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okay so june is coming up..and im completely busy! i have my sister getting married june 26th my senior prom june 5th and my graduation on june 10th.The problem? i wanted to get my highlights done before everything but im afraid if i get them done before prom that they'll grow out by the time of my sisters wedding plus i wanted to get my haircut before everything as well but its right now a little past my shoulders and i wanted my hair kinda long for prom cause i was going to get an updo im soo stressed! so my question is what special occasion do you think i should get my haircut and highlighted? i cant decided or do you think my highlights wont grow out if i do it befoer prom? thanks in advance! (link)
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In my opinion, you should get your hair highlighted before your prom. Most people's hair grows a half-inch per month, so between June 5th and June 26th, they won't grow out very much at all. The good news about highlights is that roots are a LOT less noticeable for highlights than they are for an all-over color. They'll still be pretty fresh and looking good by the end of the month.
As far as keeping your hair long and getting an up-do, if you plan on going to get one professionally done, I'm sure there is something they could do. There are lots of ways you can fix your hair in an up-do that makes it look like you've got a lot more hair than you really do.
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What are some foods I can eat every day to lose weight?
Also, what are some foods I should stay clear of? I know the basics, like, chips, chocolate, candy, etc.
What I mean is, what kind of main meals should I eat that would help me lose a lot of weight?
I would like a flat stomach, no need for abs.
My stomach looks something like this:
http://www.ratemyeverything.net/image/5162/0/my_belly_top.ashx
Except it is quite smaller than the one in the picture. My most trouble spot is the area right under the belly button and above the vaginal area.
Thank you so much in advanced. (link)
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Oranges (or other citrus fruits), Brown Rice, Black Beans, and Celery can help reduce excess water weight or even help you burn fat more efficiently. I read an article recently claiming that these foods would help women slim down in the tummy area. I'm not a nutritionist, so I cannot vouch for the scientific evidence that it actually works, but when I incorporate these foods into my diet it really seems to help.
If you're smaller than the girl in that picture, you probably do not have a whole lot of weight to lose. Still, you should try to lose it slowly because it will be much easier to keep it off permanently if you lose just 1 or 2 pounds a week.
Avoid salt, simply because it makes you retain water. Stay away from butter or creamy sauces or dressings, because they are loaded with saturated fat. Instead of white breads, pastas, tortillas, etc, choose 100% whole wheat options instead. When planning meals, portion them correctly. It's a good rule of thumb that 3/4 of your plate be vegetables and whole grains, while the other 1/4 is lean protein. Here is a good guide with examples of how big serving sizes are:
http://www.sparkpeople.com/resource/nutrition_articles.asp?id=177
Remember to drink at least 8 eight ounce servings of water per day if you don't already. Water is not only essential to good health, but it's a very important factor in the weight loss equation.
My advice is just to get acquainted with the basic principles of nutrition. There are so many people out there who disagree on what you should and shouldn't eat. If you want to read differing opinions from different "experts" some good sites are www.livestrong.com or www.sparkpeople.com ... you can find articles about foods under the nutrition sections.
Good luck and I hope this helps.
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There's a guy I have my eye on in one of my classes in college. I don't know if he sees me that way, but I have exactly one class period (which unfortunately will consist of taking a final, so there's no chance for conversation) left to get him to ask me out on a date (not pursuing a relationship here, just a chance to get to know him better). We spoke briefly a few times, and he's always really friendly. I sit behind him, so its difficult to talk to him, especially since my friend sits right next to me and he always wants to talk through all of our breaks.
Long story short, I was thinking of writing down my phone number with my name and giving it to him either before the final (but then he might read it, and I kind of don't want to be there when he does, its pretty embarrassing), or dropping it on his desk as I leave (but problem with that is he might be finished with the final before me, and I don't want to risk getting him in trouble if the teacher thinks its for cheating).
I don't know if I should do it though. When I hear of other people doing that the first word that comes to mind is desperate, which is honestly what I'm feeling at this moment. I just want him to know that I am interested and available, and he can either take advantage of it or not. I think what keeps him from pursuing me is 1) He thinks I like my friend and 2) I'm not sure how old he is, but he looks way older (23-30?), and if he really is that old he may think I don't want to pursue anything with an old fart like him (I do!, he's the kind of guy that I would hate for me to pass up, he looks like he would be a keeper for sure), I don't know if he is single, but he isn't married: there's no ring.
Anyways, should I do it? (Drop a note on his desk with my name and phone number). And if I should, then before or after the final (remember the pros and cons!)? And what are your opinions of girls that do this? If someone were to do that, would you call them or ignore the note because you thought they were desperate?
Background info:
I haven't done a good job of flirting with him (I have complained during the conversation, and looked down a lot, although I did smile at him a lot, and he smiles back).
I am 18/F
I am pretty and really friendly, so I don't think I've done anything wrong to make a bad impression except for the few complaints about homework).
Thanks so much for reading all this, I will rate accordingly, the more detailed you are, the better =) (link)
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I do NOT think you should do it. You may really want this guy, but if you slip him your number on a piece of paper his impression of this probably won't be a good one. You want him to know that you're available and interested, but you don't want him to think you're desperate. If you do it, and there is any chance, it is highly likely that you will ruin that chance.
If he goes to the same school as you, what makes you think you'll never see him again? If you embarrass yourself to him, seeing him again is a bad thing. If you don't, seeing him again is an opportunity. If you go to a smaller college, it is even more important that you don't do it, because you're much more likely to see him again.
I know you want to do it, but wait it out. If you see him again, go ahead and flirt. Ask him questions about himself (not too much, like a creep), but that will let him know you're interested, or at least put a subtle hint out there to make him wonder. If he's interested in you, that should be enough to peak his interest.
Good luck.
--NoCandy
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to get a tattoo. ima pretty short girl 5'1 and i want to get a tattoo of a scorpian im a scorpio but i dont want a big one. i was thinking maybe right side of my stomach...or maybe upper shoulder...let me know. i dont have any right now and i just want one. (link)
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Consider that if you get it on your stomach, if you ever gain weight or get pregnant in the future, it will stretch and be distorted. That is less likely to happen on your shoulder. So in that way, the shoulder is better. Still, it's your choice. No matter where you get it, make sure that the design is suited to the area of your body. A good tattoo artist will know how to do this. If you can manage to do so, you should have one custom designed for you. I got a tattoo from a pre-made design when I was 18 and I regret that I didn't get one drawn up specially for me. Even if you have to pay a little extra, it's worth it.
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16/f
i wear thongs just about everyday, i even wear then to lacrosse practice. (but i don't wear them to bed.)
is that bad? could it cause any problems 'down there'? (link)
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The reason it is said that thongs can cause problems is that they can shift around and spread bacteria from the anus to the vagina, increasing your risk for vaginal infections. They say it is best to wear clean, cotton underwear (not thongs). If it hasn't caused you a problem to date, I don't see why you should have a problem, but if you start having infections in the future, you might think about changing this habit.
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Okay, im getting a tattoo this week
and I need to know where is the best place to get it hidden? (link)
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Why would you get a tattoo if you are worried about hiding it? If you don't want people to see your tattoo, what is the point in getting it? Honestly, I think you should get whatever you want wherever you want, because it's going to be there for the rest of your life. I also think that before getting a tattoo, you should know what you want and where you want it for a long time, so you have a long time to think about whether or not it is something you really want on your body forever. Tattoos aren't a fashion accessory. If they go out of style, you can't stop wearing them. You can't throw them away or give them to the thrift store.
Where a tattoo would be best hidden depends entirely on your wardrobe. If you never wear shirts that show your upper back, that would be hidden (though if you eventually put on a swim suit it will be exposed). If you don't wear shorter shirts, your lower back would be hidden, but eventually you're going to lean forward too much and somebody might see. Your hips tend to be hidden, unless you wear low rise jeans. The only place I can think of a tattoo never showing no matter what you wear is your cheek... and I don't mean the side of your face. Whatever your reasons for wanting to hide it, just think of your wardrobe and what areas of your body you always cover. That will be easier if you dress conservatively, obviously.
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So I'll try to make a long story short.
Im 15. I dated this guy whos two years older than me for a year, and before we dated he always asked me if I was ready for commitment. & I thought I was. So Im 15, and I still wanna go out with my friends party and do what most teenagers do but most of my friends I party with are guys and even though I take girlfriends with me and promise on everything I wouldn't do anything, he still "can't trust me" which, I can understand because i've lied to him a lot in the past. So finally I got fed up, he got on my myspace all the time. When we would hang out he would look through my phone's text messages and if I deleted them, he would flip out saying how im "hiding stuff from him". So i broke it off.
It's been seven months.
I have a new boyfriend, I thought maybe
that would help me get over him. But,
I was wrong. very wrong. I can't sleep
because I think of this kid so much.
My boyfriend now is great.
but no guy is ever gonna replace him.
what do I do?
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First of all, you need to break up with the boyfriend you have now. It isn't fair to him if he's trying to have a relationship with you and you're sitting around thinking about your ex instead.
I don't think you should go back to your ex either. He sounds a little controlling if he's going through your text messages and checking your MySpace.
If you want my honest opinion, it is that I think you should just continue to go ahead and go out with your friends like you would like to do. Hang out with your friends and don't try to get into a relationship until you are completely over your ex. It's okay to casually date a few guys, but you shouldn't get into an exclusive relationship. You're 15. Go have fun for right now. Let relationships come naturally and don't try to go out and find one. If you don't want to hurt the boyfriend you have now, let him down gently. You could keep seeing him and hanging out, but try telling him you're not ready for a relationship and that you don't want to be his exclusive girlfriend.
I hope this helps.
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15/f
I really think babies are cute. I know there not cheap. But since 2 years ago I've desired to start my own family, I've always wanted one- Twin girls, boy, girl...(married of course) something along that line. I've never had a date/boyfriend. I really want my own kids! Or atleast try sex... My desires are really bad right now... My crush K isn't helping me fight my urge of it either. He is are schools 'player', also my friend of a few years. Any tips & or suggestions?
-Kaori (link)
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Wanting to be a mom and a wife is not a bad aspiration at all. However, like any aspiration, it takes a lot of hard work and maturity. It is not something that any fifteen year old is ready to do. If that's what you want to do with your life, be patient. Work on growing up right now and becoming the kind of person you need to be in order to do that. You'll need to be strong, smart, and patient. If you're that excited about it, perhaps you can take some home-economics classes at your school to learn how to cook better, plan nutritionally complete meals, etc...
As far as sex, many girls your age are curious. However, having sex can be very dangerous. It's not just something you "try". I'm not going to tell a fifteen-year-old that she should have sex. However, if you DO make that choice it is very very important that you know how to protect yourself. First of all, you need to use some form of birth control. That can mean getting on the pill, birth control patches, or shots. It can also mean using condoms, but condoms alone are not always safe. They can break, rip, or tear, and in that case are useless. This can happen without you even knowing. Second of all, you need to use some form of protection from sexually transmitted diseases (such as condoms). Sometimes guys will tell you "Oh I was tested" or "I know I'm clean, we don't have to use a condom." but you must insist on using protection no matter what. Thirdly, never let a guy tell you that "pulling out" will keep you from getting pregnant.
The other risk that perhaps isn't as much discussed is the emotional risk of sex. You may think you can be emotionally detached and have sex. You may think you are in love or that you trust some guy enough to have sex with him, but chances are that having sex will emotionally effect you in ways that you may not even realize right now. Having sex makes people feel vulnerable, which is why it's often best to wait until you are in a committed relationship where you trust the other person very much. For some people, that's waiting until they're married. At fifteen, you are most likely going through a lot of changes that are a normal part of growing up. Throwing sex into the equation complicates things further, and can cause you more pain.
By the way, have you ever tried babysitting? Maybe if there is someone who would trust you to babysit for them, you would get to be around babies and take care of them and play with them and that might help curb your urge to have one of your own.
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I'm obbsessed with becomming famous. I'm always trying to figure out ways that I can make it possible, how can I get beyond this? (link)
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By "get beyond this" do you mean you want to get over it?
Examine your reasons for wanting to be famous. Try to really get to the core of why you want to be famous. Is it because you like having a lot of attention? Is it because you want to prove your worth to the world, or to yourself? Whatever your reasons, it is not reasonable to expect to be famous when there are so many people in the world. Instead, focus on getting really good at something. Whatever natural talents you have, nurture them so they can grow. If you are really good at something, you will gain recognition. It may never be on a nation-wide or world-wide level, but that should be enough to make you feel good about yourself.
As far as standing out goes, you need to be a creative thinker. Never let people tell you that something cannot be done. Be a creative problem solver. See the possibilities that other people cannot see. Find a new pathway and do things differently than they have ever been done. If you can do this, you will also gain recognition. Let that be enough.
I think the key to not feeling the need to be famous is just being happy with yourself and who you are. But if you want to be recognized above other people, just work really hard, believe in yourself, and find new creative ways of doing whatever it is you do. Whatever you are good at and enjoy, strive to be great at it.
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Wasn't to sure what folder to put this in, so I hope this is the right one!!
Since I was about 14 I've wanted to have a baby so much, and to make it worse 8 of My close friends have recently had babies (It isn't one of them "well If My friends have one I want one" moments) none of which where planned.
However Me and my Boyfriend both want a child, sooner rather than later we have spoke about where we would live, about income and how we would support our child.
In all honesty I know I'm ready to be a Mum.
I am currently going into My last year at collage where I am studying 4 academic subjects and planning to go to university in the future.
I know people will say wait till I am older and have more to offer My child but I want someone to give Me honest oppinons and let Me know about maybe any experiences they have had.
The Last part of My problem is if I was to ave a child, I know My family would not be best please, they would support Me, but I know that I would have let them down!!
Whenever I see somebody else with a beautiful baby girl or boy, I can just imagine myself in that position giving a baby un conditional love and anything which they need.
Please give Me your honest advice as I would very much appreciate it.
!Thanks!
Female - 17 - (link)
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When I was seventeen years old, I thought I was very mature for my age, but I was very wrong. I made a bunch of stupid choices that I wish I hadn't made, and I think if you have a baby this young you will regret it and wish that you had waited. Having a baby wasn't one of the stupid choices I made, but I know several girls who did make that choice and purposely had babies very young. Everyone I know who has had a baby that young had a very difficult time because of it. Some of them were irresponsible parents because they thought they could still have a normal person's social life (you can't). Some of them were good moms, but suffered through enormous financial difficulties.
When you are ready to have a baby, you need to have enough money. Babies are very expensive. Even if you buy all their clothes, toys, and furniture used, it is still expensive. Formula and diapers are very expensive, and babies go through them very fast. I don't know what your financial situation is, but most people don't have enough money at 17 to take care of a baby. Also, you may have to give up those hopes of going to University. That is something you need to be prepared for, because you may not be able to go, or you may have to put it off for several years. You may have to go out and get a job (even while you're pregnant).
Secondly, you have to be mature enough to be a mom. You say you think you're ready, but most 17 year-olds are not that mature. Like I said, you will never again have a normal 17-year-old or even 18-year-old social life. You can't just go out and leave baby at home. You will have to find a babysitter, and that costs money, unless you can get someone in your family to do it for free. You have to be ready to give up a good night's sleep in exchange for getting up several times a night to feed or change your baby. I think if you are mature enough to be a mom, you're mature enough to know that you need to be able to provide a better life for your child.
Another thing is that I don't really think people should have babies with their girlfriends/boyfriends. I think you should be married. It's not a religious thing. I believe this because whether you think so or not, being married is very different from being in a committed relationship, even if you live together, pay all your bills together, etc. You can leave a boyfriend. Your boyfriend can leave you. Divorce is different. Being married is a deeper level of commitment. It is not good for children to grow up in broken homes. I believe that ideally, children fare best in homes where their parents love each other very much and are deeply committed to one another. If you guys fight a lot, it will effect your child. If you split up, it will effect your child. I guess you don't have to be married if you don't believe in it, but you have to be deeply committed to one another and know that you will stay together and love each other so your child can grow up in a home full of love.
I hope you don't think this is bad advice just because you don't agree with it. If you really want to be a good mom, you need to make sure you have the means to take care of a baby, are mature enough, and have a good relationship that is going to last forever.
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what would be considered "bad" or "good" brands of beer? (link)
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This is most definitely a matter of opinion. Different people prefer different beers, but I will give you my opinion. First of all, I live in the United States. I think of "bad" beer as Budweiser, Coors, Milwaukee's Best, and Busch. When I think of "good" beer, there are good American beers, and there are good imported beers. Not all imported beer is "good". I've never drank a lot of imported beer, though, so I can't tell you much about it. "Samuel Adams" is a pretty decent brand for American beer. My husband and I love "Shiner" beer. One American brand of beer I really like is Leinenkugel's. Boulevard Wheat is a really good beer if you like wheat beer. Anyways, I'm not really a beer connoisseur. It's really up to you to try different brands and see which ones you like. I hope this at least helps a little. The guy who answered before me mentioned a lot of beers from other countries, so I figured I'd mention some good American beers.
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There is this guy that I like and I really want to just get over him but I can not. What should I do. Everytime I say oh I am not going to think about him anymore and follow my strategy of getting over him all of the sudden I am thinking about him . But I figured maybe its the challenge of trying to get over him that is making me want him more. I am confused what is up with me. I know its impossible that we will have a relationship. And I really dont want to think that I am inlove cause I want to get over it. (link)
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I think the best thing to do is to focus your attention on something else. Just about anything you could focus your attention on is more important than thinking about someone you need to get over. Is there some kind of project you could embark on to get your mind off of him? You could try learning something new, like a new skill or craft. You could read. You could spend time with some friends. If you just distract yourself at first by doing something else instead of thinking about him, it will get easier. Eventually, you really will forget. I hope it helps.
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does anyone ever feel like they dont know what to do or how to feel and you just want to crawl in a dark place somewhere and just sleep? not because youre sad in particular, but because you dont want to deal with anything and anyone... how do u get over feeling that way? (link)
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I honestly think everyone feels this way at one time or another. Some people feel this way more than others. You're definitely not alone. Every now and then, it's normal to have a weekend that you just don't want to go out, and you want to stay home alone. However, if you want to get over it, you just have to fake it until you make it. Just go out anyway, smile, be friendly, and chances are that people will react very positively to this, which can help cheer you up.
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i cant seem to lose this last 5 pounds! my body is really starting to look great except the extra flab over my stomach covering my rock hard abssss. how can i lose this extra fat?! it seems like its taking FOREVER to come off, if its coming off at all? (link)
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If you've already lost some weight but can't seem to lose the last 5 pounds, you may have hit a plateau. To overcome a plateau, you need to change what you're doing. You don't necessarily have to eat even less than you already were, nor do you have to exercise more, but do different exercises and change what you're eating.It might take days or even weeks for your body to get the gist, but if it finally works, it will be well worth the wait. Another possibility is that when you lose weight, your body's calorie needs change. You need fewer calories when you weigh less. This is probably more likely if you've lost a lot of weight, rather than a little. You could try slightly decreasing your calorie content, but be careful not to eat too little. Another thing that I've heard works for breaking a plateau is "staggering" your calories. So if you had been eating about 1600 a day, you would try instead alternating eating 1800 one day, 1400 the next, 1800 the next, then 1400, and so on... I hope one of these works for you.
--Nocandy
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Ok so prom is on Friday and I feel all bloated and gross right now. Are their any quick remedies that'll help me not be bloated by Friday? (link)
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Aw, that stinks. I had the same problem when I went to my junior prom (years ago) but I overdid it with the diuretics, and even went to a sauna. Then I was miserable and felt sick for almost the entire prom night. Whatever you do, don't do what I did. But if you want to get rid of the bloat carefully, drink a lot of water for starters. You can also make a natural diuretic by squeezing a little bit of lemon juice in your water. Stay away from salty foods for the rest of the week. I hope you have fun at your prom.
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I have a boyfriend named K(We'll name him K). I tell him that i love him and he just says "meh" and doesn't say it back. I went over to "K"s house and he completely ignored me. I told him that i wont kiss him for a week, but he said that he doesn't care if i kiss him or not. When i told him that i was mad at him, before i could explain, he went to his basement. I have 4th block with "K" and i think i have to break up with him. I most likely will lose him as a friend and i can't afford to lose another friend. After i break up with him, should i try to be friends or just forget about it? (link)
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How long has this been going on? Couples go through rough patches. When the fights/apathy start to outweigh the time spent being affectionate and loving each other, it's time to go. Depending on how long you've been together, you could wait a little while, try a little longer, but it might be wasted effort in the end.
After you break up with him, it wouldn't hurt to try to be friends. Just don't get your hopes up too much, because it's pretty hurtful when it doesn't work, and it's even tougher if you try too hard.
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Okay I saw this one picture and I was wondering does anyone know what kind of photo editor she used to make picture like this???
http://i399.photobucket.com/albums/pp76/JoBrosFTW1773/pic.png (link)
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I don't know if there is some special photo editor that makes it really easy to make a picture like that, but if you know how to use it properly, you could very well do something like that with Adobe Photoshop. It's very expensive, though, so unless you're a pirate, you can download this program called "GIMP". If you're running windows, you can download it here:
http://gimp-win.sourceforge.net/stable.html
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Im pregnant, and my boyfriend doesn't want the baby, neither do I, but he would like me to get an abortion, and I don't believe in that. What should I do?
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You have other options. If you don't want to get an abortion, you don't have to. Don't let him pressure you into something like that. Check into adoption. Find out everything you need to do to put the baby up for adoption. Then take care of yourself. Even though it was your responsibility to be careful, as well as his, I'm sorry this happened to you.
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Hi i as wondering how do people get taller? i am an asain american so therefore it's a bit hard however,my whole family are around like 5'5-5'9 but i am barly 5'1.I am 15 .Female. I eat regulary and eat calcium but i dont know what to do.I am scared that i wont be able to grow anymore and be short forever,
which will really suck when i reach my 30's.
Is it also true thatgirls stop growing as soon as their period begins? (link)
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5'1" isn't that terribly short, especially if you're petite. We all come in different shapes and sizes, and I hope you learn to love your body the way it is. There isn't anything you can do to physically make yourself taller. You can improve your posture, which might give you an extra inch or so, because you'll be standing up straight regularly. Also, girls don't stop growing as soon as their period begins. You can grow after the age of 16, or even after the age of 18. Between the time that I was 16 and the time that I turned 18, I grew 3 whole inches! I went from 5'2" to 5'5".
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Hi! 13 1/2
Well, I'm quite confused because...I don't know why I can't get a boy friend!! I know I'm young but a lot of people have boy friends in my grade. I've two guys out one I really like..and I thought he liked me to ..his name is Joey. Well, he looked at me a lot and smiled at me. So, my friend Cody (He's Joeys friend to) asked him out for me..he said yes. Than the rumor that we were dating got out and he changed his mind. SO...I think he's shy ...or is embarrassed of me or something. I'm good looking. Well...a lot people told me that. I have blue eyes, dark blonde shoulder length hair. My weight is average...so I don't understand. Can you people give me some tips..to get guys attention? You know any kind of style tips,make up tips, hair tips? Any advice will help!! OH, and I'll rate fair. :) (link)
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It's not about make up, hair, or style, really. If you're outgoing and you have a lot of self confidence you are more likely to get a boyfriend. I think this advice is true for any age. And if you don't have a boyfriend, don't worry. A lot more girls than you realize don't have boyfriends until they are older. And girls often mature faster than boys and start wanting to date earlier, so don't get too frustrated with the boys if this is the case.
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