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15 f
i am very stressed out about everything in my life right now and im just sick of it i dont know how to stop caring about what other people say about me behind my back and i cant help but try to make everything i do be perfect so that people wont have a reason to talk but i just cant keep doing this stress has taken over me and its caused me to have really low self esteem ever since i reached the age of 13 all ive been worrying about is what others have to say is there anything i could do to build up my self esteem? and stop stressing?

I think everyone who was or is a teenager has gone through that stage. I've gone through it and yes, at times, I go back to that stage but there is one thing you need to remember; Don't worry about what other people think of you. There are always going to be people who stick up their noses at you but what comes around goes around.

It seems you feel the need to be accepted. Ask yourself these questions -Who is always criticizing me? -Who are my true friends? -Who am I trusting nowadays? I know for a fact that people who seem like they are friends, really aren't. One main problem that is causing this "accept me stage" is mostly from the "cool crowd" or your "so called friends." Hun, if they talk about you behind your back, they aren't true friends.

To stop stressing, I would recommend taking a day off every week. Maybe on a Saturday. Do some things that you haven't done in a while that you miss. For example, maybe if you have a hot tub, go inside of it. Or if you have money, go shopping with friends. When you feel really stressed out, go to the bathroom and breathe in from your mouth and out through your nose. Tell yourself everything will be alright. More then that, believe that everything will be alright. Studies show that stretching in some cases help you lose the burden of stress.

To build up self esteem you must have self acceptance. Accept who you are, how you look, what you think, and what you feel. You must also be living in the present. Forget about the past. What's done, is done. Let it go. WORK CITED; http://www.lifepositive.com/mind/personal-growth/self-love/esteem.asp

i know this is kind of stupid. but if a guy asks you to have coffee with him would it be called a date? i've only been friends with him for less than a week, he's a nice guy but he doesn't make me laugh and he's not my type. should i say yes to someone like that?

Well, I would confirm it with this guy. Since he just met you, maybe he's just trying to get to know you. I would recommend to say yes and who knows? You just might have fun.

http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=3H-206107&page=1&cgname=OSBDYLOIZZZ&rfnbr=2552&pn=false
i love the way that smells.
if any of you know how it smells and you like it, what other lotions or perfumes (from any where, a price under $50)do you like?
thanks oxox

Well, I would totally check out some of Britney Spears perfumes. She has this sort of candy smell to her perfume which makes it entreating. The price usually varies depending on the size. Check out the site; http://www.britneyspearsperfume.net/ Last time I checked it was at Macy's, JC Penny, and Claires. Sometimes Marshall and CVS have them there.
Jennifer Lopez also has great smelling perfumes. However, I am not certain of the price because I got it for my birthday. The scents are a little too strong but nevertheless, the perfume is very good. The website is; http://www.jenniferlopezbeauty.com/templates/home.asp
For lotions, I recommend Sweet Pea by Bath and Body Works. The small bottle of lotion is 5$. Quite expensive for a little bottle but it is worth it. The website is; http://www.bathandbodyworks.com/search/index.jsp?kwCatId=&kw=SWEET%20PEA&origkw=Sweet%20Pea&sr=1
For the best lotion and fragrance go to Bath and Body Works and Marshalls. Bath and Body Works is good for lotions as well as perfumes. Marshall has brand name perfumes for a relatively cheap price.
http://www.bathandbodyworks.com/home/index.jsp
http://www.marshallsonline.com/

Heyy!! Me and my friend are going to this math thing...its for gifted kids and they take it really serously but us and our teacher are just going to have fun. anyway, we wer thinking about dressing up as kinda-dorks but we dont want to look ugly! Any idea how we can be smart-looking and still cute??

Thanx so much!

Xo,

I would say wear a schoolgirl outfit. Not something totally slutty but something cute and innocent and put your hair in braids and get some cute rectangle glasses and put ductape in the middle. It's totally cute yet you'd still feel nerdy. You can wear glasses like http://www.ashleytisdale.com/projects/suite_life/sl19.jpg the dude in camouflage.

17/f.

I'm making a few songs of my own on my guitar.
I need help with some lyrics.
A few really good phases or verses etc would be great if someone could help me out.
Even just a couple of sentences would be terrific.

One song is about a girl who's best friend (male) moves away from her and they are going through a really hard time and he feels as though he is forgotten.

The second one is about a girl who really likes a boy, and she knows he likes her a bit too but she doesn't know how to tell him.

Any help would be just great.
As I said earlier, even just a couple of sentences to get me started, doesn't matter if its part of the verse, chorus or whatever.
Thanks so much to anyone who can help me out.

xx

For the first song;
Why'd you leave. Was it something I said. Is it the way I dress. Please. I feel as if I am a lonely mess. I need you. I thought you needed me. You probably forgot about all our memories.
[And maybe at the End]
Okay. I'll let you be.

For the second song;
Did you did you? Just flirt with me. Is it the truth or is it fantasy? Fighting temptation. It's so hard. Do you do you? Like me or not?

Hoped I Helped and Good Luck:]

im going to lose weight again. i lost around 20lbs in about a month and a half and gained it all back in about the next 2 months. i do the elliptical and situps and eat healthy to lose weight sometimes i run sprints in my back yard too. anyone have any tips or suggestions on eating healthy foods or good excersies??

thanks in advance!

What I do for tons of fun is lift my sister up. If you have a younger sibling or cousin or friend that is lighter then you, just play games with them such as superman. [You are spending quality time with them as well as loosing a few pounds] Also you can lift them and put them on your shoulders. Try to do this on a weekly basis at the maximum for 2 hours. More then that can make you muscular. This will help your abs if you put them over your shoulders and go up and down.
Go walking with a friend for a long time but stop here and there maybe to sit down and relax. Bring tons of water and go up tons of hills. That helps your thighs and calves.
Roller skating or ice skating can help, too. This is a lot of fun and it mostly targets every area you want to lose fat in. Bring some friends and you'll have a great time.
Eating healthier can help you indulge food without the worry of weight. Eat fruits, salads, baked chips, vegi's, and nutritional foods. Once in a while, help your self to a nice McD's or BK meal because I'm sure you'll deserve it but don't go overboard.
Dancing with friends can also help loose tons of weight. Have a sleep over at your place or someone elses and turn up the volume and dance like there is no tomorrow! You get to hang out with friends, make some memories, take a few pictures, and loose a few pounds.

Best of Luck:]

This was taken from my answer to another similar question; http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=527183

hi! i loove those adorable dresses that are so in fashion but i dont know where to buy some! Like the ones with leggings and such. does anyone know or some really cute ones and some cool stores that sell them? thankx so much!!! :] and i will rate everyone

Totally go to Express. Yes, it is sort of expensive but it is totally worth it. One of the display was a nice black strapless dress with nice neon colored leggins. They also had this adorable gold dress with simple black leggins underneath. check out the website; http://expressfashion.com/products.jsp?category=Her

Another great place would be Charlotte Russe. They had this cute red dress that would look extremely nice with black leggins. The dress is this; http://www.charlotterusse.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2952296&cp=2843536.2903751&parentPage=family If you like the black duplicate of the red dress go with red leggins:] The website is this; http://www.charlotterusse.com/home/index.jsp?cid=

I think the best store that has the best dresses has to be Nordstrom. They are always in fashion and are quite pricey. Most of their short dresses would look great with leggins. Their website is; http://shop.nordstrom.com/C/2374331/0~2376776~2374327~2374331?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=leftnav&pbo=2374327

Just A Tip;
The black colored dresses would go great with neon colored leggins. The different colored dresses would go great with black leggins. For example this dress; http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2951110/0~2376776~2374327~2374331~6001837?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6001837&P=2 would look stellar with a nice neon colored leggin. This dress; http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2953848/0~2376776~2374327~2374331~6001837?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6001837&P=17 would look fabulous with black leggins.

Good Luck:]

what are some good quotes of
-friendship loss
-love
-funny quotes

thanksssss

-I'm not mean. You are just a sissy.
-i want to know what your thinking tell me your biggest desire i'll make it all come true for that i will aspire
-my smile lasts forever knowing we're together look at how my smile shines seeing forever, you're all mine.
-why does hello feel like goodbye? these memories
can't replace those wishes i wished &+ those dreams
i chased. take this broken friendship &+ make it right
-Nobody's perfect. That's why every pencil has an eraser.
-The only reason I build a wall is to see who will climb over it.
-not even kodak can take all of our memories.

i was talking to this guy that i have never seen him or heard him before. (his mom set us up) and i called him one night and four guys was talking to me like i was a peice of trash actually. They was asking me a whole bunch of questions, like what i was wearing and if i would have sex with them (except in a more pig-like manner.) And dont get me wrong i am not making an effort any more with him. But if he does call, which he probably wont, what should i say. I mean if talks like that with his friends, then he could talk like that all the time. And if i see him then what do i do? do i go off? cause i was really really mad. like i was crying because i was afraid of who or what i might hurt. i was shaking. and i just dont know why boys act like that and why they would want to talk like that to a girl. but what would i do in those scenarios? and would one consider the talk sexual harrasment? thanks

Hun, you really need to tell your mom what happened. That violates you in so many ways. It is verbal sexual harrasment. If that's the way this guy acts around his friends, he doesn't deserve you. If he calls, change your number or hang up. If you see him, walk away. Ignore him to the best of your abilities. You do not need a guy like that. He does not deserve your tears or anger. Let it go. Better yet, let him go.

What is a landing strip? My friend said that she has a landing strip and I think it has to do with her vagina, but I don't know what it is. Thanks in advance

For girls it basically means she shaved her vagina but left a small spot that's some sort of shape like a rectangle or triangle. For boys it usually means facial hair. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Landing_strip A landing strip can also be a hairstyle for men and women. It means a section of hair is buzzed with clippers in order to create a visible shaven patch between the main segment of hair and the bangs. Like Mohawks or deathhawks.

whats some different ways to masterbate like without fingering yourself... i used water pressure before and it feels so good... is there anything else i can use.

There is always the electric tooth brush. Take an electric tooth brush and put some sort of foil or ceramic wrap over it and place it well, you know where.

What verizon phones can access the internet from them?
I mean, like, the real internet. Not the really restricted email and stuff.

I am pretty sure that if you want high speed internet you have to have it in your plan. Maybe if put your number here, you can automatically get internet; http://www22.verizon.com/Residential/Broadband/

The blackberry does come with internet but I think it is pretty slow and is still limited. I only know of two phone that has unlimited internet and none of them are verizon. One is the iPhone; http://store.apple.com/1-800-MY-APPLE/WebObjects/AppleStore?node=home/shop_iphone/family/iphone&cid=OAS-US-KWG-iPhone&aosid=p202&esvt=GOUSE101146800&esvadt=999999-0-1024432-1&esvid=101045
and the other is the Sidekick LX; http://www.sidekick.com/lxdemo.asp

where can i get cocoa butter? i live in canada, and the stores i have near me that might sell that kinda thing is the body shop and lush. about how much would it cost? and i heard it helps with cellulite and stuff but what else exactly does it help for?
thanks:)

The definition[s] of cocoa butter can be found on; http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&defl=en&q=define:Cocoa+Butter&sa=X&oi=glossary_definition&ct=title

Cocoa butter is used to make white chocolate and other kitchen confections. This site will help you a lot; http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-cocoa-butter.htm

This is where you can order it from online;
http://www.answers.com/topic/cocoa-butter-shopping

Cocoa Butter helps moisturize your skin. It is known to prevent and get rid of stretch marks.

I really like Christina Aguilera's old hair style.
When it was blonde and black.

http://www.poster.net/aguilera-christina/aguilera-christina-christina-aguilera-1192605.jpg

http://www.musicalx1.com/Musical%20Desktop%20Pictures/Christina-Aguilera-wallpaper-1024x768.jpg

How can I make my hair like that? My hair is already blonde.

I recommend to bring the picture in with you so the hair stylist knows exactly how you want your hair.

what are some good techno songs/artists?

DJ Carlee.
DJ Baby Boi.
Cascada.
Basshunter.
Sarina Paris.
DJ Amber.

For More Check Out ; http://musicmoz.org/DJs/Techno/ or http://topartists.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=music.topBands&genreID=53

17/f..145lbs. 5'6".
I don't know if my weight is normal, but I'd still like to lose a few pounds here and there. My 'problem areas' are my thighs, calves, and abs. I want them to get skinnier, but I don't want to look muscular either. Any tips on how I can do this? I'd love to do this by at least May (hopefully) but I do want to do it safely too. Thanks!

What I do for tons of fun is lift my sister up. If you have a younger sibling or cousin or friend that is lighter then you, just play games with them such as superman. [You are spending quality time with them as well as loosing a few pounds] Also you can lift them and put them on your shoulders. Try to do this on a weekly basis at the maximum for 2 hours. More then that can make you muscular. This will help your abs if you put them over your shoulders and go up and down.
Go walking with a friend for a long time but stop here and there maybe to sit down and relax. Bring tons of water and go up tons of hills. That helps your thighs and calves.
Roller skating or ice skating can help, too. This is a lot of fun and it mostly targets every area you want to lose fat in. Bring some friends and you'll have a great time.
Eating healthier can help you indulge food without the worry of weight. Eat fruits, salads, baked chips, vegi's, and nutritional foods. Once in a while, help your self to a nice McD's or BK meal because I'm sure you'll deserve it but don't go overboard.
Dancing with friends can also help loose tons of weight. Have a sleep over at your place or someone elses and turn up the volume and dance like there is no tomorrow! You get to hang out with friends, make some memories, take a few pictures, and loose a few pounds.

Best of Luck:]

im 14/f and my boyfriend is 13/f

do you think that if your really truly sure your in love, like you've had it proven to you,no doubt in your mind and he feels the same,
do you think that we can last throughout highschool?

we've had our problems, what true couple doesnt, but i dont want to lose him again :[ i want this to last forever, as crazy as that sounds.

do you think it can last?

There is no certain answer for you're questsion. The point of love is to give somebody your heart and have faith they won't break it -source is unknown.

okay i went home to the Philippines a week ago since my dad passed away and i was able to spend time with my cousins and i finally met my sisters that i didnt know about and i got to know them and i was REALLY happy there. and when i had to go back to the states i really cried in the airplane and i wasnt happy when i got back here and also i didnt wanna go back school so i missed 4 days of school, and im in the room just sleeping there till 6pm and sleeping at 5-7am i really miss my cousins and my sisters and when i came back to school i wasnt really happy to see my friends and i really wanna go back there, cant sleep till 6am i think i became kind of anti social around my friends and what should i do to not to feel antisocial or depressed? is this normal?

This is totally normal. When I lost my dad, I felt the same way but lucky for me, I had great friends and relatives to help me get through the times. I am sure that your friends will want to hear from you and I think if you haven't told your friends what's been going on you should tell them.
It seems to me that you need a counselor of some sort. When my dad died, I resorted to becoming totally quiet and I started to cut myself. I really don't want to see anybody else making the WORST mistake I've made in my life. Life is really short, you need to live it to the fullest. Make mistakes, learn from them and never regret anything you have done.

where can you get free music on your ipod besides like limewire. pleaseee helppp

Well there is bearshare:]

i know limewire is bad and all so no comments on that please, but its been working really good for me since i downloaded it, but all of a sudden its not letting me download anything anymore, like, i can type in the name of the song i want and the search bar is at the top, but no results come up. ive talked to a couple of my friends and they all say they have the same problem...what could be wrong and how could i fix it??
Thanks:)

Try reinstalling or contacting limewire on their website; http://www.limewire.com/

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