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He is all wrong for me, but we can't stay away from eachother
I met this guy about 3 years ago. When we met we couldn't be more opposite. I was the gorgeous nerd, straight A's big family, with really strict parents. He was the extremely athletic, big muscled, Straight C wrestler. With a small family. With basically no guidelines. But one day we got to talking and we instantly connected. Shortly after that we started dating. And it was GREAT! We dated for about 2 months then summer came. We had a long summer romance that ended with a tragic break up. When we got back to school the next year. I tried to stay away from him to avoid getting heart broken but I couldn't keep my distance. He ended up asking me out again and I said yes. This time things were different. He couldn't hold a relationship for more than a month. So he kept dumping me then a month later wanting me back. I couldn't resist. We dated on and off the whole year. When summer came I was relived. I didn't contact him that whole summer. When summer was over he had changed so much. Got into smoking, not only cigarettes but pot aswell. Drank occasionally and lost his virginity. I tried to stay away like my mom told me to but I couldn't. We are helplessly in-love. Its kind of like a romeo and Juliet situation, with our families hating eachother and all. But anyways, One day that year he came up and kissed me, told me how much he loved/missed me. and just like that I was back to him. recently we split.. AGAIN! I don't know whats wrong with me. If someone knows something I can do to keep myself away from him that would be GREAT! Please help me ): PLEASE):
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It's normal for people to be attracted to people opposite from their living styles. (This is mainly because it's new and different from what we are use to due to our living styles.) To do my best to help you, I want you to ask yourself...
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1 - Is his life-style something you want to live with should you actually be able to get serious with him.
2 - Is being with him that wonderful?
He always leaves you and who is to say that you (Please forgive me) aren't just a "back up girl" aka "Door mat" for him? He could be with you, and find someone else "better". Later be left by her and come back to you...
3 - Do you respect yourself enough to be strong and keep yourself out of a toxic relationship?
In my opinion, a relationship like that is NOT healthy. It can result in depression, as well as trust issues.
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The only way you can stay away from him is if you truly want too. Ask yourself important questions. There are many of them. Ask about your relationship with him.
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Go to a hypnotist...
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It's going to be hard to stay away from him if you sincerely don't want to. You need to realize what it is about him that you love. Is it because he's nice and good to you? Is it because he's attractive and you get along? If he changed that much, then maybe you don't love him anymore. Maybe you just love the idea of him. What that means is you did love him before and you're holding on to that. You're not realizing what he turned into might not be something you want to pursue. Regardless, your family is just trying to help you. However, it is ultimately your decision if you go back to him or not. If it was more heartbreaking then anything else, you should try to move on.
You should go out on dates with other people. It will give you an idea of who is out there and show you that there are really good guys out there.
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