So last thursday 3/17/11; me and this guy darryl walked home and we ended up in a small field..and had sex plain and simple,
i got home really REALLY late(4:15)..of course im not going to tell my mom..
but she took away everything until i told 'the truth'..should i tell the truth if not...i really good excuse??
15/f
16/m
You're better off telling the truth. Imagine if she found the truth out from someone else. That would get you in bigger trouble than you're already in. Don't be childish about it, act like an adult. I figure if you think you're old enough to have sex, you should also be old enough to deal with the consequences.
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im 18/f hes 19/m
Last night i went out to a club to see one of my favourite bands, i had organised to meet up with a guy thats my best friend, that i also have very very strong feelings for. He says he likes someone but i'm too afraid to ask who...so anyways as i was catching the train on the way there he texted me saying his phones about to die, and to text me where ill be at all times through the night so he could try and see me. I texted him the details, then he said he probably wont be able to get into the club due to the amount of people attending to see the band playing, and that the tickets would run out by the time he got there. He then turned his phone off saying he'll only use it for emergency incase something happens. I then told myself, that if there was such thing as fate, that somehow we'd see each other tonight.
anyways i went to the club with my other friends, enjoying the night. I thought i would text him so next time he turned on his phone he'd know how much i was wishing he was there. just as i was about to press the send button he calls me. He tells me he's outside so of course i race out to go see him, he hugged me, held onto me and ran his fingers back and forth across the skin on my shoulder. He was drunk, and soon enough his friends came over (after finding out he ran ahead of them to get to the club sooner). He introduced me to them, then told me that judging by the line he doubts they will be able to get in... the band i originally went to see, was playing the time i talked to this guy, and as my fave song by them i came all that way to hear, began to play, i gave him one more cuddle before going back in. as i pulled away he said "i owe you this" and kissed me.
that was our first kiss, we've talked about wanting to kiss each other before, but not wanting to mess everything up. I was excited when he used the last of his phone battery to text me to say he managed to get in. so i went and found him, he immediately cuddled me, and everywhere we walked he held my hand. We even just spent ten minutes holding each other, his head resting on top of mine, my head on his chest, and our arms around each other. We looked like a couple, and it felt so natural and perfect. Then he introduced me to his other friends, and we started dancing. I started to get jealous when this one girl was constantly dancing with him. I could tell she was into him as well and i didn't want to compete, thinking it wasn't possible that i would possibly have things work out for me.
Its just he has another best friend thats a girl that i met last night, and they were dancing together, and i got pretty jealous. He saw her again tonight and now im confused as to whether or not he likes me :S
Well, if you do really like him, don't be afraid to tell him. If you keep holding back you never know what could have been. As I told someone before, don't slowly walk into the pool, you'll only get out. Jump in head first. You'll feel a lot better regardless of the outcome.
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OMg.... sometimes just because, i call my bestfrend/ boyfriends old landline, and its not supposed to ring. He lived with his grandpa and his grandpa died over the summer while he and his half brother were gone for a little while and the trailer and its contents r allready gone. well anyway, i called the number (even though i knew i would just get the whole "This number is dissconnected" thing, and it rang!!! It rang and then white noise followed after it had been "answered".... His grandpa did die of a heartattack in the house.... Coiuld he hav answered?
PS Ive allways wished i would calll and Brendon would answer; just like normal...Like he had never left and his grandpaw had never died. I allways hoped it was just a dream, and thts y i call sometimes; I want to think its just a bad dream and it never happened.... but i guess i cant do tht can i? (sigh)
Phone numbers are reused. It is highly possible someone already has the number now. And bad cords in phone lines can cause static. Though who knows. Perhaps you called someone in the land of the dead :)
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14/f
Sometimes I can feel a pulse in my abdomen, not hard but just there, (not pregnant) and I thought it was normal until I looked online and saw that it's a symptom of an AAA which I forget how to spell. Anyway it scared the living crap out of me as I fear surgery. Are there other symptoms I should look out for? I know it's more of an elderly thing but I'm paranoid sometimes. Is it normal? Thank you!
Actually, feeling or seeing a pulse movement in/on your abdomen.. is perfectly normal. Someday try laying down with your head supported high enough to see your belly and just relax. Though, I know what you may be talking about (as I get a lot of pulse feelings in my belly, like a baby kicking) It's just your muscle having a spasm (I liked my wording there xD). It is nothing to worry about. Now if you get the twitching/pulsing and it's followed by very bad pain, I would go to the hospital to get that checked. So if you don't feel any pain, don't panic. Those twitching/pulsing feelings are normal, it's just your muscle spasming. Or like I previously stated, you can be feeling your heart-beat. Remember the closer you are to your heart, the stronger it'll look/feel.
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22/f.
I graduated from college yesterday, and my boyfriend came with his family. I never received a card or a gift from any of them. I couldn't help being disappointed that I didn't even receive a card or some flowers. Do I have a right to be mad?
Thanks
There is no reason to be mad. In my opinion, the best gift anyone could get for another is to be there for them. Just think about it if they did NOT show up. It is normal though to get disappointed when you don't get what you want, but the world doesn't revolve around one person.
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So here's my question... im a girl and im 16, but for some reason i am very nervous about doing things with this guy i like in school. We always talk about doing stuff and having sex. I asked this question before and i got an answer saying watch some porn videos... well i did and im still nervous because they are pro. How do I boost my seflesteem so i can actually do what i say i want to do? And im not looking for an answer that says do what's conftorable or if youre not ready dont do it. Im not looking for those answers. I want to do stuff with him but im scared, how do i become unscared?
There is no way to get over your fear, other than to face it head on. Even then, you're still scared. Pool Think about it that way. You go to the swimming pool, and you just put your feet in first, its cold. That keeps you from wanting to go in even further, but without going in further how we will really enjoy ourselves? That feeling holds us back, keeping us from going further. Causing you to get out. So, instead of slowly entering, just jump in head first. In the end, you'll feel better (I'm talking about self satisfaction, getting over fears, regardless of the outcome)
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i got my ears pierced again on december 22, 2010. they're both right above my ear lobe piercing. i cleaned them everyday for 4 weeks after getting them and they seemed healed so i started to clean them maybe once a week. i change the earrings from small gold plated dimonds to silver ball studs covered in surgical steel from piercing pagoda. sometimes they bleed which i just attribute to sleeping on them and they get sore and what not. last night i was touching my right one and it was abnormally sore. i woke up this morning to clean them and i took the back off the right one and a big glob of puss came out. usually for both ears its a light yellowish color. today the puss from the right ear was a little bit darker but not much. im almost out of the ear care i got from pagoda so im starting to use Band-Aid brand hurt free antiseptic wash. it has the same ingredient as the ear care solution but also has Lidocain Hydrocloride in it. im wondering if my piercings are infected? the swelling is gone from my ear now and its just a little sore. the other one feels okay. if it is infected whats the best way to heal them without having to go to the doctor?
I'm a tattooist/piercer. If it's that bad, use non-deodorized Dial or Proven soap. Work it in while your in the shower, and be sure to fully rinse it out (as this can lead to an infection) Do NOT ever remove a piercing while there is a possible infection present as this can trap it in your body and possibly get worse. Though from the sounds of it, you may be having an allergic reaction to the metals (many people have that, it is also strange as well that sometimes it only effects one ear) Try changing your earrings. Try earring rotation (such as a bi-daily or tri-daily change of earrings). NEVER use peroxide or rubbing alcohol (this can cause infection or improper healing, weird isn't it?)
But for proper piercing care, 1- Keep it clean! Until the healing period is up. Depending on the location this can take a couple weeks to a couple years.
Clean is using Dial or Proven soap to do that, apply a little of the soap on the pierced area, move it in & out until you feel its in thoroughly enough. Then repeat to rinse. Keeping piercing under the running water, move in & out (I suggest doing it for at least 3 minutes (the rising that is) to ensure that all soap has been removed)
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I met this guy about 3 years ago. When we met we couldn't be more opposite. I was the gorgeous nerd, straight A's big family, with really strict parents. He was the extremely athletic, big muscled, Straight C wrestler. With a small family. With basically no guidelines. But one day we got to talking and we instantly connected. Shortly after that we started dating. And it was GREAT! We dated for about 2 months then summer came. We had a long summer romance that ended with a tragic break up. When we got back to school the next year. I tried to stay away from him to avoid getting heart broken but I couldn't keep my distance. He ended up asking me out again and I said yes. This time things were different. He couldn't hold a relationship for more than a month. So he kept dumping me then a month later wanting me back. I couldn't resist. We dated on and off the whole year. When summer came I was relived. I didn't contact him that whole summer. When summer was over he had changed so much. Got into smoking, not only cigarettes but pot aswell. Drank occasionally and lost his virginity. I tried to stay away like my mom told me to but I couldn't. We are helplessly in-love. Its kind of like a romeo and Juliet situation, with our families hating eachother and all. But anyways, One day that year he came up and kissed me, told me how much he loved/missed me. and just like that I was back to him. recently we split.. AGAIN! I don't know whats wrong with me. If someone knows something I can do to keep myself away from him that would be GREAT! Please help me ): PLEASE):
It's normal for people to be attracted to people opposite from their living styles. (This is mainly because it's new and different from what we are use to due to our living styles.) To do my best to help you, I want you to ask yourself...
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1 - Is his life-style something you want to live with should you actually be able to get serious with him.
2 - Is being with him that wonderful?
He always leaves you and who is to say that you (Please forgive me) aren't just a "back up girl" aka "Door mat" for him? He could be with you, and find someone else "better". Later be left by her and come back to you...
3 - Do you respect yourself enough to be strong and keep yourself out of a toxic relationship?
In my opinion, a relationship like that is NOT healthy. It can result in depression, as well as trust issues.
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The only way you can stay away from him is if you truly want too. Ask yourself important questions. There are many of them. Ask about your relationship with him.
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Hi, I'm a 15 year old girl.
My parents never listen to me, I always get in trouble by them because I'm not "Perfect Enough". I'm not pretty, I'm not smart, I'm not athletic. I don't write neatly, my room looks like a whore house, I can't take responsibility, I always want more, I get what I want, I'm not popular, This is what they tell me. Really, do they need to say that?
I'm never allowed to lock my room or close my door, my mother constantly barges in no matter what, searching my room for anything illegal. I don't do anything illegal, hell, I'm not even allowed to drive yet or go for walks, so how am I supposed to GET the stuff?
I can't do this anymore, I try talking to them, but it always ends up in them telling me how unperfect I am. What should I do?
Parents do odd things. Perhaps they want you to motivate yourself to become a good person. Though sometimes parents don't think things through. Don't talk back, just tell them how you feel, and what it is doing to you. If it doesn't work, get help from your school counselor. If it's throwing you into the depths of despair because they don't listen, talk to your counselor if it becomes to much to of a burden. Sometimes leaving feelings unchecked can cause un-wanted results. Such as harm to yourself or others.
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A while back I met this guy. He was handsome, funny, outgoing, honest,reliable and everything else I wanted in a man. One problem he had though, committing to a relationship. He was 18 and had never had a girlfriend, been on many dates probably just for sex. First time we ever hung out he told me, "baby whatever you do, don't fall in-love with me". I should have ran away right at that but I didn't. He fascinated me. After seeing each other for a while. I slept with him. Then the next week, he called and wanted to hang again. I slept with him that night as well. I had sex with him a total of about 5 times. But for the past month. He wont answer my calls. He isn't calling me, nothing. It's like he dropped off the planet. I miss him. What should I do? );
You were lured with the bitter sweet poison. All you can do is move on. You can't make a person change their habits, it's something they alone have to do their selves. You can move on, and find someone better, or you can sit around waiting and hoping that he comes back. In my opinion, you'll be happier and better off finding someone else.
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Well I resently found out a lot of things about my boyfriend. He doesn't speak to his uncle and his uncle wants to help him get a job. My boyfriend hasn't talked to his uncle in years and I want them to start talking to each other because his uncle wants to help him out. My boyfriend is very prideful and I fear that that pride will push him futher away from his uncle. He told me that if his uncle really wants to talk to him his aunt has his number so she could give it to him. The thing about this is that his uncle tries to get to him through his cuzins. I tell to call his uncle to let go of his pride for one moment and just talk to his uncle. His uncle can open a lot of doors for him but he doesn;t let go of that pride. So how do I get him to let go of his pride and have him let his uncle help him?
There's no way that you can help. There may be hidden reasons as to why he doesn't speak with his uncle. For precautions, I say let your boyfriend take it at his own pace. Perhaps you could tell his uncle that the aunt has the phone number and to ask her for it. Then leave it at that. There isn't much you can do. If you keep pushing him to do that, you may end up pushing him away. If you truly cared for your mate, you would understand a womans duty is to protect her mates honor and pride.
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how do you get to a girls g-spot
Just as the previous answerer told you, not only with the fingering as well, there are positions that allow both to gain pleasure. (Meaning you'd be enjoying yourself as well as her) Look into Kama Sutra, There are many styles in there that will aid in the process of discovery.
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Hi, i had sex for the first time with my friends ex boyfriend. I am 14 years old, and now she doesn't talk to me anymore. (if she would find out about the sex shed probably kill me.) We used protection, but he doesn't seem to love me but i think I'm falling for him. What should i do to get him to like me (BTW he isn't my boyfriend) I am Female and 14 years old. I am from America
Eventually you'll come to understand you can't make or get anyone to do something they don't wish for. Plus, it's pretty normal to "fall for" the guy who took your virtue. I notice many young girls near your age mistake sex for love, and I want you to understand that love is not something you do it's something that happens. There can be ways of getting him to fancy you, like talking and hanging out with him more often, but it isn't a guarantee. Especially with now-a-days where the new thing with boys is sleeping with as many girls or taking so many firsts from girls. That kind of thing. I'm not saying this is what happened, but I want you to know just in case this way you aren't torn apart (figuratively speaking).
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could yu still have a smile even if you have a gap in between your teeth.?
Of course! I have crooked teeth (due to a small jaw) and I still smile. I smile showing off my teeth and everything. Don't let it get in your way. And who cares if someone doesn't like the gap? What matters is what you think of yourself. Start smiling! Keep smiling! If you're happy do it! :D
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i have brown almost black blood and i want to know is this normal for a person that is not on birth controll
Sometimes your menstrual blood becomes dark brown or almost black as you near the end of your period. This is a normal color change. It happens when the blood is older and not being expelled from the body quickly.
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20female Shaun-18
So this weekend me and my friend went out of town to go see our friend Nick play hockey. I put a status on facebook up saying we were going there and then when we get there i get a call from this kid Cory. Turned out that Cory, Paul, and Shaun (Nick's friends) were all up there too watching him, me and my friend also know these boys. So they came to our hotel before Nicks game and then after they all came back to our hotel room and stayed the night. Well in our bed it was my friend me and then Shaun. We didn't try going to bed until like 3 in the morning. Well Paul was acting really strange and was basically freaking me and my friend out (thats another story) so as we were laying down in the bed i got really close to Shaun because i was scared and he is a boy so i felt safe. Keep in mind all the lights were off so it was pretty dark in the room. Then all of a sudden Shaun puts his arm around me and we started cuddling. I thought, there is no harm in this it's nice to just cuddle with someone every once in a while ya know!? But ...then i couldn't resist him. He had his shirt off and he has a really nice body so i just started gently running my fingertips down his sides and i could tell he was getting turned on. I never thought that would turn him on. So then he started running his fingers down my arm since his arm was around me and it tickled a little but felt good and as he was doing that i was still running my hands down his sides and you could tell he loved it. Then my legs were basically tangled in-between his but i wasn't on top of him at this point. BUT then after a little bit he basically put me on top of him and i could feel he had a boner. All of our clothes were still on, well he just had his shirt off. I started to just move my body up and down on his, so we were basically dry humping. He had his hands down my pants but was only touching my butt and then had his hands all over me and i was running my hands through his hair and was really close to his face. But we never really even did anything..we never kissed, madeout, he never fingered me and i never gave him a hj or bj. But then he tried doing something and i was like stop because my friend was in the same bed right next to us so it was a little weird and then he was like yeah okay well i dont think we should be doing this or it's not a good idea and i was like yeahhhh and then i got off of him and he turned and faced away from me in the bed.
But then in the morning he was acting really weird and making it SO awkward. He was telling his friends get your stuff and lets go i'm going to wait in the car for you guys. Nobody knew what had happened at night, only us. My friend didn't even know. My friend was like jeez Shaun was acting really weird this morning why did he want to leave so bad? But now i feel like it's going to be awkward when I see him next. I don't really even feel like we did anything bad? But he was the one who made it really awkward. Should I feel awkward about this...? I don't know how to make it not awkward when I see him after he basically didn't say anything to me in the morning.
Well, I can understand his feelings. He was turned on and rejected. That's pretty much the sum of it. It's pretty much like that electricity saving thing "How would you like it if someone turned you on and just left?"
If you are worried that much about your relationship with him (whether it be friendly or an item) I suggest you talk to him. Explain to him why you had him stop. Best of luck. I hope it works out ;/
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I am a fifteen year old girl living in Hell. My parents fight constantly. Over the dumbest shit ever. I am smited and cursed at and beat because I can't do a lot of things the way my parents want because I have never learned. For instance, today, my stepdad strangled me because I walked away when he was telling me to go get something. My mom pulled me by my hair because I accidentally got the house wet with the hose when I was cleaning out the cat box. They treat me like shit. My mom tells me I'm ugly and she gets very angry because I am quiet and I am a little bit difficult at learning things. She complains that I can't do anything right. It makes me feel like I will never ever amount to anything at all. When I try to be what they want, I can't do it right. When I want to be who I am, they treat me like shit. They don't listen to what I have to say, they think I am a complete failure, and nothing I ever do is ever perfect for them. Somedays I just feel like killing myself, or running away, or even calling child services. My life is off and on happiness. I was happy and now I am getting depressed. They expect so much out of me when I don't know what they want. I need help. I don't know what to do anymore. They threaten me and my sister, and they abuse us when we don't say or do the right thing. We are sick of it. My sister is 9.
Anything will help us. I just need some guidance.
I've been through the same situation. You can't live like that. Especially with your younger sibling. You NEED to get help before it gets worse and one of you is either hospitalized or killed. Call 911 next time it happens, talk to your teachers. Just get the help you need. I know it's scary to go through foster homes, but you must think about yourself as well as your little sister.
I know how tough it can be from getting help. I had it hard as well. My parents beat me and my little brothers, and after a while nearly killed my baby brother (who was only 7 at the time). But the doctors didn't think anything of it because they were told he fell out of a tree. It got to a point I was desperate for help, if not for myself at least my younger siblings, I couldn't stand to see the pain they were going through. Later I spoke with teachers about what was happening, telling them my situation and they got me the help I needed. I was afraid of telling anyone because the thoughts that ran through my head "What if mom and dad find out?" Just fear kept me originally from getting help. But in the end getting help was the best thing. I'm terrible at explanation, but I can tell you, don't let fear hold you back. In the long run you will be helped.
Don't think. Just do. Call protective services. Don't kill yourself, life is beautiful, and your sister needs you. If you run away, she'll be left alone. The best thing to do, call CPS. Or if you are afraid of being caught, next time you're in school, ask your teacher or school counselor for help. Tell them your situation. Dont be afraid. Talk to your sister as well. So she isn't thrown into confusion. Just, keep strong, and get help. No one should ever have to put up with abuse.
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can i give a sdt to myself if i have never had it before?
The only way to get an std is to contract it from someone who has one. And the only way that can happen is if they/you preform oral or regular intercourse. Sometimes it can be transferred through blood, like an open wound. But without sharing certain bodily fluids with a carrier you cannot get an std.
If you're worrying because of possible itchiness or whatever, it's probably just a minor irritation or infection. (Due to not properly cleaning or whatever)
Hope this put you to some ease.
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