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he has a girlfriend and hooked up with me.
so i have this friend, theres always been this tension with us. i think he likes me and i do to. but he has a 3 year relationship. every time i see him, his always flirting with me and tries to hook up. once he drove me home from a party, we were really drunk and i ask him in, we hooked up (nothing to serious, kissing and touching) . after that we seem to get distance from each other.
recentely i've been hanging out with him again, he still have a girlfriend but he tells me that things are no good with her and tries to hook up. he keeps saying that theres nothing wrong by doing that. but i feel bad because i really like him and dont want to get too involved with him if he's not leaving his girlfriend.
last weekend we were watching a movie and he started to touch me. and i
couldnt resist it, so we ended hooking up again. today is wendsday and he
haven't call me yet.
i really like him. what should i do?
(sorry for de grammar, english is no my native lenguage)
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Stop hooking up with him.
He is not going to break up with his girlfriend. He may tell you things are not going well between them, but he doesn't have any intention on breaking up with her. If he didn't want to be with her anymore, he would have broken up with her by now. The fact that he hasn't speaks volumes.
He only sees you as someone to use. When his girlfriend isn't around, he uses you to hook up with to satisfy his sexual desires. He doesn't care about you. He has no intention of getting together with you, and he will only ever see you as someone to cheat on his girlfriend with.
Here's what I'm going to say as advice: Stop. Stop hooking up with him, and stop talking to him. Stop being the other girl. Take a look at yourself and the person you are becoming and ask yourself if this is who you want to be. Are you comfortable being the other girl? Do you like knowing that he doesn't care about you?
Not only that, but put yourself in his girlfriend's shoes. If you were in her position, how would you feel? If your boyfriend cheated on you with someone else, what would you do? I know you're overcome by lust when you hook up with him, but I'm sure that if you had a boyfriend you wouldn't want him to do this to you.
Think about it.
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The title for your post is "He has a girlfriend and hooked up with me", but it really should be "He has a girlfriend and I hooked with him anyway". Seriously, I could think of nothing worse in a relationship than just being the "sex" girl. Do what you want, but remember that you reap what you sow. Remember that.
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Lets get real. He is in a relationship. He has a girlfriend and when he's "hooking up" with you he's cheating on his girlfriend. The fact that you feel guilty shows that you know what you're doing with him is wrong.
Im sure regardless of how difficult things are with his girlfriend at the moment she doesn't deserve to be treated like this by either him or yourself. She hes spent three years with this man.
You need to think about what your priorities are. If you like each other as you say you do then you have to tell him to choose. He can't keep treating you both like this. His girlfriend doesn't deserve this deception and betrayal and you don't deserve to be treated as second to anyone.
If he wants a relationship with you he has to be considerate to you both and end it with her. if he won't then it's clear he doesn't care enough for you to end what he has with his current girlfriend.
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