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heyhey, well this is where i tell you bout myself im guessing, well im 16, i live in norwood ma, i go to a technical school. my screenname is chiquitablaze420. and i have a myspace website and an xanga, thats it. the rest are fakers! alrighty well ask away kids, im here to help you the best i can :) peacee

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ive never been popular at my school, ive never been asked out by any guy (im thin, and gorgeous) and ive always been average and i stutter everytime i talk and i dont no what to talk about and there always bored of me and i hate how i act different at school then i do at home

my question is

* can someone give me tips to flirt
* can someone tell me what to talk about so i can be a little bit more popullar

desperatee

heyy girl, dont even worry about being "popular", just go with the flow, tell yourself before to talk to somebody that if they dont like you then thats their problem, dont even worry about it! But just make sure your confident and feel secure about yourself! Think about what you are going to say and even practice it in the mirror! Just be nice and dont do everything the crowds doing, because that sure isnt cool, just be yourself, thats it! And when you find a guy you like start talking to him, dont throw yourself at him but just start conovsation, look for something is he wearing and be like nice shoes or something, where'd you get them? and just start talking and eventually some guy will be lucky enough to have you! Just dont worry about being popular because it really isnt worth it, just be confident! alrighty! Good luck girl!
peace
love unity

I just got my period in July sometime and i use pads but i have her people say that tampons are so much better and LESS MESSY. but i am SOOOOO afraid to use one because just the thought sickins me. I'm asking people from experience....does it hurt the 1ST time.
-arielle-

Heyy, no it really dosent hurt that much at all, just follow the directions on the box and you probably wont even be able to feel it when you put it in! good luck
peace

dear advice giver,
I am 13 years old and I do not like my body. I am young for my grade and I am considered rather small in my grade. But what bothers me the most is that I have no breats. I can't even fit into a size A yet. All my friends have breasts but I am as flat as a cardboard. Consider this, I am a size 34 in sports bras but not the size A to go with it. My mom is a 34B and she says that she grew at a slow rate. Please help.
-arielle-

hey girl, trust me, you will eventually grow into your body, it may take awhile but eventually you will, and probably a knock out to all of the guys! lol, plus..breast arent all that great, they get in the way so much and its pain running with them, be lucky you are small! But by the end of highschool you will grow into your body so dont rush yourself! alright, i know that probably didnt help but it might make you feel better! good luck!
peace
love unity

how do you get rid of zits fast...please dont tell me toothpaste, or proactive! thanks xNoS`

heyy, you can use a few things, if you have baking soda and water, mix them together and then dab a little on each zit and it is sure to help, or there is this brown soap than you can buy a pharmacy or grocery store that will helps dry your face, and where the zits are and help them go away, its pretty old fashion but hey it works for me! And before you go bed at night put alittle of it on each zit and it will help! alrighty! hopefully that will work for you, good luck!
peace

well theres this kid i like.... and ive known him for a lonng time.... but i only see him once a year for a week.... and that makes me mad cause hes real cool to chill with... anyways... my best friend knows i like him and she talks to him online... and i guess he likes this other girl and she told him to go out with her... and like she knows i like him and i know i shouldnt be mad at her cause i know me and him will never work.... but i was mad... is this bad?

Heyy, no its not bad to be upset over that, it hurts, although it is hard to talk to him if you only see him once a year for a week every year. But dont even sweat it, talk to him when you see him and by then he probably wont even be going out with the girl he liked anymore. And when you see him just strut your stuff and stay happy, and that will make you look good in his point of view, be confident and you will probably get a chance, but to answer your question, is it bad to be mad at your friend, ehh, i can understand that, i mean you like him and for her to tell him to to go out with another girl isnt cool at all, especially when she knows you like him! Dont sweat it and everything should go out alright!
peace

look im like 13 and ive never made out before.... i know im pathetic.... i wanna though just im wiked scared im gunna be bad at it... can anyone help me not be scared or whatever

heyy girl, you arent pathetic at all, my sister is 14 and just had her first kiss, and she was soo happy cuz she waited for a guy she liked alot! so dont even worry about, she would freak out about it all the time and then once she did it, it wasent as bad as she thought, just dont think about it while your doing it dont even worry about being bad at it because everyone kisses diffrently, just go with the flow, pretend your in a movie or something and if you are really extremly nervous watch some romance movies and see how they kiss! haha, it might sound crazy but it would probably help! alrighty! hope i helped you out!
peace
love unity

i have this thing where i cry alot... i just constantly feel sad and the need to cry.... i cut myself now too.... i also burn myself with salt and ice and i know none of this is good... but i cant help being sad and crying and stuff... whats wrong with me ?

heyy hun, You might be bi-polar, or depressed, go to a doctor and maybe a medicine doctor can put you on an anti depressiant, it will help alot probably and make you feel alot better! but until then just keep your head up and just keep a postive view on things, and you are sure to get better plus the scars those cuts leave you arent pretty! trust me! so take care of yourself and get some help from somebody you trust! alrighty!
peace
love unity

my penis hasnt hit 5 inches yet,will girls still want to sleep with me. This isnt a joke or anything. PLEASE HELP ME!

Some girls dont go for penis size...it all depends on the girl, as long as she likes you it shouldnt matter!

I cant get it up in bed and i need help. I was with this really hot chick but my mouse wasnt goin for the cheese. I really dont want to resort to drugs. Can you help me? What should i do?

heyy...go to a med doctor and get viagra...my friend once took it and he said his "mouse" was half way down his leg lol...so maybe that would work... sorry if that didnt help! alrighty!

hi i just typed a 72 worded thing out explainign most of my problems but i accidently deleted it all. o well it would not work too long anyways

okay do here are some of my problems
im a freshmen in a catholic high school and im failing almost all my classes and im a loser who gets made fun of, im in between living with my mom at my grandpas and my mom and dad at my dads house; they both suck because my parents are opposites, my dad even tried killing my mom before after throwing a freaking tv at me, im losing weight profusely and im already VERY very very very anorxishly skinny, and every time i eat i get sick and i dont even hardly eat, and im going to the hospital in a couple days to get a brain scan because every time i try to go to slep i go into this episode where i can move, feel, hear, touch, see..well the only thing i can do is breath about 30 seconds about 10 times every night and im really scared becausei think they have to stick me inside a black tunnel thing for 2 hours or something, and that is impossible i get deathly scared, i just feel so abnormal, along with my family. they sleep 20 hours a day in our small dark (grandpa's) house. its like a vampires house. well anywyas someone please give me advice on what i should do, ANYTHING will help. thanks.

aww hunni,this is hard first off, you are defintly not a loser. dont let anyone ever bring you down, you are so much better than that trust me. Highschool is horrible and the kids are horrible. But every highschool is like that and it sucks. You just need to keep your head held up high and not let anyone bother you. People are really mean but dont let that get you down, just stay smiling and all will be good, everything always turns out alright in the end! Seems like you've been through alot, and going through alot and sticking it out means your only going to be a stronger person in the end. So dont worry! And as for your family, everyone in the world is somewhat wierd. But just be glad you have a family ya know, and as for the brain scan, dont stress about it, it should be alright! if you want to talk you can IM me on Vanilla13ean420 or just write back to me and tell me how the brain scan went! hope i helped!
peace
love unity

What are some good ways to make your girlfriend feel special, like make her feel like you are the best guy in the world (well I know that's probably around impossible. So I am exaggerating a bit, haha.)? What do you girls think would make you special if your guy said them to you or things like that?

I think you should just be there for her, kiss her lol but not so it seems like all you want is ass but make her feel comfortable, like a bestfriend, but also a girlfriend, so that way she will trust you and you guys can tell eachother anything! Treat her like a person and make her feel like the only girl you want and she means so much to you! I think it is truley all about communication so try talking to her alot, calling her when you get the chance,get what i mean? alrighty, i hope i helped a little bit! good luck!!!

well im a guy and so far most of my friends have been girls, but recently i made a few guy friends and it jsut occured to me that i realy have no idea how to hang out with guys, what kind of activities etc...

Well with guys it depends on what they like doing, like if their jocks then probably sports, baseball, football etc. or if their more into music they probably like to sit around and listen to music. Its probably easier with girls to hang out with cause you can pretty much talk about anything and not seem like a wierdo. But with guys just talk about basically sex or burping? haha im sorry that probably didnt help but just be a guy. Act how your friends who are girls would think is gross or wierd lol. All my guy friends are into music and they sometimes play cards, do the gutiar and drums or go into the city or something. Or either sit aroudn and talk about random stuff. Oh and some of them get drunk, but i dont recommend that for everytime you chill with your guys friends lol.
alrighty! hope i helped out alittle bit!
peace

If there is a fight between ur younger sister and her friends, should i help them by trying to fight with younger kids,or do i try and talk to them one by one in a place where no one can her u. Can u help me decide?

heyy, this is a hard one, whatever you do dont beat them up lol. I say that you tell your sister that if her friends do treat her like crap, and you can see it than to get new friends. But if its just a little fight then try talking to them. But making it so that it dosent look like your sister just cried to you for help, Tell them you dont like see people treat your sister like that and she dosent deserve it and to just grow up. I always just tell my sister to get new friends because she needs new ones but i dont know how it is in your sisters case. Try talking to them one by one and tell them that your sister is hurt by how they are treating her! alrighty, i hope i helped
peace

My friend has has some things happen to her this year, and she cut herself afew days ago! She is the nicest person I have ever met in my entire life and I'm not even exaderating. What should I do?

hey, I think you should talk to her, first figure out why she does it and ask her why, if its to relieve herself from other things that are bothering her or is she trying to do something to herself. If she is trying to do something to herself ask why and what in life could be so bad that you would want to do something like that to yourself. Having scars like that isnt pretty, trust me. Its hard watching a friend hurt themself and feeling like your helpless and cant do anything about it. Try talking to her and tell her how you feel and that she is such a great person and that when you see that it makes you feel like crap because somebody so wonderful and awesome like her is doing that. Its hard, but try getting her to talk to you or somebody else!
alrighty, i hope i helped!
peace and love unity

hey ya'll, could you please help me. I have to do an essay about "How self-esteem is related to eating disorders". It's suppose to be 300 words long. PLeas ehelp me, I"m so confused....I don't know what to put. Does anyone know what i should write down or any websites that would tell me some good information.

*thnx* i rate 5's : )

Hey, i think you should try writing about how when you bring yourself down or when people bring you down, like calling someone fat,it brings down your self esteem, and makes you feel so awful that you start doing bad things, as in cutting yourself or throwingup your food or just not eatting at all. And making somebody feel awful isnt right and alot of times that is how eatting disorders are started. Making yourself esteem low. Try adding more things like how harrasment can bring down yourself esteem causing eatting disorders! but i hope i helped you out! alrighty
peace
and good luck!

hey, did u eva "do it" b4?...if u did....wit who?

do what? haha

im a 15/f .. over thanksgiving i did some stuff with my boyfriend. i told one of my really good friends and she is really mad at me now. its not like i had sex with him or anything, and i was ready for what i did. i dont want to have sex w. him either because i want to save that for marriage. and ive told her that many times. but she is still pissed at my actions and doesnt trust me. what can i do to make her see that im not ganna go further then what i feel im ready for, and so that she is not mad at me anymore?

hey, 1st off, that is totally your buisness, she has no right to be mad at you. It is your body and you should be free to do what you want, It seems that maybe she might be afraid she is either losing you or she might be too much like your mother. Explain to her that it is your body, and if she dosent think your trustworthy then she is totally wrong. you told her, expecting her to bea friend and understand. so if anything, she should trust you more for acutally telling her and trusting her to understand your actions. Try explaining that to her alrighty! Write to me to tell me what happens! :)
peace

Ok I have this friend and I thought she was ok until recently I was dumped by my boyfriend and now she flirts with him like hell the other day he was saying how much he hates her so he doesn't even like her but is trying to make me jelious and I'm sick of it because I'm not over being dumped and she's saying stuff like oh he's flirting with me now and keeps trying to hold his hand should I ditch her because she's really getting me down she's keps going on about him 24/7 some friend she is I'm really gutted but have just kept it all in me and not said a word but I'm really upset about it but can't even cry because my feelings are so deep inside of me please if you can help me if you can't then ok

hey hunni, tell this friend how you feel, that you are not over being dumped, and you dont like the thought of him doing that because it hurts you. but if you want to just play her game than find a gorgeous guy and start going out with him, and dont worry this guy and girl both seem like creeps, so you will get better, at least your a good person who wouldnt do that to your friends! alright! im sorry about that

love unity

i became friends with this one girl named Jenna who was new this year. weve been in school for about 5 monthes now and me, one of my best friends, and one of my guy friends are her only friends in our school. well one of her guy friends from her old school likes me and i dont like him back. he saw me at the movies one night and gets mad because im with another guy, he tells Jenna and Jenna gets mad at me and says some extremly mean things to me, things that a "bff" (as she calls us) would NEVER say. she then apologizes the next day when she hears the real story from one of my friends. i dont know if i should forgive her because she really feels bad.. or shes apologizing because she needs friends at our school and if im mad at her, then she knows my friend and my guy friend will surly be mad at her too.. also she has gotten me in a LOT of trouble.. like trouble with cops.. please help!

hey i think you should tell her off next time she treats you bad. that you dont like be treated liek that and you wont tolerate it, and that friends dont do that to friends and if she dosent listen then give her the boot, girl you deserve to be respected, especailly by you friends. alright! i hope i helped!
love unity

i went shoppin with my friend the other day and we kept running into my dad there and everytime my dad would ask me a question shed answer for me. well a little later my dad got rly annoyed and raised his voice at her and told her off for doing that. i got a little pissed because he had a point but i didnt like the way he was talking to her. so i told him to not yell at her because shes not his kid and he took her home just because i said that. then later he told me how my friend is a liar and she bossed me around and she takes advantage of me and all this shit. i kind of agreed with him on some parts but some of the other things she said was totally out of line. now i dont know what to beleive because my dad got me all confused. is it fair what he said and am i being bossed around? ill rate high because this is so long. thnx

hun thats hard, i think your dad is munipualting you, putting things into your head, think about your friendship with her and all the things shes helped you through and base it on how you feel, stop listening to your dad because your dad cant think for you. and hopefully all goes well, im sorry if i didnt help, good luck though!
love unity

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