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Whats up Ya'll, my name is Sara and what else can I say except the obviouse..Im here to help you! I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend Daniel for about 2 and 1/2 years now...and my GOODNESS have we been throught it ALL, anything you can think of, trust issues, love, hurt, fights, happiness, anniversary planning, trips, breaking up and making up...and not to mention he is my best friend and my partner in crime for LIFE!! So if you want a guys perspective, were the duo. I play the guitar, the flute and I love to sing, I even have a C.D. and I am a passionate painter. So yeah...Im always bored cuz I live in a little cow town for college right now, so Ill get to your questions FAST. No worries...Ive heard it all, and seen it all and my friends and I have been through everything too...so ya'll just FIRE AWAY!!!

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I'm very confused abt my love life. When i'm with a guy it's not for a very long time, though that might be because i've been on so many blind dates and i don't like any of the guys i've been with. But that's the problem, im wondering y i dont juss pick a guy and go out with him. Is it beause im a teen and still looking for more possibilities? or because im not really looking for a relationship at the moment but will be later on as i grow older?? Im so confused...what should i do??...

Oh man do I know how you feel...listen, you are perfectly fine with what your doing..infact, I admire you for it! Dont just settle for someone, believe me you are doing just the right thing, dating is really about testing different guys to see which one will be right for you in the long run...obviously non of these guys are right for you yet. Yes, you are a teen looking for more possibilities, and yes you arent looking for a relationship right now (or at least a seriouse one) because THAT guy hasnt come along yet to make you WANT a relationship. Mine didnt come until me senior year in high school...and for many of my friends not until college. When you find that one, you'll know...trust me. But until then EXPLORE EXPLORE EXPLORE!!!! While Ill admit, not having a steady boyfriend was a tad bit frustrating at times, dating a bunch was also one of the most exciting times of growing up for me. I hope that I helped you, let me know how I did and also how it goes with ya!! And dont feel bad, have FUN!!!

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My boyfriends' ex girlfriend is back in town & she wants to hangout with him. I know I shouldn't be worried because I know he loves me. But the fact that his ex girlfriend of almost 2 years wants to hangout with him has me a bit worried. What if when he sees her, feelings come back? Or they start hanging out more often & feelings start up again? I have never felt this way about someone & I don't want to loose what we have. He asked me if I was okay with it & I said yes because I don't want to control who he hangs out with. But now that I have thought about it, I don't want him hanging out with her. What should I do and/or say to him? I'm just scared & need a little advice on this subject.

I would talk to him about how you feel now...It would bother the CRAP out of me too if Daniel hung out with his ex's. You say he loves you and Im sure he does, so he should have no problem respecting your wishes as his girlfriend. If he knows that it bothers you, and if he is a good guy, he shouldnt go. But if you are willing to compromise, say its okay for the two of them to hang out, as long as you are there too. Or make it a group thing. I hope I helped and i hope that things work out for you, let me know how I did and how it goes with you guys...and dont worry, if he loves and respects you like you say, he should be okay with whateve makes YOU comfertable....you not being controlling, your being..well, HUMAN.

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So I bought clothes for this school celebration (christmas concert) for next week. I bought it about 3 weeks now and I tried it on this morning...and it look horrid. I'm not relly thin and the top is really tight...and it looks a tad bit weird. when i sit down my stomach is showwn clearly and if i breathe out...I LOOK PREGNANT! The pants is awesome but I think I need a new top. ...should i put it on monday and show my mum and let her buy a new one...or do I make it work?

BTW...it's for the weekend coming!

Well, it really does sound like you need a new top...I would try things on befor I buy them (speaking from experience as well....it sucks) but you need to show your mom ASAP! Go shopping and try another shirt...if worse comes to worst however, layers are deffinentally in this year. Buy a cute long tank or spagetti strap to underneath the shirt you baught..(if it will look okay with it,,,I cant tell cuz Im not sure what the shirt looks like) but most of the time you really cant go wrong with that. I have a couple of shirts that are a little short on me now, but when I put one of my favorite other shirts underneath them, it always look really cute...I hope that I helped...just remember fitting rooms are EVERY girls friend!! Let me know how I did, and also how it goes with you!!

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hey guys im 17 years old and ive been with my boyfriend for a year now! and i have no idea on what to get him for christmas..any ideas? i want it to be something like special that reminds him of me or something like about us...not just like a video game and stuff you know?! thankss

Okay, Ill tell you what I did that my boyfriend really really loved...I bought a box, just a little one about the size to hold like recipes and stuff in, and covered it with a bunch of cute love sayings, and pictures of us on it...inside the box though is the best part. Put old movie ticket stubs or notes that you guys wrote to each other, anything that hold a memory in it (my box that my boyfriend gave to me even has caution tape in it, cuz Daniel one night wrapped my car in it as a joke...) tell him that it is his box now to fill up with memories of you too, pictures or poems...anything like that, just start it off for him by putting things that would remind him of you inside of it. Worked like a charm for me! lol, well I hope that I helped you, believe it or not guys really like the mooshy stuff too (actually, studies show that abour 92% of all guys LOVE getting flowers from their girls!! Cool huh??) Let me know how it goes hun, and also if I helped ya out! Have fun!!!

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Well my newly ex-boyfriend now was dating for 11 months, and just broke up officially two days ago. We had broken up two times before this because we were arguing alot. This time we weren't really arguing, and he ended because he thinks I do too much for him, that we argue alot, and that he was to be single.... we he came to my house today to get his stuff, I was in the closet crying and in his clothes I packed the promise ring he gave me and the dogtag with our names and the day we hooked up..... my sister in law told me she asked him in the hallway what happened and he said he we were fighting too much and that he looked sad too, like he didn't want to do this.... I remember the last time he was breaking up with me, he was crying too... and this time i think he was too... so what should I do... give him time and space, or is he gone for good? I should I talk to him.... I miss him and we're eachothers first true love....

I can totally understand whats happening hun.....almost the EXACT thing happened with Daniel and I because we fought too much....Promise ring and all. Im so sorry that you have to go through this, because it does hurt worse then ANYTHING in the world..and although I know that no amount of words can comfort you right now...just know that time heals. It really does...it sounds like you two really do love EACHOTHER...not just you loving him. But you need to give him time. If you guys are fighting so much, its because your not right for eachother..yet. Daniel broke up with me a couple times, and I broke up with him once before all because we couldnt stop fighting. we didnt date for about 5 months...but you know what, that time apart from eachother helped us to realize how much we really meant to the other. Especially helped him to see that he needed me in his life. All I can say is give him his space..be his friend for now, and plese resist the urge to leap back into his arms just yet...wait untill you know its right and you can trust that instead of him leaving again...he will work with you to figure out how to fix things. You each do things that hurt the other right? He makes you mad, and you piss him off just the same, so figure out why, use this time to learn what YOU did to hurt the relationship, and he will probably do the same. But dont block off contact with him, because you need to be able to talk about things eventually. And you probably will see other people...we did, and yes, it did hurt... but it was a real eye opener for the both of us as we came to realize that the only people who fit into our world were each other. I really hope that this works out for you hun, Im so sorry. If you ever need to vent, or need more advice Im hear for ya, cuz I can REALLY REALLY relate to this one..Ill even ask Daniel what he thinks from the guys perspective..from what you've told me, he still loves ya, dont worry about that. But prove to him how much you love him by being there for him...loving him in a different way...just for now, until you guys work through things, or you or him, or even both find someone new who fits. Let me know how it goes girl, and hang in there...time really does heal....

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15/F

All day and all night I wear push up bras.
Could this be damaging or benefitting my
growth or possiblitity of future sagging?

Thanks

Okay, push up bras shouldnt effect your growth or reduction in your breast size..(if you wear tighter pants and eat alot are you gonna stay skinny??) but...and as nerdy as this may sound...I was watching the Tyra banks show, and believe it or not, they had a breast specialist on the show who said that wearing a bra to bed actually helps to PREVENT future sagging..,I dont know about you, but Im not going to argue with the experts...and as much as I hate it, Its cups on for me all night now baby!!! I hope that I helped, let me know how I did, and let me know how all goes!!

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I have dandruff. I tried using head and shoulders shampoo but it didn't really work. Any tips? I don't like how it shows up on my clothes and stuff. I take a shower every day.

Okay, confession time, I struggled with dandruff for a long time myself, and I know what you mean...it SUCKS!!! Head and shoulders never did anything for me either, nor did selson blue or whatever its called. I know how you feel, and while each persons scalp is different, here is what works for me so Im dandruff FREE!! I use the coal tar formula, usually by neutogena, although I find that the wallmart brand or knock off versions work just as well and are cheaper. It stops it in one or two weeks for me, although I can see the difference in about 3-4 days. Downsides though...it STINKS! I smell like my grandpa and that sucks..so ontop of using that, I like to wash my hair after with a strong smelling shampoo (herbal essences for me) and then a conditioner. Another good thing about the knock off brands is that they tend to smell less then Tgel. And I know that it sound gross, but girls..unless you running a marathon every morning, you relly actually SHOULDNT take a shower everyday. Everytime you do you strip your hair and your scalp of natural oils that keep your hair healthy, soft (and your scalp not so dried out and therefor...FLAKE FREE!!!) Do it everyother day, or use a shower cao and just wash your body everyday. I get complimented on my hair all the time, so I think Im doing a decent job with it! lol..well I hope that I helped, let me know how I did..and hun, let me know how it goes? Good Luck!! -sorry this is so long-

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Is it normal for girls to have hair on their back and front like men? My sister's only 11 and she has hair everywhere but when I see girls at the beach they don't have hair (And I looked really close at the blonds because their hair is see through). My friend doesn't think so but just to be sure.

Its totally normal hun, although not common. Alot of girls..(especially ones of ethnicity) have darker and thicker hair on their bodies...as a waitress I see alot, although not on their bodies, but on their faces...many girls have moustaches and coarser hair under their chins, and I wouldnt doubt their backs and stomaches as well. When your sister gets older, she will probably feel embarased about this so there are some solutions...shaving being the quikest, although not the most convenient...but there is bleaching available and also lazer removal. I hope that I helped, let me know, and let me know how it goes with you girls!

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ok well my girlfriend and i were ina movie theatre she gave me a handjob and i cummed. then about 10 min later i went to the bathroom and washed my hands and the about 10 min after taht i fingered her im really worried she said her stomach hurts and her boobs are hard let me know guys

Good news hun, shes not pregnant...sperm doesnt last but a minute outside the human body, and even still, you washed your hands..no worries she's fine...if anything she ate bad popcorn or shes about to start her period...cramps happen, but when your pregnant, not untill WAAAYYY after youve conceived..like months...so have no fear guys, no babies on the way! I hope I helped, let me know how I did, and I hope you two have a good one!

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I had sex with my girlfriend about 2 weeks ago, and I've no idea when, but im guessing on withdrawal, the condom slipped up just under half way. It was still on fairly tight only it had slipped up a few centimeters. Shes due to have her period about this time, shes had stomach cramps and sore breasts (but neither very serious) which are both signs of pre-menstruation and pregnancy. Is it possible that she could be pregnant?

Condoms are never a sure thing anyways, one of my bestfriends got pregnant using one and it slipped. However, dont be worried just yet, cramps are a good sign...and if she is still young (even in her 20's ) her period could be still be fluctuating. ANYTHING can throw your period out of wack, a new diet or excersize routinge, or even hanging out with other girls (your girlfriends body picks up on the hormeones secreted by other women...) I wouldnt worry about this too much right now (even the stress of it can throw her period off) but when it does come down to it, the only way to know is by the good old E.P.T. (pregnancy test) I hope ya'll are okay and that I helped you out! Let me know how I did and how it goes with you two...

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i never know what to talk about with guys either on the phone or in person. anyone have some simple ideas. this sounds dumb i know but i could really use the help. thanks

When my boyfriend and I broke up, it was weird talking and flirting with other guys because Daniel; was all that I had known...but I did find a trick...especially in person...Be the argesive one, be forward and very open..guys like it when you talk about them, or they get to talk about themselves really, so ask random questions! Like, "okay, were going to play the get to know ya game...tell me, what was the CRAZIEST thing you have ever done??" or" Where is one place in the world that you have always wanted to visit.." and "What was your fist impression of me when you saw me, Ill tell you what I thought of you..." Alot of times, I wouldnt have to ask more then two questions because the conversation just flowed so well after that and you can find things to relate on. Plus..I got TONS of dates. And everyone said they liked how confident I was...(men like confidense) I hope I helped, I was always shy, but just pushing the confidense out and getting them to talk about thmselves really does help...hope I helped you!! Let me if I did and how things go!

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Okay so this is the deal, I dated this kid for like 6 months he was my first love and we were each others first (noo i dont mean sex ) just kissing and just loving each other. Whatever, that sounded DUMB so ANYWAAY. So whatever, he is this big shot in our school.. and I had always crushed on him. Okay.. well 65% of the girl population in my school hated me while we were dating, beacuse they all loved him and I couldnt take it anymoer and broke up with him(also my bestfriends had crushes on him and hated that we were dating) . It was really hard for both of us and it sucked. So its been about 6 months and I'm dating someone new ( who i loveee ) and he is dating the bestfriend of mine who wanted us to breakup in the first place.. We've talked and I miss him and he misses me but we're both happy right now. I just know we have unfinished buisness but i love my boyfriend and , dont want to breakup with him. SORRY THIS IS SO LONG !!!
Okay so what should I do ?
I was thinking I would just wait untill we're both single and maybe hook up again. MAybe not

HELP.

Hollister babe does have a point...but at the same time its only human to have feelings about someone else....As far as I can tell you though, you need to think over your relationship with your boyfriend now. If you love him sooo much, how would it make you feel if you know that you hurt him? If you guys love eachother then stay together...but when you say you are going to wait untill you are both single to hook back up, how can you be sure that you really love this guy that you are with now? Love is forever, and its scary to think that you are thinking that you will be ending things anyways, because that doesnt sound like TRUE love. I say that it is YOUR life..YOUR happiness...and you need to take care of yourself, if you think that you are going to fing love with one of them more then the other...no matter who that person is you should go for it. Nomatter what you do hun, people will ALWAYS get hurt. Dont listen to what the crowd says and take ALOT of care befor going into this...I see the biggest of all consequenses on the side where you leave your boyfriend now and go with this other dude...your bestfriend will be hurt and you could possibly loose out on a friendship and not to mention that your man now will be hurt. At the same time, I dont want you to be unhappy by sticking with someone and wondering "What would it have been like if..." Do what makes YOU happy....
Hope I helped, let me know

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