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Q: my bestfriend moved to va to go to college and i wanna move up there with her soo bad and go to college there but im still n school and im tryna tal my parents into letting me get my ged n go to college so i can live with her i need some advice to make my parents let me
Just wait to get ur diploma there is no point in dropping out.. y cant u just finish!? see if theyll let u finish high school where she is

Q: i have a 3 year old bichon frise, and he IS potty trained. when he was younger we would let him out like 10 times a day to pee. well all the sudden this year he's been peeing on the carpets like at least once a week. we're selling our house, so we got BRAND NEW CARPETS throughout the house, and he still keeps peeing on those! we even get the spray stuff to disguise the smell so he won't go back to the spot but he still does. my dad says if he pees in our new house we're giving him away! =( so how do i get him to stop? i suggested obedience school but they said no he's too old. how do we discipline him PLEASE help if you know about dogs.
When You Take him outside.. keep him out there until he pees.. then when he is done pet him and play with him.. give him treats and reward him.. when he goes in the house spank his butt.. (NOT HARD) and tell him no.. then in a little bit take him out til he pees and when he does give him treats.. thats what i did with my dog.. (6 yr old Rot)


he could have a bladder infection..and may not be able to controll it.. take him to the vet and get him checked

Q: PLEASE TAKE TIME TO READ THIS...IM SURE ALL YOU GIRLS HAVE GONE THROUGH SOMETHING LIKE THIS! okay here's the thing...there's this boy...let's say..."Dylan". well me and dylan go to school together and just last year i began talking to some of his friends just sayin how i thought he was cute and all. so at the end of last year that got around to him but we barely said hi. then over the summer we talked alot and he even began calling me cute names. we expressed to eachother how much we liked eachother and everything then rigt before the summer was over he ended up telling me he wasnt ready for a girlfriend. i mean i was okay with that i just felt like he had led me on for so long. well now we're over that but i hear from more of his friends that he likes me again and im sure he can tell that i never quit liking him. my question is how do i get him to finally confess that he likes me if he still does without asking him the question flat out? thanks!!
Okay Dr. Munk is crazy dont listen to him.. dont try killing him! LoL anyways tell some of his friends and it will get to him.. hell find out u like him and if he likes u hell start flirting and stuff and talking to u more... and ull know.. if he doesnt.. then his friends are liers

Q: ok..well on e of my best friends is in 7th grade and the guy I like is in 7th grade and I am in 8th grade I told my best friend [lets say...Rache] that I really liked the guy and she was like awww all that shit and she was going out with someone at the time and then the night I told her that I liked him..she dumped her current boyfriend and asked out the guy I liked..and today I was ganna think hard about when I was ganna ask him out and then all of a sudden her name popped up when me and the guy I like were talking about something and he is like ya me and Rachel are going out and I am like aww kool..like kinda in a obvious way [and he doesnt know that I like him] and ya..and I'm about to cry what do I do and what do I say to the guy/ and or Rachel!! PLEASE HELP!!! i am ganna go under depression.....seriously...
~*Lost N Lost*~ ...again
tell the bitch she is a bitch and thats fucced up!! and move on.. fomr both of them.. neither of them are worth it!

Q: How can you fade jeans? I need some way`s to do it, but not bleach, I`ve tried and it doesn`t work.
I`ve heard that cascade dishwasher suff work`s, anyone who`s heard about it know how to do it? Any help is appreciated !!
the only way to fade jeans is to waer them a lot.. LOL just go out and get some made like that.. if they didnt come faded they wont look right faded

Q: ok well heres the situation i liek this kid n hes on the same sports team as me but i juss dont kno how 2 exactly get him 2 notice me liek as more then a friend cus i realli liek him n i woudl realli like us 2 go out or atleast become realli good friends n yea but my 1 friend thinks i shoudl ask him 2 come bowlin w. a group of us but idk cus then i dont realli want him 2 kinda kno i like him if he doesnt like m bac cus then it'd bb awkward if he doesnt n i dont want it 2 b also a lot of grlks liek him n tahts anotehr reaosn i dont wanna juss come out n b liek yea i liek u n crap cus i dont realli think id have a realli good chance cus of all the ppl that liek him so yea. i neeed usm things 2 talk about n stuff i hope u can help me cus i realli need it! ty if u can!!!!
find out what he is interested in.. talk to him about the game on friday (or anything about the team) and then be like hey me and some friends are going bowling wanna come CHILL wit us.. dont let him know u want it to be more then a friends thing.. and then flirt with him and stuff and see if he likes u after that

Q: well i shave down their and like it always is itching now like crazy.. ii even let it grow back in and it still itchs.. and NO ii dont have crabs! lol.. ok.. well can someone tell me whats the matter?!
DONT PUT NAIR DOWN THERE...ever..becuz it will infect the accual inner tube and ull be in the hospitall... just put lotion on it.. whatever you do DONT PUT NAIR ON IT EVER.. if u already did have your mom take u to the dr right away before you get an infection.. u may b embarresed to tell her but u have to get it cleaned b/c youll get xtremely sick.. PLEASE TELL ME U DIDNT PUT NAIR ON IT!!!

Q: ok my boyfriend and me have been going out for 3 weeks now and it seem like we arnt going anywhere. i mean we have gone to the movies 2 times and out to eat twice and then ice skating and we held hands during both movies but he wont kiss me or anything. is he afraid? what can i do to get him to kiss me? his friends and my friends have told him too but he wont. what can i do to get our relationship going. or is he showing me signs that he has no feelings for me? please help me. thanks.
its not that he has no feelings.. maybe he is accually a respectful guy and is waiting for you to be ready... or he may not be ready.. and dont force him.. that will end the realationship.. let me know how it goes! (how old are yall!?)

Q: I have a friend and she dosent tell anybody but i found out..i think she was raped or abused or sumthin she is 13 and her boyfriend is 15 and i is always making her wear hoe stuff like if she wears long pants i rolld thumb up for her to be like short shorts then feels on her and (grabs her front) and back....and the other day she must have left my camra on at her house and when i got it it showed him strapping her to the bed and like you no and she liked it....yuk but im really worried about her..she is 13 he is 15 or 16 and this is like everyday...and she cant be with no one.....and like everyday she dresses bad and we were best friends in elementry and i no
ask her.. but dont get into her business.. shell come out when she is ready...

Q: Hi! I'm 14/f and I kind of like this guy friend of mine. We'll call him Dave. Anyway, as I said, I kind of like him...that way. And he recently told me that he likes me, too...that way. Except I'm kind of afraid of him asking me out because it would be my first real boyfriend, and I don't know what I would do with a boyfriend! It would be SO awkward going on a date to dinner or something with Dave, and I'm not really big on huge public displays of affection. And I think he has a few friends who don't really like me all that much. Any advice?? (I rate!)
ull get used to it... trust me i was the same way.. and im not a public affection fan either so i know how u feel... just let it go..it will work out and ull get used to it.. trust me!

Q: Darrel, this guy I like, likes me back. Except...he's black, and I'm white. And my mom has already told me that she wouldn't support me if I were to date a black guy. Not because she's racist, but because of the "problems" it causes, and everyone will look at you differently. But she isn't going to forbid me from doing it, because she knows that I have to do what's right for me, not for her. And anyway, I think that the things that go along with dating a black person kind of are problems - other black guys will look at you and think, oh, she's into black guys, and other white people will look at you differently, and if they don't know Darrel they won't know what a sweet, funny, smart guy he is, and how he wouldn't ever get mixed up in the wrong crowd. But I think I might really like him. And it's wrong not to date someone just because they're black - that's racism! I guess what I'm trying to say is, I need some comfort and someone telling me what the right thing to do is, lol! Sorry about the long story, but I rate! (Oh, and I'm 14/f, by the way.)
if u like him screrw what ppl say.. take him home and watch save the last dance.. it works out for them!

Q: I've had this problem for years. My parents and my sister always accuse me of talking too much and see nothing wrong with interrupting me in the middle or end of my sentences to tell me to shut up and that I talk too much. I respond by telling them that I was already done talking and that they should'nt assume I'm going to say more, and that it is rude to interrupt someone even if you don't care about what they are saying. At least if it's someone you care about, you should find a nicer way to tell them. They don't listen, they just keep telling me to be quiet when I try to tell them how I feel. I sometimes end up in tears, and then they tell me I'm being grumpy or silly. I'm 35 years old and I'm tired of being treated this way. How can I get them to listen? It's especially embarrassing when they do this in front of others, like my daughter, husband, other family and friends. I'm I partially to blame? Please help!
thats fucced up... i know they are ur fam and u love them.. but u dont have to take it ur 35 yrs old..and have ur own issues.. just dont talk to them... theyll get it

Q: my "best friend" is changing sooo much. and every1 notices it. shes not very skinny (5ft 2 inches and 160 lbs) and she wears clothes taht r waaaay to tight on her. thats not the bad part tho. all my guy friends make fun of her b/c shes got "gramma tits" (the kind taht sag) and lets em hang out and she thinks shes hot. me and my other 2 best friends r considered the most popular grls in the grade. and i just won homecomin queen a few weeks ago and i could tell she wuz sooo jealous. and her bf just dumped her so all she duz is flirt and shes like "o i wuznt flirting i dont even no how to flirt" while twirling her hair. ughhh...i hate that! and she exaggerates EVERYTHIN!!! i just dont no wut to do. ive tried talkin and giving her clues that ppl dont really like who shes turned into but she duznt get it. she just says ugh y would they say that about me?? and its PISSING ME OFFFFFF!
plllzzzz help me out!!!!
*I NEED HELP!!

stick by her.. and evry1 changes... if u really dont like her.. and she really pisses u off. she aint ur best friend... if ur so worried about ur rep.. then ur the one thats to into urself... and dont ditch her cuz of the rep.. (dont mean to sound me..just sayin strate up)

Q: ok...my very close friend told me that in her study hall class allll the guys wouldnt shut up bout my ass and my tits and thats all they talk about. and i no that 3 of them definitly like me...but she said the other 3 were sayin they do to. its not a big deal that their talkin bout me but they talk about me in front of me!! and thats kinda pissing me off. yea, their sayin good things but its just ew...lol. a lotta ppl tell me that i should b happy that im a "pimpette"but their all my close freinds and its just makin me kinda mad.
do u like any of them... and no its not good things they are saying.. its disrespectful and piged so... ur not getting all the play u think u are.. sorry.. anyways.. tell them to shut up..

Q: **hey guys! ok im 14/f. ive been friends w/ this guy since like 6th grade, and we r in 9th now. we have become better friends cause we have a class together, and we hang out sometimes on weekends w/ a group of friends. he talks to me a lot more now, and we r good friends. he even tells me like who he likes and stuff. recently he told me he stopped liking this girl cause he needed someone he could be himself around (his crazy...crazy self... lol) he'll call me babe and stuff like that sometimes 2 (im not sure if hes joking or flirting...?) what do u guys think? and... how can you tell if a guy likes you or not? for guys: what do u do to show a girl that you like her? thanks all**
Yep.. he likes you... and the only way to know (cuz guys are wierd like that and dont feel comf. showing it) is to ask! hope i helped

Q: my best friends sister just got diagnosed w/ cancer! my closest cuzin just died last year of cancer. i always talked to her about my cuzin and now i totttally regret it cuz i really dont want her sister to die!! her sis is 18 and she soooo nice. the bad thing is that my best freind and i are 13 and its that time when ur family treats u like ur garbage. and her sister is teh only one who was nice to her and always there for her. thats y i feel sooo bad. and ive been comforting her but evrytime i do i hafta stop cuz i get teary eyed cuz i think of my cuzin. and then she gets teary eyed and i just dk wut im supposed to do.

signed ~teary eyed 1~
Just try ur hardest to understand her and its better to cry then hold it in.. and its even better to cry w/ someone u trust..hope i helped.. (sorry bout ur cuz) =(

Q: my bf and me go to diff skools and we see eachother mostly lyke ery other day or something but we havent seen eachother for a week...well hes at the mall with his frends...and the mall is about 6 blocks away from my house...and hes walking around with his friends and hes like @ this church thats 3 blocks away frmo my house..he knows where i live n stuff but he "cant cmoe see me bc his friends will only come if i hav friends for them" and none of my friends r home....so ther goin bak 2 the mall....it really hurts my feelings bc I ALWAYS go 2 his house hes been to my house TWICE and i go to his EVERYTIME...so he called n was like uhh idk ill call u later if something comes up n we happen to go by ur house again and iw as like watever have fun at the mall bye nd i hung up on him...im realllly mad at him.....wat do i do? hes gonna b online tonite i kno that for a fact n hes gonna b all sweet 2 me....and if he calls bak....do ii answer?? wat do i say? =\
soy... YOUR PISSING ME OFF... who is more imp ur damn friends or me... and be like if u never wanna hang out with me b/c ur friends dont.. then im not hangin out wit u.. see how he takes it.. but if he gets all sweet and tries the whole "im sorry baby..it wont happen again" remember..your madd at him.. and dont let ur gaurd down til he proves it! let me know what heppenes

Q: (16/F) Alrighty then, there is this guy that I've liked since last year. (name is...Frank) I have told Frank that I like him three time to his face, and we are not going out. I was wondering if it would be weird if I got him a Christmas present. I know its not Christmas yet, but I want to figure this out before hand. Please tell me what you think. Thanks in advance.

Signed-
Just Wondering
it wouldnt be weird at all... it would be just like giving someone else a prez...but dont xpect anything if you dont think he likes you... also dont get him anything lovii dovii.. he might not know how to react... hope i helped!

Q: OK...first off im in 7th grade and on the cheerleading squad and its b-ball season and every cheerleader has to make up a cheer to use and i have no idea for words/motions for one...so if anyone has any cute b-ball sideline cheers id be very thankful!!
Come On (team name) lets go shout it out if u know (spell team name) everyone in the stands if you have (team name) pride then clap your hands...1-2-3-4....

Q: when you're multiplying 2 numbers with a exponent do u multiply the 2 numbers and then square that or square only the number the exponent is over and then multiply by the other number. -2(-1) with a 2 over the -1

thanx

and dont tell me to look in my text book bcuz im in algebra 1 and this is pre-algebra.. i just dont remember.
-2(-1).. the -1 is squared..not the 2

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Hey Everyone!! Its Me..Quizzle!! THats my nickname... I Live Spring hillFL!! Its not too xciting..but its good.. i have a lot of ppl i talk to but not too many GOOD FRIENDS.. only on.. and thats HIZZLE!!!.. i love to help ppl... everyone..with anything i can.. I am a bitch.. and i will help you.. but if you dont like my advice.. then dont ask me anymore!! i will tell you what i think.. i wont paint a pretty pic..but im the good columnist cus im not gonna tell youoOo do this and that.. nope its what i think you should do strate up...Rate me!!

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