Q: I'm 14 years old and I started master bating its really starting to hurt but I can't help it ,it feels so good and I don't know if this will effect having children in the future .Someone please help me.

Q: My boyfriend and I are in our mid-twenties. We have been together for about a year and a half and I've never had a reason to feel like I can't trust him. Yesterday evening, he went to bed and left his phone laying out on the counter. Now, looking into each other's phones is something we promised we'd never do. Neither of us get jealous easily and we've always gotten along SO well because we're both laid back.

Well, what I found hurt me a lot. There were two different girls that he had been texting from time to time over the course of the past few months. With one girl, he would text her randomly and tell her that she looked beautiful in her new Facebook photo, and then a few weeks later he would say that he wished he could come see her. The other girl, he'd call her sweet names and he said he'd be off work for a few days and thought that they should meet up. From what I could tell, he never met up with either of them. But seeing him flirt and sweet talk other girls hurts so bad and I don't accept that. Plus, if he's willing to say those things, what else has he done that I wouldn't find in his phone?

I don't know what to do. I don't put up with cheating but if it IS just words in a message, it is different from physical cheating but still is a betrayal of my trust. What I don't understand is that our whole relationship has felt like it's in that "honeymoon" stage. I've never felt like he's been unhappy at any point. We constantly have so much fun together and have rarely had even the smallest of arguments. He brags about me to all of his friends, his family loves me, we've made plans for our future... and then I discover he texts random girls every once in a while. They're never ongoing conversations but still very inappropriate.

I left him while he was sleeping and went back to my own house. Since then we've briefly discussed the situation but I really don't want to talk to him because there's nothing he can say to justify what he's done. He keeps apologizing and saying how bad he feels, and that he'd never actually cheat on me, the texts are just an ego boost for him and he only sends them when he's drunk, that's why he quits replying. It makes sense, but at the same time, I will not tolerate cheating and I'm just hurt so bad that I feel like I will always have doubts in the back of my mind.. but beside this situation, we are SOOOO good together and I don't want to throw that away.

Q: I mean is it all like "unholy"? I know that black magic is like witchcraft but whats white magic? Will it get you sent to hell? I have been thinking about this since I read "Jays Journal". Also are spells considered witchcraft?

Q: So my boyfriend & I recently discovered we both had chlyamdia. I got it cured. But my boyfriend on the other hand, hasn't yet. He went but they sent him somewhere else, anyways we were messing around we been using condoms since we found out but I was messing around & I was teasing him & didn't think anything of it but I just licked the top of his dick (the head) & just remembered you can get chlymadia through oral. I didn't think about it, but it was literally just a lick. Not a suck or anything. One lick! Lol he didn't cum or anything. Is there a chance I have a chlymadia? Please answer asap!

Q: I know this may sound like a dumb question but I have dark reddish brown hair and really fair skin (like the skin of most redheads) it has pink undertones and it's freckled. Most brunettes I know even if lighter skinned aren't as light skinned as myself...?

Q: Hi,my wife is 40 and I am 49. Our love life is so so. If and when we do, we both fantasize. Hers is mature light skin men, big guy, hairy chest who can overwhelm her with his strength ( I am only 5'7")or her ex boss who tried to seduce her, she was in her 20s n he around 50. She also asks me if I was also fantasizing and I would also fantasize. After few years I asked her if she wants to try out her fantasy and also it would make me happy too but she says no. I told her atleast try it once and if U dont like then we dont do that again and for I know I may not like it. She says no. So, how do I convince her? Ofcourse men will be screened and safety will be priority. Any advise? I really want her to try it ONCE and then we go from there. Kindly advise please. Thank you.Thank you.

Q: I'm a 14 year old girl, I haven't been diagnosed with depression but it's kinda obvious....
Before Christmas 2013 I started cutting because I was upset about my life at home, my dad was a control freak and wouldn't let me go anywhere or even be with one of my best friends just because she said something he didn't like a while ago. I got so frustrated and sad that I didn't know wheat else to do, after about 2months my parents found out.. They did try to help me by asking what I wanted to change but I know it really hurt them that they knew what I was doing to myself and that I was so upset. I stopped for about a month and then it got worse, all because I fell in love with this boy and we didn't work out the way I wanted it to.. Still today I'm always feeling sad and even if I do manage to be happy it doesn't last long! I always find myself listening to depressi music such a 'London grammar' or 'bring me the horizon' I just like that sort of stuff and I go on my iPad every night on we heart it and that really doesn't help but I like reading that stuff...
I wouldn't say I'm suicidal, I don't think I could bring myself to do it but if there were to be a car coming and I was stood in the road I'm not to sure if I would move?
I don't want to feel like this anymore, I don't want to be in love with that boy anymore as he flirts with everyone and he hurt me emotionally.
I want to be happy again, I wouldn't mind going to see someone for help but without my parents knowing! I don't want them to know that I'm still like this, they didn't help me last time and I'm too scared to ask for help this time.
Thanks.

Q: Okay so. (Im using fake names here) Im a girl and really like this guy named Bob. Bob likes me back or I thought he did anyways. Bob's best friend is named John. John also likes me. I dont like John, I like Bob. But John was mad that I didnt like him and doesnt talk to me anymore. Understandable. BUT he forbids Bob to talk to me. Bob and I havent spoken in a couple weeks and he didnt reply to the one time i called him and left a message saying something like um i would like to hear whats going on from you and not anyone else because im really in the dark here and this is pissing me off. Bob likes all my pictures on instagram which is also very annoying because if hes on his phone he clearly got my voice mail and text. I dont know what to do because i really like him but he wont talk to me or explain what the heck is going on. I know the information that ive shared with yall because my really good guy friend (who is in the same group as Bob and John told me all of this) The good guy friend told me he would talk to Bob but hasnt gotten back with me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Im 16 btw. Everyone in the story is either 15 or 16

Q: There's this guy that I think is really cool and cute. I first saw him working at this restaurant I go to often and was going to let it go but I recently found his Facebook because we have A LOT of mutual friends and he was tagged in one of the pictures. So I added him and just so I could talk to him I was like "hey you look so familiar and I've been trying to figure out where I know you from did you go to ____High school? and he was like yeah and gave me the year he graduated. so I was like oh okay that's probably where I know you from. Sorry if I came off as a creep or anything lol. and he said its okay :) and that was the end of the convo. now Idk how I could begin talking to him again or if I should even try to talk to again. SO I need advice. should I let it go considering I don't know a lot about him and he doesn't know me at all. or should I try talking to him? I am a 21 year old female and he's 24

Q: I have been talking to a friend of my brothers for a few months now. We have been hanging out for the past couple weeks. The first time we had sex was almost four weeks ago. I haven't gotten my period since, and I have been feeling a little nauseous. I told him over the weekend that I might be pregnant and he told me he's not ready for a baby and it's bad timing because we are not really dating, but he would be there for me if it's definitely his kid. My brother found out about us hanging out and he told me to be careful because he said he's really shady and he doesn't want him to hurt me. I don't know whether to believe my brother or not because he really seems like a great guy. I don't know what to do. If I am pregnant, I'm horrified that he's going to leave and my family is going to disown me. And I don't know whether or not to take my brothers warnings seriously. I just need a little advice. What should I do about both of these things?

Q: 21/f About 3 weeks ago, I noticed my left wrist kind of hurt whenever I'd try to use it to turn something. The area that hurts is the joint between my thumb and index finger. This is slightly confusing because I'm right handed. I turn a lot of things at work with both hands so I figured I'd leave it alone for a while and it would go away. Now, it's 3 weeks later and my left elbow is swollen and hurts. I don't recall sleeping on it differently or injuring it at all. But the area between the two bones on it is normal color but a little swelled. I could barely use my arm today. The entire arm also feels stiff and keeps popping when I move it. Is it possible to get arthritis at my age? Will the pain go away or should I see a doctor?

Q: I'm a 19 year old girl. I have Bipolar 1, depression, severe anxiety, severe panic attacks, and insomnia. I also have some learning disabilities and agoraphobia (fear of people). Not only is all of this very difficult to deal with as it is, but I can't get a job or complete my GED because of it. I'm absolutely terrified to do most anything; make phone calls, go to the store, go out with friends, even just sitting at home alone triggers panic attacks. I've tried to get jobs but I've failed in all attempts. The farthest I've gotten, was past the interview which was very very difficult and started my first day but I had a severe panic attack and a mental breakdown, to which they sent me home, and I wasn't able to continue working there. It was humiliating and worsened my depression and confidence. I have no idea what to do. I'm so stressed out and I just want to be able to move on in my life like a normal person. I can't afford therapy, and I'm already on 1mg Xanax 3 times a day, 100mg of topomax a day, and 600mg of lithium a day. I feel like a failure because I can't accomplish these things and function normally. Does anyone suffer like this? What are your methods to overcome this? Is there anything that can help me? I'm extremely desperate. Please help. I need someone who understands.

Q: Ok I won't say the names of these school, but one will be School A, and I went to school a for 6 years and it was ok, then I left and went to School B for a year and loved it. I made so many friends, but I had to annually do a public speaking project, and it scared me so much I decided to go back to School A. Now I need to decide where to go next year. I have friends at both schools and I like School B better but I'm soooo scared of Public speaking there. What do I do? If anyone can help I would be sooo grateful and give advice in return!!

Q: I seem to have the most acne for my age. The thing is I eat healthy compared to other kids ( not too many processed foods) and I exercise and wash my face and use organic facial scrubs with nytric ( idk how to spell it) acid. I guess I am sorta stressed but not put under the pressure that other kids are. WHAT IS GOING ON I had a clear zit free face last year and now, well now there's acne on my forehead and both cheekbones. I have tried using salt it doesn't work and the the acid stuff just prevents . My parents won't let me get prescription because my moms against drugs( she thinks everything can be solved by eating vegies) WHY ARE ZITS POPPIN UP AND HOW DO I GET RID OF THEM thx 😘

Q: i have been told that i won't be able to get pregnant by the usual way because of PCOS and that i would have to do ivf if i wanted a child. i guess i reacted badly and stormed out of the doctor's office. :( since i am too embarrassed to go back to the doctor could you please help me understand the way ivf works and the whole process of getting pregnant that way? thank you!

Q: These sites that offer to introduce you to women from other countries... are they all scams or is it possible to meet someone you really love this way without being hurt or ripped off?

Q: Sorry to ask here but I have been through a lot recently and am having a hard time keeping going. :( Do you have any quotes that have inspired you to keep on going when it seems like there really isn't much of a point to trying anymore?

Q: here goes: last week my boy friend told my that he cuts.and i dont know how to react. should i be cool or spaz out?

Q: I can't play any school sports until I'm thirteen,I can't get an email account until I'm thirteen,I can barely to anything on this website until I'm thirteen,a majority of the clubs I want to do I'm too young for, it seems like everything I'm too young for! I don't get why. I know how to be safe online, I'm very smart and athletic and talented so I doubt see why there is SO many clubs and after school activities I want to do, and I have great advice to give, but I have to wait for 3 years. I think this is stupid! I know that crazy people are online, but I understand not to fully trust them, and not to meet them in real life. Some say that 10 year olds are too immature. Not always true! Some kids are very intelligent, mature and adult like. She adults can be very dumb immature and childish. So why can't I participate in do many things. Someone asked me a question I can give a perfect answer to, but I have to wait soooooooooooo long. I'm sick of adults thinking that we are all young idiots. I'm tired of being held back because of my age. I'm tired of people saying “you're too young" I want to be treated like I'm old. A teenager. Not a 2 year old.

Q: I am not sure if this is the right category. Wasn't sure what to put it in.

I need people who are sensitive and not judgmental because my situation is quite easy to judge but I actually really need some help. I'm really at a loss and don't know what to do. So if you are someone who would post rude comments, please leave now.

Okay so last year I was asked by a co worker to have a threesome with him and his wife... (I am a female). I couldn't help but say yes because I was curious and it was a fantasy of mine that I never actually thought would happen. Well even though I was on birth control I ended up getting pregnant from this.

Well this obviously caused a lot of issues in their marriage and I felt bad but I didn't know what to do so I left it up to them. They cut off contact with me up until I was about 7 months pregnant when he contacted me and wanted to try and work something out because he wanted to be involved in his babies life. It's been a very very complicated, messy and difficult situation as I am sure you can imagine. But his whole family, brothers, sisters in law, parents, grandparents are all involved and have come to see me and the baby and have just been wonderful. But he hasn't been able to see her yet because his wife is uncomfortable with everything even though she knew having a threesome could potentially cause this problem.

Well last week she decided she couldn't handle it and she left him. He has sacrificed a lot to be a part of his daughters life and I appreciate it but here is where the problem comes in...

Back when I had the threesome there was a guy living with me who practically raped me one night when I took an Ambien. I only have a very vague memory of it since I was drugged up. He admitted he did it to me but said he only entered for a minute and pulled out. I was pissed and kicked him out and haven't heard from him since and I cant even be sure when the date was. I thought for sure this happened a couple of weeks after I would have gotten pregnant but my baby looks so much like him. She is only a couple weeks old now but she has his nose almost totally and it really scares me. It's really hard to tell tho cuz she is so young but here is where I need advice...

The paternity test is in 2 weeks and I guess its a possibility that the threesome guy may not be the dad after all. After everything he has been through to be in her life and everything his family has done for us... I would be the single worst person alive if it turns out the guy who raped me is actually the father. It is very unlikely that it was him but at the same time... she really does look like him.

So my question is... how should I handle this if the paternity test comes out negative? What should I say to him and his family? How can I possibly apologize for something so extreme? Or should I tell him now that I was raped back then and risk losing his trust even if the test comes out positive? Overall... I just don't know what to do. Please help

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