack of genuine remorse really does disappoint. As if she were an adolescent, she really does not accept the responsibility of the position she put you in and the jeopardy of your relationship.
If she really is unwell to the point where she is a diagnosed sex addict or something of the sort then there may be some sort of relief in that. However, from what you have described this does not seem to be the case. To cheat once or even twice, it is possible to try to make the relationship work. Yet continuous acts of infidelity as well as completely lacking the effort to contribute to your relationship and marriage in any way that would see you both working your way towards a happier future cannot be ignored and this is not something you signed up for upon making your vows, neither is it something that you deserve.
People chance a lot in fifteen years; sometimes into people we no longer recognise. Perhaps its time to crack down and get things going. Maybe visit a marriage councellor. Get your feelings, thoughts, truths, goals and expectations out. You will have the chance to analyze and explore your relationship in a controlled and professional environment with unbiased feedback and support from something who specialises in the subject.
Ask yourself what you want and expect from one another, whether you're even in love with each other and whether you want to put the effort into making major changes in your marriage.
I acknowledge that after investing a significant amount of your life and feelings into a person and what you have together that it is not easy to make a decision and that any decision made is an entirely emotional one, not one of logic. It is ultimately your decision. Its whether you love each other enough to exhaust every option before calling it quits.
I also realise you may not appreciate relationship advice from someone bound to be half your age. Yet I have been in many adult situations and relationships from a very early age and have been through more than most will go through in their lifetime. Whether you take on board what I have to say is entirely your choice. I am simply stating an opinion in the hopes of offering some sort of help or support to a person in need of it.
I've been in a relationship with, who i consider is my best friend, for 7 months. I really do love him , a lot. We've had sex, and for him, it brought him closer to me. But for me, i feel like nothing has changed. I love being with him, and we get a long so well, and to everyone else, everything seems perfect.He says he'd like to be with me forever and all kinds of cutesy stuff about our relationship. He's so in love with me, he tells me all the time..I love him, but im not IN love with him. as far as he knows, everything is perfect. I've been so fake to him, which is so wrong. I don't want to be without him, but i don't want to be with him either. We've tried being "just friends", and we just ended up going back out because i thought that was what i wanted. I absolutely can not break up with him now. I don't want to leave him, i like being in a relationship with him, but i also want to be with other people. I'm so conflicted.Help?
If you really cared for him you wouldn't string him along and let him believe he has a future with you when we both know, at least in the short term, that he doesn't have a chance in hell of that. And you don't seem to be telling him any differently.
You've given your relationship with him several attempts. It's clear to you now that for now you don't want a romantic relationship with him neither do you seem ready to settle down or be in a committed relationship at this point in life.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that but you have to be brutally honest with the other person who has their heart in this relationship.
I think you need to tell him exactly what you've said here. That you love him, he and your relationship together are extremely important to you and you don't want to lose that but you owe it to HIM to be honest with him about how you feel.
The reality is you MAY lose him or he may need space. But you're doing this for his benefit and not your own. What you do is entirely up to you but you have to take into consideration the feelings and thoughts of the man you claim to love. And we do these things for the people we love because it's in their best interests. Even if it does hurt us.
so i have this friend, theres always been this tension with us. i think he likes me and i do to. but he has a 3 year relationship. every time i see him, his always flirting with me and tries to hook up. once he drove me home from a party, we were really drunk and i ask him in, we hooked up (nothing to serious, kissing and touching) . after that we seem to get distance from each other.
recentely i've been hanging out with him again, he still have a girlfriend but he tells me that things are no good with her and tries to hook up. he keeps saying that theres nothing wrong by doing that. but i feel bad because i really like him and dont want to get too involved with him if he's not leaving his girlfriend.
last weekend we were watching a movie and he started to touch me. and i
couldnt resist it, so we ended hooking up again. today is wendsday and he
haven't call me yet.
i really like him. what should i do?
(sorry for de grammar, english is no my native lenguage)
Lets get real. He is in a relationship. He has a girlfriend and when he's "hooking up" with you he's cheating on his girlfriend. The fact that you feel guilty shows that you know what you're doing with him is wrong.
Im sure regardless of how difficult things are with his girlfriend at the moment she doesn't deserve to be treated like this by either him or yourself. She hes spent three years with this man.
You need to think about what your priorities are. If you like each other as you say you do then you have to tell him to choose. He can't keep treating you both like this. His girlfriend doesn't deserve this deception and betrayal and you don't deserve to be treated as second to anyone.
If he wants a relationship with you he has to be considerate to you both and end it with her. if he won't then it's clear he doesn't care enough for you to end what he has with his current girlfriend.
14/f about 110lbs 5”2
hey so im trying to get bathing suit ready like making my stomach smaller so if i do 15-20 sit ups every day how long do you think it will take to do that also if there is anything else i can do to make just my stomach smaller (thats all i need every thing else is good) let me know
thanks!
Doing sit ups are bad for your back and neck as well as, i think, less effective. Crunches are the way to go.
Doing 15-20 every day will tone you a little. And it'll take a few weeks. You gotta do the hard work to see the results!
If you want to burn fat you gotta do cardio which are aerobic exercises that increase the heart rate and burn fat. So things like running, swimming, fitness classes and most sports such as soccer etc will get the fat burning. Distance is what is important: how far you cover and not the amount of time you do.
Then theres toning which is working the muscles. During these exercises your muscles tear and repair so it's best not to do these exercises everyday in order to give your body a chance to heal stress-free.
Exercises such as yoga or pilates as well as things like different kinds of crunches and other various exercise techniques that target the abdominal muscles will serve you well. If you youtube "8 minute abs" you can do a great abdominal workout at home as often as you like. It's clearly from a few decades ago but it's clearly effective and very popular to this day.
The great thing about toning exercises is that your body burns calories for hours after the workout whereas you stop burning significant amounts of calories as soon as you've finished your cardiovascular workout.
Also what you eat is important to getting the right nutrients is essential. Get in all your vitamins. Cut down on carbs - cut out white breads etc altogether, and eat foods rich in protein to compensate. Soluble fibrous foods such as porridge is great. Its filling, healthy and full of iron.
Get your five a day and vary the colours of your fruit and veg. Be sensible in how you cook foods, allow yourself small amounts of treats (such as a square of dark chocolate). Watch out for the nutrition information on what you buy and educate yourself on healthy eating.
When it all comes down to it all you gotta do is eat right and work out. It really is that simple. And of course, as always, the harder you work the better the results in both health and vanity.
So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months now. (I'm a girl by the way.) I want a promise ring and he wants to get me one. but, is it to soon to commit? We've known each other for about 2 years now and he knows more about me than I do. Is it too soon?
Only you can answer that. But if youre questioning whether or not you're ready to commit, chances are you're not. it's not a logical choice. It's an emotional one.
Go with what you feel and have faith in your decisions. No one but you can tell you if you're ready or if its too soon.
My ex of three and a half years just got back home for leave from the military and has been trying to get a hold of me for the past few months. The problem is he dumped me on Valentine's Day and broke my heart after waiting over 6 mths for him. Now since he's back we ran into each other at the store of course since it's a small town. We decided to go grab a bite to eat and I just wanted to see how he was doing because ultimately I still care about him. One thing led to another and we started kissing. And now he's saying he wants me back... I'm so confused... My parents can't stand him but I believe I'm responsible enough to know what's best for me. I work and go to school full time. I still love him deeply and think I want to give it another shot even though he hurt me before. Is it bad to go ahead and give it another shot, or should I just pretend like the whole kiss meant nothing? Should I let my parents views affect that of who I date. Please help me!
There are clearly still feelings on both sides that haven't been expressed.
Ultimately what you do is your decision. Only you can truly know whether he's worth taking the risk.
Perhaps it's worth talking to him about it. Before starting ANYTHING up again let him know that he really hurt you and you wont set yourself up for that again. Ask him his reasons for hurting you like that. Let him know that it's not okay.
It's important to know each others expectations if you DID get back together. What would that mean? How would his military career affect your relationship? Do you care for each other enough to make it work? Will he do to you what he did last time?
Ensure that you establish these important things before starting anything again. Once you have heard everything you have needed to hear you can make a decision based on both logic and emotion.
He owes you an explanation. And if he has no intention of honouring any kind of relationship with you then he has no business kissing you in the first place.
My best friend asked the guy I like " So some of my friends are telling me that they've gotten high with you, is it true?" She is a hard core stoner and I know she only asked because when she runs out of her weed supply and when NO ONE else has any she could bum some off Jacob. His reply was I used too. This was Monday of this week. Last Wensday I was with him when he was smoking weed, I would've taken a hit but I am on stupid probabtion so I couldn't. Now I have called like 3 times and two of those times he supposedly wasn't home. Well, the first time was true, I am not sure if the 2nd time was. I am 16 and so is the guy I like. I am Female. Sorry this is so long, but I am really scared because he may think that I told her he was getting high when I didn't. Thanks! Means the world to me.
Instead of playing phone tag why don't you just talk to him face to face at school or wherever.
Its a simple misunderstanding and im sure he doesn't even think you've been saying things about him.
Say hey to him and see how he reacts. If there's something wrong then ask him about it and it he wont bring it up, you do so. Just say you hope he didn't get the wrong idea and explain the situation.
There's nothing like good old fashioned communication!