I am a Fun loving person, who has passes though much and is willing to share what advice I have for those who ask.
Someone once said, "all of lifes anwsers are but a question away" and it also has been said, "he who ask not, finds not"
I can't gerentine the best responces but I will the do the best I can.
Sincerly Shadowfox
Member Since: February 15, 2008
Answers: 33
Last Update: November 18, 2008
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ok. so my one friend is convinced that the world is going to end in 2012. i am one of those people who hears something and wants to be logical but i can't help but believe it. i also worry alot. can someone help set me straight because this whole thing is really starting to scare me. please respond!! (link)
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as stated before, NO one knows when the the "end of the world" will come. I but it is not to be feared, time is running out, that is for sure, but we still have time. I'll give you some reason why, the too many things have been left undone. God made many promices that havn't come about yet, many have but many have not.
I also want to point out something. when in kindergarden you had a begining and an end, it was probley scary leaveing and moving on. after kindergarden you had/will have 1st-12th each year doing the same as the last, when graditaion day come, Post-grads chool is follow (assumming you don't want to flip burgurs your whole life). when post-grad school is over do you ever stop learning? the anwser is no, we learn our whole lives (if we allow ourselves to). this life as we know it will have an end, but it will only lead to new beginings.
I advice to you is to relax and live today, preparing for the time to come (because it could end sooner than you think).
I hope this helps
~Shadowfox
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imagine this fun happy spirited girl who runs around and doesn't give a flip =] she likes meeting people and can make conversation with people easily. but then when she finds out a guy likes her, its like she gets all nervous. she pretty much loses all of her spunk that probably attracted the guy in the first place. but she finds it hard to trust the guy in a way, and his intentions. either shes afraid or she just hasn't had enough experience with guys. but she wishes she could show him who she really is. because he told her friend that he liked this girl and they've been hanging out together once a week for the last few weeks. they even kissed once =]. but she needs help letting loose. she needs to get her groove back hahaha. i bet you all love how this question is all hypothetical. thanx =]]] (link)
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I have but two bit of advice, "Open you hands" and "breath" that will help you to relax. from there I feel you've got.
I hope this helps
~ Shadowfox
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Im 19 and ive bin going out with my girlfriend who is 17 for 1 year and 4 months. I live in PA and she lives in NJ. I am obsessive with her. I want her all to me. She use to have alot of guy friends like that was all her friends. she told me that she isnt happy and she wants to hang out with her guy friends and im not good with that. i call her alot more than i should. she said that i have till the end of the summer to change or she is leaving me. She has bin the best friend i never had. I love her to death. im just afriend that shes gona meet a guy better than me cause theres alot better guys that she could have.
I need steps on how not to be obsessive. i want to be with her longer then 4 months. (link)
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Well I'm sorry there is no set "step-by-step prossess" on how to overcome our weak and natral selves; however there is a pattern on over comeing somthing (fyi this was taken from programs used by people tring to break addiction but still applyes here)
1) Recognize you have a problem.
you seemed to be on that step seeing how you are seeking addvice.
2) understand your problem.
the more you understand what you are dealing with the more likely your going to find a way to overcome your problem. find out WHY you get obsessive in the first place, (this requires a deep soul search and can be diffcult)
to help you with this I've given some avenues to persue.
a- it helps to write down what sets you off. list everything that you make you obsessive. (ask caring friend to help with this --for example you girl friend, or a family member)
b- if you list everything that sets you off, then explore WHY you think that is (keep in mind this is something you must discover on your own). some friend may help you explore but becareful only you and God truely know everything about you. brainstorm reason for you behavoir.
keep in mind there are many ways you can do this but you must stive to learn WHY you act the way you do.
now I'll bring in a little religion into you life (keep in mind this SHOULD NOT offened you, seeing how most religion agree on this matter)
3) rely on God's help you to overcome behavior.
there is a God out there, he cares for us , you. he is our heavenly father and like any loving father is more than will to help his children with there problem -- if they ask.
4) that would mean that sincer PRAYER, asking him in the name of his son to HELP YOU (they will not do it for you, "faith with out works is dead" you got to work for it)
this is the last "advice I'll give to you now.
5) replace the behavoir with something eles that IS good, our actions are like holes the more we do them the bigger they get, to overcome bad behavoir or to get out of the hole, you got to fill the hole up with something that is good. (for example; everythime you feel you self getting obsessive, open you arms and relax, go running, write down (carry with you a notbook and write down what you are feelling or what ever), paint/color, cook, clean, exerices, ....)
I hope this gets you started on your path to conquering your demons. Good Luck
~Shadowfox
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Ok, I've been searching for days and I just can't find anything! I really need an inspirational story on change - like on HOW something changed, and then HOW it affected the person! I thought I'd find lots but I can't find anything! Please help! (link)
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I'm not sure what exactly your talking about, Change as in a spirtual sence, or what ever, I belive you talking about a spirtal Since so I'll mention a few I know of (and give there refences)
the bible holds alot of them, but also many other book and inspider sripture.
one is found in the Old Testiment; the story of Naaman and his leporsy (found in the book of second Kings 5th chapter) Naaman had leporsy ( a bad skin distorder) and went to the prophet
"Elisha" to be cured. Elisha's messager told Naaman what he had to do. at 1st Naaman didn't like it but resived the blessing of health by his obedinces.
another is found within a set of sriptures known as the Book of Mormon. this story is of a boy name Alma the younger (or Jr. in our time), he was as bad as you could posibly get, till one day an angel of God stuck him down and felt the power God. Alma when his heart was ready to repent of his sins and eperince a "mighty change of Heart" he desribes his exprenice as this "Yea, I say unto you,... that there could be nothing so exquisite and so bitter as were my pains. Yea, and again I say unto you,... that on the other hand, there can be nothing so exquisite and sweet as was my joy." Book of Alma chapter 36 number 21 (found in the book of Mormon). Alma became a powerful servent of God afterwards.
for fictional/ Non-Sritural stories, your best bet would be found in Charles Dixion "A Christams Carol" Scroge went from a old Miser to a "Changed Man" for he saw the true meaning of Christmas.
if you would like more stories or this didn't anwser your question you can write to me. another place you can check out www.mormon.org
I hope this helps
siserly Shadow Fox
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ok well i masturbate but i only started when i got a bf. i never even had wanted to or was aroused but then i started thinking more sexually and kissing him and we kinda did dry sex a couple times and talk about doing things on like IM ocassionally and so thats when i started doing it and now i do it rather often! sometimes i wish i wasnt like this and that he and i ddint talk sexually. we are good Christians too so what should i do?? we almost went to 2nd Sunday and i dont think thats bad but i wish we didnt talk about things and do dry sex but now im a sexual person with desires so we say things and do things to keep us happy. what should i do??? thanks so much! (link)
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There is a reason why you feel bad, it has nothing to do with brainwashing by reiligon. I'm sorry but I disagree with what has been said about it being natural and ok, it natural to want to have a healthy relationship with a member of the oppist sex, it is far from being what the world is saying it is. the reason I spoke of is (I asume you belive we came from god), God never attend sex to be used as people today are useing it. the reason you feel guilty is that inside each of us is something that wants to do what is right.
If u feel uncomfortable stop, seek help with it,
I hope u find whta you are looking for
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Kind of a strange situation. I go to the cafeteria at our school every day and there's this girl that I kind of like behind the counter. I always smile and stuff when I order my food, and she smiles back, but I think it's because she's working. I doubt she knows that I have a little crush on her. How do I actually ask her out without sounding stupid or desperate or embarrassing me or her in front of her coworkers? I know she's single. Also, I dont want to say anything corny like when she asks "what can I get for you" I dont want to say "2 pepperoni slices and your phone number" or anything like that. Thanks (link)
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Well this is a clasic senerio you have here. may I make a sujestion
be natural and your self, if she realy likes you she wouldn't be emberise by you asking her. if you feel that isn't the best sistuation try finding a another place you can talk to her (if posible).
O yea this is very important! give a SINCER COMPLEMNT, that always help smooth unnaturality out. if you ever are at a lost for words (do this step)
I hope this helps
if you need anymore advice on this subject feel free to ask me.
Shadowfox
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Can anyone describe to me what their ideal utopia would be or look like? I want to actually compare the differences in people's imaginations. Thank you. (link)
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an excelent question, utopia for would be a socoity build on learnering and growth. a time that we work together to achive levels never before reached. such a time will come, when world are ready. in a utopia socitiy is one of pro-active work and a self-less socitiy.
there is more to utopia than this, if u desrier further expanding on this or anyother subject please fill free to write 2 me.
I hope this helps
Shadowfox
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Okay so this is like the second day of my period, i started yesterday...But i have been on my period for about 4 years now and its done it before but im still kinda wondering...
Okay well in my pad there was like these clumps of blood, like two of them a little one and a big one, and i kinda feel them but it just feels like i let out a lot of blood at one time. What are these?? and another thing do these things help you period get over with quicker? And is it true that the more you cramp the quicker the blood gets out?? thank you!! :) (link)
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I'm sorry I don't fully understand all there is to know as there is conserning this subject, but if you have a consern go see a doctor. sorry I could be of much more help, I hope it all is ok,
Let me know ok,
PS if there is anyother question u have just ask, I'll do my best 2 anwser.
Shadowfox
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i'm 16/f 162lbs and 5'4.
my doctor told me today i need to loose weight.
so i'm gonna aim for around 130lbs.
i don't really have a deadline for the amount of weight.
but maybe at least 15lbs by my birthday (which is late april).
i'm wondering how to do this.
any specific diets i should try?
or any tips that helped you while changing your lifestyle?
any help would be great.
thank you! (link)
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Well, What help me loses lbs, was eatting right,
haveing several light cal, healthy snake every 2-3 hours, (carrots, brockly, tuna (very good high in protine), fruit, ...) exercercing before eating speeds up the metiablism. drinking a lot of water.
do this u should help you lose weight. remember to build up musle to help burn fat.
I wish u luck
Shadowfox
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ok im 15 now and i don't know if theres something
wrong with or what because ive only dated people on the internet its like nomatter what i do i can't seem to get a boyfriend . its not like i want to date someone o just be with someone i only want tto date people who care about me and are interested in what i have to say. so my question is why isnt any guy interested in me ?
because im like outgoing and stuff im in the 9th grade now and im gettin worried that i'll never find a guy so if anyone can give me any tips or anything that would be great thankies. (link)
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May I offer some advice, ifI'm correct, u r 15, in 9th grade and are worried about dating. the problem I see, is there is nothing wrong, save one little thing, these things take time. you must learn to be patinet, there is many fish in the sea, if you don't find someone today, then look tomarrow, keep on doing this till come to the end.
I'll give my voice of warring, do become desprite. when that comes one usely falls into something they'll regreat 4 the rest of their lives.
in High school, just have fun, don't worry about having a relationship, I knew I guy, spent all 4 years and never really and a gf, so don't worry, he was the one of the happiest kids in the school.
I wish the best 2 u
Sinserly Shadowfox
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Shes my bestfriend and she hates one of my other friends. My other friend wanted me to spend the night and i dint really want to so i called my bestfriend and she said she didnt care and that i should go then after leave her house and walk to my bestfriends. (they live close to eachother) So i did
and she was really mad when i called her at my friends house and was like "why did you guys block me??? etc" I told her we didnt but she was all biiitchy. Andso she talked to like 2 other friends about us. The part that makes me the most mad is that she didnt trust me?? like that ide block her and that i went to her house even though she said she didnt care!!! And she has spent the night at her house to but i didnt make a big deal out of it. My bestfriend said she didnt say anything about me to them but i found out thats all they talked about. What should i do? (link)
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The things about friends is (and I know this is hard) that sometimes fights happen (offten when something bigs going on in their life and are holding it in). we have to be a good friend durning such times, and hope for the best. but really it come down to are you still willing to make the friendship work. I can give no more advice on this matter.
I wish the best
Shadowfox
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14/f
so me and this guy, we have no interest in a relationship
we've liked each other on and off for 3 years
i really love him
he loves me
i've given him a blow job
hes eaten me out
fingered
handjob
we've made out with just bottoms on
we've talked about sex
i love the feeling of being fingered while we're topless
am i ready for sex? (link)
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I would give you two things to consider, Sex was never ment what the world has made it to be, it is a sign of love only to be done in marriage,
if you aregoing be in that kind of relationship, u better be prepard to be a mother, have a family.
another thing to concider, What else come with be Sexualy active. STI's are a more risk in some cases then pregency. and the effects will last longer than you'll live. a big problems with people today is the don't consider the long term effects of life, they want something and the want it now. consider something will you.
When a child is younger he/she sees a stove top, and is corriuos, they have no idea it's potental, sometime later the child will place his hand on it while it is hot, burning his/her hand. but still they do not full understand the stove, many years later the watch others cook on it but still the do not understand it fully, and aventuly there comes a point when that child knows enough to use it safely and effectivly. with burnig the food or hand or even the house.
right now you are in something neither you two understand, my advice is this don't do till you two are full ready to take what is going to come, within the bonds of marriage.
I ahve seen many people faled to see as I do and there lives are full of regrets and pain. get out while u still can. the choses though is yours.
sincerly Shadowfox
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ok so im trying out for the school soccer team. im in 7th grade so there are 8th graders trying out too. i have played since i was 4 years old then i decided to stop my 5th and 6th grade year to get serious about cheerleading. well now cheelreadings over and i want to go back to soccer. im trying out but i dont even know what half the terms mean. 40 pple make the team (or teamS not sure) but i want to make it so badly. tryouts are the week of 3/10-3/14. im going to disney from feb.21-mar.1 so i have about 15 days to condition. what should i do for my soccer skills and to get into shape more. cheerleading ended in november so im way out of shape..thanks in advance! (link)
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the best thing to is to shot for it do you best with what you got and don't look back, Walt Disney said that we need to "Keep moving Forward" if we are to ever come out on top.
just remember if you fail then learn something, and pick your self up and try again. you'll come out stonger, Wiser, and More confedent in yourself.
What little more I can say is you sound like u have the stuff, and give it your best shot and be happy with that (what ever it may be).
I hope this helps
Sinerly Shadowfox
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