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ok me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 11 months. hes a 17 year old male and im a 17 year old female. everytime we go to his house if his girl neighbors are outside there making a whole bunch of comments either insulting me or just stupid stuff as if hes messing around with them behind my back. like just trying to cause problems between me and him. cause i know hes not cheating on me, we spend like every second and every minute together he wouldnt have time to do it anyways. well like one girl will continuosly be like hey my babys daddy! or little stupid comments like that, it makes him mad and he will say shutup or something cause he knows there just doing it to make me mad. well i try to ignore them cause i dont want to start any problems. a few times they kept talking he told his mom and she went out and told the girls a whole bunch of stuff cause its not nice. and today we were walking away from his house cause he was walking me home and one of the girls was like you dont even say hi and he said ya i nodded my head it means whatsup and she was like oh you mean like whats up my babys mamma?! and he was like shutup and he didnt laugh or anything he just kept walking. well what are some things i can do. to show hes mine and they need to stop messing around like that cause its pissing me off. do i just ignore them or do i do something or say something what are some things i can say/do... i dont want to like stop him in his tracks and start making out with him like that cause im not like that., so please dont have that as an option..thanks in advance! (link)
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These girls are obviously jealous that you are with your boyfriend. They also like that you both react. If you two ignore them, they will probably stop.
If that doesn't work, you could always go the route of embarrassing them. Get a whole bunch of friends and just have everyone talk about how stupid those girls are really loud. It will especially hurt if it's guys talking about how stupid they are. That will shut them up.
I always say go with the peaceful way first, but some people don't learn till they are hurt.
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Okay, so, I think this could go under health or injuries. So I just put it here. This is a bit longer than I thought so I just put **'s by where the question actually is.
Well, I had a cyst in my lower back for over a year (July 08). Bothered me everytime I sat down, eventually I got used to sitting a certain way but in long eriods of time in school it would strain my back. Well, I went to many doctors who prescribed tons of medicine which NEVER worked. Frusterated me. Finally, my mother took me to a dermatologist, which prescribed me the same medication... still didn't worked. Well, they finally just took out the stupid thing about 2 weeks ago. well they stitched it up the hole and told me to come back in 10 days. About 5 days later, a hole appeared, kinda like the stitches breaking. I went back ASAP the doctor said it looked fine. Then, I went and got the stitches taken out, thought everything was wonderful, not even a day later this huge hole appeared.
**The stitches didn't work. The wound broke open. Now this is where you come in, haha, Any ideas? I mean there was no blood and it doesn't hurt. Should I just leave it alone for a couple days and it'll eventually heal itself? Or go back to this stupid doctor again? It's really frusterating and disgusting for me. 17/f (link)
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I don't know what your insurance is, but you might want to get a second opinion.
I have Kaiser and had ingrown toenails removed in January. I was in a lot of pain and the nail ended up falling off. I went to 2 other Podiatrist before I found my current one, who is the head of the Podiatry department. He explained to me what happened, the other didn't.
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Ok so I know how this sounds, I am a 20 yr old male and i have this friend, weve been friends since freshman year in high school and weve always experimented with diffrent drugs and alcohol weve stopped since then minus alcohol and pot. I hadnt seen her for about 2 years, she randomly called me and told me she was pregnat so we decided to meet at her new place but little did i know she was still smoking pot! im no doctor and i definitly dont like telling others how hey should live their lives but i seriously question the health of her baby, could it possibly induce a miscarage? i have no idea i would just like some opinions. (link)
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Looks like that is a very controversial topic. I found this website http://www.babycenter.com/404_is-it-safe-to-smoke-marijuana-during-pregnancy_2490.bc . There's a lot of research and debate both ways.
I don't smoke Marijuana, but personally if I did I wouldn't smoke it if I were pregnant. I've taken a class on drugs and any drug (prescription or illegal) will have an effect on a fetus. It may not be immediate and it might not be huge, but there is some effect. My thing is, why even take a small chance that something might go wrong.
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so ive been with this guy for probably like 2 weeks.
but im wondering when we should kiss?
we havent yet, and he would be my first.
any suggestions on what to do? (link)
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If you want him to kiss you, I would send signals that you want to be kissed. Sit closer to him, caress his face and hair, look into his eyes, maybe lean towards him. Also, you can kiss him first. The kiss should just happen. My current boyfriend kissed me on the first date.
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14/f
My friend says he doesn't like me.
Okay, I'd believe him, but here's why I don't
-He is always staring at my lips or neck or chest in a lull in the conversation
-If we aren't around his friends and just by ourselves or around strangers, he can't keep his hands off me. He'll flip my hair or tickle my neck or poke me in the leg or grab my wrist and pull me closer and act like he's gonna hurt me, or he'll grab my jacket and say "It's mine now~
And he'll tease me.
He just touches me or grabs me ALOT.
-He'll randomly pop up wherever I'm at
-Even at like, 12AM if I'm upset he's there for me. One time a guy was getting on my nerves, and he said he'd beat hell out of him if he kept at it(this could be a 'just friends' thing, I admit)
-Every morning he texts me a clever little greeting
-He delights in proving how he's bigger and stronger than me. He doesn't treat other girls like this.
-He'll flirt with my friend when I'm there, yet I asked my friend how he does when I'm not around, and he doesn't do a thing.
What do you make of it?
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That all sounds like he likes you, but you might be reading into too much. If he said he doesn't like you, then leave it at that.
When I was in high school, I thought one of my guy friends really liked me because he acted like it. Then I asked him and he said he didn't. It was very awkward after that.
Anyway, even if he secretly liked you, if he won't ask you out, then what can you do? Nothing.
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okay i'll make this as concise as I can:
I am part shy part confident. I can flirt from across the room but freak out when I start talking to someone...
Anyway so there is this guy who FINALLY got the hint that I like him and is showing some signs of interests (he is very very shy). Thing is he works at the library so it isn't really a social environment where we can get to talk and stuff. I asked him questions a couple of times and he's been quite helpful. Today I went to get some research done and got so mad at the noise so I got up very frustrated and was about to leave (I've got a major paper due) and right then he walks right infront of me. Luckily I manged a "hello how's it going" and he said good good you and turned completely towards me taking a go at a potential conversation but being as upset and 'not in the mood' as I was I blew it and cut it short by saying alright thanks smiled and i don't remember if I said something else and left!!! It was a perfect opportunity to start a conversation especially that it seemed like he was strolling around and not busy at the time.
How do i fix this (this might be the second time I accidentally turn him away!!!) he's super shy.
We don't know each other well as I said I only did ask him a couple of questions and all the flirting done was from across the room or non-verbal! I am going back tomorrow so what's a good scenario (emphasis on SCENARIO) to play out ... I can't ask him something else cause he knows that I know everything there is about the library and because he tends to focus completely (or maybe I do??) on the question..... I don't want to make it too obvious that i "ran into him" by accident..... (link)
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I like Annie's idea. I would probably end with asking him if he would like to get coffee on Friday (or whatever day, always pick a day). I would pick something casual since he is very shy.
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I moved across the country to start a master's program- it was a big change for me. Friends always ask me how i like everything, and think that i am having the time of my life. The truth is that I am not. I don't have close friends here, hardly go out, and generally feel homesick and start having doubts about being here. To top things off, things at home are not going well at all, adding to my stress. I started to fall behind on my studies and totally bombed an important exam- since then i've felt like complete crap. I stay at home a lot, since i don't really have friends who want to go out (either out of town, studying, etc.). I started doing yoga a while ago with a friend- i swear she is the only one i feel is a true friend to me-- she is often busy too, and we do have plans to start yoga again- so that is my proverbial light at the end of the tunnel.
But lately I've been feeling down- not clinically depressed or anything, but down. I don't like where I am at academically, I don't feel connected to the department or professors; don't really have a shoulder to lean on, and I am stressed all the time. What to do? (link)
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This sounds like me before.
Your school probably has a free counselor. I would highly recommend seeing them. When I went to college, it was far from my family and friends, I felt the same way. It really helped me regain control of my life. Whenever I was really down, I would call the crisis hotline. Just talking with someone helped.
The only thing you can control right now is your studies. It is ok that you bombed that test. Regain yourself and focus.
Get involved with a club or group at school. Talk to people in your class. Check out meetup.com . They have some great groups for different interest. I'm in a knitting group. The yoga sounds great. Do things that you love? I love cooking and baking, so I do that.
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Long story short, I talked to this girl everyday for a couple months over the summer, and when she moved back to school I asked her out, only for her to say it was complicated because of an old relationship. She never straight up said "no," but that's basically the jist of what she said. Anyway, our conversations started to dwindle a bit right after that, it was a little awkward. But we kept talking, and we're back to talking nearly everyday now, hanging out on the weekends, etc. I'm nervous to ask her again, but here's my question. Girls, if a guy said he liked you and you didn't like him back, would you keep talking to him? She knows how I feel, and yet if she doesn't feel the same way why would she talk to me? (link)
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She may assume that you got over it. She might like the attention and the fact you like her.
I really wouldn't ask her out again. I really think you need to move on. If she wanted to be with you, then should would be with you. I really don't like girls that play games and this is what it looks like. I wouldn't stop talking to her, but I wouldn't talk to her everyday. There are a lot of great women out there that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
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hey i am 18/f. and im broke! i have no job. i did have one but i quit. i asked if they were hiring again but they aren't. then i got another job but i got fired. Now my mom won't give me any money. i only have a little over $1800 in my bank account. i am worried be cause i know this won't last me a very long time and i need that money for gas. i am interested in working with children, i have started looking for volunteering hours at churches, working with kids, but i noticed churches won't hire you unless you're christian. and daycares won't hire me bec ause i have no experience :( help!! (link)
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You try looking on craigslist.org for baby sitting jobs. Talk to people in your community. Ask friends. Try to get anything right now to build experience.
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i am falling in love with a man. the feelings are crazy and ive honestly never felt this way about any one else. there is only one problem, the sex. ive had wonderful sex in my past and the sex with this guy is just not good. i dont even find myself wanting to sleep with him. i want to fix it sooo bad; i just do not know how. any tips? (link)
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When I first met my boyfriend, he had a hard time having an erection. It was embarrassing for him and I felt bad. He told me he wanted Viagra, but I didn't want him to do that.
We explored different positions and techniques. Now, he's an amazing lover. I have never cummed so much in my life.
I would talk to him about how you feel. Men want to be able to please there partner. Try doing different techniques. I found the missionary style works best with him. Also we do a lot of foreplay and roleplaying.
Also, if he's doing any drugs (medication or illegal) it could be a reason why the sex isn't good.
My Ex, had a very small penis. We found that doggie style was best.
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16/f
So, my friend got fingered the other night and she said it hurt really bad and it was only one finger but it hurt a lot. Her boyfriend told her she was really tight and he didnt even stick his whole finger in her, just a little and she said it still hurt her really bad. What should she do? (link)
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Yeah if she's a virgin then it would hurt. The first time you have anything up there, even a tampon, it hurts. I agree it does also hurt if you haven't had finger or sex in a long time. It can also hurt if the vagina is dry. This can be resolved with lubricant or foreplay.
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So, I'm 15. female. I've had this boyfriend for a little over 2 months now. And like, he's kinda one of those flirty boys, the one that flirts with a lot of girls and stuff. So i just have this gut feeling hes flirting with others girls behind my back and shit. Like last night, he textes me (doesnt have anything to do with convo) "I mean, I can text you tomorrow if you want me to ;)" And I was like oh that must have been to someone else..and he was liek "no it was to you baby." and i was like "nahhh tht woulda been completely random." And then he was like "hahaha your right, it was to someone else." So he fucking lied about it. And I honestly don't know. I mean I text a lot of other guys and shit, but the thought of him flirting with other girls makes me sick. and texting other girls does too. I just have this really bad feeling in the pit of my stomach that he flirts with a million girls, while in a relationship with me. uhh? any advice on what i should do ? thanks guys :D much loove. (link)
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Ok, take a minute and calm down. .
i would talk to him about the relationship. You have to set up ground rules. If this is an exclusive relationship, then he has to be committed to you. That means you and him, can't flirt with other people and to be honest with each other. It sounds like he doesn't think you two are exclusive, just dating. That means he feels like he can go out with other girls.
If he continues to flirt with people even with the ground rules, then you need to break-up with him. You can't change people. Some guys are just flirts and there isn't anything you can do about that, but leave.
Also, don't overreact. You will look like the crazy person.
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17/f
so, in my one class, there is this one boy, who is really good looking, and he seems like the type of boy that i would have a lot of similar interests with. (music, art.) anyway, i told the two girls i sit next to and talk to frequently in there how i thought he was hot, and so the one girl acted very.. middle schoolish.. & went and called this other girl skylar over, and she was like oh skylar! kendall thinks chris is hot! and they were like SHOUTING this conversation, and so, skylar had chris come over and hand me a paper, and i was so embarrassed, because i thought he heard. well she ended up telling him that i liked him or whatever, and the next day skylar was by my table, and she says loudly.."oh guess who is coming to give you your paper!" & i was like ughhh. & usually he just puts the piece of paper on my desk, and continues, but this time, he held it out, and i had to turn to face him and grabbed it & me being shy i just smiled, and so then he hit his head on the cabinet and me and the girl that sits next to me started laughing, so he stood at the end of the table, and was like "so does anyone else need paper?" (we all needed paper, he knew it too, because we were going to have to draw him, & it was the paper we were using.) & so the one girl was like "Yes? don't we all need it?" & he was like "oh yeah." & he stood there for another second, and then walked away.
it was really awkward, and i'm not sure what to make of it. in your opinion of what i told you, do you think he may be interested? a lot of my friends think he is, but i don't know. & if he is, what do i say next (keep in mind i'm really shy.) & if you don't think he is & probably finds me repulsive.. what do i do? just ignore him? (link)
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Next time, don't tell these girls anything.
From this situation, it is very unclear if he likes you or not. He's probably flattered that someone likes him. If he knows you like him and he doesn't do anything, then (1) he's shy or scared (2) he's not interested.
Don't listen to friends unless they are 100% sure, from his mouth, he likes you. My friends told me for a long time some guy liked me, but it turned out he didn't. It was very awkward.
Don't ignore him. I would be cool about it. Just talk to him normally. He might not know you very well, so that could be another reason he's not asking you out. If a dance is coming up, maybe you can just let him know you want to go.
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i'm just going to come straigh out with this. i'm 19 years old. i've never "opened kissed" a guy before if thats what you want to call it. i've madeout with guys before and i HATE it. i'm definately straight, i just dont like the feeling. never been in a real relationship either and ive been told that im very attractive and alot of guys have tried getting to know me but i push them away because i dont want that awkward kiss to come. if i told a guy i didnt like french kissing, he'd probably think i was crazy and stop talking to me. and how exactly do you open kiss? do you bascially kind of suck on the persons lip a little? uggghh. this kissing this is whats keeping me from having a relationship because i'm so embarassed. everyone expects me to be experienced because what i look like.. but im not. at all. still a virgin:) and will be for awhile but the kissing thing... ADVICE!? (link)
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I'm 22 years old and have been in several relationships, I still hate french kissing. There's nothing wrong with that. I feel like the guy is trying to eat my face, hehehe. What I do is like what advicemistress said, peck, break away, and suck on their lips. If they start using tongue, I just start kissing their neck or nibbling on their lower lip.
Don't do thing that make you uncomfortable. It's ok that you are not experienced. You're still growing up. I didn't have my first kiss till I was 18 years old in College.
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