so towards the end of january, i was arrested, along with two of my friends, for having a xanax pill on me, two packs of pall malls, and for being out past curfew. (i'm 17, female, by the way.) and so i had to go see a probation officer, and she gave me 6 months probation, with random drug tests. i knew i didn't have anything to worry about with the drug tests, since i don't do drugs. but she only told me what would happen to me if i failed a drug test. i can't remember what she said would happen if i got into trouble with the law again.
so anyways, about a month later, i got caught shoplifting, (dumb, i know. don't lecture me) and got slapped with another citation. so we called the chick, since she said if i did get into trouble again, to let her know within 48 hours of it happening. and we did, and she said she'll need to meet up with me again.
but now its been almost a month and a half and we haven't heard anything from her. i'm getting anxious, and so are my parents. and since i'm going to start driving soon, i'm worried that i'll get pulled over for speeding or something and then they'll see they have a warrent for me and take my happy ass down to juvi. why is she taking so long to call? what do you think will be my punishment, with the law? i'd prefer answers from someone who knows a lot about this type of stuff or has been in this situation before. thanks. and please, no lectures. i've learned from my mistakes and now i just need some answers.
Have YOU tried to contact your probation officer ( I'm assuming this is the "her" your speaking of?
Keep trying to reach her. Otherwise just do what your told in court.
The two issues should catch up with each other.
You are a minor and these are pretty "minor" incidents.
Nothing serious will happen!
As long as you have learned your lesson, all will be well.
Just be honest with judge and/or probation officer. They love when people admit the truth, " I know, I was dumb"ect
no excuses and trust me, you'll get off!
Yes, I speak from experience...
Good luck!
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Okay I'm 15 and I'm female though i don't feel like one I'm pansexual. I hate being i girl i don't even think like one and it makes me cry sometimes cause i feel like my life has been a mistake i was born the wrong person...i talked to my mom about this but it didn't help and my stupid boyfriend is a jerk about it. And i want to break up with him cause there is an age difference and also a lot of problems i was end up in fights with my mom over him and having to deal with my gender problem isn't helping either. I need to find out how to break up with my boyfriend and how to cure this need for being a boy. Can u help??
First of all you don't need to "cure" yourself, but you do need to find a group and/or person who has the same issues as you,ie. internet.
My BIGGEST advice is DON'T DO THIS ALONE!!!Find someone who will NOT judge you to talk to. This is important because you need to know you are perfect the way you are. This will help you accept yourself, the way you were created to be and that there is nothing wrong with you.
Being 15 is hard enough!!! Being a "pan-sexual" (don't' know that term) 15 year old, must be absolutely painful! Our society place such harsh judgments on lifestyles different from the "status quo"
This is a very real problem for you, that one day won't BE a problem, but a very wonderful life you live. If you have any spiritual beliefs, and it doesn't have to be Christian, seek it out. Christians tend to be much more judgmental.
Pagan,Buddhist,Wicca groups, or any metaphysical group are all very accepting. Through this path, you can learn to love yourself. Although not an easy road for you my dear, I am sure. If you want to discuss more, email me at askterrimagick@gmail.com
NOW, THE BOYFRIEND.
You don't need to tell your boyfriend ANYTHING, other than, " I'm not in love with you and its not fair to you or myself to be in this relationship anymore." Breaking up is NEVER easy, but sometimes it has to happen. It sounds like he is much older than yourself? He will be just fine. Of course, Be kind, but you don't need to tell him anything you don't feel comfortable saying.
I really hope I helped, even a little bit.
Love is being sent your way
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I'm an athletic 120lbs.
I want some new stuff for summer. My style is a mix of casual with boho accessories (leather and woven bracelets, long necklaces, belts).
Example: hollister/abercrombie/ Am.Eagle skinny jeans, graphic tee (usually some sort of artsy print), two leather bracelets, 3 rings, a long necklace (my favorite is one that has a boat wheel, an anchor, and a whistle), and converses (of various colors).
I don't do florals...ever. Or bows, ribbons or lace, or orange.
I'm also looking for a bag, like a small hobo. Not a big one, I'm not all that wide and i could hide behind my last hobo bag.
So what is your question?
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My best friend of 7 years and I are fighting a lot recently. I hate when we fight and we never fought before. He is a boy and I am a girl, we are both fifteen. I know we still care about each other, I just hate that we fight and the we started fighting more after a rumor went around the school that we like each other. Why do you think we're fighting? Because of the rumor? Thanks
It sounds to me, that the rumor brought up either yours, his or both true feelings for each other. When a person doesn't want to deal with an emotion, especially boys, they tend to fight or find fault. This is a way to avoid the subject,.
Also a boy and a girl can be JUST friends, but not for long. One or the other will eventually feel more. It is the nature of men and women.
The fighting is due to NOT COMMUNICATING AND NOT BEING HONEST WITH EACH OTHER.
I don't' know if you have discussed it with him or not, if not, do. If you have and the fighting continues, its time to give each other a break. A true friendship will always endure.
Good luck
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im a girl and im 16. okay so i like this guy and he likes me. but theres nothing going on between us as of right now because we both dont want a relationship. so as of right now were just really good friends. hes been asking me for a kiss for a while and i just finlly kissed him yesterday. but it was my first real real kiss and i dont know if it was good. he knows that it was my first kiss. but i wasnt his and i keep thinking that it sucked and i dont know what to do. but he did keep kissing me that night, well until we picked some people up and after we all hung out and dropped those people back off he still wouldnt kiss me and when we dropped him off he didnt eben give me a goodbye kiss either.i could really use some advice on what to do because im kind of confused. and on top of that he was texting in the car and he was texting another girl that goes to our school should i be worried about that?? and should i text him or wait for him to text me.and so far he hasnt texted me all day. how can i make things better between us??
Its one of two things. 1: he is afraid you don't like him, that HE kissed you bad, and doesn't know how to act, confused as to what your relaionship is now, OR, he is in the catagory of the guy who when after he gets what he wants, he moves on.
I would assume #1 first. Yes, text him. You always did before, so act the same. If he text back in a normal fashion too, tell him you would like to see him. If he agrees, meet with him and BE HONEST and communicate. Alot of things get misinterpeated because we are afraid to just communicate.
If he doesn't answer the text, or won't talk to you, then you have to act as if YOU DON"T CARE. Guys want what they cant have. Act like he can't have you.
It was rude to text a girl in the car with you there, but it could be that is what he always did and the kiss came as a surprise and he just did what he always does.
So because we don't know, you have to try and talk with him and be honest....
If he acts like an ass.... Please know it has nothing to do with you, or the kiss. A man who adores you will kiss the ground you walk on, stay in touch with you, and text you non stop... Keep your confidance and self worth and you WILL find that drop dead gorgeous guy who adores you.
Good luck
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Well im going into High School next year and there is this really cute guy on the football and and wrestling team and he is 1 grade older me and he knows I like him but we have never talked my cuz told him and just smiles and he will look at me and smile and turn away but my question is when I do get to High School how can I get him to like me how do I make him mine. thats just how much I like him this may sound silly but I think I love him. I dream about him every night and think about him constantly and when he looks at me I loose my breath my heart skips a beat its like I need him. Please help me you could change my life. Please help me nomatter how dramatic I may sound but its true. What do I do? What do I say? Please and Thank you!
I believe you and I had the same experience while I was your age. I was so so in love with this guy I didn't even know. If you feel it now, it is real. dont' let anyone tell you different.
IF this guy is a good guy, someone who is NOT stuck on himself and has a good heart, have your friend introduce him to you. Before this happens, write on a peice of paper, in colors, how you want this introduction to go. In detail, write it out... Don't leave anything out.
Meditate before hand, seeing yourself as someone to gets any man she wants. Imagine him feeling the same way about you as you do him, Feel confidant, not stuck up. Trust you will say the right thing when the time comes, and you have built up your confidance. Say affirmations to yourself, such as, "I am witty and always say the right things." Then you will.
If after doing all you can, and he isn't interested, please please, please know, the perfect guy, someone much cuter and nicer is waiting for you, and its only a matter of time you meet him. He will treat you like a princess and kiss the ground you walk on.
Good luck.
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20/f, do not laugh at me, haha..
I've started hanging out with this guy that I'm really really starting to like. It's been a long time since I've gotten butterflies like this, and I've had them ever since I met this boy. I'm pretty sure he likes me too, because we openly flirt, but we've only hung out once before and that was with mutual friends. We're both SUPER shy.
We're hanging out at his house alone Friday night and I'm really nervous. We're gonna watch movies and stuff and through texts we've been flirting and "joking" about us cuddling and holding hands.
Basically, and excuse me for being such a loser, I need to know how to naturally make flirty physical contact.. like how do I put my head on his shoulder while still kinda being cute and subtle? I don't want to sit far away from him like middle schoolers do. Any other tips and advice for movie date night you can offer??? I haven't dated in over a year. Help! Thanks in advance, advicenators.
I agree with jobrolvor. Take a deep breath, smile, and hold his hand. Or when talking or laughing, nonchalantly tap his shoulder.
Sit close to him on the couch. There are many opportunities to show him you want to be touched.
I like the scary movie technique, very brilliant.
When you two greet each other, give him an extra long hug, make direct eye contact and a nice long peck on the lips...
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Hi latly me and my bestfriend havnt been talking that much i feel like we are drifting apart how can i make things better?
thanks s
what most people fail to do is simply tell the truth. Call or meet her for lunch and tell her how you feel. Let her know how much she means to you and ask her the same question you stated here.
If after doing that and things still feel the same, it could be you are both involved in other things at the time. This doesn't mean you are not still best friends. Best friends accept each other no matter whats going on in your lives and sometimes you wont be a part of that. Trusting that bond you have with each other even though you're not spending as much time with each other. when the time comes to connect again, it'll be like no time has passed at all.
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people at my boyfriend is going around the school telling my boyfriend friends that im ugly and i really think are relationship is about to end and myboyfriend mom think he need to think about school before he need a girl friend and i really dont want to loose this boy this is my heart and my soul mate i really love him please help
If he truly is your soul mate, you will be his too, and he will defend you from the rumors and not let his mom influence him. If he breaks up with you because of these things, as painful as it will be, he is NOT your soul mate.
What you can do is be honest with him and share with him your fears and your feelings. It is a scary thing to do, but this is all you can do. If this doesn't work, Walk with pride, care about your appearance, smile on the outside until you start smiling on the inside. Let him see your inner beauty. Men do love a woman with confidence.
Know your worth, you are a beautiful woman... Dont let any man make you feel less than that.
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