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They make me feel like a stranger rather than a family member.
I've been feeling sad lately. I just feel that my whole bloodline is against me. I have cousins whom I used to be so close to and now I feel they are ignoring me. It's been depressing because this happened after I came back from a foreign country for 1 year. I did drop out of college there because of issues but I don't know if they are judging me because of that. How do I deal with this??? I can't even go to parties, go to their house because they just make me feel like a stranger rather than a family member.
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Talk to them about it. Tell them that you can't hang out with them because you feel like an outcast,like they are leaving you out. They are family,so no matter what they will love and support your decissions. But,you should still be honest with them.
If you feel this way about everybody,On the otherhand,You should see a therapist and talk to them. They might be able to pin point the problem and help you get over it.
Then you said its been depressing,Are you sure you aren't feeling this way because you are suffering with depression. If you do feel this way about everyone,then go to a doctor first and tell them the situation,they can tell you if it's just your mind,if its depression,if you just need medicine,or even if you just need to go visit a therapist and get the problem handled then come back.
Your not giving as much details or else I might even be able to pinpoint the problem!
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I don't think what ever happened at school has anything to do with what you are feeling. Someone once wrote: "you can never go home again". This statement better fits what you are seeing and feeling.
Life went on while you were away. You changed, you experienced a different type of life. Now you are home and want to pick up where you left off. Things just don't happen that way.
As I said life went on while you were at school. They have had experiences that you were not apart off. They are not sure how to communicate with you now that you have seen a different and larger part of the world than they have. They have to get use to having you back in their lives.
For your part: going home again is going to be hard. Military people experience this, even those that never see war, for the reasons I have just stated. They matures simply because they saw a different life from the town they grew up in. Their friends and younger relatives stayed home, so they remained mostly as they left them.
Even the street you grew up on has changed. It is not the street you left behind. These are the things that are normal to friends and relatives but are strange to you. If you talk at all about these changes your friends and family do not see it because they lived through the changes.
This is what I believe is meant by; "You can never go home again." So relax, things will get back to what you think is normal, just give it time.
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Actually, it's quite normal for things like that to happen. You get close with someone and don't see them for so long, I guess you could say it gets awkward. If anything, let them know how you feel, but after a year it may take a while for them to get "reacquainted" with you. Considering people change a lot. Tell them your feelings and concerns.
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