Gender: Female
Location: United States
Age: 14
Member Since: August 16, 2009
Answers: 32
Last Update: October 3, 2009
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I'm 16/female. My best guy friend's friend liked me but i liked someone else. Then i broke up with the other guy for him, and he asked me out but i said i wasn't sure right now because of the breakup. Now i really like him, and he says he thinks of my as more of a friend. He used to text me and talk to me, but now he doesn't. I don't know what to do, cause i really like him. Could anything happen between us? Is this just a temporary thing? (link)
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Hes probly just being like that because you rejected him first...some guys are just like that(as annoying as it is). Try talking to your best guy friend tell him how you feel about his friend and try to see what he knows. Most likely hes just being stubborn hopefully you are able to work things out with him. Another thing that might give you a clue as to if he really does like you is if he flirts with you alot or whenever you are around him he looks at you alot.
Hope this works.
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I really need some help here I'm in over my head.
My parents have been divorced since I was twelve and I haven't heard from my mom since...so I live with just my single dad. He never even dated or anything after that so it's just him. When my parents lived together my mom did all the cleaning....mind you she didn't clean often, so I was always used to a messy house...but she DID clean....my dad never lifted a finger except when his computer desk got too cluttered (my dad's a major computer geek).
See my dad is about as clean as a stereotypical college boy.
So now when my mom left I was forced to take over the chores....
WHEN I SAY FORCED....I do not mean what most people mean...NO my dad did not give me chores, he never told me to do anything. What I mean by forced is that if I chose not to do the dishes, my entire family was eating out of plastic plates with plastic forks and plastic cups. No joke. If I chose not to take out the trash they would go for the next best thing (on the floor next to the trash can). If I chose not to vacuum give it a few days and you can't tell what color carpet we have.
I even had to do my dad's laundry for 3 years. I finally got him to do it himself because I went on "strike" and guess what he did?? He spent 3 weeks simply buying new packs of underwear because he didn't want to wash his dirty ones!! Who does that?? He only started washing it because he realized he'd be spending $20 a week on underwear for the rest of his life.
However, the strike stuff doesn't work for the rest of the house. He's perfectly content to live in the slop so long as his computer desk is clear. And what makes the problem worse is that I have a 16 year old brother (BIG red flag), and my sister spends all her time in her room to avoid the mess instead of helping clean it up..
In general my family's motto is "I didn't make the mess, why should I clean it?" which HELLO someone had to make the mess and it sure as heck wasn't me so it had to be one of you three.
So I'm sick and tired of cleaning up after them. Somehow they mess up something new every day...and the day to day stuff like trash and dishes they find a way to make it as gross as possible...these people don't rinse their dishes when they put them in the sink...they just throw them in there leftover food and all....it's sick.
I'm 19 and I should be worried about how much fun I'm going to have when I move out not what is my family going to be living in once I leave?
I need some ideas of how to get them to pitch in.
I've tried everything I can think of.
**Neon signs on the fridge, washer, tv, front door telling them to clean up their mess....somehow they have the brain power to move the sign out of their way but can't figure out how to read it.
**Simply not cleaning and seeing if they notice....they didn't.
**Moving their laundry baskets right in their closets....they still find a way to miss.
**I've even tried taping a garbage bag over the sink to try and make them make less dirty dishes....they just put the dishes on the counter next to the sink.
Please help I've been stuck in a pigsty for 7 years now I'm at my breaking point. (link)
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1st of all im very sorry that your mom left and you havent heard from her since. 2nd maybe that has to do with why your brother and sister arent helping maybe they are just still haveing a hard time with the fact that your mom left. Try talking to your family to come up with a "chore list" assign everyone to some of the chores it may not work but its worth a shot.
Hope that works for you.
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His name is jason and he's like my drug. Sometimes he makes me happy but in the long run he is hurting me. When Im with him I want to be by him forever. And when we're apart I cant stop thinking about him. The absolute best night of my life! When he told everyone that he liked me so much he thought he was in love. But he's naturally a player and I know he cares about me but Its like he is trying so hard to be "unattatched" but he is slowly showin me and everyone else how important I really am to him. My problem though is that I feel like it could take litterally years before he will completely commit to me. I dont know if I can wait that long. He is hurting me so much with his games. but like I said he is like a drug that I am sompletely addicted to. (link)
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If you really like this guy try talking to him because if hes not willing to committ to you then he cant feel as strongly as he says he does. Tell him you want to be with him but hes hurting you because you dont think he will ever fully committ to you.
Hope that helps.
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so i have a friend, she has crushed on every single one of my guy friends. it didnt bother me to much before because the ones she liked before were the ones who already had their own crushes or just didnt want a girlfriend. now she is trying to get with one of my friends whose single and looking. they started texting and not they text eachother even when they are in the same room and they'll both just ignore me. i got so mad i told both of them they can have eachother and i will just walk away because this is way to much drama for me and i cant deal with it. now they both decided they dont want to go out because they're friendship with me is more important. but whose to say this girl wont go after another one of my guy friends. i dont see her to much as a threat but what if she tries to go after my crush next? so my question is: was i out of line for getting so mad, when she went after 4 of my other guy friends? should i let them be together and walk away from our friendships? why cant she find a guy who isnt my friend? (link)
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If the two of them like eachother thats fine but if they are ignoreing you then you were not out of line by telling them how you feel. Its ok for you to express to them that when they ignore you it makes you mad it would make anyone mad. Maybe if you told them that they were ignoreing you and it really bothered you. IF you really wouldnt mind them dateing tell them that. Just make sure they understand that if they start blowing you off again that you dont want to be friends with them.
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Hey,
im hoping u can help me out
im 14 yrs old and recently met a group of guys at a under 18s night club
me and 1 of my friends hooked up with 2 of the guys
since then my friend has been meeting up with the guy she kissed, and ive been going with her
he brings along all of the friends who were at the nightclub, and more.
the thing is, the boy i kissed comes 2. i really liked him, but he doesnt seem to be interested in me anymore.
i dont know why this is, cos he was the 1 who made the first move, and he was the 1 who wanted to kiss me.
he doesnt even speak to me, the only thing he has said was hi 1 time.
also, alot of boys in the group of friends have tried it on with me, eg touching and trying to kiss me.
i let them touch me and hold my hand and stuff, but not kiss me on the lips, cos i really like the guy i kissed first.
but when he saw me cuddling 1 of his friends he looked upset and jelous, i dont get it !? why do u think this it ?
also. i really like his friend, i think i like him better than the guy i kissed, he tried to kiss me but i said no, cos i wasnt sure if i liked him then, now im sure i do, but i dont think he will try it on with my again, as i missed my chance. the next time i saw him he asked to hold my hand, but i didnt let him, i dont know why and i sooo regret it cos i reaallllllly like him !?!
i really dont know what to do, should i just forget about them all together ?
cos everytime i try to i cant, i think about them all the time, and everytime i see them its even harder.
i just wish they werent like other guys, and who cared about me.
p.s. the guy was my first kiss so its even harder to get over him. PLEASE HELP ! (link)
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So the guy u kissed at the club that night might have just been looking for a hook-up and doesnt really like you in the way you like him but the other guy seems to really like you and you like him so go for it. Next time you see him you make the first move then he will know that it is ok with you.
If you still really want the guy that you kissed that night then try talking to him. Flirt and see if he flirts back...just be careful that hes not just playing with your head.
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Hiya..
Well a about a month ago my ex and i broke up. It didn't last long. He found someone else, and i cant find anyone. Well there's this one guy named Chris he likes me but he has a gf and he likes her more than me.He told me if he wasn't dating her he would of asked me out. He's in a long distance relationship and he says it sucks. He calls me practically everyday i don't know what to do. I told him that i would wait for him but i don't think i can. HOW CAN I FIND THE RIGHT GUY!lol im 14 and next week i start back into school. There also is another guy who likes me, he tells my friends and tells them to keep quite about it. He's dating this girl to get his mind off of me. i have no clue what to do anymore and im so tired of it. PLZ help me! (link)
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If you like the guy who likes you but is dating someone else to get his mind off of you go for him!!! Whatever you do dont over step your boundaries by flirting to much because he does have a girl friend. If you really like him and are not affraid to tell him how you feel then do it, you have nothing to loose if he already likes you.
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im 5'2 and 100 lbs, and i started my period last month, and i thought you were supposed to start developing them before your period. not only that, but im 15. ive never met a girl who still doesnt have them my age and im starting to worry if i will ever get them. all the other signs of puberty are there, but i dont have any boobs at all- and by that i dont mean they're small- i mean theres actually nothing there, i might as well be a ten year old boy. i just want to know if anyone is in the same position as me or was but eventually got them, but any answers at all will really help. (link)
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Its ok that you are 15 and still dont have boobs it happens to many girls if you are really concerned ask a parent to make you a doctors appointment and if you dont want your parent in the room tell them that it is personal and you would like to do it alone. Explain the situation to your doctor and see what he or she has to say.
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Ok, warning, this will be long.
So I've been with "Dylan" for 9 months. He's really sweet, but there's this other guy, Ryan. That's the short version of the story, and I wish that's all that was happening.
During my relationship with Dylan, there's been good and bad sides. He's really sweet, he cares about me, he'd do anything for me, and he travels like 4 hours (to and from) EVERYDAY to see me. Even Ryan admitted he wouldn't be as dedicated.
However, there are bad sides too. Dylan has done things that have hurt me greatly during our relationship. Things that make me cry almost every night. I won't go into detail, but they were very hurtful (Fact it wasn't cheating, but a few of the things he did may as well have been. And yes it was multiple things) and my family think he's too obsessed with me. I can see their point...
Anyway, Dylan is a lot older than me, and a lot more experienced in life. He's already talking about settling down. He's my first boyfriend, I haven't had ANY experience.
Then there's Ryan. He is sweet too, isn't as 'dedicated' as Dylan, but he told me he didn't want to be as obsessive as Dylan. He also lives closer and has a lot more going for him (financially, good looks, material items etc) and has been waiting for me the whole of my relationship with Dylan. He is also one of my closest friends, and the person I turn to, to talk with the most..
Dylan is the jealous type, and gets VERY jealous if I associate with boys who like me. He made me stop talking to one, tried with another but I told him he was being controlling and I was on the verge of dumping him and he was apologetic and said I didn't have to. Then there was Ryan. He made me stop talking to Ryan out of guilt, and stupid me, I hung out with him in secret for months.
He found out two nights ago. He was hurt, and accused me of cheating and being a liar. After staying up until 4am arguing, he forgave me and we fell asleep.
The next morning I made myself breakfast, and when I went back to my room, he admitted he went through my chat logs with Ryan. He got angry that I went on cam for Ryan, and accused me of going on cam naked for Ryan (even though I didn't) and then got very angry and upset. In that chat I told Ryan I loved him. I know it was a terrible thing to do, but Dylan has hurt me so much, and I think about it everyday.
Dylan said that by saying that to Ryan. I had cheated on him. He said he had to 'think' about whether we could be together or not. He then said he wouldn't dump me, on a few conditions. One was that I was NEVER allowed to talk to Ryan again, and if I did, I would be instantly dumped. Another was that I was not allowed to tell Ryan or ANYONE that my boyfriend "took back a cheater"
Now I feel so confused, and I don't know what to do. I went to Ryan with EVERYTHING, and even Dylan knew that (I was allowed to talk to Ryan but not see him) and Dylan even knew that without talking to Ryan, I can become suicidal.
Dylan is so caring usually, and he seems more caring than Ryan. I can have good conversations with him, they're more flowing, fun and less serious than the ones I have with Ryan. But on the otherside, Ryan is caring too, and I can talk about anything with him, I don't have to watch what I say to him and hope that he doesn't start talking about something that will hurt me. He also isn't as controlling or jealous as Dylan. He has admitted he has had jealous moments, but he never tries to dictate my life.
I think it's obvious which guy I should pick. But which guy should I pick, and what should I tell them both? (link)
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You shouldn't waste your time with a controlling boyfriend all that does is cause problems for you and can often end in abuse. Honestly you talking to Ryan wasnt wrong however telling him you loved him was...its called emotional cheating. If Dylan is telling you who you can and cannot talk to and see then that isnt fair for you DONT LET ANY GUY CONTROL YOU. If you do choose to stay with Dylan then you should make a deal with him about your guy friends tell him you wont hang out with them alone but your not going to cut them out of your life. However if Dylan has hurt you as much as it seems from reading what you wrote he is not worth the pain he is causeing. If you choose Ryan just explain to Dylan that you do care about him but he is hurting you to much and that you dont want to be with him when you have really strong feelings for someone else because thats not fair for him.
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So my situation is that I kinda don't care anymore...BUT at the same time, unobsessively, on the side, so nobody knows, I kind of a little bit, not really, still do... But not a lot. =)
This boy bothers me. Childish to say but I think it can be true at any age. At 5, 18, or 30 men still bother us.
And he definitely does. If it's intentional I wouldn't know, but why is it that he barely talks to me, or asks to see me, or acts interested...
Yet he INSISTS he is...And wants to kiss me. Well he DID kiss me. But there's more to it. His ego, HUGE! That's probably why. Well I rejected his advances once or twice. But that's normal for a girl to do. And I didn't just flat out reject him either. Just didn't kiss him right away. Big deal!
He still shows interest. Every 3 days...like clockwork. Why? I wish I could tell you.
With people we hang out...I finally kissed him last week at a party at my house. That did nothing to change his mannerism.
And every time we saw each other one on one (twice in total) he wanted to play some game where I ended up in my underwear or kissing him (although I didn't) or seducing him. To be fair one of the "games" was my idea because well...I'm fun...and it involved him embarrassing himself so it was well worth it.
But now, he finally asks to see me again, just us. And he wants to play another dirty game... yippe!
Not worth it for me because I actually want to get somewhere, get to know him...progress. I told him I didn't want to play and he tells me "Its okay if you're not comfortable you don't have to play" I told him (a few hours late) that it wasn't about that....
Now he wont answer for a day because I didn't answer him right away. I know because he's like clockwork. I know when to expect a text and when not to. Very predictable...
So advice? I guess I'd like to know how to move forward in this situation. I would be more forward but he doesn't like that. Likes to call the shots, which hes calling VERY slow.
So I kinda don't care anymore, but still it bothers me so I guess I do...
ADVICE????? (link)
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Most likely he's one of those jerks who just wants to get in your pants but if you think otherwise then talk to him about it...tell him how you feel explain that you want more from him than dirty games. If he doesnt want more than hes not worth your time and you should tell him that. I hope it all works out but if it doesnt just remember that it wasnt meant to be.
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15/f... yesterday I was walking home from volleyball practice when a man 'exposed' himself to me and was basically sexually harassing me. A lady who lived across the street saw it happen and called the police. I had to write a written statement explaining exactly what happened and then I had to identify him in some lineup pictures. He was arrested but the policeman said they 'might not have enough information to prosecute him'. Does that mean he could get out? If he does get out of jail, would they notify me or my parents, just so we know that he's still out there? I've never been through anything like this so I don't know how this all works...thank you for reading and answering. (link)
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If you request to be notified of his release they have to notify your parents. You probably should talk to your parents about what you can do to be more safe. Depending on where you live the laws are different but there is always ways to help you be safer. For instance in some places it is legal to carry mace or a tazor if it isnt they do have safety alarms that you pull when you feel threatened by someone they are designed to draw attention to the situation.
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13/m sorry its so long
ok so im bad at....being a boyfriend i suppose would be the best way to put it.
so my girlfriend ill call S dumped me after a week of us going out about a month or so ago saying that i was too much of a fridget, didnt hold her hand enough and didnt tell her how much she meant to me(making her feel special like whispering in her ear she was beautiful and stuff)
ok before me and S were going out one of my other friends who is a girl as well told this girl, we'll call Tammy, that i like her but i never said that. so after me and S broke up tammy started talking to me a bit more and told me abuot how the girl told her that i said i liked her before me and S were going out and i said what?? i never said anything like that and she said well thats not what i heard and she was being real flirty and what i thought was hinting that she liked me too haha and so we were talking more lately and i actually started liking her (because before now i havent realy gotten to know her) but since i am so bad at being a boyfriend i told her that i dont want to disappoint her and hurt her feelings but she said dont worry im a fridget too so it shouldnt be too bad (she has only ever had one boyfriend) but i said i want to ask her out sooner or later but just not right now because of the reason i said before and she said she'll wait for as long as i need and i said thanks your a good friend.... but now i think like this girl who lives a few blocks away from my house and we walk to school together sometiems and we always joke around and flirt a bit but shes really confusing and sometimes takes things too seriously(her friends tell me this)
but i know i like tammy and im not sure if she will get angry about me and the girl who lives a few blocks away because i heard tammy hates her so i feel bad now but i dont want her to wait
so basically my questions are should i go out with tammy?
should i stop flirting with A(a few blocks away)
should i tell tammy that i dont want her to wait because i dont want to let her down
and if anyone has and tips or things i should know or just any advice they think would help me
your welcome to say
thanks
oh and im good at talking to girls before i ask them out but while we are going out i always dont say too much cause im worried that what i say will offend them or something like that or at least thats why i think i dont talk to them as much...
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If you really like Tammy then go out with her especially since she doesnt have alot of experiance with guys so she is less likely to think "your a bad boyfriend". It is ok for you to flirt with different girls as long as you arent actually going out with any of them. However if you do decide to go out with Tammy you need to be committed to her and stop flirting with the other girl.
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alright so me and my boyfriend dated 8 months, broke up, and 3 months later got back together (which was about a month ago)...he said "i love you" after about 4 months. he hasn't said it yet since we got back together but we've been doing alot of ehh fooling around i guess you can call it, more than we did when we dated for the first time. so i need some opinions...should i stop fooling around with him and wait for him to say it? or should i just keep doing what i'm doing
and anyyy other opinions on any of this
he's my first bf i've been sexual with soo idk how guys work really haha
we haven't actually had sex yet though and i know he's not just in it for sex cause i was drunk one time and said "get a condom" and he said no i won't let anything happen. (link)
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If he stopped saying he loved you maybe he isnt sure if he really means it...Its great that he didnt let you do anything you would have regretted that night that you were drunk that shows that he doesnt just want sex. If you do really care for him and YOU still want to fool around with him thats your choice. The only way you are going to know for sure how he truely feels about you is to talk to him. Ask him why he said he loved you the first time you were together but has stopped saying it.
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